Last night, I recorded a great talk with Obi about how quickly the year is flying by and how important it is to really get clear about what you want to accomplish.

We came to the conclusion that most people allow the year to fly right by them because they are afraid of really going deep into themselves and asking those important questions:

What do I really want?

How can I do more amazing sh*t?

How do I become the person that attracts the relationships that I deserve?

Now you need to picture what “in your head” sounds like, because technically you’re not really walking around inside of your own head. If you were, you’d just be this gigantic round thing rolling around on the ground like a bowling ball at all times. If you were really in your head, you would just be a rolly poly head — nothing more, nothing less.

So the term “in your head” is really just your way of saying, “I want to go do this, but I’m worried about x, y and z.” If you think about it, though, the principles of meeting people are very simple.

You observe what they’re doing. You react to what they’re doing so you can really connect to their world (and so you don’t bring them into a whole new world when you’re experiencing something else). Then you speak with authority, playfulness and confidence. It’s really very, very simple.

What makes it so difficult is the fear that’s associated with it. You decide at that present moment whether to do it or not. If you don’t do it, what happens is you go into what people call “getting into my head” (which means that you’re finding an excuse not to do it at that moment).

Technically it’s the same principles over and over again — it really is. I’ve been teaching this a long time, and it’s the same principle over and over again. I taught myself those same principles over and over again until I got it right.

So when you’re in your head, what that really means is that you just don’t want to try at that moment. You’re too afraid to give it a whirl, because you’re too caught up with seeking approval.

You really and truly believe that if this doesn’t work out, things are going to be really bad for you that day (or whatever it might be based on stuff in the past). Past programming could be from the way your parents taught you, the way kids teased you in high school, whatever it was.

You need to remember that it’s all in the past. If I were living in the past and I saw a woman, I might throw my rattle at her and drool. It all depends on how far back in the past I really want to go. I might just give her some Wacky Packs like I did in the fifth grade, or I might offer her a couple pieces of Bazooka gum. It depends on how far in the past I want to go. If I want to go back to the high school days, I might ask her to borrow a pen even though she’s in the middle of Starbucks drinking coffee.

All kidding aside, going back into the past is another way for you not to try. It’s just an excuse. You think, “Well, this failed me 23½ years ago, so I’m not going to do it now. I don’t want to do it now because if it fails, then I’m going to be a total failure because I’m giving all my power away to this person I don’t even know.”

There is no such thing as failure in life. There really isn’t.

If a professional football player plays in a game and the team loses, did he fail? No, he tried his hardest and they didn’t win, but there will be another day.

An investment banker makes the wrong investment. Did he fail? No, he just made the wrong choice and it didn’t work out. A stock trader trades a stock and it goes the wrong direction. Is he a failure? No, it just didn’t go the way he thought it was going to go.

In life, if everybody quit as often in other areas of their life as they do about approaching women, they’d be broke and homeless and living on the side of the road. They would be holding up a sign saying, “I’m a quitter. i can’t afford to pay my bills. Can you please give me some money?”

So getting into your head is just your safety zone. It’s you basically saying to yourself, “I’m much more comfortable not trying than trying.”

Oh and one last thing.

Ravens 17 Steelers 16

Close great game but Ed Reed picks off Big Ben to end the game.

Packers 27 Falcons 20

Just a hunch that Aaron Rodgers is heading to the Super Bowl.

Who do you call?

Who can help you figure out each and every moment of the date?

Who is going to confirm all that they said on the date?

Who is going to stop you from being inside your head all day after a date.

Guess who?

Me and this podcast will help you stop being a neurotic dating speculator!

For all you men, click through to my Men’s Mastery Series after you listen to today’s podcast.

For all you women, click through to my Women’s Mastery Series after you listen to today’s podcast.

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How do you deal with that?

How do you deal with the ex when you see them?

We’re going to talk about that in today’s podcast.

It’s a subject into which I’ve never delved and, let me tell you, it’s pretty damn controversial.

This is one podcast you are not going to want to miss . . .

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Recently I posted this up on you tube and some of the you tube flamers totally took things the wrong way, what a shock right!

You need to watch this and think about how your life would change if you could say whats on your mind.

When you are done watching answer this question.

How would your life change if you could speak your mind?

What would you say first and to whom?

I want to talk about who should pay for the first date, and what the perceptions are about this.

If you actually allow women to split the bill on a first date, then you need to listen up and listen carefully to today’s podcast.

What I am going to tell you in this podcast can be the difference between an okay and an amazing dating life for you!

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If you get cheated on, are you actually just as responsible as the person who did the cheating?

How does that question make you feel?

Does it make you want to listen?
Do you want to argue?
Do you want to post a comment right now on the blog?

Ahhhh, but you can’t post until you listen to this podcast and find out exactly what I’m saying here.

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If I told you that the weekends don’t matter — that they are just a break from what you do on a daily basis — what would you think?

If I told you that your everyday life is more exciting than the weekends, what would you think?

You need to listen to today’s podcast to find out why Wednesday is actually way more exciting than Saturday. In it, I’ll explain why.

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The problem is that people do not embrace the positive, and they harp on the negative.

So in today’s podcast, I talk all about how amazing you all are.

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Anyway, do you want to know how I feel about being friends with an ex? Then you need to listen to today’s podcast.

I’m going to share something with you that’s so different from anything you’ve heard on this topic. I’m also going to tell you something about how I feel about ex’s that will lead to you (and any person you’re dating) to never again dread breaking up.

They say that ‘breaking up is hard to do,’ but I say that breaking up is amazing. Listen to the podcast now to see what I mean by that . . .

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