I read this message and right away I knew it was today’s post.

As you all know I rarely will have a guest blogger but this message was too good to pass up.

Thanks Anthony!!

Here is the actual email he sent and his amazing blog.

Hi David, it’s Anthony. Hope all is well and wonderful with you! Everthing has been great w/ me. I wanted to share an article I just finished writing right now. I’ve made this BIG TRANSFORMATION this past month, and I feel like I’ve totally get what you’ve been teaching. I’ve been reading a lot of great books and have learned from these great teachers like yourself. This article is sort of a cumulation of all this great advice I’ve learned from everyone as told through my own mind. Hope you like this article, if you think it’s good feel free to use it on a blog if you think its worthy. Just had to share this w/ the world.

Anthony

What if I told you that there are two words in the English Language that can transform your life, for the better. Two simple words when put together, will help you unlock the real being that is you. Yes the true you. The you that’s shed off all your insecurities. The you that’s not listening to your own egoistic monkey chatter. The you that you’ve always wanted to show off to the world but were afraid to. The true you that wants to experience success and happiness with the opposite sex, with money, and with life. The one complete you!

These two words when you hear them, feel them, and totally embrace them will bring a change in your life so amazing, it almost feels magical.

Are you ready to hear what these two magic words are? You ready? The two words are……

Be yourself.

Two simple words with tremendous depth. Two words that are the tip of the iceberg with a very deep meaning that’s as deep as the ocean the iceberg floats on.

Being yourself, means being aware of yourself. Guys do you want to know why it seems like 10 % of the men out there, attract 90% of the women. These 10 percenters as I like to call them, are simply being themselves. This is why all you nice guys out who are always chasing and not attracting will always have this asexual, undesirable as a potential boyfriend image in front of women. You’re not truly being, embracing and having awareness of your true inner self. This is why it seems like women go for all the “bad boys” and jerks. These bad boys and jerk guys are being themselves. Not being yourself is also why a lot of you guys and gals too, are being designated to the eternal, and very dreaded, friend zone.

When you are 100% in the moment, present, and aware, you are free of all the bullshit that’s weighing you down everyday. And do you want to know why this happens? It’s simple. In the field of psychology it is well known that the human mind, no matter how brilliant, can only hold one thought at a given single moment. Let me show you what I mean here. For example, you cannot SIMULTANEOUSLY think of your very first kiss and what you’re going to have for breakfast tomorrow. The same is true with emotions! The human brain cannot simultaneously feel 2 different types of emotions. One cannot feel positive and joyful while feeling resentment and anger. These thoughts and feelings can occur linearly but not simultaneously. One can occur after the other, but both at the same time, never.

So the next time when you have thoughts of “do I look fat today”, “is he or she too hot for me”, or “is my significant other cheating on me at work?”, just stop and look around. Be aware of what you’re doing, and where you are. If for example your having these negative thoughts while sipping coffee at starbucks, just embrace the moment. Think of how good that Chai Tea Latte is you’re having. Be aware of how good the flavors reveal themselves on your tongue. Be aware of how the warmth of the drink flows down your throat and chest. Be aware of how hot the cup is in your hand. Trust me people this will work. When you are yourself, being genuine, and being engrossed in all things and everything around you, it’s virtually impossible for you mind to imprison you in monkey chatter hell. In life, the situation isn’t the cause of what you’re feeling, but rather it’s your thoughts about it. So being yourself, and present in the MOMENT OF NOW won’t allow your mind to stress, be depressed, and fret over whatever’s holding you back.

Being aware of the present moment will bring you happiness and bliss you probably haven’t experienced much, if at all. And when this transformation occurs, guys you will be so much more successful with women. Remember, women complain a lot that men don’t listen and don’t pay attention to them. Being present in the moment will cure this complaint that women legitimately have against us. So the next time you’re chatting with a women, any woman, whether it be one you’re attracted to or not, just be yourself. Be aware of your environment that’s around you two. Be engrossed in every word she says. Be observant to every little thing that’s there. Doing this little thing of being yourself will convey confidence, happiness, and generate interest. The same here can be applied to the gals too, when you’re talking with potential men.

And the great thing about being yourself, and being present is that it helps not just with your love and dating life, it helps with your ENTIRE LIFE! For everyone, heaven and hell exists in the mind. Choosing heaven means you’ve chosen to be present, when you’re not present, you’re living in your own personal hell.

Folks, there’s only one moment in life. One moment that really matters. One moment when you can start changing and re sculpting your life the way you want it. One moment that only comes once in a life time, and that moment is NOW!

When you really learn how to communicate, you can read someone’s energy. Keep this in mind as I relay this story about something that happened the other day to my girlfriend.

So the other night my girlfriend went to pick up dinner from a little health food place. She was sitting outside, relaxing while she waited for her order to be ready when “he” appeared. “He” is the guy I don’t ever want any of you guys to be.

Just so there’s no misunderstanding, this has nothing to do with this guy hitting on my girlfriend. I couldn’t care less about that, because whenever guys do she always comes home and tells me all about it (so that I can see if all you guys are paying attention to what I teach).

Here’s my message to all you guys: Wake up! It’s all about reading energy when it comes to communicating with women. Let me tell you more of the story to show you what I mean.

So this guy walked over to my girlfriend while she was waiting for her dinner takeout to be ready. First he lingered by the menu. Okay, no problem here yet. Then he opened her with an observation “Hows the food here.” That’s fine too. He’s doing alright so far.

What he didn’t pay attention to, though, was that she responded to his observation with a one word answer and she didn’t give him any positive body language. She even got up and went back inside the restaurant to check and see if her food was ready yet. He stayed outside because all he was thinking about was how he could ask her out on a date.

He didn’t pay attention to anything that was going on in that interaction. First of all, she was not answering his questions. When a woman gives you one word answers to your questions, she is not interested. You don’t keep re-engaging her, because all that you achieve by doing that is to become annoying. He in fact did become annoying, which is why she went inside to wait for her food.

As she comes out with her food ready to leave, he was still out there staring at the menu. What he was really doing is so obvious here. She knew exactly why he was still standing out there. He wasn’t really looking at the menu at all and he wasn’t there to actually buy any food. He was still standing there solely because he was waiting for her to come back out of the restaurant.

What he was really doing was waiting for someone to come out of that restaurant who wasn’t interested in him. He did this because men are objective minded, i.e., he had one objective in his mind that he focused on without listening or paying attention to what was going on around him. By being solely objective minded, he becomes the annoying guy women have to avoid when they are leaving a restaurant with their takeout dinner.

So what happened next? When she exited the restaurant with her dinner in hand, he comes up with another pickup line and uses it on her. He says “You know, you look really familiar to me.” What does he figure? If at first you don’t succeed, try try again?

Guys, you need to read a woman’s energy. This is something I’ve talked about over and over again. Read her energy. If it didn’t work the first time, it certainly isn’t going to work with an even worse pickup line.

So in response to this guy’s “You know, you look really familiar to me” line, she says “Well, maybe.” Then they started talking a little bit. Then he says “I’ve seen you in yoga class. I teach yoga. My name is Fish Kadabubababadabuba.” It’s so funny, by the way, how when guys named Bill and Tom become yoga teachers they always seem to change their name to things like Odawanda Dickawanda Masatuba (and become “scary yoga guy”).

After he makes his introduction, she said “Okay, well it was nice meeting you. I’ve got to go.” So what does he do? After having no conversation with her and totally failing to read her energy, he decides to act like a typical guy and ask her out (all because he had thrown out two pickup lines at her).

He looks at her and says “Why don’t we get together and go out for some soy mocha lattes.” At that point she said, laughing really hard, “Okay, I’ve really got to go. I’m in a relationship.” He responded to that by saying “Well maybe we’ll see each other in the universe sometime.”

Guys, you really need to read women’s energy. Stop being so obsessed by the way a woman looks, and stop trying to claim her. Women will tell you if you they are interested by not running away like she did in this story.

If a woman’s body language is not facing you or if they are giving you one word answers, they are not doing it to encourage you to work harder. If a woman is interested, they will talk to you.

Believe me, if my girlfriend was interested in that guy she would have talked to him. She would have asked him what he was having for dinner. She knew he was lingering there. She knew he wasn’t going to eat there.

It is time you guys really started paying attention to women. Stop thinking about what to say all the time. Stop trying to pick them up and start reading their energy.

So what was my solution to this situation with my girlfriend? I put 1,000 of my business cards in her car. So, the next time a guy named Fish Kadabubababadabuba comes over, she can pass along the my business card and he can start reading the blog and realizing what he has been doing wrong the whole time.
And if he is really serious about meeting women he would buy my mens mastery series.

Hint hint to all of you that think you are going to learn this without investing in yourself.

It’s interesting, because a lot of men – and I’m talking about MEN, I’m not talking about boys. As little boys, we used to look at girls and we used to rate them on a number system.

I remember being like 11 years old, and we’d look at women – well, at that time, girls – and go, “man, she’s cute, what would you rate her?” “Oh, she’s like a 6.8,” or “she’s like a 7.5.”

The problem is that any man over the age of, really, 22 should no longer be rating women on a number scale. The number system is just really ridiculous. Why are you rating a woman on a number? Really, it’s arbitrary anyway, because my 10 could be your 3. Your 3 could be my 7, your 6 could be my 6.18, and your 2.87 could be my 3.14 – wait, isn’t that Pi?

Anyway, I really think it’s time that men stop rating women on the number scale, and started evaluating women on a whole new system.

I am going to explain this whole new system. This new system is so revolutionary, guys, that women are not going to look at you as man-boys anymore. Women hear you say that stuff. I’ve seen guys out in a bar, and they look at a woman and they…

Come on man, wake up! It’s unbelievable. We’re doing this blog as we drive, and if any of you have not driven in Los Angeles, the horn in LA is called the ‘wake the fuck up’ device. People love to just sit at that light. There’s not much to do at a light. You have two things to do: you stop and you stare at the light, and when it turns green, you go.

But in LA, it’s amazing how many times the light turns green, and they just sit there. Being a New Yorker, I’m going to use the horn, because I love that horn. And in Los Angeles, by the way, too, the directional blinker is optional equipment, because no one ever signals here. So you can save a thousand bucks off your car.

But let’s get back to that number system. So I was in a bar one night, and these guys were standing there and rating women, and women were hearing them. “Oh man, she’s a 6.” And that’s really classless. You’re 40 years old, and you’re rating women on a scale from one to ten? You sound like an immature child!

So how would you like a covert system where you actually can go and meet a woman, and afterwards you can say words that women will hear over and over again, but will have absolutely no idea what you’re talking about? Hell, you can rate these women right in front of their faces and they’ll have no idea what you are talking about!

It’s time to grow up, and it’s time to use the new system of rating people. I’m not talking about the Nielsen ratings, I’m not talking about the Arbitron ratings for radio; I’m talking about the new system here that Khiem is so proud of that he’s thinking of patenting it.

And he hasn’t even thought it up – it isn’t even his. But he’s going to share something with you guys that you need to learn. It’s called, for you technical guys, YMN.

Khiem: Thank you, David. You’re right, you shouldn’t rate women on a scale, because truthfully, at what number is a woman attractive to you? A 6? Above a 5? How about you simplify it to yes, no, and maybe.

Let’s be honest: would you want her? Yes or no. And if you’re not sure, then maybe. Maybe can be a lot of things. Maybe could be if she has a good personality, and you just might want to do her. But if she’s really bad, then she falls quickly into the no category.

Let’s be honest here. You’re a man, and you meet a woman. We’ll put you one-on-one in a room, and assuming that there are no distractions, how much do you desire her?

It’s so much simpler. And even when you wink at each other in the bar or wherever you are, she’s like, yeah – okay, I don’t even know what you mean, David, I can see it in your eyes!

David: It’s a yes or a no!

Khiem: It’s a yes or a no, there’s no ifs ands or buts about it. It’s just yes or no. Once in a while, you’ll get the occasional maybe, and that’s why you go up and talk to her. When you’re not sure, go find out! Go find out and be curious about her.

And then you can come home and say, “you know guys, I saw a yes girl,” or “no way, I saw a no girl.” And it’s so much easier.

It doesn’t matter what your guys tell you – it’s all up to you. Either you like her or you don’t.

David: Not only that, but think about this: you might run into a woman in the street, and you might see her walking to Whole Foods, and she might actually work in Whole Foods, or whatever, and she’s a maybe. You’re not quite sure about her yet. Guess what? You met a maybe! That means you can go back in there and meet her again. She might turn into a yes; she might turn into a no.

I’ve had maybes that have turned into yeses, and I’ve had maybes that have turned into nos. Hell, I’ve had some maybes that have turned into long-term relationships! I wasn’t quite sure about her the very first time I met her. I wasn’t quite sure about her personality, and who she was. And I learned more about her the second time around.

So expand your horizons! Become a yes-no-maybe man. Lay off the number system. Numbers are great – on a calendar. Numbers are great on a phone. Let’s look at my car right now – it is 68°. Does that mean that the women around us are all 6.8s?

So let’s lay off the number system, guys, and let’s go to yes, no, and maybe. It’s going to make you sound a hell of a lot more mature in life. Really, the fact of the matter is that these numbers are just validating you anyway. Every guy wants to be with that “perfect 10.”

Really, the perfect 10 comes from inside out. And the perfect 10 is very different for each guy. You don’t need to tell your friends that she’s a 10, you don’t need to high-five, your friends don’t need to validate you; you need to validate yourself!

Go after what you want with a vengeance. If it’s a yes, go after her and ask her out! If it’s a no, then be nice to her because she may lead you to a bunch of yeses.

But, once again, be open to everything.

Alright, that’s it. I’m sitting at a green light right now, and I’m the lead car. In Los Angeles, it’s really important to be the lead car. If you’re the lead car, you don’t have to use the ‘wake the fuck up’ device. If you’re the lead car, the only you have to do is make sure that the person next to you doesn’t weave into your lane – they tend to be lane weavers here too.

Do you have lane weavers in your town?

The following is a conversation we had at a recent bootcamp about bullying yourself. This will give you some sort of an idea of what we do during bootcamps.

David: Are you a bully?

Do you enjoy constantly teasing people? Do you like to sit there and push people through the cootie door?

You remember the cootie door from grade school – you picked a door and if someone walked through it, they had cooties for the whole day.

Do you remember cootie shots? The only form of immunization…

But the question remains: are you a bully?

Most of us adults are no longer bullies to other people. We stopped being bullies to others a long time ago, except many of us are still bullies with one specific person. And I’m not talking about your younger sibling.

Many of us are bullies to ourselves. We are own worst enemies.

Do you tend to look only at the negative things about yourself and are you constantly making fun of yourself cruelly and making excuses? You’re being a bully.

I bully myself about my chicken legs, and I constantly use them as an excuse: “man, I don’t want to put those pants on, they’ll make my legs look too skinny. I’m not wearing those.”

We are always our own worst enemies. We love to make fun of ourselves.

You’re sitting here laughing, what are some ways that you bully yourself?

Client: Well, I take myself way too seriously. In my line of work, it’s important to anticipate what people are going to say, so I always expect big things out of myself when I’m in a conversation with a woman.

I’m never listening to what the other person is saying, but more trying to out-do that person. Then I wind up not listening to them at all, and they lose interest. That’s what I bully myself about.

David: Rey, how do you bully yourself?

Rey: I bully myself about everything! “You’re not good enough, you’re not being loud enough, you’re not being interesting enough, you don’t have your personality out,” everything like that. “You’re not letting yourself out, you’re too stiff!”

David: And by doing that, Rey, you don’t ever let yourself out because you’re constantly thinking about it.

Every time you approach a woman, you’ve got that mindset, and then of course, you become that.

What about you?

Daniel: I guess I bully myself when I don’t meet the expectations I have for myself.

David: Like how?

Daniel: I bully myself with the typical monkey chatter: “I’m not going to be able to escalate intimacy in a conversation!” I’m also always thinking about the end result and having that fear of what to say next or how to transition to the next topic.

David: It’s interesting. You think so much that your monkey chatter is saying, “you can’t escalate, Daniel, you can’t escalate,” and then, because you worried so much about it, you can’t.

The only escalating we should think about is the escalators we ride on in the stores. Women will get sexually turned on to you by you being charming, real and in the moment. She’ll start to connect with you.

‘Sexual escalation’ is a term that men think they need to be so aware of, but in reality, it will just happen naturally if you’re strong, powerful, and you don’t think. The real sexy side of you is the side that isn’t thinking about everything. It’s the side of you that just lives and responds to things in life. The side of you that goes with the moment, and goes with the flow.

Our bully is unbelievable. We love to bully ourselves constantly. We are constantly ripping ourselves apart. We’re trying so hard to be perfect and say the ‘right thing.’

In reality, nothing in life is perfect. Your imperfections are the things you need to embrace and learn to love. If you don’t embrace and love your own imperfections, nobody else ever will.

I’m an OCDer. I’m looking to buy a house right now, which you all know, and I am having so much trouble. I just cannot pull the plug. I bully myself in so many different decisions that I can’t even think of, yet everything else I do in life is very simple and easy.

We all have our things that we need to work on. You need to embrace those imperfections, make fun of yourself and have fun with it.

We did that exercise last night where we made fun of ourselves and it was a blast. We all made fun of our dumb little faults.

You got dressed up in clothes you thought looked great, and then you made fun of yourself for being some big metrosexual.

But in reality, you look like a guy that is nicely dressed and that women would notice. You’re thinking, oh man, I can’t pull this off, I can’t look sexy – but you do.

That’s how we stop bullying ourselves.
Todays video is perfect for the weekend.

How do you overcome rejection?

You really need to think about this for a few minutes: when you get a brand new gas grill and you’re going to put it together, do you read the directions or do you just figure it out?

When you go and buy a brand new big screen TV, do you just figure out what plugs into what or do you do it by the book?

When you go and get a brand new car, do you ever crack open the owner’s manual?

Never, right?

But then why do men think that women should come with a manual?

When you first talk to a woman, it doesn’t have to be so complicated. The obvious things are the best things because it means that you are paying attention to the little things. If you think about what past girlfriends and other women have said – it’s all about the little things. All the little things make life so much better.

If you pay attention to the little things, women will feel like you’ve actually connected with them. They’ll think, wow, this guy actually paid attention! He was actually present. He wasn’t just trying to pick me up with some type of ridiculous routine.

It’s the obvious things. You need to start thinking and picking up on everything that is obvious. If you don’t, you’re just going to be looking at a barbeque gas grill manual.

Everyone who has worked with me for a weekend always notices the same thing about me and how I function. Like John, a new client. What do you notice about my behavior?

John: What do I notice about your behavior? It seems very natural, very easy to you. And everything you say is very obvious.

But once I’m not with you, it seems like I’m reaching again for the perfect thing to say, and then I’m waiting. And finally it’s like, ugh, I’ve waited too long, now do I move ahead or just let it go?

David: Right, and that’s why repetition is important. You notice that we’re doing the same things over and over again, right? I asked John if he talked to those women in Pinkberry and he said, “no, I wasn’t attracted to them.” And I said, “I’m not attracted to 90% of the people I talk to, but I’m getting to know some great people.”

Just because I don’t want to go out with someone doesn’t mean that they’re not a great person worth talking to. It doesn’t mean that I can’t learn something from them. It doesn’t mean that I can’t meet their friends down the road – it’s all about building up that power and social network.

John: And the fact that those girls at Pinkberry were looking at that furniture book – even if we hadn’t been to that furniture store I still could have just picked up on that and said something about it.

David: Yeah, it was the obvious thing. Furniture shop, redecorating your house… think about the things that come to your mind. An exercise that I tell guys to do is to take 20 common, everyday words – like coffee, groceries, furniture, fresh fruit, gas stations, whatever – write them down and create a story about each of those words.

If you think about it, you can say something about every one of those twenty words. Every word. For gas stations, you think: gas is under $4.00 a gallon now. So then the next time you’re filling up at a gas station, you can say, “holy shit, gas dropped below $4.00 a gallon!”

Everything can be created from that story. The obvious things are the things that you already know and things you can talk about.

Furthermore, if you state the obvious, you won’t break her train of thought, and if you don’t, she’s going to wonder why the fuck you’re talking about something that’s out of left field.

So do you see the difference there? The difference is huge!

Now that we have that out of the way. Lets talk about sexual tension.

Its awesome when I see someone transform and really break through their fears.

Today’s blog is something we go over in all the bootcamps.

Also check out the bootcamp schedule on the home page. Only 3 more left this year!

I’m all about creating positive energy wherever I go, because to me, life is a party. If you’re not going to go out there and enjoy every single moment of every single day, then you are just wasting your time.

You should never be waiting to talk to the hot girl – you should talk to everybody. For women it’s the same thing – if you wait to do that, then you’re no different than the bad pinch hitter.

You know, there’s always that guy – the Cubs have one, the Mets have one – where the bases are loaded, it’s the bottom of the 14th and he’s the last guy on the bench, right? And you’re thinking, oh, man, what the hell? Why is he up?

Or it’s like the third-string quarterback. If you’re a Bears fan, all you have is third-string quarterbacks. That team has gone from being good to being bad again so quickly – it’s unbelievable how quickly they went from the Superbowl to being 4-12. I just cannot get over that.

Anyway, let’s go back to this experience we had today in my friend Barry’s clothing store in Brentwood, why I talked to this certain person and how.

When I walk into a store, I’m observing everything. Today, a man walked in with his two little daughters. I started talking to the little girls. I said, “are you picking out clothes for daddy today?” They answered, “oh yes, we are.”

Then Rey picked up on that and he found out from the guy that his daughters were getting him a birthday present. He told Rey that it was his 40th birthday. It’s all about gathering information.

What is this good for? Well, first off, if you’re interested in people, others can tell that about you. When you go into the store, and you’re chatting with other people, other customers will walk in and observe this banter going back and forth. And they will become instantly attracted to you and want to participate in the conversation as well. You become attractive because you are leading the conversation.

And you never know who is going to come in while you are putting on this show. A beautiful woman might come into the store, and if she sees this going on – she sees the daughters talking to you, the father talking to you – she wants in.

Everyone wants in. People walk around with sticks up their asses all day long and they are attracted to people with good energy. That’s the first thing about it.

The second thing about talking to everyone is that it gives you the opportunity to build up your social network. You’ll always run into people over and over again.

You might be out at a sushi restaurant in Chicago or LA, and there’s the guy that you saw in the store. It was his birthday, he was there with his daughters, you remember these things about him, and now he’s sitting there with his wife and her HOT friend.

You walk over and say, “oh hey man, I remember you from when you were shopping with your daughters for your birthday. How’d that day go?” That’s it. You remember everything. That’s the reasoning behind talking to everyone.

I go over all of this and much more in my Mens Mastery Series. Click here for more details.

Todays video is a secret hidden place to meet women.

Blame my assistant Rey who was using my computer!

Here is the right one and I hope everyone had a great start to the weekend.

This is an actual live in the field street meeting.

Josh: I’m curious about how you suggest following up with somebody you’ve just talked to that day – if you want to see that person again.

David: It goes back to gathering information. Remember when we were out on the street and I talked to the Pomeranian couple?

Josh: Yeah.

David: And then we saw them in Barney’s later? What did I do? What had I learned about them?

I learned what they do for a living. I learned that they are from LA. I learned about some neighborhoods that they really like (because I’m buying a house.) She told me about a real estate deal that she did and how she got through to the guy to get the best possible deal.

So how did I follow it up?

I already knew five or six things about them, so when I saw them in Barney’s the second time I remembered that they were from LA. I said to them, “what, so we don’t have a Barney’s in LA? What are you doing here?”

The woman responded, “oh my god, that’s so funny,” and then she started talking about why she doesn’t like the Barney’s in LA. We then went further in the conversation.

That’s what it’s about: gathering that information. Knowledge is powerful. If you don’t remember stuff, get a little recorder or a BlackBerry. I tell guys all the time to put notes in their phones.

Your memory is all you have, so you have to start using it to remember things about people. If you don’t remember something about somebody then it means that you didn’t connect with him or her in the first place. It’s all about connecting. It’s all about having fun and learning things about other people.

That’s why this is so important. As we just talked about, Howie, you have to draw out emotions from the other person. If you can elicit their emotions the first time, then the next time you see them you can go right into that emotion again.

Josh: How do you use emotion without constantly feeling like you have to amp up the emotional level? How do you just keep everything on an even keel and still be strong man? It seems like I have to keep amping up to the next topic.

David: That’s what we were talking about earlier, the overcompensation. I keep my energy high. When I talk to somebody, they know that I’m interested. When I talk to you, you all know that I’m really interested in what you are saying, right?

How do I do that? I change my voice tone just a little bit. You notice the way that my voice tone changes just a little bit every single time I’m speaking? I’m not speaking in monotone.

You don’t have to be over the top. I think that when guys first start to learn how to do this, they get so over the top. It’s like they have to climb over the mountain first.

What I do is just say, “wow, that’s so interesting.” It’s genuine; it’s about being authentic. Do you really give a shit about what the other person is talking about? If you don’t give a shit, then you aren’t connecting with them, and what is the point? Unless you’re trying to have some one-night-stand and you’re going to fake it with her for an hour, what’s the point?

Faking it for an hour and a half is what I find overcompensating. If you’re genuinely interested in someone, you will naturally be very interested in what they are saying. You’ll be having a good conversation because you will be connecting with them.

Josh: What about the topic itself? How do you keep talking about those emotional topics without petering out? Is it just your emotional energy level taking over?

David: It’s all about energy. You’re never going to peter out if the conversation is going well.

If you talk to some woman for ten minutes and you do start petering out, you have to say to yourself, I would rather give the best two or three minutes of myself 100% (and tease her a bit with how amazing those two to three minutes were) than continue and half-ass it.

Make the determination: do I like her enough to ask her out? Then you have to do something. If you’re at a mall, say, “you know what? You and I need to go fill this bag,” or, “I’m going to call you. I have to go meet my buddies right now, but give me your number. I’m going to have you a call and we’re going to get together.”

This is how you build upon it. Sometimes you think that you have to talk to a woman for such a long period of time, but in reality all you have to do is give her a couple of strong and powerful minutes of yourself. Intrigue her and tease her a little bit and then get her phone number.

You can then get your energy back a little bit and call her up on the phone later. You’ll then have a conversation based on some of the things you talked about the first time you chatted. Does that make sense?

Josh: Yeah. But in this situation, when we were talking to the tri-athletes, I’m thinking about what you’ve taught me so far, and I wanted to say, “I have to get back to my friends, but I really want to finish this story sometime. Give me your number and I’ll call you…”

David: Exactly! Let’s say she hadn’t yet find out the results of her race. Say to her, “give me your number, I want to find out the results.” After doing a triathlon, she’s probably craving sugar or carbs or whatever, so say, “after you find out the results, we’re going to get together and carb out.”

Make it fun! Make it an adventure.

Women look good, men look better – everybody thinks that they’re just going to go out and pick up somebody. It’s pickup season.

But the fact of the matter is that if you look at it as pickup season, you are NOT going to meet anybody!

So, without further ado, here are ten of the worst pickup lines we have ever heard in our entire lives:

A woman and her mother are walking down the street. Of course, the old cliché is, “what are you two, sisters?” Like they haven’t heard that a thousand times! And then all of a sudden the guy makes the comeback, “oh no way, I knew you guys were sisters!” Meanwhile, the woman clearly looks 70 and the daughter clearly looks 40 – they don’t look like sisters. But thanks for the flattery.

How about another bad pickup line – walking up to a woman and saying, “you’re beautiful!” And then you have absolutely no comeback after that. You say, “you’re beautiful,” she says, “thank you,” and what happens next? No conversation.

Or how about, “don’t I know you from somewhere?” She knows you don’t know her from anywhere, and she’s heard that about a thousand times! You’re the third guy today to say that, so why are you bothering?

Another bad pickup line: “can I buy you a drink?” Does she look homeless? Why don’t you just buy her dinner? Do you go into a clothing store, walk up to a woman and say, “can I buy you a dress?” “Can I buy you a top?” Lame. They’ve seen it a thousand times before – she’s going to take the drink and run.

Here’s another one: you walk up to a woman on the street and say, “excuse me, weren’t you at the barbeque last Sunday?” I’ve actually seen guys use that one! A woman will point-blank look at him and say, “no, I was out of town.” And then she’ll tell you everything she was doing last weekend, too! So in a way, it is such a bad pickup line that it actually might work!

Another great bad pickup line: “excuse me, do you have the time?” Meanwhile, you’re so unobservant, you didn’t even realize that she doesn’t have a watch! And your carrying your cell phone in your hand which has a clock attached to it! That’s a bad pickup line!

Here another bad one: “excuse me, do I know you from somewhere? Aren’t you my future ex-girlfriend?” She’s heard that one before. And you know what? She is your future ex-girlfriend, starting from the second you utter that line!

Another one would be: “excuse me, can I have your number, because I just lost mine!” That’s a winner. You have to break that down a little bit. It doesn’t even make any sense that someone would walk over there and say that! “Excuse me, I lost my number, can I have yours?” It makes no sense at all.

Here’s another good pickup line: a guy walks into a coffee shop and sees four girls sitting around, having a cup of coffee. The guy walks over and says, “hey, what are you guys doing, having coffee?” I’ve seen that happen so many times.

There’s the power of observation, and then there is the power of being a dunce. What is that? Are you girls having coffee? No, it’s not coffee…

Remember when you were a little kid and you learned in school about the “5 W’s?” You know what I’m talking about: who, what, when, where, why and how. How did “how” ever become a “W” anyway? Maybe we’ll explore that in another blog . . .

I believe that one of the best lessons we ever learn as a kid in school is the power of who, what, when, where, why and how. They are powerful because when you are able to grasp the importance of who, what, when, where, why and how, you can create an amazing conversation with ANYONE in any situation.

It is all about becoming curious. My whole life I’ve been questioning everything.

Being confident in your ability to engage in conversation with anyone not only is a great general skill to have, but it has a huge impact on the success of your dating life. Do you you think you would get more dates if you felt comfortable to start a conversation with anyone, especially with those members of the opposite sex you really want to meet but usually feel too nervous to approach?

Think about how using the “5 W’s” can help you easily meet people in the places you go every day and how that could immediately result in you getting more dates. Let’s say you are in a coffee shop and you see a woman you find attractive. Note that this applies to either gender, but since I’m writing this I’ll use the male’s perspective for this example.

So let’s say I see a woman I’m attracted to in a coffee shop and I hear her say “Gosh, I really need a mochachino today.” Notice how you can utilize all of the five “W’s” and create a great conversation:

David: “Why do you need a mochachino today?”
Woman: “It just reminds me of this trip I took.”
David: “Really, when did you go on that trip?”
Woman: “Years ago I went on a trip with a really good friend of mine and we had an awesome time.”
David: “Where did you go?”
Woman: “We took a summer road trip up the coast.”
David: “That sounds really fun! How long have you two been friends?”
Woman: “She and I have been friends since grade school.”
David: “When is the last time you talked to her? What did you guys used to like to do together?”
Woman: “I haven’t talked to her in a couple years since she started having kids. We used to take a trip together every year to a different place.”

You can see that I actually easily used each of the who, what, when, where, why and how elements in that conversation. Notice how easy it is to create a conversation just by realizing and using the power of who, what, when, where, why and how.

Have you ever been nervous about engaging in conversation with someone, and questions keep running through your mind like “What can I talk about with them?” or “How will I think of the right thing to say?” The power of who, what, when, where, why and how eliminates all of these questions and gives you the ability to confidently engage in conversation with anyone, because you always have an endless supply of conversation topics ready and available.

You should be cognizant of the “5 W’s” every time you are talking to someone. You will never be nervous about what to say again!

The “5 W’s” are an integral part of most conversations whether you realize it or not. Think about every conversation you’ve ever had. I’ll bet they are all a series of who, what, when, where, why and how questions.

Life really hasn’t changed much since we were kids. One of the main things that has changed is our ability to rationalize. We rationalize our fears and decide we are “unable” to talk to certain people. The truth is you are able to talk to anyone in any situation.

So the next time you’re standing there looking at a total stranger you’d like approach, just think who, what, when, where, why and how and start talking. You never know where that next conversation might lead.
In order to learn and master the art of conversation you will need to watch this video. Together with this blog you will explode your interactions and meet some amazing women.

Ladies….watch this as well….it will work for you too!!