Recently I had a house guest who said to me, “Am I going to get my own room?” I said, “Yes, you are going to sleep on an air mattress in my office. We only have two bedrooms, and the second bedroom is basically Sonja’s storage room.

So he said to me, “Nothing with a door?” I said, “No. You are going to be on the third floor of my house, though, and no one will be up there but you.” He said, “I am a really private person. Can you maybe clean up the second bedroom so I can sleep in there?”

This really surprised me. You are someone’s guest. They are saving you money. They are putting you up and allowing your energy in their house for a few days. I know when I stay at someone’s house, all I ever care about is whether a bed and thanking the person for letting me stay with them.

Some people, however, are very demanding when they are a house guest. Some people need to always have their things around them, and they can’t get out of their comfort zone.

So how does this tie into dating? It does. When you sleep over someone’s house for the very first time, are you cool about it or are you demanding about it?

The great thing about life is experiencing different things. Another great thing about life is being open. You need to open yourself up if you are a demanding house guest.

I know when I went to visit Sonja’s family in New Orleans, I preferred to stay in a hotel because it was quieter and easier. Staying with her family, though, gives me an opportunity to really hang out with them and to get to know them better.

So maybe I am not as comfortable as I normally am by staying with them, but sometimes it is not about comfort. Sometimes it is about the experience of getting to know new people and letting them getting to know you.

They went out and they bought that furniture with their own money – use a coaster!

If the toilet seat is down when you find it, put it back down before you leave!

If the kitchen is spotless and you make a mess – don’t expect someone else to be your maid!

Don’t leave your dishes and glasses all over the house – are they supposed to clean up after you when you leave?

Volunteer. When you’re a guest at either a friend’s or a woman’s house, offer to take out the garbage. Load the dishwasher.

If they don’t have an extra bedroom and you’re crashing on the couch, put your stuff in a little corner – and make it neat – so it’s not all over the place. You can’t spread yourself out when you’re a guest in someone’s home.

You’re doing so much great work to learn how to meet the opposite sex, but then when you meet them and spend the night at their house, you’re going to turn them off! You want to leave them with a good opinion of you. It’s also good to form these habits.

It’s like the bad driver who comes home at the end of the day and complains that there is nothing out there but mean drivers that honk all day long. No, you’re the bad driver!

If you’ve been a guest at people’s houses before and you’ve never been invited back (yet you still hang out) it’s not that they don’t like you; they just don’t want you to come to their house again!

You have to look at things like this. You want to give people a good impression of you no matter what. Behave in people’s houses! You don’t want your host to have to tell you something five or six times before you get your act together and pick up after yourself.

It’s their house and their rules. Obey them! You have your own rules in your house, and you expect people to follow them.

If you like to keep your house a pigsty, then we’ll all come over and throw banana peels all over the place, we can fart and shit on the toilet seat, and we can stop up the toilet.

You have to realize that you are going to go out there and get the women that you want and then you’re going to have to leave them with a good impression. That impression is something you’re going to fuck up badly if you don’t pay attention to the little things.

Brian: I’m pretty clean, but I could be cleaner. And when someone comes over to my house and they are dirty, it drives me completely insane!

It’s your house – your home – and you’ve worked hard to put stuff in it. You can handle cleaning up after yourself, but you don’t want to clean up after your guests!

David: When my ex-girlfriend Allison and I were living together, my friend Wayne came to LA and wanted to stay with us. He had a cold and was coughing. I was like, dude, no, you have a cold. You’re not staying with us. That’s not cool. Go stay in a hotel. But he swore it was allergies.

Allison didn’t buy it, but I told her that he had promised it was allergies, so we let him stay with us. Three days after he left, Allison came down with the flu and missed a week of work!

If you’re sick, don’t bring it into someone else’s house! If you’re ill, go stay somewhere else.

It’s the little things like this. You just have to respect other people and their boundaries.

People do this all of the time. Rey was sick and coughed all over everyone. And he got a bunch of people sick! He learned his lesson. This respect is so important.

You’ve done so much work – just continue the work and keep respecting other people.

Enough about bad house guests!!!

Dazzle her with a new look and you will become a permanent house guest!!