Bars. Obviously not the most romantic of places to meet someone. But if it happens, it happens, right?

How often have you gone out and the only guys you talked to all night were either self-absorbed players, Mr. Socially Awkward, or a normal guy-who ruined it by having to get drunk to build up the nerve to come talk to you? Not to mention the creepy stalker guy who hovers around you and your friends for half the night.

I have been reading a great book called The Five Languages Of Love. It led me to want to ask all of you this question: Do you believe that romantic love exists? I want all of you to have at it today on this topic, and really let loose with your thoughts on this. In terms of falling in love, do you believe it is a choice or is it something that just happens?

Women ask me all the time, “What do men find romantic?” It’s interesting. There are a lot of women who think that all men (as a gender) are not romantic. I also get a lot of women who email me and say something like, “I wish my boyfriend was more romantic.” Let me tell you something. There are also a lot of men who…

You know, I’m not going to write that much about Valentine’s Day. What I am going to say about it is along the lines of what I talked about in Wednesday’s podcast. There is one big Valentine’s Day lesson I want all of you to learn. It is about how to make Valentine’s Day exciting for both sexes. How do you do that? It’s very, very simple.

The lights are dim, the candles are lit and the music is low. The smell of seduction is all around you, and you are about to have what you think is going to be great sex. She comes out of the bathroom smelling all pretty and sexy, and the two of you embrace. Something, however, is wrong. Why are you feeling this way right now?

Women are always talking about this one thing. If you go out with a group of women and one of them has a new boyfriend, they are always talking about this same thing.

Let’s say the new boyfriend is meeting the group of friends for the first time. Everyone has been introduced politely, and then all of a sudden one of the friends will ask, “so how did you guys meet? Tell us the story!”

They have probably heard the story a thousand times – but they want to keep hearing it, because they want it to happen to them. They want this romance to happen to them. Women are all about this great romance.