Do you desire more of an edge when it comes to your personal style?

Don’t have time to go out shopping and try on new clothes?

Do you crave cool designer clothes at discount prices, but just don’t know where to find them where you live?

Well then listen up because today’s podcast is for you!

In it, Shogo and I share with you our knowledge on great online stores and hidden sales to get your wardrobe kicked up a notch just in time for summer! You’ll get some of our insider tips on where to find some of the top names in men’s and women’s fashion that are marked down to affordable prices. We’ll tell you some of the best websites to go to, many of which are by invitation only.

It’s all about lifestyle when it comes to kickstarting your dating life, and today’s podcast is for all of you guys who’ve been curious about fashion but don’t really know where to start looking!

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May 1.

When I lived in NYC i always felt a great sense of relief when May hit.

It meant that summer was right around the corner and there was a certain magic in the air.

Now living in LA LA land, May 1 is just another date on the calendar.

So what do you have planned on this great May day?

How about meeting some women that are on sale?

Did you ever realize that most women are actually 75% off.

Ok so now you are thinking, what can David be talking about.

Glad you asked!

And don’t worry men are equally on sale on this video.

It’s the day after Christmas,
and all through the mall,
everyone is stirring
because everything is half off…

It’s a great time to buy next year’s decorations, because everything is half off. You can store them in the attic where you won’t be able to find them next year.

Today really is a great day to go out there and meet people.

There is one thing you can say to everyone today. Isn’t that what people are looking for – the one thing you can say to everyone that will work every time? Well, today is the only day of the year you can use this.

So here is your “magic line” of the day. Make sure you say this with a smile. Now you know how I feel about using “lines” when you talk to people, so I’ll call this a “magic opener” (or a “magic conversation starter” would be even better).

So whenever you see anyone today, you can say “Did Santa get you everything you wanted, or do you need to rely on the American Express card today?”

That’s it. That’s all you need to say.

Everyone can use this, and you can say it to everyone — men, women, children, dogs, cats, hedgehogs, cartoon characters, muppets. It’s by far the best thing you can say to people today.

It’s a great conversation starter. It’s your “day after Christmas conversation starter” that allows you to talk to people everywhere.

Say it with a smile, have fun and enjoy the day. I’ll meet you at the mall.

Let’s say you work in sales. Every January 1st you always feel like you are broke because you’re “starting over” in a new year. You feel like you need to get that first sale of the year.

You compare yourself constantly to the previous year and you continually want to improve your statistics. You’re competitive. You want to make more money and be more successful than you were in the prior year.

We all do it. I do it too. I’ve done some things I almost don’t want to admit. I’ve held back checks that came in during the month of December and didn’t deposit them until January because I wanted to feel like I made more money in the new year.

You’re still paying the same amount of taxes on that money, but somehow by doing that it feels different mentally. In your head you think, “It’s January 2nd and I have cash in the bank already!”

Here is something that someone very financially successful taught me a long time ago: Don’t ever count what you’ve made this year; Count what you’ve made your entire adult life. If you do this, you will always feel abundance.

Instead of thinking “Wow, I’m having an off year,” think I’ve made $20 Million so far! You feel much more abundant when you do that. You don’t have to count and keep track of every little deal, and you don’t need to compare yourself to others.

This same abundance principle applies to your success in meeting the opposite sex. So many guys will think, “God am I having a bad week!” They could instead think something like “Wow, I’ve gone on 3,000 dates and slept with 250 women!” That is an abundance mentality and it will affect how you interact with people.

So think abundance every day. Walk around and feel that abundance.

Don’t think about how many people you have (or have not) met this month. Think about how many dates you’ve been on in your life.

When you do this, your energy will change and be open. What happens then is that every time you talk to someone of the opposite sex, you will talk to them with a confident open energy and without desperation.

If you have a rough streak where things aren’t happening the way you’d like, which happens to everyone, then you might have a tendency to put more pressure on yourself to change things. If you can concentrate on all the wonderful people you’ve met in your life, then you’ll radiate the power of an abundance mentality instead of radiating an air of desperation.

It’s no different than when a professional baseball player is in a slump. When a baseball player is having a 2-10 slump, the best players pull themselves out of that slump by thinking “Well, I’ve still got a .300 average!” If a player is in a 2-54 slump, you can always tell that he has just been thinking about how badly things have been going for him and he just keeps pressing. That never works.

In terms of meeting someone of the opposite sex, when you start pressing you need to take a “time out” and write down all your successes. Take a day off from chasing, and then go back the next day with a brand new attitude of how successful your entire life has been.

That’s how you do it. It’s all about the mindset. It’s all about having the ultimate abundance mindset.

So when I write about what women do wrong online, I am not ignoring the fact that men are also guilty of doing wrong things online. I just like to address the sexes separately, because the mistakes men make online are either different from those women make or are “the same with a twist.”

Are you ready for the twist? Here are 8 of the most irritating online behaviors committed by men:

1. Athletic & Fit?: It’s time that all men realized that they are not Peyton Manning or Marvin Harrison. They’re not an Olympic gold medal-winning swimmer. Your body type is exactly what it is. So you really need to look in the mirror and make a determination of how you really look, because when you say “athletic and fit” in your online profile and only put up dazzling head shots of yourself, a woman is expecting a swimmer’s body to accompany that dazzling face. When what shows up instead is a dazzling face with a middle-aged body, the expression on a woman’s face is usually one of discomfort. When you post an accurate full-body photograph of yourself, you’ve already been exposed. Then you just let women make the choice if they are interested or not. It’s that simple. Lying about your body type never produces good results.

2. Stop Being A Salesman: When you contact a woman online, do not send her a cut and paste email telling her all the reasons why she should want to have a relationship with you, why you’re a gift to mankind and why she is a fool if she doesn’t answer your email. She can read your profile if she chooses. Your profile is intended to intrigue her. It’s not a sales brochure of all the reasons she needs to be in a relationship with someone she hasn’t even met yet. When you send a woman a message online, say something intriguing that will make her want to go and read your profile. Women do not want to read a cut and past email telling her how amazing you think you are. Let her find that out for herself.

3. Respect Her Age Range: If you’re a 50 year old man looking at a 25 year old woman’s profile that says she is looking for a man between the ages of 25 and 35, then you should not contact this woman. Period. You need to respect a woman’s stated age range for the men she’s looking to meet (give or take no more than five years). Nothing turns a woman off more than having her Father’s friends chasing her online. If a woman says she wants to date someone who is no more than five years older or younger than she, then she does not want to date someone twice her age. Men get visually impaired when they see pictures of beautiful women. Some men somehow think they have the right to date hot younger women half their age. Now there are some men can do this . . . but online is not the right place to try and do that. In online dating, you don’t stand a chance of dating women if you are outside their stated age range. Even if you would be able to completely dazzle a woman in person, online you’ll just be viewed as an old guy chasing younger women. If you want to meet younger women, get out of the house and dazzle them with your charm and wit – you’ll stand a much better chance.

4. Read Her Profile!: I’ve lost count of the number of women who email me saying “David, what is up with all these men who don’t read our profiles? I get so many men who wink at me when my profile clearly says ‘NO WINKS!’” Nothing turns a woman off more than a man who does not read her profile. Women are all about an emotional connection. So when you contact them, pick out something interesting in their profile and respond to it. By cutting and pasting a form letter to women without having read their profile, you are simply wasting your time. Online dating works, but you have to put a little effort into it by doing things like reading a woman’s profile so she knows you made some effort.

5. Nix The “Possession Pictures”: Before some of you get angry about this one, understand that I’ve ripped women on this same picture issue for putting up certain kinds of pictures with their friends or pictures of them from a distance. Men tend to put up pictures of their possessions – everything from their car to their Super Bowl tickets. The fact is that women don’t care about your possessions when they’re looking at an online profile. Now, granted, some women are looking for men to take care of them, but women still want to be able to see who you are when they look at your online profile. So put pictures up of you in different situations. Just be sure any picture you post is clear, up close, and current! If you have no hair, don’t put pictures up of yourself with a full head of hair. It’s just not going to work. Once again, you are who you are. There’s no need to go into salesman mode to get to meet women. There are plenty of women to meet out there – so represent yourself accurately and you’ll find them.

6. No Email Stalking: You contacted her once, and she didn’t respond. Why? Well perhaps she didn’t like what you wrote to her. Perhaps she’s busy. Perhaps there’s no reason at all. It doesn’t matter. If a woman doesn’t respond to your first email to her, email her again a week or ten days later just in case there was some snafu the first time (and so you won’t have to wonder if there was some snafu the first time). Doing this is perfectly fine. To send a woman a barrage of increasingly nasty emails for four or five days asking why she isn’t responding to your emails (or something similarly nasty), however, is behavior guaranteed to get a woman to NEVER want to communicate with you or see you. It’s frankly tantamount to email stalking. Two emails with no response equals you needing to move on to someone else.

7. Lose The One-Liner: I can’t tell you how many women have forwarded me emails they’ve received from men online whose first contact with them is something akin to a “hello” subject line with a one-line email body containing his phone number and an invitation to call him. It’s usually something like “Sally, give me a call sometime – my number is 301-555-5555.” How do men expect women to respond to this – by calling them? If a total stranger on the Internet sent you their phone number and asked you to call them sometime, you wouldn’t call them either. Women like to be intrigued and pursued a little bit. By sending this one-liner email, you did nothing to intrigue them. Get creative in your first email to women you meet online, and they’ll be offering their phone numbers to you.

8. Don’t Be An IM Stalker: Some online dating sites allow you to instant message with people you meet. This can be great! If you’ve emailed a woman several times and she’s never responded, however, do not start instant messaging that woman every time she gets online. You’re going to freak her out! Allow someone to answer you (or not answer you), but don’t become so obsessed over one person. Take a look at Yahoo! Personals. There’s TONS of people to date on there. TONS! So don’t start stalking one person with instant messages, and making them wish they would have never tried online dating in the first place. Respect when someone is not attracted to you or interested in you.

Online dating is fun. It also may be challenging at times. The best thing to do is to think of it as a party on the Internet, and don’t engage in behaviors online that you would never engage in at a real-life party.

If you want more online dating tips and/or a way to make your profile and contacts better, send me an email. I’ve told you here what to avoid doing . . . but there’s plenty you can do to make yourself a more successful online dater.

I’m there just picking up apricots, peaches and spinach. I used to walk around there picking up blonds and brunettes. Now the only thing blond I’m picking up in here is an apricot. Either I’ve really growing up or I’m really in love.

For those of you who really do want to pick up blonds and brunettes at Whole Foods instead of peaches and apricots, then I’m posting this blog which is much more relevant to you than to me. If you want to learn how to meet blonds and not peaches in whole foods check out how to do this from last weekend’s bootcamp, we showed how important it is to engage others in conversation and to remember details. Below is an excerpt about how these build an instant friendship.

Think about what we’ve accomplished just walking around for two hours today. We’ve been gathering momentum.

We stood there and talked to the Greenpeace person, and I pretended I was French. You weren’t that passionate about the conversation about Greenpeace.

Not two minutes before, you were saying, “Damn, how can I talk passionately? Nobody wants to hear about the stock market!” and then the Greenpeace person showed up.

So then we went into Blue Mercury, and the woman we met there was so boring! You saw how low energy she was, and you saw yourself in the same way, and you perked right up after that!

You don’t want to hang out with that – you’ll put yourself to sleep. And you’re really NOT low energy; you’re just more reserved.

So then we walked into Levi’s and we carried that same energy and momentum with us. We walked in and started talking to that girl behind the register, and then the other girl wanted to talk to us too, and we basically were controlling the whole tone of the entire store for about an hour!

Then the girl said to us, “You guys are fun! Stop back again!” And we became friends with her. It’s like an instant friendship.

And think about the type of person that she is; she’s a merchandiser. She does the windows at all the stores – she’s probably got a cool circle of friends. She’s someone you could go meet up with for a drink and meet her friends – you know her friends are probably outrageous!

This is about owning every place that you go into. The more places you own, the more people that you’ll relate to.

Every time you go out – I don’t care where it is – you need to learn three things about the people you talk to. Life is about flattering people and networking.

So the next time you see that Levi’s merchandiser, you can ask her, “So are you still swimming?” or “How’s mom’s business in Bethesda? Is it still kicking ass?” or “What other windows do you do? I’d really love to see them.”

Bingo. Three things right there. She’ll look at you and think, oh my god – I cannot believe that he remembered all that! She’ll immediately look at you and just think the world of you.

Most guys won’t do that. Most guys, when they are attracted to a woman, will walk in all nervous, walking back and forth and rocking, and then they’ll all of a sudden gasp, “Hey! Do you want to get together?” They won’t even remember why they wanted to get together with her; they will just try to ask her out.

You, however, have those three things about her, and those three things are the keys to asking her out. If you can remember three things about somebody, she’ll go out with you every single time.

Besides how to meet the girl or the guy, we’re going to add some great products about how to have a great relationship.

I have found that for many of you the following is true: once you overcome MEETING someone, you still don’t really know how to date the person successfully. And many of you are just settling for relationships that you’re not really all that excited about.

So the first thing that I really want to discuss with you all is communication. Communication is the key to everything in a relationship – including intimacy.

Why? Because without communication, you’ll never really be able to connect – to really share your desires and wishes with your partner.

Intimacy is about more than just having great sex. Intimacy is being able to look deeply into your lover’s eyes and have an amazing conversation. Intimacy is also based on honesty.

If you have great communication in a relationship, you’ll have honesty as well. The two qualities just work hand-in-hand.

If you feel comfortable to talk to your lover about anything in the world, you’re being honest with yourself and with your partner.

Many of you are not the best communicators, and that’s something we need to work on. So over the next couple of months, we will really focus in on teaching you guys to be master communicators – both in the blogs as well as some of the products.

A new product will be coming out soon called the Master Communicator Series, where we will really work to practice these skills.

It is so important to be able to communicate – anything, to anybody! Recently Rey had an experience that I’m sure many of you will find familiar.

Rey was frustrated with some things at work that weren’t going well for him, and he took some things personally (which we ALL do). But instead of communicating it to me immediately, it escalated into something that it never should have.

Instant communication is important. When you’re frustrated and upset with someone, you need to realize that you must process it. The quicker that you process it, the better the communication will be.

If you keep things festering inside, when you finally do talk to the person a week later, what will happen? You’re going to have an emotional outburst – that will lead to confrontation – that will lead to bad feelings between you and the person that you love.

So, communication is key. How comfortable are you with your communication style? What can you improve? Be honest, and let me know in your comments. What are your strong points? Let’s communicate on this blog today and really open it up!

A good salesperson will get on the phone and talk to the person on the other end, “Hey man, how are you doing today? Are you having a great day?” He or she will start bantering back and forth.

For you, no sales pitches are necessary. Just flirt. If you think about it, we really flirt all day long.

You have to create that banter – whether you’re a salesperson or just looking for a date. Life is about cold calling. You never know what someone is going to say to you, so you have to start off with some type of friendly banter (instead of just going straight in for the kill!)

You think, I really want to ask her out, so you just walk over to her and say, “Hey, do you want to go out?” It doesn’t work that way. You have to start with friendly banter.

So how do you do this friendly banter? How do you cold call your way through life and succeed?

You succeed by picking up on the clues in your environment. You observe the clues of people’s body language. You observe the things that people are doing and experiencing. These are the things you make comments on. To bond with someone, you have to share something. You must share something about yourself to get that connection with someone.

Here is a good exercise to learn how to cold call in your life: think to yourself about how you can open this specific person based on your observations of what’s going on? How can you have the best cold call there is?

Think about who the best cold callers are in the business world – they are the ones that don’t care so much about the outcome. They just whip through as many as they can in an hour.

When you’re out there trying to meet women, you want to try to talk to everybody. You want to get through as many people as you can so you get warmed up. If you’re not sufficiently warmed up, every cold call you make is going to be very uncomfortable.

Start looking at your life as one giant cold call!

So you grab your ham sandwich and run out of there as quickly as you possibly can, saying to yourself “I will NEVER do that again. This doesn’t work. The next time I go back there I am just not going to smile anymore.” Is this the best way to deal with rejection? How do you personally deal with rejection? More importantly, are you someone who believes that if you become “good” at dating that you will no longer get rejected?

The truth is that being able to deal with rejection is the key to being successful at going out and meeting people. It’s also not the ultra-significant event so many make it out to be. So here are 5 essential tips on how to handle rejection which you need to embrace if you are going to have a full and successful dating life:

1. Change Your Expectations. One of the first and most important things you need to understand is that no matter what you do, not everybody is going to respond positively to you. Not everyone you smile at will smile back at you. Not everyone you say hello to is going to say hello back to you. Not everyone you make any sort of gesture to is going to respond to you positively (and in some cases won’t respond to you at all). This happens, and it will always happen at one time or another. You need to stop expecting a positive response 100% of the time. What you have to realize is that just because somebody did not smile back at you, does not mean that you’re not an attractive person or that you made a mistake by smiling at people. The only thing it means is that it did not work with that ONE person.

2. Life Is All About Rejection. Think about everything that you do in life. Everything in life has rejection involved in it. If you’re a sales person who makes ten sales calls, you may only get one or two of those people to say yes. In baseball, a player whose batting average is around 300 will likely end up in the Hall of Fame. In football, if a quarterback can complete 55% of his passes then he is doing pretty well. You get the idea. If you go to a store to buy a pair of jeans, you may have to try on five pairs before you find the perfect pair. Everything in life is about percentages. In any area of your life other than your dating life, you wouldn’t just quit simply because you experienced some rejection. Think if quit looking for work after your very first interview didn’t result you getting hired. That would, of course, be ridiculous. So remember that you also need to keep going in your dating life when you’re rejected, because you want to keep increasing your odds of success in that area of your life.

3. Focus On Increasing Your Odds: When you feel like you are getting more than your fair share of rejections, instead of focusing on those rejections you need to focus on increasing your odds of success. The fact is that by playing the percentages as I mentioned above, that you WILL be successful. The reason is that every time you take action – every time you smile, say hello or walk over and initiate a conversation – you get better at it. If you’re going to go out there and only talk to one person a day, and that’s it, then your chances of success are not going to be great. If you are this person, you need to increase your odds every single day and in everything you’re doing. You need to understand that if you approach someone and get rejected, it’s not a reflection on you. It doesn’t mean you did it wrong or shouldn’t have done it at all. It in fact could mean a million different things. Maybe the person was having a bad day. Maybe they have just lost every cent they have in the stock market. You’ll never know . . . and it doesn’t matter.

4. Keep Things In Perspective: I hear some version of this from clients of mine all the time: “David, what if I approach somebody, get rejected, and someone sees me? I’ll never be able to go in that store again (or that gym, that donut store, that Starbucks or wherever) and I’ll have to drive to the next town to do all my shopping!” You need to get a little perspective here. Let me tell you something – you’re not front page news! When you’re rejected, you need to just get over it. I promise that if you’re rejected by the deli counter at your grocery store, that the next day you will not see on Yahoo’s homepage or the front page of your local paper this headline “John Smith of Memphis, Tennessee was seen yesterday getting rejected at the deli counter of the local Whole Foods market … details on pg. 6 …” No one is talking about you. People are concerned about themselves and what is going on in their own lives, just as you are focused on what’s going on in yours. So the fact that you get rejected in front of other people at the market, at the gym, or anywhere else is not a big deal to anyone else but you. You need to keep this in it’s proper perspective: No one is going to be talking or thinking about you getting rejected except you.

5. Don’t Overreact: The other thing I most commonly hear from clients who have been rejected is some version of this: “I’m NEVER going to talk to that person ever again now that I was rejected by them.” This reaction is not only a total overreaction, but it is also absolutely the wrong thing to do. So you tried to talk (or smile or look) at someone, and they didn’t respond. As I mentioned above, there are a million possible reasons why that person did not respond to you. Maybe that person was simply having a bad day. Think about how many times you have been having a bad day and someone smiles at you, but you are just not in the mood to interact with others. So you have to realize that just like you have days when you just aren’t in the mood to talk to anyone, so might that person who didn’t respond to your hello at the deli counter. It doesn’t necessarily mean that person wouldn’t want to talk to you another time. If I smile at a woman and she doesn’t respond, I don’t play hide-and-go-seek the next time I see her. What I do is be equally friendly to her the next time I see her, because you never know what will happen that second time. You never know how someone will respond the second time. You never know what’s in their head or what they’re feeling. It’s a different day. Put the last time behind you.

These are some ways to help you get over rejection. You have to realize that in order to get good at interacting with the opposite sex, you are going to get rejected. In fact, you WANT to get rejected every single day, because if you’re not then it means that you’re not trying.

So ask yourselves this: Did you get rejected today, and how can you go out tomorrow and make it an even better day than today? Learn to not only handle, but indeed to embrace, rejection and you, too, will meet great new people and have an amazing social life.

Are you ready for the twist? Here are 8 of the most irritating online behaviors committed by men:

1. Athletic & Fit?: It’s time that all men realized that they are not Peyton Manning or Marvin Harrison. They’re not an Olympic gold medal-winning swimmer. Your body type is exactly what it is. So you really need to look in the mirror and make a determination of how you really look, because when you say “athletic and fit” in your online profile and only put up dazzling head shots of yourself, a woman is expecting a swimmer’s body to accompany that dazzling face. When what shows up instead is a dazzling face with a middle-aged body, the expression on a woman’s face is usually one of discomfort. When you post an accurate full-body photograph of yourself, you’ve already been exposed. Then you just let women make the choice if they are interested or not. It’s that simple. Lying about your body type never produces good results.

2. Stop Being A Salesman: When you contact a woman online, do not send her a cut and paste email telling her all the reasons why she should want to have a relationship with you, why you’re a gift to mankind and why she is a fool if she doesn’t answer your email. She can read your profile if she chooses. Your profile is intended to intrigue her. It’s not a sales brochure of all the reasons she needs to be in a relationship with someone she hasn’t even met yet. When you send a woman a message online, say something intriguing that will make her want to go and read your profile. Women do not want to read a cut and past email telling her how amazing you think you are. Let her find that out for herself.

3. Respect Her Age Range: If you’re a 50 year old man looking at a 25 year old woman’s profile that says she is looking for a man between the ages of 25 and 35, then you should not contact this woman. Period. You need to respect a woman’s stated age range for the men she’s looking to meet (give or take no more than five years). Nothing turns a woman off more than having her Father’s friends chasing her online. If a woman says she wants to date someone who is no more than five years older or younger than she, then she does not want to date someone twice her age. Men get visually impaired when they see pictures of beautiful women. Some men somehow think they have the right to date hot younger women half their age. Now there are some men can do this . . . but online is not the right place to try and do that. In online dating, you don’t stand a chance of dating women if you are outside their stated age range. Even if you would be able to completely dazzle a woman in person, online you’ll just be viewed as an old guy chasing younger women. If you want to meet younger women, get out of the house and dazzle them with your charm and wit – you’ll stand a much better chance.

4. Read Her Profile!: I’ve lost count of the number of women who email me saying “David, what is up with all these men who don’t read our profiles? I get so many men who wink at me when my profile clearly says ‘NO WINKS!’” Nothing turns a woman off more than a man who does not read her profile. Women are all about an emotional connection. So when you contact them, pick out something interesting in their profile and respond to it. By cutting and pasting a form letter to women without having read their profile, you are simply wasting your time. Online dating works, but you have to put a little effort into it by doing things like reading a woman’s profile so she knows you made some effort.

5. Nix The “Possession Pictures”: Before some of you get angry about this one, understand that I’ve ripped women on this same picture issue for putting up certain kinds of pictures with their friends or pictures of them from a distance. Men tend to put up pictures of their possessions – everything from their car to their Super Bowl tickets. The fact is that women don’t care about your possessions when they’re looking at an online profile. Now, granted, some women are looking for men to take care of them, but women still want to be able to see who you are when they look at your online profile. So put pictures up of you in different situations. Just be sure any picture you post is clear, up close, and current! If you have no hair, don’t put pictures up of yourself with a full head of hair. It’s just not going to work. Once again, you are who you are. There’s no need to go into salesman mode to get to meet women. There are plenty of women to meet out there – so represent yourself accurately and you’ll find them.

6. No Email Stalking: You contacted her once, and she didn’t respond. Why? Well perhaps she didn’t like what you wrote to her. Perhaps she’s busy. Perhaps there’s no reason at all. It doesn’t matter. If a woman doesn’t respond to your first email to her, email her again a week or ten days later just in case there was some snafu the first time (and so you won’t have to wonder if there was some snafu the first time). Doing this is perfectly fine. To send a woman a barrage of increasingly nasty emails for four or five days asking why she isn’t responding to your emails (or something similarly nasty), however, is behavior guaranteed to get a woman to NEVER want to communicate with you or see you. It’s frankly tantamount to email stalking. Two emails with no response equals you needing to move on to someone else.

7. Lose The One-Liner: I can’t tell you how many women have forwarded me emails they’ve received from men online whose first contact with them is something akin to a “hello” subject line with a one-line email body containing his phone number and an invitation to call him. It’s usually something like “Sally, give me a call sometime – my number is 301-555-5555.” How do men expect women to respond to this – by calling them? If a total stranger on the Internet sent you their phone number and asked you to call them sometime, you wouldn’t call them either. Women like to be intrigued and pursued a little bit. By sending this one-liner email, you did nothing to intrigue them. Get creative in your first email to women you meet online, and they’ll be offering their phone numbers to you.

8. Don’t Be An IM Stalker: Some online dating sites allow you to instant message with people you meet. This can be great! If you’ve emailed a woman several times and she’s never responded, however, do not start instant messaging that woman every time she gets online. You’re going to freak her out! Allow someone to answer you (or not answer you), but don’t become so obsessed over one person. Take a look at Yahoo! Personals. There’s TONS of people to date on there. TONS! So don’t start stalking one person with instant messages, and making them wish they would have never tried online dating in the first place. Respect when someone is not attracted to you or interested in you.

Online dating is fun. It also may be challenging at times. The best thing to do is to think of it as a party on the Internet, and don’t engage in behaviors online that you would never engage in at a real-life party.

If you want more online dating tips and/or a way to make your profile and contacts better, send me an email. I’ve told you here what to avoid doing . . . but there’s plenty you can do to make yourself a more successful online dater.