It’s Monday. All right, so I missed with my Titans prediction. I did, however, hit with everyone else — which puts me at 11-1 now for the season going into tonight’s game. For that game, I predict the Vikings will beat the Packers.
11-1 . . . I am pretty impressed! What really does not impress me, though, are men who hang out with strippers and who pay strippers to hang out with them.
We had friends in town this past weekend who stayed at the 4 Seasons Hotel. We went there last night to hang out in the hotel’s hot tub.
There was a middle-aged man alone in the hot tub when we arrived. He seemed like a nice man. About three minutes later, though, three bimbos with long nails came bearing drinks and speaking in Paris Hilton-like sentences.
The man started talking about his hotel room and other such things. The women immediately started “wow-ing” about his big balcony. Then they got on the phone with their friends and started going on and on about how they got their nails done at the 4 Seasons and about the guy’s huge balcony.
You know, anyone can open their wallet and invite three bimbo strippers to their room. Unless you’re going to have the sex of your life, though, being forced to sit and listen to these women is just painful. I swear, Daphne had more to say than these women did.
Why is this such a thrill for guys? Here is this guy hanging out with a group of women who can only manage to speak in Paris Hilton type half-sentences. I never understand this.
Of course I get a guy liking younger women, but there’s certainly younger intelligent women he could find who would like him. The conversations they were having were so boring. No one was listening to each other. All I can think is, “Why?”
I know men, and I have coached men, who have done this. The sex is never any good, because the women aren’t into it. They just want the cash or the fringe benefits (like getting their nails done at the 4 Seasons).
What really happens is that the women just try to get the guy to come as quickly as possible. So who is winning here? It’s just so gross.
I’ve had casual sex, but I’ve never paid for sex. Maybe I’m just more evolved and maybe there are just less evolved people in this world . . . and that’s fine.
It’s fine if you’re the type of guy who looks at women like a piece of meat, is only interested in getting his dick stroked, and couldn’t care less about an emotional connection. That’s not the life I want. That’s not the life I teach.
When we were sitting in the hot tub, the man kept looking at me and smiling. It was like validation for him, as if he was saying with his smile “Look, I have three hot bimbos with me in the hot tub!” I ignored his smiles.
If you want to impress me, impress me with who you are as a person. I’m not impressed that you can get three strippers into a hot tub. That doesn’t impress me in the least.
While he was sharing a second grade-level conversation with those women, we were having a deep conversation about life. So why does he think I’d be impressed that he has three bimbos with him? Sometimes I’m embarrassed by my own gender.
So this kind of guy doesn’t impress me, nor does the guy who whips out the black American Express card at dinner. Why should I pay a couple thousand dollars a year to have a credit card that does the exact same thing as my free one?
I’m also not impressed by the guy who pulls in front of the coffee house in his Lamborghini but doesn’t bother to put money in the meter because he doesn’t care about getting a ticket. He figures, what’s a measly $60 to him.
If you want to impress me, get deep and tell me who you really are. I couldn’t care less about all this surface stuff.
Oh, and by the way Mr. Hot Tub from last night, I know you’re reading this today because I dropped my business card on your towel (and human intuition definitely wins out every time). This blog is dedicated to you.
I guarantee you got nothing out of last night, except a thinner wallet and maybe an orgasm. In reality, though, you are just as lonely today as you were yesterday.
So how do all of you feel about men who use their wallets on prostitutes and fancy cars just to prove how successful they are?
If you want to know know how to meet women who want to hang out with you, check out this video:
It only took ten minutes yesterday to spot them. They were all over the place. Everywhere we went, giddy voices were screaming, “We found it!”
The men’s voices were slurred, and the women’s voices sounded like drunk Paris Hiltons. Every place we went and every party we passed, the drunken men would scream to their drunken mates “We found the party!” while the women would scream in excitement.
Watching these sub-species of humans, I kept waiting to see them do something. I felt like I was at a people zoo.
So they finally felt found the party? You’d think they’d tell other people. Not these people. Once they found they found the party, they also found their spot.
It seems that people are very territorial. Once they find their spot at a party, they will do anything not to leave it.
It’s amazing. You can’t move them. You can’t even get by them once they’ve found their spot. So you literally have to pretend you’re at a human zoo and just watch the interaction of the species.
You’d figure with all the excitement, something would happen other than territorial instincts. Do you know what actually does end up happening? What ends up happening is exactly what I said in yesterday’s blog, i.e., NOTHING.
That is, nothing except that this species begins to get a little disappointed. The over-the-top energy energy of elation always ends up leading to a pack member tugging at another one’s arm and convincing them that it’s time to go and find the other party of the year.
The funny thing is that the people we saw bop around the daytime parties, were the same people we saw moaning at fireworks at night. It’s exactly what I described in yesterday’s blog, i.e., you all finally made it to the party of the year but forgot to talk to people.
It’s amazing to watch this. The expectations of the 4th of July will bite you in the ass every time.
The great thing about it is that now you can just enjoy the rest of your summer, because now you don’t have the “BBQ” (the bigger, better barbecue) expectations . . . at least until Labor Day rolls around.
After Labor Day, this feeling won’t come up again until Halloween. So now is the time to kick this habit. Stop the mentality that you’ll meet your great love at that one great party. It’s over.
If you can relate to this behavior, then you need to know that nothing will change until you do the work. It’s not the party that’s the problem, it’s you.
Wherever I go there’s a party. I don’t need the 4th of July to find one. That’s the way I live my life, and it’s the same way you need to live yours.
So if you can relate to this, it’s time to invest in something other than drinking to meet people. Try my Men’s Mastery Series or my Women’s Mastery Series. Call it a good wakeup call.
Enjoy the 5th of July, because the party is everywhere.
Just a quick blog today. Some thing that all of you should be doing everyday….wait it is something you all day everyday!!
What is something that we are doing all of the time in life? We’re running errands.
We’re always running errands. We’re getting our car washed, we’re getting gas, we’re going to the supermarket to buy groceries, we’re going to the art store to have a picture framed, we’re on our way to the dry cleaners. Whatever it is…we are always running errands. (more…)
Yeah, so we’ve had a blog that says, “make her beg” before but this one will be much better.
Have you ever woken up with that morning erection? Most guys do.
But here’s the thing about it – the way to wake up with a morning erection is not to poke her in the back between the ribs and say, “look at my dick!” That doesn’t work. We’ve all tried that plenty of times before.
Hell, I’ve even written a blog about ‘morning boner,’ which really talks about all the ways to turn her off with your morning boner – here’s the link:
But how do you really turn her on in the morning?
Well, you should just act like the boner is no big deal. Ignore the boner! Act like you’ve already had it. Just like we talk about when you’re seducing a woman, make it seem like you’ve done this a thousand times – like you just had sex last night, but she doesn’t know it.
So what do you do with this morning boner?
You just kind of casually brush it up against her. You kiss her a little bit. You don’t acknowledge it – you let her acknowledge it. Because if she feels that throbbing member close to her, and you’re not acting like a four-year-old saying, “feel my dick!” she’s going to get really turned on.
So what’s a great way to turn her on, and keep her hot all day long?
Give her what she wants, but don’t release what you need to do. This means you should climb inside of her, and get her off a few times in the morning, but don’t cum. Tell her you want to build it up all day long; tell her you want to think about her all day long.
Tell her you want to have a fun, long session that night, but right now, it’s all about her. You just want to get her off and you want to make her feel really good.
That is going to get her amped up all day long. She’s going to be all over Mr. Boner later on that day. She’ll be thinking about that boner all day long, and she’s going to be dreaming about that boner all day long.
Make it about her for a little while, because when you make it about her, you’re really going to turn her on and make her feel great. You’re really going to go further sexually than you’ve ever gone before.
So the next time you wake up with a morning boner, get her off! Go side to side – which is one of my favorite positions – side to side, leg on top of her, rolled on the side. Take your morning boner, put it inside and start rubbing her clit gently. Get her to cum a few quick times. Give her that morning orgasm.
And then you just kick back and wait until later, because she will give you the ride of your life that night!
One of the best things to do is to play tourist in your own town.
Walk around your town on a Saturday and pretend that you’ve never been there before. Why? It will force you to ask for directions and recommendations and to converse with people that you haven’t talked to before. (more…)
I’m driving through Brentwood this morning – on one of those days I don’t particularly like. What I don’t particularly like is the heat. I would prefer to live in San Francisco year-round – a few days in the 80s thrown in to lots of days in the 60s and 50s – a mixture of all different types of weather.
But speaking of mixtures, life is a mixture. It’s really funny, because we all have this ideal. If you think about it, men have been masturbating to Maxim magazine models, Playboy centerfolds, Penthouse centerfolds since they were little boys and realized that something neat and fun actually comes out of their own dick and makes them feel good!
So if you think about it, men have been fantasizing about these women for most of their lives. Now what have women been doing? They don’t have a dick, but they do masturbate, as we all know. Women have been fantasizing about that 6’2” guy – the one from the Bride magazines, Sean Connery playing leading man roles, George Clooney, Brad Pitt. (more…)
In order to become more observant, your mindset needs to be this: everything you see you need to look at with a child-like curiosity. Look at everything like you’ve never seen it before.
The way you need to live life is to walk through a neighborhood every single day like you’ve never been there before. Every day you walk through that neighborhood, notice new things. Notice new buildings. Notice the color of the sky. Notice the new trees in springtime. Notice the new buds coming up. Notice everything you can possibly notice.
What happens is that this is tuning you to your environment. You can even do this on your way to work. If you walk to work, you can do this then. You can notice the cars, notice the way people walk, notice the way people are dressed. What happens is that you start training your mind.
What comes next is going into stores: let’s say you go into a Starbucks and you see someone you are attracted to. Have that same child-like curiosity. There’s someone standing next to you that you’re attracted to and you want to talk to them. You can look at the big menu board up there, the caramel machi-frattos and all that other junk, and you stand there and it’s called ‘throwing words to the wind.’ You project your voice so that the other person can hear it.
You never want to speak low or softly; you want to project your voice. When you project your voice, you can basically look up, throw those words out, and say, “god I was wondering, what’s good here?”
Immediately the person standing next to you will answer – everybody likes to pretend that they know it all. So she’ll answer, and there’s a conversation starter for you.
Everywhere you go, you can use the “I am wondering” or “I’m curious” method of reading people.
Let’s say you’re at a gas station, and you’re pumping gas into your car. Someone is standing next to you, and they’ve got this great Audi. “I’m curious, do you like your car? I was thinking of maybe getting one of those one day.” Whether or not you just bought your car or you didn’t – it doesn’t matter, you can still say that.
So be curious about everything. If you go to the Apple store – which is a place that a lot of people go – you’re looking at the iPods. You pick up the 70 GB iPod and say, “god, I’m wondering: do you think anybody ever fills up this thing with music?” The person will answer, “well, yeah, I have all this music…”
The most important thing you need to do is to look at everything in the world just like a child. You have the wonderment of a child, and you look at the world as if it was the first time you’ve ever been there.
Become and embrace that inner child.
Todays video is all about how to embrace who you are. How to love yourself and your insecurities.
You will learn all about my insecurity and how i deal with it!
Saturday in the park……can any one tell me that song….or I am just pushing you in the right direction today?
I want to share a story with you about a client I had whose name is Charles. Charles was someone who was extremely quiet when we first met – he actually was so quiet that you couldn’t hear him speak in a restaurant. He also didn’t dress well. He was a good-looking guy, but he didn’t have any confidence.
So we went out and did a complete makeover, from head to toe. We gave him an incredible new look that really fit him well. It’s funny, because he showed up one night to go out in his brand new look, and we played the game that I love playing. It’s one of my favorite games that I love to play with a waitress. (more…)
