Guilt and rejection: two made-up human emotions. Were we born with guilt? Well, not really. As we split through our mother’s birth canal…
So you are out on a date with somebody, it goes fairly well. Pretty soon, you’re waiting for them to call you back and you become obsessed about that person. You call up all your friends to try to figure out what you did right, what may have gone wrong, when they might call you, or why didn’t they haven’t called you yet. “How come they didn’t call! What did I do wrong?” …
I’m going to tell you something that you might not believe, but it is 100% true so pay attention: There is no such thing as rejection!
Rejection is just an insecurity in your own mind. Think about it, rejection doesn’t really exist. It is a made-up thought and a made-up word.
How many of you have had this happen: You go out on one date with someone. You like them, and thought they were the coolest person in the entire world. So you call them after the date, and they never call you back.
Are you an ‘armchair quarterback?’ Are you constantly thinking about what somebody said, or are you interpreting things they said (or wish they had said)?
That is what an armchair quarterback does. An armchair quarterback will break down a conversation they had with a woman (or a man if you’re a woman).
If you are an armchair quarterback, what you’ll do is grab the ear of one of your friends and break down the entire exchange — line by line. What happens here is that you end up breaking down and interpreting the situation based on a want or a need, and you end up skewing it in your direction.
Never be looking for validation from other people. If you changed yourself every time someone said something about you, you would be nothing more than a human diaper. The only people in your life who should prompt change in you are your close friends and family. Feedback should only be listened to in retrospect, and only from people you love and trust. Strangers know nothing about who you really are. So when they pass judgment on you, they are doing so based on nothing but superficial things.
I want everyone right now to really dial in to what I’m about to tell you. Read every word. I want you to write down on a piece of paper the answer to this question: What is your biggest enemy? When it comes to meeting women, a lot of guys are under the impression that their biggest enemy is…
You get in a fight with your partner. They did something that really angered you. You didn’t like their behavior or the way they treated you. Whatever it was that they did, has that ever caused you to basically mirror that behavior back to them? Then you start blaming them for being the way that you are at that moment. You start getting angry at them for making you this way. Sometimes you just…