Now that it’s summertime –at least for a few more weeks! Summertime is like pickup season. Everyone looks at Memorial Day to Labor Day as the time that they’re going to go out there and meet somebody.
Women look good, men look better – everybody thinks that they’re just going to go out and pick up somebody. It’s pickup season.
But the fact of the matter is that if you look at it as pickup season, you are NOT going to meet anybody!
So, without further ado, here are ten of the worst pickup lines we have ever heard in our entire lives: (more…)
Remember when you were a little kid and you learned in school about the “5 W’s?” You know what I’m talking about: who, what, when, where, why and how. How did “how” ever become a “W” anyway? Maybe we’ll explore that in another blog . . .
I believe that one of the best lessons we ever learn as a kid in school is the power of who, what, when, where, why and how. They are powerful because when you are able to grasp the importance of who, what, when, where, why and how, you can create an amazing conversation with ANYONE in any situation.
It is all about becoming curious. My whole life I’ve been questioning everything. (more…)
This blog is not just for men today. The same exercises will work for women who want to meet men!
Here’s a great little question after a bootcamp – and this actually felt like a real bootcamp too – 90º, 90% humidity, thunder, lightening and heavy rain as we marched through the streets of NYC meeting all sorts of people along the way.
This is a transcript from an actual conversation that we had on Saturday when Yakub and I were coaching Mike.
Mike has a question. Mike?
Mike: What are some strategies that you use to stay present in the moment?
David: Kub?
Yakub: Alright, one of the things that I do is tell myself, STOP – when your head is thinking way too much, you can pretend you see a stop sign, and just say, STOP – where am I? What do I see? Right now!
David: Another thing that I do is a bit more Zen-like – his method is pretty Zen as well, but I’ll sit there – like when we were laying on the grass. I feel around everything that’s around me. It’s like, oh man, this grass feels so good. I don’t think anything else.
Or if we’re in a store? I don’t think, alright, there’s no chicks in this store, we’ve got to go – I think to myself, alright, I’m just going to enjoy the store. I’m going to enjoy the stuff in the store, I’m going to enjoy the people in the store, and I’m going to listen really carefully. Whenever anybody talks, I’m going to make sure I’m paying full attention.
I’m going to touch things to ground me some more – another great thing to do when your mind starts wandering is to start touching things. Touch, like, breasts, vaginas – no! (Just wanted to see if everyone is paying attention!) But no, just touch things. If you’re in the supermarket, and you start wandering, you’re not really present – then go to the produce section, and start smelling the fruit.
If you’re in a coffee shop, start smelling the aromas of the coffee. If you’re in traffic, start cursing at the person ahead of you! Whatever it is – just ground yourself for that moment. Don’t allow anything else to come in there. Take advantage of that moment.
You’re in the lobby of a hotel, waiting for your buddy to come down because he’s visiting from out of town, and instead of thinking about work and other things, start people watching. Start looking at what’s going on around you. Just focus in on everything that’s around you, so you don’t start wandering.
The minute you start wandering, focus in on something in that room to ground you back. The bunny rabbit over there – anything! Focus in on it. If you feel your mind starting to wander, think to yourself, what did this person say to me last?
Client: One more thing to add to what David just said – he kind of already said it, but things around me remind me of things that I’ve experienced before. Maybe I’ll see a stop sign, or maybe I’ll see a tree, or whatever, and it will trigger a memory.
And there is a story attached to the memory, and all I have to do is stop for half a second and remember that story – and I have all of the emotions of it again, and everything associated with it again.
The whole point about how to be present during a conversation is that you’re distracted by thinking, what if I run out of stuff to talk about? The last word we spoke, the last memory we had – there’s a story attached to it and there’s more to talk about there.
David: Perfect.
Tomorrow I am going to post the perfect summer workout. So every man and woman will be in the shape of their lives!
I am off to NYC in 2 days for a bootcamp and I was thinking.
Life is all about choices.
How does this quote make you feel?
“A good opener is not based on what you are thinking, but rather on connecting with her inner reality. Opening her based on her thoughts, energy and emotions. Living that life is the only way to become powerful”
What about this one?
“Picking up women is an action. Attraction is a state of mind that defines who you are. It is a state of being. Which one would you prefer to be?”
I want to hear your thoughts on this today.
Todays video is all about how to attract women with the power of your own personality. It is all about how to stop the routines and start using the power of you!
In order to become more observant, your mindset needs to be this: everything you see you need to look at with a child-like curiosity. Look at everything like you’ve never seen it before.
The way you need to live life is to walk through a neighborhood every single day like you’ve never been there before. Every day you walk through that neighborhood, notice new things. Notice new buildings. Notice the color of the sky. Notice the new trees in springtime. Notice the new buds coming up. Notice everything you can possibly notice. (more…)
The biggest mistake most men make is that they walk around waiting for a hot girl to talk to. In reality, by waiting for that hot girl, they’re not creating any energy around them.
What you need to do is to start talking to people in every store that you go into. You need to talk to people there and remember things about them. (more…)
I have been all over Europe and it has some amazing underground train systems. This is unlike America, where we just sit in our cars all day long and curse at people in traffic – except of course for New York City, Boston, Chicago, San Francisco, and some other cities – I think Philly might have a train.
But most of the US doesn’t have an underground system. When I was in Europe I was sitting with my client Pete, and Pete wanted to know: how do you meet people on the train?
Well, I said, it’s really easy. You have to put yourself in everybody else’s shoes and their emotions. (more…)
It’s springtime, leading into summertime, and in most cities across the world there are food markets on Saturdays or Sundays. There you can go and get breakfast or lunch, you can get some vegetables for the week, you can get some flowers for your house – that is if you want to buy flowers, you know.
But these food markets are amazing, because they are crawling with people – men, women, screaming babies – or hopefully you can avoid the screaming babies. But the market is crawling with amazing people. (more…)
