Anyway, it was funny. I was watching this group of girls sitting right behind us. They were just talking and having a good time.

Then I see these guys come over to talk to them. It was really funny. The first guy came over, walked up to the girls, and he was Mr. Crash And Burn Man.

He walked over and said, “How is everyone doing tonight?” He had a lot of energy.

It almost felt like he took a moment to think about what he was going to say, but the only so-called clever thing he could think of was ‘how is everyone doing tonight.’ So the girls looked at him and mimicked his energy saying, “We’re doing great tonight! How are you?”

The next thing you know, he hits the eject button. I watched him run away like a scared little boy. He literally walked away, and I was cracking up as I witnessed this.

Bye Bye You Bore Me

So at that moment, and knowing human nature as well as I do, I knew that he would go back and try again, because he was in that “what he was doing right and wrong” mode. About fifteen minutes later, he went back to the women’s table and brought his wing man with him.

The wing man was what we call the monkey with the tambourine. So Mr. Monkey goes back with Mr. Crash And Burn Man (aka the guy who failed miserably), and Mr. Monkey basically just entertained the girls for about five minutes.

I watched the women’s reaction to this. They were laughing at first. Then they started getting annoyed because this wing guy, who obviously thought he was good at meeting women, basically wasn’t going to ask questions or really engage in conversation. All he was doing was entertaining them.

He was what I call the monkey with the tambourine because he was nothing more than a performing animal. He went through this five minute speech (all of which I didn’t get to hear), and all I saw was the women’s interest level dissipate.

Finally after five minutes of talking and not listening, the conversation got dull and boring. The monkey with the tambourine guy basically shot his entire load in those five minutes, and so both guys left.

I walked over to the women and said, “So how did the interaction go with the monkey with the tambourine? He was the wing man, and the other guy is the typical good-looking guy who has absolutely no game.”

They were cracking up, and proceeded to tell me that these guys had no clue at all. I asked them what would have worked for them. They looked at me and said, “How about a normal conversation? He brought his wing man over, and it did not work because he really did not listen at all. All he did was perform.”

What happens is that a lot of guys think they are getting this right, when in reality they are getting this kind of reaction from women. I don’t care where you are, it’s still about starting a conversation based on an observation.

About an hour later we were having dinner, and they came over to our table. They sat down, talked to us, and asked for advice about their love lives.

The bottom line is that a successful approach and conversation is all based on a simple observation. One of my favorite ways to meet women in a bar is to watch other guys crash and burn, and then walk over to them. Say with a big smile, “What did that guy say to you? He ran away like he was leaving the scene of an accident. What was the funniest thing he said?”

Everyone enjoys talking about Mr. Crash And Burn Man. Be careful, however, not to get all into your heads about this right now. At least crash and burners are trying.

Most of them just don’t look deep enough to realize what they are doing is wrong, and that is why they keep crashing and burning. They are not working on their social skills.

It’s all about trying, tweaking and understanding what you are doing wrong. Maybe the next time you crash and burn, grow some balls and walk back over to the women. Say, “Okay I failed at my attempt to intrigue you. What could I have done differently?” You will be amazed at how receptive she will be and how amazing that conversation can be.

A “Three Fer” in my world refers to the fact that you do not ask someone out unless you have learned three things about them. Otherwise, you are just asking someone out based on physical attraction.

When you are looking at a woman and you’re talking to her, are you really talking to her? A lot of guys will talk AT a woman (instead of to her).

If you’re really talking to somebody, you’re learning things about them. A conversation is a conversation.

Think about a conversation you would have with a buddy. When you talk to a buddy, you’re talking about things back and forth. “How was your day?” “Wow, did you see the game last night?” “How are things going with that girl?” There are three things you are talking about right there.

You never go up and talk to your buddy and just say, “Hey do you like the tea here? I like the tea here. I think the tea is really good here. It’s not my favorite tea; my favorite tea is down the street. That other tea shop is actually my favorite. It’s great. Oh, can I have your number?”

In that situation, basically what’s happening is that your penis is getting her number because you need to get that number. You’re not really communicating.

If you had that same conversation with a friend, your friend would think that you had some type of learning disability and that you should be riding the short bus to school. So when you communicate, you really need to go for the “Three Fer.”

What the “Three Fer” means is that if you did not find out three interesting things about someone — and share a few things about yourself — then why would they ever want to go out with you? Life is all about creating an emotional bond with people.

You want to get together with people with whom you have formed an emotional bond. A woman will want to go out with you when there’s an emotional bond that has been formed.

When you meet a woman, all of this can happen pretty quickly. You can ask her a couple of questions, learn things about her, act enthusiastic about what she’s saying and go deeper into conversation in a short period of time. It doesn’t have to go on for three or four minutes to really learn things about her.

If you learn about a woman and show interest in who she is as a person before you ask her out, she is going to really be excited to go out with you. She is going to go home, talk to her friends and say, “God, I met this really cool guy today at the tea shop. It was so much fun. It was like he was so interested in my caffeine addiction, and he also has to get that jolt of caffeine in the morning like I do. We were talking about work, and he’s in the same field as I am. It was great!”

Do you see what I mean? You have to give her something to be excited about so that when she talks to her friends, they don’t sit there and say, “Oh God, another guy just cruising for numbers in the middle of the day. Don’t you hate when guys just ask you out for no reason? They don’t even get to know you!”

So, that is the “Three Fer.” One of the best ways to really learn how to do this is to take a little note pad around with you, and write down the three things you learned about each person with whom you have an interaction.

If you don’t learn three things about someone — if you only learn one or two things — then you know what you need to do in the next conversation. This is something that a lot of politicians and really good business people use all the time.

This is like what a lot of people do wrong when they’re going for a job interview. They go and try to sell themselves. They’ll just talk about all the things they are going to do for the company. All they do is sell themselves.

Meanwhile, they didn’t look around the room. The man interviewing them has pictures up of his daughter, a Golden Retriever, a golf outing with his buddies, and his boat.

In that situation, I’d walk into that office and say, “A Golden Retriever? No f*^king way man! I grew up with Golden Retrievers. My last dog was a Golden Retriever. What is your dog’s name?” I’m going to bond with him personally, because it’s a known fact that people will hire people with whom they bond personally. They will hire that person over the people who go in and just sell themselves.

Success in life is based on how well you are able to bond with people personally, and not on how well you can sell yourself. The “Three Fer” works in everything.

It works in every aspect of life. So when you go and approach a woman, you better learn three things about her. If you aren’t able to do this, then you need to keep going out and practicing — practice on little old men or on whomever you need to practice on to get it.

Start becoming inquisitive about people. The more inquisitive you are with people, the better connections you’re going to have with them and the more excited they are going to be about you.

When you’re hanging out with friends on a Sunday, do you have a good time?

Do you go to places you enjoy? Or do you go to places you hate, just because you think you might meet somebody – for example, standing in a bar, bored out of your mind, hands in your pockets playing pocket pool?

Remember pocket pool? It was something that all young boys used to play all the time during the age when the random boner would pop up out of nowhere.

I remember that random boner stage so well – I remember Lisa Rutman in my 9th grade Spanish class, and how I got a D one semester because I sat next to Lisa Rutman and just stared at those perky breasts the entire semester.

Breasts were quite a fascination to me for quite sometime during my teenage years. I remember one time Mr. McBride called me up and said, “Davíd,” (because we were in Spanish), and he told me to go up to the board and write down an answer from last night’s homework.

I had done my homework the night before (one of the rare occasions) but because of the perky breasts and the random boner phase I was in, I was not eager to go up to the front of the classroom right then. He looked at me and said, “Davíd, you never want to come up to the board, but this time you have to!”

So I had this huge erection that I had no idea what the hell to do with, but luckily I had learned the ‘upward tuck’ move at a very young age. So I quickly put my hand in my pocket and I took my boner and tucked it up near my belt loop area – the upward tuck.

The problem with the upward tuck is that the boner always starts to do the sideways dance and then you’re in trouble. You look like you have a young bulge in your pants.

Luckily that day I was able to keep my boner in the upward tuck while I was up at the board by focusing on my stimulus (Lisa Rutman’s breasts.) I limped back to my seat and back into my fantasy world.

But this blog is not about 14-year-old’s spontaneous erections. Thank god we no longer have those! Can you imagine sitting in your office cubicle?

Back to the blog: do you have fun in your life? Do you do things that are fun? At the end of the week, do you judge the week based on the amount of phone numbers you got or the number of women you met? Or do you judge it on the amount of great times you had?

We were just walking down Main Street in Santa Monica – something I’ve done thousands of times. I really enjoy it; I like the shops, I like the people that run the shops.

I hate the drivers around here though. Here is an open note to anyone who drives 31 miles per hour in the left hand lane: if people are honking at you all the time, it’s about you! It’s not about them! You didn’t just happen to drive near all of the assholes on the road, YOU are the asshole! So wake up, use your rearview mirror and check out how many angry drivers are behind you!

So now that we’ve discussed spontaneous erections and bad drivers let’s get back to the matter at hand. So we were on Main Street and just enjoying ourselves. We walked into this one furniture store that I’ve been into before, and I always seem to take bootcamp guys into – there are a couple of really cute girls that work there!

I went in there, and I looked at a couch, and I said, “that looks really comfortable, do you mind if I sit down and take a nap?” She replied, “sure! No problem,” and then she said, “you’ve been in here before, what’s your name?” I told her my name, and she told me hers (which of course I’ve already forgotten, which is very typical of me) and then we started talking.

Soon another salesgirl and the other guys sat down and then we had a group of people sitting down and talking on the couches while other customers came in that they ignored!

Bottom line: do you have fun? If you have fun, people are going to be attracted to you and your energy.

People aren’t going to be attracted to you because you drive 31 in the left lane when the speed limit is 50, and they are definitely not going to be attracted to you if walk around with a random boner in the upward tuck position, but they will be attracted to you if you’re having fun!

Todays video goes even deeper into how to create this powerful attraction.

But speaking of mixtures, life is a mixture. It’s really funny, because we all have this ideal. If you think about it, men have been masturbating to Maxim magazine models, Playboy centerfolds, Penthouse centerfolds since they were little boys and realized that something neat and fun actually comes out of their own dick and makes them feel good!

So if you think about it, men have been fantasizing about these women for most of their lives. Now what have women been doing? They don’t have a dick, but they do masturbate, as we all know. Women have been fantasizing about that 6’2” guy – the one from the Bride magazines, Sean Connery playing leading man roles, George Clooney, Brad Pitt.

That’s who they fantasize about – they fantasize about that tall, dark, and handsome man – how many times have you heard that? Tall, dark, and handsome.

Sex and the City even had an episode of tall, dark, and handsome. Mr. Big was what? Tall, dark, and handsome.

If you go on the internet, everybody has their ideal person there. Every woman wants a guy over 6’ tall, and every guy wants a woman who is fit and athletic.

The problem is that the world is not 6” tall and in great shape. And most women are not skinny and petite!

So you need to embrace your body – you need to look at your body, and you need to look at who you are, and you need to become the most powerful you within your own body. The fact is that if you’re a guy that’s 5’6”, and if you project your attitude, you project your voice, and you project confidence, a woman is going to see you as 6’ tall.

Maybe you’re not the ideal guy. But you are the ideal man. Think about it: she’s got some fantasy guy in her head, and you walk over to her, and what happens is that most women spend their entire lives wanting to get swept off of their feet. Mr. Tall, Dark, and Handsome hasn’t swept them off of their feet yet, but if Mr. 5’6” with a killer personality and great confidence walks over and claims her – claims her like the woman she is, makes her feel sexy, makes her feel wanted and desired – all of a sudden she can be yours.

If you look at all of the women in the world, not every woman is dating tall, dark, and handsome men. Most of them are dating just average guys who had the confidence and the balls to approach her, and the confidence and balls to really go over there and talk.

When it comes down to men, all of us are not going to be dating Maxim magazine models. It’s just not going to happen. It sounds great in theory. If there was a factory somewhere abroad that FedEx shipped them over by the dozens – absolutely gorgeous women all of the time – that’d be great.

But the fact is that you have to embrace who you are every single day, and become the most powerful version of yourself. If you’re not the most powerful version of yourself, you won’t be able to sweep anybody off of their feet.

Forget about the fantasy. All of the women on the internet – all of you that are so narrow minded and you bitch and complain that men are narrow minded – women are so narrow minded on the internet it’s incredible. All they talk about is wanting this perfect guy.

Just the other day I was reading this internet profile from a woman who was 39 years old. 39! She wants three kids, and the guy has to be aged 36 to 39. Hello? Can we say, fantasy?

Now let’s talk about reality. Reality in this situation is the she’s probably not going to get that. She’s probably going to get something else, and you have to realize that what you’re about, and what you project is what you will attract.

So if you are narrow minded in your search, and you’re not open to things, you will never be able to meet somebody who will blow you away.

Lets talk about how to get out of your head. Do you worry about every little thing and what others think of you?

Todays video will break you out of your fears forever.