I am all about the light. I’m not talking about blaring stadium-type lighting so I can see the crowd cheering me on as I get close to orgasm. I’m also not talking about a spotlight on her face so I can interrogate her saying “Did you cum? Did you cum?!” like a detective from a bad 70′s tv show.

I love candlelight. I love sex during the day. I prefer to have some kind of light, because I do not want to miss the payoff.

Do You Prefer Sex In The Dark

I work hard at pleasing my woman . . . I’ve got to see that orgasm face. Does she shut her eyes? Does she tilt her head a certain way? Does her head turn all the way around like Linda Blair in “The Exorcist?” Moaning is wonderful, but I have got to see my work.

Not only that, having some form of lighting allows me to admire the shape of her body. I also like to look deep into a woman’s eyes during sex.

There are times I don’t mind having sex in complete darkness, like in the middle of the night when you wake up having sex and don’t know where it started. Darkness in that situation is wonderful. After all, who wants to get up to turn on the light when you just woke up and you are enjoying all sorts of great sexual sensations?

I like to see the person with whom I am having sex. I’ve got nothing to hide.

I like when they get up after sex and I get to check them out when they go to the bathroom. If you do it in complete darkness, you might as well be wearing blindfolds.

So, I’m a daylight kind of guy. What about all of you? Do you prefer sex with the lights on, with the lights off, or somewhere in between depending on the mood?

One thing you never want to hear from a woman when you’re fooling around in complete darkness is “Is it in yet?” or “Oops! Wrong hole!”

Now when I say “let go,” I am talking about you being able to be open about your needs, asking for what you want, and being that crazy person in bed you’ve always wanted to be. This goes right into today’s blog topic.

So let’s get right into this topic and see if we can get the controversy going again…

I was thinking today about sex. It’s not like I don’t ever think about sex. I actually enjoy thinking about sex. There was one thing I was thinking about that was really interesting.

I want you to ask yourself this question: In your sex life, how easy is it for you to let go?

When your lover goes down on you, how is easy is it for you to let go? How easy is it for you to totally give into them, and to let them do whatever they want?

Can you just “go with it” and really just enjoy it? Can you accept that they get pleasure and enjoyment from bringing intense pleasure to your body? Are you able to do these things?

You know what’s funny, is that so many of us (men included) have trouble having an orgasm from oral sex. It’s true. There are men out there that just will not cum from a blow job.

I think it’s all about self-control. Think about it.

If you know how to please your lover, you should really be pleasing your lover on a regular basis. I mean, who doesn’t want to be pleased? Who doesn’t want to experience the beauty of an orgasm (and the beauty of an orgasm from your lover’s mouth)?

So if you’re having trouble climaxing with your partner, you need to think about the reason why that is so. What do you think about when your partner goes down on you?

Are you releasing everything? Are you holding anything back? Are you in control of yourself? Are you over-thinking it or do you just go with it?

In order to really be able to orgasm with your partner — especially during oral sex — you really need to be able to totally let go. If it takes an extra ten minutes one night, who cares? If it take an hour to cum and you’re enjoying it, who cares?

It’s all about having that intimacy, and the greatest thing about intimacy is letting go. Each day you can get more intimate with your partner. You can get more intimate in every way.

So why hold back? There is no reason to ever hold back sexually from your partner. It’s a lesson that I think all of us need to learn.

Now you all know how I feel about nicknames, so I’ll encourage her to reveal at least her first name soon. I will tell you that she is a woman in her 30′s who lives in Los Angeles, and who thinks that ‘Sex And The City’ doesn’t pertain to Los Angeles (because, really, it’s more like ‘sex in the hills’ or ‘sex on the beach).

The Fiery Redhead really wants to help men and women meet people, so I’ve offered her the opportunity to be a guest poster on the blog. Plus, I’m sure you guys have to get sick of hearing from just me.

So you will be getting a different perspective from her about every couple weeks. I also thought it would be a cool to have a woman giving her perspective and helping the women and the men.

So let’s welcome our new guest blogger and enjoy her first blog today. It’s a great topic. So, without further ado, here she is…

Hey Guys and Girls,

You know, David asked me to start writing a little guest column because he figured why not have a female opinion every so often. And why not have one who really tells it like it is. That definitely describes me (as you’ll quickly discover).

I’ve got to tell you something.  The other day some girl friends and I were sitting around with some guys who were talking all about how to “close” a woman. You will never hear a woman say something like that.

You’ll never hear a woman say, “You know, we went on a boat trip the other day and met some really cute guys. My friend was flirting with one guy, but at the end of the day she ended up going home without closing him.”

No, she didn’t “close” him. She didn’t hook up with him. What is it with you guys having to “close” us? Why do you need to “close” us?

We’re not a door — you don’t need to close us. Really, if you close us it’s actually because we’ve determined that you were cool to hang out with so we want to go and bang you. I mean, that’s really what it comes down to.  We make that decision, not you.

I don’t understand it. Why don’t you just learn the way women are? If we like you and enjoy your company, and we give outward signs of that, then you don’t need to close us. You just need to go with the flow.

Why can’t guys just be a little more relaxed and a little cooler about things? You’d get laid so much more if you would just listen to the verbal clues. That’s all for my ranting and raving for this time. I’ll talk to you guys soon!

Okay, thanks again to the Fiery Redhead for this first post! To all of you, enjoy the last weekend of summer, because fall is here as of next week. Also, if any of you would like to know any of my football predictions, be sure to tune into the blog on Sunday. Why? Because I want to and it will be fun.

Now, since it’s the weekend and some of you go out to the bars, I thought this great video will help you out. It’s all about how to walk the walk and talk the talk to be able to successfully approach women in bars.

At 10:30 pm, you decide the place is lame and you go somewhere else. At midnight, the same guy every week says, “Dude, we have to go check out this other place. I heard it is great. My friend just texted me from there…”

It’s like Groundhog Day over and over again. You go home, and you’re always frustrated because you missed talking to the girl that got into the cab as you were walking over to talk to her.

In reality, what you’re doing is chasing the night. You’re miserable and not enjoying yourself, but you go back and do it again the next weekend.

While you’re doing this every weekend, other guys may be sitting around the house with some buddies having a great time barbecuing and drinking some wine. Others may have a great soul-searching weekend. Those guys come back on Monday feeling invigorated and alive.

There is a time when you really have to stop giving into your friend’s bullshit. You have to start saying that enough is enough.

When I was single, some of my best Friday nights included going out to dinner and being home by ten o’clock at night. I never cared about chasing the night. I’d be home at 10:00 pm so I could get up early the next morning and have an amazing Saturday meeting the kind of women I really wanted to meet and doing things I loved to do.

When you finally break up with your friends and stop buying into their bullshit, then you’ll know you really didn’t miss a thing when you get that day after call saying, “Dude, you should have been there!” So start breaking up with your friends and start becoming an independent, free thinker!

How many people really hump on Hump Day? How many people are going to get humped on Hump Day?

Today I want to talk about sexual myths. You know all the classic ones. Men can always get off fast, or why do all women take so long to cum.

How about the myth that there’s one method to please every woman? I love when I read the articles with titles like, “The Surefire Way To Get Your Woman To Orgasm Tonight.”

I also love the articles in Cosmopolitan telling women about “The 3 Ways To Drive All Men Wild In Bed.” More often than not when I read those I think that at least one of those things is something I’d never want done to me (and might even drive me away).

It’s amazing how many myths there are out there about sex. Recently one of my competitors was charging $1,500.00 for a program which claimed to teach men how to get any woman to orgasm in thirty seconds or less.

I don’t need to spend $1,500.00 for someone to tell me to buy a vibrator. I mean, a Hitachi Magic Wand is many women’s best friend. I’ve seen some women pray to that thing.

There really are so many myths and misconceptions about sex . . . and about women’s sexuality in particular. Today’s podcast is going to tantalize and tickle you in different ways. You may learn new things or you may not.

You may learn a surefire method to have great sex on Hump Day, and you may laugh and realize that so much of what you hear is, well, the answer to that lies in today’s podcast. So click here and listen now!

Also, If you want to learn more about how to be an amazing lover who has women wanting more and more of you, and also want to get to eavesdrop on one of the world’s top sex experts as he is giving his lover orgasm after squirting orgasm, then be sure to check out my “Sex With The Masters” program.