How often have you gone out and the only guys you talked to all night were either self-absorbed players, Mr. Socially Awkward, or a normal guy-who ruined it by having to get drunk to build up the nerve to come talk to you? Not to mention the creepy stalker guy who hovers around you and your friends for half the night.

But there are some great men out there who do hang out at bars on the weekend. So why not make the most out of the situation and make sure that when you’re putting yourself out there, you’re attracting the right type of guy instead of always the wrong type of guy?

If you’re having trouble meeting the right kind of men, chances are that it’s got a lot to do with the energy you’re projecting.

Eye contact really is key. You can’t be too passive. It sounds romantic to just let things happen serendipitously, but the good ones are not going to just appear out of nowhere or fall right into your lap with the perfect words to sweep you off of your feet. When you’re out at night (or anywhere, really) and you’re huddled around not giving any men any outward signs that you’re interested, you’ll get approached by two types of guys: the overly macho guy who is overcompensating so he can get some action tonight, and the overly wimpy guy who really built up his courage to approach you but now he can’t get the right words out.

What you really want is the normal guy in the middle. Problem is, that guy will rarely approach you unless you give him the right signals. Here’s some male psychology for you: guys are more oblivious to a woman’s signals than you can ever imagine.

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That means that giving a guy a quick glance for about 0.25 seconds and then quickly looking away isn’t going to cut it. That guy will never approach you, and it’s not because he’s not interested. What you need to do is pick a guy you like, and really LOOK AT HIM with a nice smile. I’m talking like several seconds, until it seems unnaturally long. After that, you can look away, but then look and smile at him again for a LONG TIME. And then again. Don’t worry, you won’t look desperate. Like I said, men are really slow at picking up signals. By now, maybe he’s starting to get a clue.

If he’s still looking at you, he’s interested but he may not know it’s ok to come over yet. Sometimes you may need to look at him four or five times to get him to come over. If he doesn’t walk over by then, he doesn’t have the guts right now, so move on to the next guy.

Similarly, if you’re walking by a guy who catches your eye, don’t just glance at him once really quickly and then keep walking in hopes that he’s going to come chase you down. Look at him as you’re walking by, take a deep breath, then turn around and look at him again over your shoulder with a nice, inviting smile.

Either way it’s the same principle: the key is that you need to look at him several times, not just once and then turn your back. The guy that you want will rarely approach you if you do that. In fact, most guys are secretly hoping that you’ll come approach them! (But that’s another blog.)

So your homework for this Memorial Day weekend is to really practice working on that great eye contact and smile wherever you go out. Practice not getting stuck in what I call “social constipation mode”, where as soon as we’re in a social setting, we suddenly start worrying about what everyone this thinking about us, we forget to let loose and smile, and basically we get this emotionless constipated look on our faces.

Really take the time to give a guy some real eye contact to let him know that you’re interested. Have fun, smile, and laugh everywhere you go. It doesn’t have to be overly sexy or seductive, just any inviting smile will do—you don’t need anything fancy. So many women are unaware of just how irresistible a nice genuine feminine smile can be to a man.

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And as far as the winner from yesterdays blog. It was really tough, there was some great responses but I had to go with this one from Alan.

Hey DW… Might sound kinda cheesy, and not believable, but I spent my V-day listening to your Self-Love Audio, again! Because I need my mindest (the part of the mindest to love myself) to be ready, even if it means listening to it 15 times!

Valentine’s Day is all about Love.

Alan is practicing, what I feel is one of the most important ways to express love.

Without self love we have no love.

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Why don’t they do the things they used to do during the first six months, like write me love letters? Why don’t they light candles like they used to do? Why aren’t they attacking me sexually in the same way?

Are they just bored with me? Do they no longer want these things?

Why is it that we are so amazing in those first six months of a relationship? Are we trying to impress somebody? Are we trying to win somebody over? Are we being somebody we’re not? Are the first six months just that “amazing” time before all the arguments start and before we get defensive?

In the first six months, we allow ourselves to be emotionally open. We give so much emotionally to our partner.

When you start fighting with each other, however, we take something back. With each fight or misunderstanding after that, we take another piece back. The vulnerability, openness and beauty of those first six months at that point are gone.

During the first six months you would invite your partner to your house, they’d say “Oh Babe, I love coming to your house,” and you would light candles. You do this over and over again during the first six months.

After the first six months, the candle-lighting goes away. Your partner comes over and says, “You don’t light candles anymore.”

Instead of just acknowledging that what they’re saying is true, you get defensive. You could have said, “You’re right, I don’t. I need to start doing that again. I know how much you loved it.” But you don’t. You defend yourself.

Those first six months of a relationship should always be the way I’m describing. It should always be amazing. What happens in those first six months are the reasons why you fell in love with that other person in the first place — the things you used to do for them, the way you came onto them sexually, the way you listened and the way you were patient with them.

It’s amazing, though, how we take things away once the fights and disappointments begin. We don’t even necessarily do it consciously. We do it very passively.

Say that you and your partner touch each other nonstop during the first six months, then your partner stops touching you as much. What do you do?

You start taking some of your touching away. You get angry. You hope that they will notice and think, “Oh my God, he’s not touching me as much. I must need to touch him more.”

The first six months of a relationship are beautiful. For those of you in that post-six months frustration period, however, what you need to do is to go back and think about all the things you did for your lover in the first six months. Then start doing them again, without your partner having to ask you to do them.

I guarantee that if you do this, you’ll not have the whole “taking things away” situation happening anymore. There will be no reason to fight about who is (or is not) doing things for the other.

I challenge all of you who are in a relationship right now, over the next thirty days to do all the things you did for your partner in the first six months you were together. All of them. Every single one. And do them every day.

I guarantee that if you do this for the next thirty days — acting sexually, emotionally, in your communication and in your intimacy the way you did the first six months — and you don’t expect anything in return, you will see your relationship come alive again.

Then watch what your partner will start doing for you. Like magic, they will start doing things you have been wanting them to do for months.

It’s amazing how easy it is to rekindle a relationship, but we all stand on principle so much that we don’t allow ourselves to do the things to make it happen. We’re so about “tit for tat” that we never grow.

So think about what you did for your lover during the first six months, and do them all over the next thirty days. Then watch how the dynamics of your relationship will totally change. It’s a beautiful thing.

In the beginning, you try to impress each other. You do special things for each other. When they come over you set an intent for the evening — you light candles, put on some music and maybe make a special dinner.

As the relationship progresses, though, you stop setting intents. It’s almost like you stop listening to each other. “I know he (or she) likes candles, but I’m just not going to light them anymore because I’m lazy (or because we’re in routine world or because they are as attracted to me as a piece of furniture).”

There’s a lot of things that we should keep doing for each other because they are fun and are things the other person likes. There are also things we shouldn’t be doing for each other.

One of those things is settling into the comfort zone where we stop doing the great romantic things you used to do for each other and letting the inner slob come out. Men tend to start farting more, leaving the door open when they go to the bathroom, and really just leaving their smell all over the place.

Women may not walk around farting, but they tend to start leaving their stuff everywhere. There are products in every nook and corner, and underwear hanging from every hook and hanger. Some women will start wearing sweatpants every single night.

We tend to stop doing things for each other because we get comfortable. Of course we love the other person for who they are, and nobody has to get dressed up for their partner every day. You need to be 100% comfortable in a relationship, but you also need to do all the things that were amazing at the beginning.

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I want all of you to have at it today on this topic, and really let loose with your thoughts on this. In terms of falling in love, do you believe it is a choice or is it something that just happens?

The book is really interesting because it really talks about how we communicate in love languages. It is really fascinating stuff, and one of the best reads I’ve had in a long time.

So let’s talk about the concept of romantic love today. Do you believe romantic love exists, or do you believe that real love is actually something much deeper?

Romantic love seems to put us in a blissful state. We’re just goofy all the time. We don’t care about work, and we certainly don’t care about our friends. We seem to miss days on end. Every phone call and every conversation feels like you are floating in la la land.

Then, all of a sudden, you start seeing the flaws and the cracks in your romantic love. Your start to see the other person for who they really are.

It is at this point that the fights and the battles may begin. The disagreements and the feelings of being misunderstood start to happen despite the fact that you explain everything about yourselves to each other.

Romantic love is a drug and, as with all drugs, it wears off. It is no different than taking Ecstasy, smoking pot or drinking booze. The effects wear off after a period of time.

Real love is something that you find over time with the person with whom you are in romantic love. Real love comes after you learn each other’s needs, wants and desires. It comes after you learn each other’s communication style, and you work on understanding and fulfilling those needs, wants and desires. Real love is being able to achieve all that.

There are a lot of us who are out there trying to meet someone and fall in love. That’s the point, right? We want to fall in love. We want to feel love. We want to be in love.

The question, though, is this: Do you only want romantic love? Some of us are just romantic love junkies who fall in love every three or four years with a different person. It is like a drug and is as addictive as can be. It is truly an amazing feeling.

What type of love do you desire? What kind of love do you want to have? What kind of love do you want to experience in your life?

Share with me today what you are really looking for on a deeper level. Imagine you have the ability to go out and meet anybody you want right this minute. When you meet that person, what kind of love do you want to experience with them? Do you want romantic love or do you want that deeper love?

I also get a lot of women who email me and say something like, “I wish my boyfriend was more romantic.” Let me tell you something. There are also a lot of men who wish their girlfriend was more romantic.

For those women out there who are looking to be more romantic for your man, or to really light a fire in your relationship, here are seven quick tips on how to get your man to feel romantic:

1.Candles Are Not Just A “Woman Thing”: Candles are not only for women. Show your romantic intent by lighting candles all throughout the house that he’ll see when he walks through the door. It’s romantic, and it makes a man feel wonderful. So many women think that candles and champagne are things only women like. In reality, though, men react the same way to those things. A lot of men will set a romantic example of what they want by the romantic things they do for women, hoping the woman will do things like that back to him.

2.The Power Of A Simple Kiss: There is so much power in a simple kiss — a simple hello kiss, a simple goodnight kiss or a simple kiss before you leave in the morning. All of these things are romantic to a man. They make a man feel connected to you throughout the day. Those kisses make him feel wonderful in a way that lingers and will have him thinking about you all day long.

3.The No Special Reason Text: Send your man a simple text in the middle of the day saying, “Hey babe. I can’t get you out of my mind.” It will make him feel really good all day long. It will also make him feel very romantic as well.

4.Just A Note To Say…: It’s funny. A lot of men go out there and buy flowers for their woman or will write her a card, but how many women write their man a card? Think about writing your man a card just for the sake of it being a nice romantic gesture. You go to the supermarket or the drug store and you see a great little card there. Buy it, write him a little note and then leave it on his pillow so he’ll see it before he leaves in the morning. That way he can read it all day long. It is a great way to make a man feel romantic.

5.The Unexpected Surprise: Think about a way to surprise your man. Set a night where you will surprise him and he will not be expecting it. Instead of the usual Friday or Saturday night where you say “Hey babe, what do you want to do tonight?,” why don’t you create and plan a night for him. Take him out for a great meal or take him to a ball game. Take the initiative.

It’s amazing how men and women crave the same things, but yet don’t understand the dynamics of what their actions cause. Although a romantic night for a woman may be different than a romantic night for a man, it’s really all about the effort that you put into the night that makes the other person feel warm, special and romantic.

6.Set The Mood: Setting a special mood at home makes a man feel romantic. When he comes home from the office, for example, you could have his favorite music playing, rub his shoulders and tell him you want to hear all about his day. It’s the simple things like this that make a man feel romantic. Allowing a man to share his day with you makes a man feel very romantic.

7.Those Three Little Words: This one may seem a little too simple to you, but there is nothing that makes a man feel greater and more romantic than hearing the words “I love you” come out of your mouth. Say it when he walks through the door or when he helps you with something. It’s the unexpected ‘I love you’ that really gets men feeling amazing. Hearing a woman say “I love you” after a fight makes a man feel appreciative, special and romantic — especially when it is said from the heart.

It’s quite simple to make a man feel romantic. In so many ways, it is no different than the things a man can do to make you feel romantic. A lot of couples make the mistake of not doing these kind of things on a regular basis, and the romance dies as a result. It is the little things that make each other feel great and make each other feel romantic.

So if you are in a relationship that’s stagnant, feels like it’s just not ‘clicking’ anymore or in which the romance has died, then using even one or two of these tips will help you get the fire burning again. When you start doing romantic things for someone else and see their reaction, it will make you feel more romantic too.

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So when is the right time to have sex? I think the right time to have sex is when you’re ready to have sex with that man. Not only that, it’s when he’s ready to have sex with you.

I think savoring the moment is what some people don’t realize is what makes you very, very special to a man. I think the more you tease a man, the more the man is going to want you.

I think the more you kiss him or you lead him on, and the more you tell him how much you desire him but you’re not ready, the more interested he’s going to become in you. The longer you can hold out, the better it is.

I’m not saying that if you have sex with a guy on the first date, the relationship isn’t going to work out (because it might work out just fine). I think, however, that the linger effect is something that’s really good to do.

I say wait at least three to five dates before you have sex with a man, because it creates desire. Plus, really, what’s the rush?

If you’re just looking to have sex or a one-night stand, then by all means just go for it. If you’re looking to create a relationship with somebody, though, the memories leading up to sex is what makes the sex so much hotter.

I know when I really like somebody, I don’t want to have sex with them right away. Sex is tough the first four or five times, because you want to really please one another but you don’t know each other’s bodies.

I think the most amazing thing is learning each other’s kiss, and learning how each likes to be held and touched. The art of foreplay — mental and emotional — is what a lot of guys are not used to which a lot of women don’t understand. Don’t worry if this guy is impatient.

If a guy is impatient because you’re not sleeping with him quite yet, guess what type of lover he’s going to end up being? He’s going to end up being an impatient lover who won’t satisfy you at all.

Take your time if you want to take your time. Tease the hell out of him. The more you tease him, the more intrigued he’s ever going to become.

Today I have a video for women.

Check out how important your walk really is when you want to attract that right man!

Let’s say the new boyfriend is meeting the group of friends for the first time. Everyone has been introduced politely, and then all of a sudden one of the friends will ask, “so how did you guys meet? Tell us the story!”

They have probably heard the story a thousand times – but they want to keep hearing it, because they want it to happen to them. They want this romance to happen to them. Women are all about this great romance.

So the woman starts this long story: “oh, I was in Borough Market waiting in line at Monmouth Coffee Company like I do every single Saturday. All of a sudden this cute guy and I ordered a latte at the very same time. I looked at him and he said to me, ‘jinx!’ I laughed, and then we both got our coffees and…”

It’s a story that they tell a million times. “Oh my god, I was in the market buying my usual tea, and I dropped the box. This guy picked it up for me and told me I was a klutz, and he hasn’t stopped calling me that since!”

It’s about the story. They want to have that story to tell their friends all the time.

So when you meet them out and about, be ready to tell that story. You will be a legend. If you meet her in line at Monmouth Coffee Company, she will text her friends all day long: “you won’t believe what happened to me at the market today! I met this guy…” and the story begins.

For women, a romance starts from the second that you meet. I went out with someone the other night and she can remember exactly where we met. She remembers where we met, what day it was, what was going on around town that day, everything. Women remember details like that.

We don’t remember shit: “I don’t know, we just kind of met.” But you have to remember that you are creating this romantic moment for her right from the start.

Its all about creating an emotion when you first meet a woman. The way you walk, the way you talk and the first words that come out of your mouth is what she always remember.
But the key here is not what you say its how you say it!!

I go over how to turn her on instantly with your words in my mens mastery series. Click here so you can become that man.