11-1 . . . I am pretty impressed! What really does not impress me, though, are men who hang out with strippers and who pay strippers to hang out with them.

We had friends in town this past weekend who stayed at the 4 Seasons Hotel. We went there last night to hang out in the hotel’s hot tub.

There was a middle-aged man alone in the hot tub when we arrived. He seemed like a nice man. About three minutes later, though, three bimbos with long nails came bearing drinks and speaking in Paris Hilton-like sentences.

The man started talking about his hotel room and other such things. The women immediately started “wow-ing” about his big balcony. Then they got on the phone with their friends and started going on and on about how they got their nails done at the 4 Seasons and about the guy’s huge balcony.

You know, anyone can open their wallet and invite three bimbo strippers to their room. Unless you’re going to have the sex of your life, though, being forced to sit and listen to these women is just painful. I swear, Daphne had more to say than these women did.

Why is this such a thrill for guys? Here is this guy hanging out with a group of women who can only manage to speak in Paris Hilton type half-sentences. I never understand this.

Of course I get a guy liking younger women, but there’s certainly younger intelligent women he could find who would like him. The conversations they were having were so boring. No one was listening to each other. All I can think is, “Why?”

I know men, and I have coached men, who have done this. The sex is never any good, because the women aren’t into it. They just want the cash or the fringe benefits (like getting their nails done at the 4 Seasons).

What really happens is that the women just try to get the guy to come as quickly as possible. So who is winning here? It’s just so gross.

I’ve had casual sex, but I’ve never paid for sex. Maybe I’m just more evolved and maybe there are just less evolved people in this world . . . and that’s fine.

It’s fine if you’re the type of guy who looks at women like a piece of meat, is only interested in getting his dick stroked, and couldn’t care less about an emotional connection. That’s not the life I want. That’s not the life I teach.

When we were sitting in the hot tub, the man kept looking at me and smiling. It was like validation for him, as if he was saying with his smile “Look, I have three hot bimbos with me in the hot tub!” I ignored his smiles.

If you want to impress me, impress me with who you are as a person. I’m not impressed that you can get three strippers into a hot tub. That doesn’t impress me in the least.

While he was sharing a second grade-level conversation with those women, we were having a deep conversation about life. So why does he think I’d be impressed that he has three bimbos with him? Sometimes I’m embarrassed by my own gender.

So this kind of guy doesn’t impress me, nor does the guy who whips out the black American Express card at dinner. Why should I pay a couple thousand dollars a year to have a credit card that does the exact same thing as my free one?

I’m also not impressed by the guy who pulls in front of the coffee house in his Lamborghini but doesn’t bother to put money in the meter because he doesn’t care about getting a ticket. He figures, what’s a measly $60 to him.

If you want to impress me, get deep and tell me who you really are. I couldn’t care less about all this surface stuff.

Oh, and by the way Mr. Hot Tub from last night, I know you’re reading this today because I dropped my business card on your towel (and human intuition definitely wins out every time). This blog is dedicated to you.

I guarantee you got nothing out of last night, except a thinner wallet and maybe an orgasm. In reality, though, you are just as lonely today as you were yesterday.

So how do all of you feel about men who use their wallets on prostitutes and fancy cars just to prove how successful they are?

If you want to know know how to meet women who want to hang out with you, check out this video:

The men’s voices were slurred, and the women’s voices sounded like drunk Paris Hiltons. Every place we went and every party we passed, the drunken men would scream to their drunken mates “We found the party!” while the women would scream in excitement.

Watching these sub-species of humans, I kept waiting to see them do something. I felt like I was at a people zoo.

So they finally felt found the party? You’d think they’d tell other people. Not these people. Once they found they found the party, they also found their spot.

It seems that people are very territorial. Once they find their spot at a party, they will do anything not to leave it.

It’s amazing. You can’t move them. You can’t even get by them once they’ve found their spot. So you literally have to pretend you’re at a human zoo and just watch the interaction of the species.

You’d figure with all the excitement, something would happen other than territorial instincts. Do you know what actually does end up happening? What ends up happening is exactly what I said in yesterday’s blog, i.e., NOTHING.

That is, nothing except that this species begins to get a little disappointed. The over-the-top energy energy of elation always ends up leading to a pack member tugging at another one’s arm and convincing them that it’s time to go and find the other party of the year.

The funny thing is that the people we saw bop around the daytime parties, were the same people we saw moaning at fireworks at night. It’s exactly what I described in yesterday’s blog, i.e., you all finally made it to the party of the year but forgot to talk to people.

It’s amazing to watch this. The expectations of the 4th of July will bite you in the ass every time.

The great thing about it is that now you can just enjoy the rest of your summer, because now you don’t have the “BBQ” (the bigger, better barbecue) expectations . . . at least until Labor Day rolls around.

After Labor Day, this feeling won’t come up again until Halloween. So now is the time to kick this habit. Stop the mentality that you’ll meet your great love at that one great party. It’s over.

If you can relate to this behavior, then you need to know that nothing will change until you do the work. It’s not the party that’s the problem, it’s you.

Wherever I go there’s a party. I don’t need the 4th of July to find one. That’s the way I live my life, and it’s the same way you need to live yours.

So if you can relate to this, it’s time to invest in something other than drinking to meet people. Try my Men’s Mastery Series or my Women’s Mastery Series. Call it a good wakeup call.

Enjoy the 5th of July, because the party is everywhere.

We’re always running errands. We’re getting our car washed, we’re getting gas, we’re going to the supermarket to buy groceries, we’re going to the art store to have a picture framed, we’re on our way to the dry cleaners. Whatever it is…we are always running errands.

So, think about this: you’re always running errands, and I’m always running errands, everyone is always running errands – that must be a great place to meet people!

Even better, you have something that you can talk to people about at any time in any place. You’ve probably been running errands at the same places for years.

Look at running errands as something fun to do. Walk into a place and take over. Create a party in the place you are in. It’s no longer about just buying a pair of sneakers – you’re going out to have fun and talk with other people (and find some new kicks!)

Begin to look at things in a different way. Think about where people are. People are where you are! You have to realize this and take advantage of these places. These are the places where things start to become interesting. Take advantage of it!

Have you ever woken up with that morning erection? Most guys do.

But here’s the thing about it – the way to wake up with a morning erection is not to poke her in the back between the ribs and say, “look at my dick!” That doesn’t work. We’ve all tried that plenty of times before.

Hell, I’ve even written a blog about ‘morning boner,’ which really talks about all the ways to turn her off with your morning boner – here’s the link:

But how do you really turn her on in the morning?

Well, you should just act like the boner is no big deal. Ignore the boner! Act like you’ve already had it. Just like we talk about when you’re seducing a woman, make it seem like you’ve done this a thousand times – like you just had sex last night, but she doesn’t know it.

So what do you do with this morning boner?

You just kind of casually brush it up against her. You kiss her a little bit. You don’t acknowledge it – you let her acknowledge it. Because if she feels that throbbing member close to her, and you’re not acting like a four-year-old saying, “feel my dick!” she’s going to get really turned on.

So what’s a great way to turn her on, and keep her hot all day long?

Give her what she wants, but don’t release what you need to do. This means you should climb inside of her, and get her off a few times in the morning, but don’t cum. Tell her you want to build it up all day long; tell her you want to think about her all day long.

Tell her you want to have a fun, long session that night, but right now, it’s all about her. You just want to get her off and you want to make her feel really good.

That is going to get her amped up all day long. She’s going to be all over Mr. Boner later on that day. She’ll be thinking about that boner all day long, and she’s going to be dreaming about that boner all day long.

Make it about her for a little while, because when you make it about her, you’re really going to turn her on and make her feel great. You’re really going to go further sexually than you’ve ever gone before.

So the next time you wake up with a morning boner, get her off! Go side to side – which is one of my favorite positions – side to side, leg on top of her, rolled on the side. Take your morning boner, put it inside and start rubbing her clit gently. Get her to cum a few quick times. Give her that morning orgasm.

And then you just kick back and wait until later, because she will give you the ride of your life that night!

Where did the summer go?

Todays blog is perfect for this weekend.

One of the best things to do is to play tourist in your own town.

Walk around your town on a Saturday and pretend that you’ve never been there before. Why? It will force you to ask for directions and recommendations and to converse with people that you haven’t talked to before.

Maybe you can make this an adventure with somebody. Pretend like you’ve never been there before. Not only will you meet interesting people, but you will also learn things about your town that you probably didn’t already know.

Just because you have lived somewhere your whole life does not mean that you know every restaurant! It doesn’t mean you’ve been to every little shop, or explored every nook and cranny.

By acting like a curious, lost tourist, you will be able to meet more people all day long, which will build up your social network.

If you start connecting with a woman that lives in your town and you want to ask her out, you can say, “look, give me your number, I want to get together with you. I live here, but I made a pact with myself today that I was going to re-explore my town. I’ve lived here my entire life and I wanted to feel like a tourist again. And since you were nice enough to share all of your information, I would like to take you out and show you one of MY favorite places.”

She’ll ask what it is, and you can say, “surprise! Give me your number and we’ll get together next week.” That is how you do it – turn it into a game and still be honest.

Client: Have you done that before?

David: Oh yeah. It works really well. I wasn’t lying to her – I was just doing a social experiment for myself.

Also, it tells the woman that you are self-evolved. You are showing her that you are a man that actually thinks outside the box.

It takes a lot of guts to pretend to be a tourist. How many times have you been with a woman who has complained that she hasn’t seen your vulnerable side? Pretending to be a tourist is a way to show a woman your vulnerability.

All right, let’s go take a walk!

But speaking of mixtures, life is a mixture. It’s really funny, because we all have this ideal. If you think about it, men have been masturbating to Maxim magazine models, Playboy centerfolds, Penthouse centerfolds since they were little boys and realized that something neat and fun actually comes out of their own dick and makes them feel good!

So if you think about it, men have been fantasizing about these women for most of their lives. Now what have women been doing? They don’t have a dick, but they do masturbate, as we all know. Women have been fantasizing about that 6’2” guy – the one from the Bride magazines, Sean Connery playing leading man roles, George Clooney, Brad Pitt.

That’s who they fantasize about – they fantasize about that tall, dark, and handsome man – how many times have you heard that? Tall, dark, and handsome.

Sex and the City even had an episode of tall, dark, and handsome. Mr. Big was what? Tall, dark, and handsome.

If you go on the internet, everybody has their ideal person there. Every woman wants a guy over 6’ tall, and every guy wants a woman who is fit and athletic.

The problem is that the world is not 6” tall and in great shape. And most women are not skinny and petite!

So you need to embrace your body – you need to look at your body, and you need to look at who you are, and you need to become the most powerful you within your own body. The fact is that if you’re a guy that’s 5’6”, and if you project your attitude, you project your voice, and you project confidence, a woman is going to see you as 6’ tall.

Maybe you’re not the ideal guy. But you are the ideal man. Think about it: she’s got some fantasy guy in her head, and you walk over to her, and what happens is that most women spend their entire lives wanting to get swept off of their feet. Mr. Tall, Dark, and Handsome hasn’t swept them off of their feet yet, but if Mr. 5’6” with a killer personality and great confidence walks over and claims her – claims her like the woman she is, makes her feel sexy, makes her feel wanted and desired – all of a sudden she can be yours.

If you look at all of the women in the world, not every woman is dating tall, dark, and handsome men. Most of them are dating just average guys who had the confidence and the balls to approach her, and the confidence and balls to really go over there and talk.

When it comes down to men, all of us are not going to be dating Maxim magazine models. It’s just not going to happen. It sounds great in theory. If there was a factory somewhere abroad that FedEx shipped them over by the dozens – absolutely gorgeous women all of the time – that’d be great.

But the fact is that you have to embrace who you are every single day, and become the most powerful version of yourself. If you’re not the most powerful version of yourself, you won’t be able to sweep anybody off of their feet.

Forget about the fantasy. All of the women on the internet – all of you that are so narrow minded and you bitch and complain that men are narrow minded – women are so narrow minded on the internet it’s incredible. All they talk about is wanting this perfect guy.

Just the other day I was reading this internet profile from a woman who was 39 years old. 39! She wants three kids, and the guy has to be aged 36 to 39. Hello? Can we say, fantasy?

Now let’s talk about reality. Reality in this situation is the she’s probably not going to get that. She’s probably going to get something else, and you have to realize that what you’re about, and what you project is what you will attract.

So if you are narrow minded in your search, and you’re not open to things, you will never be able to meet somebody who will blow you away.

Lets talk about how to get out of your head. Do you worry about every little thing and what others think of you?

Todays video will break you out of your fears forever.

In order to become more observant, your mindset needs to be this: everything you see you need to look at with a child-like curiosity. Look at everything like you’ve never seen it before.

The way you need to live life is to walk through a neighborhood every single day like you’ve never been there before. Every day you walk through that neighborhood, notice new things. Notice new buildings. Notice the color of the sky. Notice the new trees in springtime. Notice the new buds coming up. Notice everything you can possibly notice.

What happens is that this is tuning you to your environment. You can even do this on your way to work. If you walk to work, you can do this then. You can notice the cars, notice the way people walk, notice the way people are dressed. What happens is that you start training your mind.

What comes next is going into stores: let’s say you go into a Starbucks and you see someone you are attracted to. Have that same child-like curiosity. There’s someone standing next to you that you’re attracted to and you want to talk to them. You can look at the big menu board up there, the caramel machi-frattos and all that other junk, and you stand there and it’s called ‘throwing words to the wind.’ You project your voice so that the other person can hear it.

You never want to speak low or softly; you want to project your voice. When you project your voice, you can basically look up, throw those words out, and say, “god I was wondering, what’s good here?”

Immediately the person standing next to you will answer – everybody likes to pretend that they know it all. So she’ll answer, and there’s a conversation starter for you.

Everywhere you go, you can use the “I am wondering” or “I’m curious” method of reading people.

Let’s say you’re at a gas station, and you’re pumping gas into your car. Someone is standing next to you, and they’ve got this great Audi. “I’m curious, do you like your car? I was thinking of maybe getting one of those one day.” Whether or not you just bought your car or you didn’t – it doesn’t matter, you can still say that.

So be curious about everything. If you go to the Apple store – which is a place that a lot of people go – you’re looking at the iPods. You pick up the 70 GB iPod and say, “god, I’m wondering: do you think anybody ever fills up this thing with music?” The person will answer, “well, yeah, I have all this music…”

The most important thing you need to do is to look at everything in the world just like a child. You have the wonderment of a child, and you look at the world as if it was the first time you’ve ever been there.
Become and embrace that inner child.

Todays video is all about how to embrace who you are. How to love yourself and your insecurities.

You will learn all about my insecurity and how i deal with it!

Saturday in the park……can any one tell me that song….or I am just pushing you in the right direction today?

I want to share a story with you about a client I had whose name is Charles. Charles was someone who was extremely quiet when we first met – he actually was so quiet that you couldn’t hear him speak in a restaurant. He also didn’t dress well. He was a good-looking guy, but he didn’t have any confidence.

So we went out and did a complete makeover, from head to toe. We gave him an incredible new look that really fit him well. It’s funny, because he showed up one night to go out in his brand new look, and we played the game that I love playing. It’s one of my favorite games that I love to play with a waitress.

It’s called the Guess What We All Do for a Living game. The waitress is hanging out and working, and she gets a lot of different people hitting on her in different ways, and she’s able to read people. So we were talking to her a bit, and then I asked her, “guess what we all do for a living?”

She looked at Charles, and she said, “hm. He looks like he’s a fashion photographer from London.” And Charles’ mouth just went from side to side – here’s a guy who didn’t have any confidence, and all of a sudden, this woman thought he was a fashion photographer from London. It made him feel really good.

So the look was completed, but what he did after the fact was also really important. After the coach session, he did a couple of things – you want to go out there not only to stores and be friendly with people, and restaurants, but you want to have activities. You want to create dates with yourself. You want to create a social calendar with yourself.

Some of the great things to do with yourself are to volunteer at a dog rescue place that gives out dogs on a Saturday or Sunday in the park or wherever. By volunteering at a dog rescue place, you’re forced to meet people, talk to them, and get to know them.

Another idea is to become a tour guide of the city. Going and showing tour groups around different neighborhoods in your city will help you to learn people. The more you learn people, the better you’ll be at understanding people and flirting.

One of the best things to do is to take an Improv class. An Improv class will teach you how to be quick, how to be observant – if you think about Improv, you have you get up in front of the entire class, and the teacher says, “red,” and you say, “blue” – and you have to concentrate really hard on what the other person is saying. Improv class will also teach you how to be playful and more fun.

Those are some really good suggestions, but I think everybody who is single should have a social calendar. Get the free weekly newspaper on a Thursday and find things to do. There are art gallery openings, and many other things that you can do and put on your social calendar.

Start booking dates with yourself. All of a sudden, you’ll start finding other people who do the same thing. Then you can begin to expand your social network.

Todays video goes over how to start doing all of this and lose the negative monkey chatter in your brain!!

Have a great Saturday!

So now it is summer time. It is a good time to update your wardrobe. Plus all the sales are now are taking place and most of the clothes are 50% off!!

What is really fun about updating your wardrobe is not buying the stuff and then taking it home; it’s the actual act of buying it – the art of buying. This gives you the opportunity to walk into any clothing store you want, find a woman you are attracted to, look at her, walk directly over to her and say, “hey, I’m looking to update my look, and I’d like to get your opinion on it. I’m curious: what would you like to see on my if I came and picked you up at your house tonight?”

Be playful a little bit. Let her dress you. Have some fun with it. Do something different – push yourself out of your comfort zone! If that’s too bold of a statement for you to make when you walk in there, then walk up to her and say, “listen, I’ve been to a couple of stores and I’m looking to update my wardrobe, what do you think would look good on me?”

That’s it. “I was wondering…” or “I was curious…” – these are two very powerful phrases because they allow you to get them to talk about their emotions. Curiosity and wonder are emotion-based, and you use these words to engage her in a conversation.

What you do is walk into that store and engage her in a conversation. You allow her to dress you, you have some playful banter – you can find out whether or not she likes you through the playful banter.

But the bottom line is, it’s springtime, and you probably do need some new clothes. You need to get out there and do it. Head to the mall, head to a store where you see a woman you are attracted to, and walk directly in there.

Let’s say there’s a woman shopping in the store – it doesn’t matter who she is shopping for – her boyfriend, her brother, whoever. Ask her! Try something on, and walk over to her and say, “hey, let me ask you a quick question: I’m curious, what do you think of this shirt on me? What do you think of these jeans on me?” Get her opinion on the whole thing. You never know – she may not have a boyfriend. She may actually be shopping for her father or her brother. She may be shopping for you! Who knows?

If you talk to her and have a good time talking with her, what happens is that you’ve made a new contact, and that new contact could be somebody that you could meet again at a later date – and perhaps at that later date, they have a really good-looking friend with them. Then you’ll have an opportunity to go and meet her friend through her.

It’s all about connecting, and all about having fun. So think of shopping in a whole different way, and go out and enjoy yourself.

If you’re on a budget and don’t have much money for clothes – don’t worry about it. You can go window shop and try some clothes on, figure out what you’re going to buy at a later date, and still have fun meeting people.

Talk to you soon!
Todays Video is all about how to be dynamic even if you don’t have the new clothes!!!

A lot of people email me all of the time, asking, “what’s a great date? I’m seeing a man or a woman, and I want to take them out on a great date.”

I have a great date idea. You want to do this on a Sunday, and just call it ‘my favorite Sunday’ – I think that every Sunday you need to create a new favorite Sunday.

If you’re by yourself, you need to do things that you really enjoy – take yourself out for a Sunday. Go out, go to a Farmer’s Market, grab some breakfast, talk to some people, and then just have an adventure. Maybe you can go shopping a bit, walk around some stores. If it’s nice out and you live by a lake or a beach, go there.

Go check out some open houses. There are always people around at open houses. Check out what houses are for sale in your neighborhood – or condos in the city, whatever it might be. Go to a bookstore, go to a library. Just take yourself out. Walk around. The weather is nice, so go walk around.

But my favorite thing to do on a Sunday – pick somebody you really want to hang out with on a Sunday, and just say you’re going to have an all-day little kid sleepover.

Start the day off by showering together. Take a shower together, get dressed in front of each other. It’s a lot of fun.

And if you don’t meet up until 12:00, you could also go out to brunch or breakfast – or even just getting takeout food and sitting in the car talking while you drive around some fun neighborhood.

That’s a fun thing to do – get a to-go box, and say you’re going to have a picnic today. And the picnic is going to be this incredibly fun drive around great neighborhoods. You can look at different houses and do things – see a couple of different neighborhoods.

That’s a great date too. Just walk around a couple of different neighborhoods, and check out the different stores and people. Talk to the merchants together.

Stop putting all of the pressure on yourself. You don’t need to put all of the pressure on yourself. Just let it flow a little bit.

Maybe you have an errand to run that day, maybe you need a new place to live. Maybe your looking for a new favorite shirt or whatever it might be. Take the person along with you and get their opinion. You just want to spend the day together, having a good time.

And then at the end of the day, with the weather being this nice, take a walk somewhere. If you live in the city, take a walk through a park. Watch the street performers. Comment on the street performers.

If you live in Los Angeles like I do, go for a hike at the end of the day, and watch the sun set. Right now the wildflowers are blooming and it’s beautiful up there. Take a hike, and go up above the city and look down.

If you live near a beach, take a walk with somebody on the beach. What a great day! After the end of that long day together, you watch the sunset. That’s a good time.

No beach? Walk around a lake. Just walk. Walk somewhere fun. If you live in New York City, take a little boat ride in Central Park. There are so many different things you can do.

If you live in the middle of the country, you guys have lakes! If you live in Michigan, you could take a walk by the lake. Look at the trees blooming together. That’s fun. There are so many fun things to do in the spring and summer times. It’s bonding. It will be a great date.

And then that night, get take-out food – it’s all about the take-out food. Pick a fun ethnic restaurant in your area and try it.

Work out together – that’s another fun thing to do together. Go to the gym together. Encourage each other to work out. It’s fun.

Go do yoga, and stretch each other. Stretching is really sexy. Learn a couple of different yoga poses. Yoga is really erotic – you can touch each other during yoga. Partner yoga is great. If you don’t know how to do it, read about it on the internet. Google it.

Go to a yoga studio, and they have partner yoga classes and stuff. It’s really fun.

And then at night, after a fun dinner, make sure you have a fun movie. That’s another great ending for that date.

Or get some good massage lotions. Foot massage – there is nothing better than rubbing a woman’s feet. You’re on your feet all day long, and all women love long, slow foot massages. Get some peppermint foot lotion from the Body Shop – it’s great, and fairly inexpensive. It tingles on the feet, so it’s a lot of fun.

Massage each other. Massaging is a lot of fun, too. Just massage one another. Get some good oils. There is this company called Jimmy Jane – www.jimmyjane.com. Go there. They’ve got these amazing candles – you light the candle and you pour the hot wax on each other. It’s not really that hot, just warm. The whole candle is like a great massage.

These are some things you need to do when you start seeing somebody; really turn it up a little bit. Have a fun sleepover. Don’t just do the same boring stuff all the time – watching TV.

Or you could break this whole blog down into individual dates. There are so many different dates on here that are fun. Activity dates, springtime-only dates – it’s bonding, it’s fun, and it takes the pressure off.

There is nothing worse than a bad date – the dates where you just stare at each other? Or the ones where you’re swapping resumes? Avoid those, and you’ll have a great time.

Todays video is all about the art of teasing and how to make her interested in you.