I’m walking through the farmer’s market with a client, and he sees two women walking by us, one of whom was wearing a purple shirt. He says to her, “Are you having a purple day today?”

The woman looked at him like he was out of his mind and said, “What?!” He said, “Purple day.” She said, “Uh-huh” . . . and kept walking.

So what do you do in that situation? What do you do when you blurt out something so stupid like “Purple Day?”

Here’s what you do. You don’t hide from it; you embrace it!

You look directly at her and say, “Whoa. Wait a second. Come here. There has got to be something wrong with me. How can you meet someone when you blurt out ‘Purple Day’ and that’s it — and then run like you’re fleeing from the scene of a hit and run accident? Look, I know I’m a dude and I think there’s some crazy manual where I’ve got to be the most entertaining person in the world. I know I could have said a simple ‘hello,’ but no, I figured I’d come up with something really clever like ‘Purple Day’ to say. I am going to leave and go crawl back in the hole that I came from now.”

What do you think is going to happen when you say this? The woman is going to laugh hysterically, and you can open a whole new conversation based on talking about all the lame things men use to try and meet women (which is a very funny conversation).

Not only that, but by calling her ‘Purple Day,’ it gives you a cute and funny way to ask her out after you finish the “lame things men do” conversation. You can say, “Alright, listen Purple Day. Give me your number.”

As you all know, nicknames are something I consider very romantic. When you call each other one from the beginning, it creates a sense of intimacy like you’ve known each other for a long time.

It makes people feel comfortable when you have that. Whenever you text her or you call her, you can go say things like, “Hey Purple Day. What’s going on?” She has that nickname to bring her back to the crazy moment that you met when you called her Purple Day.

So the next time you have a “purple day moment,” don’t let it intimidate you. Just look at the woman and say, “Hey, come here for a second” and then explain to her why you used the ‘Purple Day’ blunder. Talk about how ridiculous it is, and have some self-depricating humor.

The woman is going to really admire you for that. She’s going to realize that you’re real, you’re fun, and you’re different. She will like that you’re able to make fun of yourself, and that you realize you just said the most ridiculous thing in the world trying to come up with something clever to meet her.

This can be the best Christmas video ever.

A hilarious twist on Hermy the dentist from Santa Claus is coming to town.

She says, “Remember back when you were in high school how everyone used to think that if you drove a red car you would get more speeding tickets?” We all used to believe that too.

Really, though? Think about that. On a road with a speed limit of 40 mph there is a silver car going 75 mph and a red car going 65. A cop is going to pull over the red car? Come on now.

I love these urban legends. Urban legends are just so much fun. They are a blast to go through.

How about this urban legend. Santa Claus!

How old were you when you found out that your parents were the fat jolly guy in a red suit?

How about this for a great opener this week.

Walk up to someone who is looking and admiring something and say.

“Too Bad you don’t believe in Santa”

Smile and let the conversation flow.

Its a great topic this week.

I bet you ask 20 people when they stopped believing in Santa and get into 20 fun conversations.

Now get out of the house and start collecting data!!

I want hear all about when people stopped believing in Santa!!

I love cramming all the guys into my car. Usually I have to drive around with Daphne or Sonja.

I also love when a guy at a Bootcamp comes up with a scenario he thinks is going to be a huge challenge for me. Nothing is a big challenge for me anymore, at least in the area of meeting women (and the emotions and concepts behind it).

It’s something that I’ve mastered, and it’s easy for me. I so enjoy now showing guys how it can be equally easy for them.

So it’s so great when I get challenged by one of the guys and am able to give them an easy solution. Then the biggest challenge is for that guy to actually go out and do what I say.

As you all know, being successful at meeting women is all about being in the moment, creating a moment and being real. So Adam, who came all the way from Australia to attend a Bootcamp here in L.A., had one of these “challenges” for me.

He said to me, “You know, I’m a workout guy. I go to the gym and I see women there, and it’s like they break my routine. It drives me bananas. There she is — on the treadmill, on the shoulder press. Here I am trying to make my body buff so all the women will think I’m a big guy and a stud.”

I told him I remembered that, because I was a big gym guy in my 20s too. I’d see that hottie and I just couldn’t concentrate any more. I’d be doing my sets, see her, and then I couldn’t concentrate at all because I’d be thinking to myself, “How can I continue to work out and get to know her?”

Well, once again, it’s all about the power of observation in this situation. How many times have you seen this woman before at the gym? What does she normally do for her workout? To whom have you seen her talking? Does she take any certain classes (like yoga)?

Ask yourself these questions. Once you know the answers, then you will have your approach.

Say you’ve seen that she uses the shoulder press every time she is at the gym, she likes to work her legs out hard, and you’ve seen her coming out of yoga class. Right there you have three different ways you can approach her.

You can walk over to her and say, “You know, I see you here all the time coming out of yoga class. How are the yoga classes here?” By saying this, you have opened up a line of communication.

You will then find out which nights she takes yoga, and then of course you will go and twist yourself into a pretzel on one of the nights she goes. You’ve already established a relationship – first contact.

Maybe you have noticed that she is aways hustling on the treadmill or the Stairmaster. So what do you do in that situation?

You get on the Stairmaster or treadmill next to her. She probably has her antisocial device (aka her iPod earphones) in her ears. So you point to them, and have her pull those out of her ears.

Then you look at her and say, “I’ll race you. Where do you want to go? You’ve already got a head start on me, so let me catch up.” Then you start running really fast to be a little comical. She will start cracking up, and you will start a conversation with her.

How do I know this? It’s funny, but I can hear you saying “Are you sure this is going to work?” I did this throughout my 20s, 30s and 40s.

Am I sure this is going to work? I am as sure as I know the sun will come out tomorrow (like Annie said in that play). I am as sure as I know I will have a morning hard-on. I am as sure as I know that I will be thirsty when I wake up. It will work.

Here is another thing you can do at the gym. Let’s say she is working out on the machines. You can look at her and say, “Man, you’re breaking a sweat. I don’t know if I can do that much weight.” You just be funny.

Then you ask if you can work in with her. When you get on the machine, you squeeze really hard pretending to be having a hard time with her weight and say, “One . . . that’s all I can do. You’re buff.” Have a good time with her and you will get her laughing and talking.

CLICK HERE to find out the EASY way I approach women at some of the other places you go to every day.

I recently had someone who came in from Australia to work with me, and of course the conversation was all about how to meet women at the beach (since it’s the middle of summer there). Then there are other guys who will be traveling to Mexico, Florida or the Caribbean for vacation or spring break. All of these guys will be wondering how to meet people on the beach.

The beach is a blast. To me, it has all the best props you could possibly have.

One of the things we used to do in the Bootcamps is to go to the beach and build sand castles. I’d put the guys right near the water just like when you were a kid, and had them build sand castles.

Then when a woman would come over in our direction, I would turn to her and say “You know, we could use a woman’s finishing touch. We need a little help on the interior right now. I just don’t really know where to put the furniture.” We would just have fun and get the women to laugh.

Then I might say, “Come in here. Let me show you the master suite.” This is so they will actually bend down and look at the sand castle.

Most women will then say something like this: “Oh my God, that’s a beautiful master suite. I would put put this shell in the middle here, and put that pebble over there…I would also want to go with a different color palette – too much gray.” There are so many ways to have fun with this.

Another thing you can do to meet people at the beach is to say to someone standing near the water’s edge, “I’ll race you in.” Many women will respond and say something like, “No, it’s too cold.”

At that point, you want to challenge her. Say something like, “Are you a chicken? You’re afraid to go in the water? You are standing here in the hot sun, but you won’t go in the water? Come on, let’s go.” You make it a game. You have fun.

Another thing I always used to do to meet people at the beach is to bring a Frisbee and a ball. When a woman would walk towards me, I’d throw the ball in the air, look at them and say “Catch!”

She’ll catch the ball and then throw it back to you. Then you can say, “Why do you throw like a girl? Didn’t your father ever teach you not to throw like a girl? Come on, you can throw better than that!” Once again, challenge her and have fun.

That’s what it is all about when you’re at the beach. People go to the beach to have a good time, to relax and to swim.

So these are all great ways you can engage people in conversation and activities at the beach. If they’re having fun with you, the conversation immediately becomes a lot easier.

You observe what she’s doing, and you find an opener. She’s holding an AC/DC t-shirt, so you know you can walk over to her and say something simple like “Do you like AC/DC?”

So you start to walk over to her. Your heart starts beating faster. Your lip starts quivering. You start sweating, and you feel your face getting flushed.

When you get over to her, you ask her your “Do you like AC/DC” question. She responds, “Yes I do. They are one of my favorite bands.” So, now, what do you say next?

If you get stuck at this point in your approaches, then you are getting stuck in the opener zone. If you weren’t wondering what to say next, and stayed present, you would know there are any number of things you could say next.

You could say something like, “Really? It’s one of your favorite bands? That’s great. How long have you liked them for? That is a very cool t-shirt.” Then you would continue to talk about the t-shirt for the next minute or so.

She was attracted to you instantly because you walked over and actually had the guts to approach her. She told you with enthusiasm that she loves AC/DC, but you did not listen because you got stuck in the opener zone.

Getting past the opener is as simple as listening. When you talk to friends, do talk about the same thing over and over again — the t-shirt they’re wearing or how cool their car is or how much you like the song that’s playing? No, you listen to what they say and you continue the conversation.

Men tend to get stuck in the opener zone with women all the time. The key to avoiding this is to develop your listening skills. Here is a great exercise to do that.

Bring a digital recorder around with you. Record your conversations when you talk to women. Then when you play the conversations back, listen carefully to what the women say in response to your opener and write down what you could have said next based on what she said.

Work on this every single day, and you will start to become a master communicator. Become a person with whom people really enjoy talking, and you’ll be able to get past the opener very quickly.

You walk over to a woman. You open her with a simple observation. When she responds, you have a great opportunity to use humor to keep the interaction going but you don’t take it. Your brain shuts down and you end up talking about useless nothing.

If this scenario sounds at all familiar to you, then you are going to want to check out today’s video. In it, you will see this exact scenario take place right before your eyes. Then I talk about how you can past this kind of awkward moment using humor.

Enjoy and have a great Saturday!

There are a bunch of guys that go around and teach the “you’re beautiful” opener or the “you’re really cute” opener. This opener is being taught to guys who want to authentic and real, and these poor guys are forced to go out and approach 40 women a day saying the same “you’re beautiful” line.

What kind of strategy is this? You could almost just stand in the town square walking around in a circle saying to person after person, “You’re beautiful! You’re beautiful! No, really, you ARE beautiful!”

It is about the most ridiculous line I’ve ever heard in my life. Keep in mind that regardless of how nice sounding the sentence is, it is still a line.

Keep in mind, too, that by saying this line out of the blue to a total stranger you are putting the woman completely on the spot. She may be insecure or not want to hear it . . . but she definitely knows you are bullshitting her. She absolutely does.

Another flaw in this whole “you’re beautiful” routine, is that you have no good means of follow up. So you say “You’re beautiful!” to a woman and she responds “Thank you.” Now what? You have nothing else to say because “thank you” gives you nothing to go on to create a conversation.

Canned lines and routines in general are ridiculous, but this particular one is really bad because all it achieves is to leave you standing next to a woman feeling uncomfortable. I had a client once who had tried this routine, and when I asked him how he felt afterwards he told me, “The conversation didn’t go very far and I had no choice but to abruptly end it. It felt embarrassing – from the first moment and I still felt bad afterwards. It’s not natural.”

Of course starting the conversation with a woman with “You’re beautiful!” is going to feel not natural. It’s an awkward way to start a conversation with a complete stranger.

Also, telling a woman she is beautiful the first moment you meet her isn’t helping you connect with her in any way, and isn’t giving you any information (or potential to create a connection with her.

The only connection you create with a woman by this routine is with her physical appearance. Women already know you like their physical appearance if you walked up to them! They’re not stupid. They know if we’re talking to them it’s because we’re intereseted.

Now, don’t mistake what I’m saying. Of course you need an “opener” when you approach a woman. If you are observant of what a woman is doing, and you are 100% confident and authentic about who you are, then you don’t need to use a canned opener. You will have the right opener every time, and women will chase you all day long.

If you want to learn how to authentically approach and attract women, without using canned routines and pickup lines, be sure to check out my “20 Ways To Meet Hotter Women Without Pickup Lines” product.

Client: So what are some openers for grocery stores?

David: It’s the same thing every single time. “You’re not very decisive…” or if she’s ordering something like a tuna sandwich, you can say, “hey, is the tuna good here? I’m curious, I’ve never had it here.”

It’s all about observations. You can’t think in terms of pre-arranged openers. It has to be based on observations.

If she’s looking at eggs, you can ask her if she knows what the difference is between free range and regular eggs. Ask her questions based on the moment.

If she’s sniffing blueberries in a very different way, you can say, “hey, let me ask you a question, is that how you figure out if they are ripe? By the smell? Because I usually just guess!”

It’s all based on the moment. A good opener is always based on what is happening in the moment. You shouldn’t go in there with six openers lined up to use.

Everything that I do and talk about is just an example of something that has already happened to me in the past. And those situations will also happen to you.

If you stay completely connected to the moment, these situations will come up repeatedly and you’ll be able to formulate your own openers. Every opener that I use is something that has worked for me so many times.

Look at percentages: there are only so many plays in the playbook. It’s like football. There are only a few hundred different plays in the playbook. In baseball, there are only a certain number of ways the ball will be thrown.

It’s all situational, and everything is broken down in situations. I go into this approach as well as 20 others in my new product. Are you tired of not knowing what to say in all situations and relying on cheesy pickup lines?

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Todays video goes even deeper into this subject. Enjoy a nice cup of hot coffee on this cold January day.

I looked at her and I said, “man, these don’t really smell,” and she said absolutely nothing. She went into total mute mode.

And so what did I do?

Absolutely nothing!

I didn’t really care. It didn’t really make much of a difference. What does it matter to me? The guys asked me, “well what could you have done differently? What happened?”

But, who cares? Let it go. She just didn’t respond. I approached her well – on an observation – and she just didn’t respond. Do you really want to hang out with somebody who doesn’t talk to you? Do you want to hang out with a mute?

It doesn’t make much of a difference. And in the time that the guys were analyzing this woman and why she didn’t respond, there were four other cute women hanging out around the salad bar checking us out.

Chris and Josh were busy saying, “well, what could we have done differently?” and they missed the next opportunity.

Who cares? Stop with the attitude of wanting to get them all. Why would you want to get them all? Do you really have that much time to date them all?

You want to get the gems. You want to go for the woman that responds to you – not the one that ignores you.

So she ignored me. I don’t care. Ask me now what she even looked like and I probably couldn’t tell you. Life moves on. Life is a marathon.

This is how we ended the bootcamp. WHO CARES? – that is the phrase that every guy needs to remember from this point forward. If a woman does not respond to you when you’ve done everything correctly (which we all did!) then look at the situation and say, WHO CARES? There are plenty of other women out there.

Life starts from the second that she blows you off. That gives you the opportunity to see all of the rest of them!

Now that you have this mindset check out todays video on how to meet women in the mall. This is live footage from actual approaches in a Seattle Mall.

Enjoy and have a great Friday!!