As humans, we always speculate. We always feel the need to know the outcome of things. We always want to think about “what if…”

We speculate on the stock market. We speculate all the time when it comes down to picking a stock.

We speculate on football games. How many times do you watch a football game and say to yourself, “Man, if he only man if he only threw that pass. How could he have NOT thrown that pass?!”

We also do a lot of speculating when it comes to human emotions. The conversation that the two guys I heard talking on the beach were having is a perfect example.

One guy was saying to the other, “I got her off several times. I don’t understand why she didn’t call me back. I don’t get it.” Then he went into speculation mode, in which he speculated about all the possible reasons why she didn’t call him back.

He said, for example, that she probably felt too free sexually with him and that made her uncomfortable because she wasn’t used to feeling that way. He wanted his friend to speculate about this woman’s emotions and agree with him.

Keep in mind that the friend with whom he was doing this speculating had never met this woman. Usually the person who is being asked to speculate on what someone is feeling has never met the person about whom they are being asked to speculate.

The speculators nevertheless will speculate just to make their friend feel good. This is the speculation game. It’s really ridiculous, but yet we do it all the time.

We go to our friends for advice. We break down a situation that’s going on in our dating life, and then our friends speculate on what they think the other person — whom they have never met — is thinking.

Obviously the speculating friend is trying to make their friend feel better by doing this. Sometimes in life, though, you’ve got to just let some things go.

The fact of the matter is that unless you are prepared to go directly to the source, you will never know what someone is really thinking. Never. You will never know what they were really thinking, so why play the speculation game?

If someone doesn’t call you back, and you don’t know the reason why from the source (i.e., the person who didn’t call you), then it’s okay because you already have your answer. The answer is that you don’t know. When that happens, you have to learn to let things go.

You’ll never learn the answer to everything in life, so why play the speculation game? The speculation game can really drive you crazy.

Also, think a little bit about the people you are asking to be the speculators. They were not present for any of the events you are telling them about and they almost always have never met the person about whose feelings and thoughts you are asking them to speculate. So why are you letting these people make you feel better?

In life, you need to learn to just let things go. Successful quarterbacks have to master this in order to be successful.

Here’s a great example of that. A few weeks ago, Kurt Warner threw five interceptions in one game. During the next couple week’s games, he came back and threw six touchdown passes. When asked about this, he basically said ‘I have a short memory.’

It’s time that all of you adopt the same mentality in your dating life. You need to develop a short memory that allows you to no longer play the speculation game.

Doing this can get you “out there” and dating a lot more quickly. You’ll also be a lot happier. So let’s eliminate the speculation game, and start enjoying ourselves more.

If we do that, then maybe the speculators will have to find work doing other things. Who knows, instead of speculating on human emotions they maybe decide to go into the stock trading business and start speculating there. It could be a good move for them, since it’s basically the same guessing game.

This is what I call being completely oblivious to all signals. I wonder how this guy is with women. Watch this video I’m going to call “Training Beyond Belief” and judge for yourself:

Now you all know how I feel about nicknames, so I’ll encourage her to reveal at least her first name soon. I will tell you that she is a woman in her 30′s who lives in Los Angeles, and who thinks that ‘Sex And The City’ doesn’t pertain to Los Angeles (because, really, it’s more like ‘sex in the hills’ or ‘sex on the beach).

The Fiery Redhead really wants to help men and women meet people, so I’ve offered her the opportunity to be a guest poster on the blog. Plus, I’m sure you guys have to get sick of hearing from just me.

So you will be getting a different perspective from her about every couple weeks. I also thought it would be a cool to have a woman giving her perspective and helping the women and the men.

So let’s welcome our new guest blogger and enjoy her first blog today. It’s a great topic. So, without further ado, here she is…

Hey Guys and Girls,

You know, David asked me to start writing a little guest column because he figured why not have a female opinion every so often. And why not have one who really tells it like it is. That definitely describes me (as you’ll quickly discover).

I’ve got to tell you something.  The other day some girl friends and I were sitting around with some guys who were talking all about how to “close” a woman. You will never hear a woman say something like that.

You’ll never hear a woman say, “You know, we went on a boat trip the other day and met some really cute guys. My friend was flirting with one guy, but at the end of the day she ended up going home without closing him.”

No, she didn’t “close” him. She didn’t hook up with him. What is it with you guys having to “close” us? Why do you need to “close” us?

We’re not a door — you don’t need to close us. Really, if you close us it’s actually because we’ve determined that you were cool to hang out with so we want to go and bang you. I mean, that’s really what it comes down to.  We make that decision, not you.

I don’t understand it. Why don’t you just learn the way women are? If we like you and enjoy your company, and we give outward signs of that, then you don’t need to close us. You just need to go with the flow.

Why can’t guys just be a little more relaxed and a little cooler about things? You’d get laid so much more if you would just listen to the verbal clues. That’s all for my ranting and raving for this time. I’ll talk to you guys soon!

Okay, thanks again to the Fiery Redhead for this first post! To all of you, enjoy the last weekend of summer, because fall is here as of next week. Also, if any of you would like to know any of my football predictions, be sure to tune into the blog on Sunday. Why? Because I want to and it will be fun.

Now, since it’s the weekend and some of you go out to the bars, I thought this great video will help you out. It’s all about how to walk the walk and talk the talk to be able to successfully approach women in bars.

Have you ever woken up with that morning erection? Most guys do.

But here’s the thing about it – the way to wake up with a morning erection is not to poke her in the back between the ribs and say, “look at my dick!” That doesn’t work. We’ve all tried that plenty of times before.

Hell, I’ve even written a blog about ‘morning boner,’ which really talks about all the ways to turn her off with your morning boner – here’s the link:

But how do you really turn her on in the morning?

Well, you should just act like the boner is no big deal. Ignore the boner! Act like you’ve already had it. Just like we talk about when you’re seducing a woman, make it seem like you’ve done this a thousand times – like you just had sex last night, but she doesn’t know it.

So what do you do with this morning boner?

You just kind of casually brush it up against her. You kiss her a little bit. You don’t acknowledge it – you let her acknowledge it. Because if she feels that throbbing member close to her, and you’re not acting like a four-year-old saying, “feel my dick!” she’s going to get really turned on.

So what’s a great way to turn her on, and keep her hot all day long?

Give her what she wants, but don’t release what you need to do. This means you should climb inside of her, and get her off a few times in the morning, but don’t cum. Tell her you want to build it up all day long; tell her you want to think about her all day long.

Tell her you want to have a fun, long session that night, but right now, it’s all about her. You just want to get her off and you want to make her feel really good.

That is going to get her amped up all day long. She’s going to be all over Mr. Boner later on that day. She’ll be thinking about that boner all day long, and she’s going to be dreaming about that boner all day long.

Make it about her for a little while, because when you make it about her, you’re really going to turn her on and make her feel great. You’re really going to go further sexually than you’ve ever gone before.

So the next time you wake up with a morning boner, get her off! Go side to side – which is one of my favorite positions – side to side, leg on top of her, rolled on the side. Take your morning boner, put it inside and start rubbing her clit gently. Get her to cum a few quick times. Give her that morning orgasm.

And then you just kick back and wait until later, because she will give you the ride of your life that night!

But speaking of mixtures, life is a mixture. It’s really funny, because we all have this ideal. If you think about it, men have been masturbating to Maxim magazine models, Playboy centerfolds, Penthouse centerfolds since they were little boys and realized that something neat and fun actually comes out of their own dick and makes them feel good!

So if you think about it, men have been fantasizing about these women for most of their lives. Now what have women been doing? They don’t have a dick, but they do masturbate, as we all know. Women have been fantasizing about that 6’2” guy – the one from the Bride magazines, Sean Connery playing leading man roles, George Clooney, Brad Pitt.

That’s who they fantasize about – they fantasize about that tall, dark, and handsome man – how many times have you heard that? Tall, dark, and handsome.

Sex and the City even had an episode of tall, dark, and handsome. Mr. Big was what? Tall, dark, and handsome.

If you go on the internet, everybody has their ideal person there. Every woman wants a guy over 6’ tall, and every guy wants a woman who is fit and athletic.

The problem is that the world is not 6” tall and in great shape. And most women are not skinny and petite!

So you need to embrace your body – you need to look at your body, and you need to look at who you are, and you need to become the most powerful you within your own body. The fact is that if you’re a guy that’s 5’6”, and if you project your attitude, you project your voice, and you project confidence, a woman is going to see you as 6’ tall.

Maybe you’re not the ideal guy. But you are the ideal man. Think about it: she’s got some fantasy guy in her head, and you walk over to her, and what happens is that most women spend their entire lives wanting to get swept off of their feet. Mr. Tall, Dark, and Handsome hasn’t swept them off of their feet yet, but if Mr. 5’6” with a killer personality and great confidence walks over and claims her – claims her like the woman she is, makes her feel sexy, makes her feel wanted and desired – all of a sudden she can be yours.

If you look at all of the women in the world, not every woman is dating tall, dark, and handsome men. Most of them are dating just average guys who had the confidence and the balls to approach her, and the confidence and balls to really go over there and talk.

When it comes down to men, all of us are not going to be dating Maxim magazine models. It’s just not going to happen. It sounds great in theory. If there was a factory somewhere abroad that FedEx shipped them over by the dozens – absolutely gorgeous women all of the time – that’d be great.

But the fact is that you have to embrace who you are every single day, and become the most powerful version of yourself. If you’re not the most powerful version of yourself, you won’t be able to sweep anybody off of their feet.

Forget about the fantasy. All of the women on the internet – all of you that are so narrow minded and you bitch and complain that men are narrow minded – women are so narrow minded on the internet it’s incredible. All they talk about is wanting this perfect guy.

Just the other day I was reading this internet profile from a woman who was 39 years old. 39! She wants three kids, and the guy has to be aged 36 to 39. Hello? Can we say, fantasy?

Now let’s talk about reality. Reality in this situation is the she’s probably not going to get that. She’s probably going to get something else, and you have to realize that what you’re about, and what you project is what you will attract.

So if you are narrow minded in your search, and you’re not open to things, you will never be able to meet somebody who will blow you away.

Lets talk about how to get out of your head. Do you worry about every little thing and what others think of you?

Todays video will break you out of your fears forever.

I have been all over Europe and it has some amazing underground train systems. This is unlike America, where we just sit in our cars all day long and curse at people in traffic – except of course for New York City, Boston, Chicago, San Francisco, and some other cities – I think Philly might have a train.

But most of the US doesn’t have an underground system. When I was in Europe I was sitting with my client Pete, and Pete wanted to know: how do you meet people on the train?

Well, I said, it’s really easy. You have to put yourself in everybody else’s shoes and their emotions.

Think about when you get a seat in the afternoon on the underground or the train – how good it feels to sit down. You’ve been walking around all day long, you have a 25-minute train ride ahead of you, and you found a seat! You scored – you don’t have to stand up. Your feet are killing you from walking around all day.
Yes they actually walk in Europe something that does not exist where i live in Los Angeles.

So what do you do? You play the percentages. You sit down next to her, you give her a big smile as you sit down, and you say, “oh, that feels so good.” You do it with a big smile.

She thought the same thing when she scored that seat on the underground. All of a sudden, you look at her, and say, “how was your day?” and then let her talk. Find out what her day was like.

It’s really that simple. One of my clients in London did this, and he talked to her for 20 minutes on the underground. He found out about where she was from – Australia – why she was visiting… It’s just really that easy.

In the morning, what do you do?

In the morning, people have their defenses up – they’re tired, they’re not in the mood to go to work, whatever it might be. So in the morning, if you’ve seen somebody over and over again on the train, just look at them and smile and say, “good morning, how are you? I see you here all the time. We must work in the same area.”

That’s it. Non-threatening. It’s always about being non-threatening. That’s how you talk to a woman on the train.

Todays audio is a lively debate about the difference between men and women.

After seeing a long winded Sex And The City Movie we had a nice little debate about the strange but funny things women do.

If you think Sarah Jessica Parker and the gang from Sex and the City had quirks…wait till you hear what i heard.

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Last night I saw the Movie Sex and The City and had so much to say about the dynamics between men and women that i had to create a free podcast today.

So what did i think of Sarah Jessica Parker and the crew?

And how real is the plot in Sex and The City The Movie to real life?

Give this a listen and you will see what really happens between the sexes.

Before the podcast give todays blog a quick read with your eyes….its a subject that would make a great Sex and The City Episode.

Do you report in with nothing to say?

Reporting In By David Wygant

So here you are: you’re spending a weekend with a friend. Let’s say you live in Austria and you’re visiting a friend in Amsterdam, and there are a couple of other guys that you’re going to hang out with too.

Really, the whole weekend is just a fun weekend of doing things that you like to do. It doesn’t really matter what it is – you could be taking a bootcamp, or you could be just hanging out with a friend going shopping watching some games whatever…..

But, you’re dating somebody. And you tell them, “look, I really can’t speak with you much this weekend. You can text me, it’s fine – but don’t call me, because my mobile phone is roaming and it costs a lot of money to talk to you. I’m going to be honest with you – I just kind of want to hang out with some friends this weekend, but you can check in with a text every once in awhile, that’s great.”

How come, in so many instances – and I think men are just as guilty of this as women are – that the needy person starts coming out? You tell them this on a Thursday morning before you leave, and by Thursday night, they’ve already called you twice!

Yet when you told them this on Thursday morning, they told you that they totally understood and that they wouldn’t call! They said they would just text you, and to have a good weekend.

Yet every time they call, they say, “I just really wanted to talk to you, and to hear your voice,” but then they have absolutely nothing to say! And they will say something stupid and crazy like, “have you met anybody else?” or “are you flirting with other people?”

This is what a needy, jealous person does. What happens is that this pushes the opposite sex away. If a woman does this to me – it drives me up the wall! I can’t take it. When I go off to do my thing, I’m doing my thing. I’m hanging with friends, I’m coaching people, I’m friends with a lot of the guys I coach – I’m enjoying myself.

Yes – I’m flirting with women! I’m not going home with other women, but I’m flirting with them. We’re all flirting with women. But I’m also talking to men, I’m also talking to children, I’m also talking to dogs.

And to have to explain yourself to someone is crazy. I’m sitting here with my friend, and he picked up the phone, and said to her, “I really can’t talk right now, I’ll talk to you later on Skype,” and she says okay. Then, he literally hangs up the phone and 30 seconds later, there’s a text! “I miss you – you don’t miss me as much as I miss you.”

That just makes me want to vomit. You should see the expression on his face – it’s just like GET AWAY. If you want to push us away, keep doing that annoying, nit-picking behavior! It doesn’t work.

If you like a guy that is independent, allow him to be independent! Be cool. I wrote a blog awhile back about being cool. You need to be cool with it. We’re not out there cheating. Let me tell you what we did that day in Amsterdam, so if this woman reads the blog, here is what we did all day:

We went to the gym, and got all pumped up. We walked around the city. We had an amazing breakfast-lunch, and then we went shopping around the city. We tried on jeans, and we tried on shirts. I found some great shirts, he found some great shirts. We figured out how to get the VAT back for me in creative fun ways. We looked at some great buildings. We walked we talked we ate we drank.

This is what we did. Did we flirt with women? Yeah, of course we did! We played with some women, we had a good time. Did we sleep with some women? No, that’s not what this is all about. I don’t teach seduction. I don’t teach how to meet a woman in a square in Amsterdam at 12:30 on a Friday, and have sex with her by 1:00 in the afternoon! That’s not what we’re about – that’s not the type of client or the types of friends that I hang out with.

This is an open letter to all women. If you want cool, amazing, confident guys: stop being so damn needy and annoying! If we tell you we’re going to hang out with our buddy, trust us!

I can feel all the women’s hairs just prickling on their necks right now, but the same goes for men: if your girl wants to go out and have some fun with her friends – maybe you can write a standard little text saying, “have a great time.”

Be supportive of her weekend. Don’t start texting with these annoying messages like “I bet you don’t miss me as much as I miss you.” Vomit – we are going to vomit that up. It just doesn’t work.

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