To me, I see comedies that are re-formulated as sequels as basically
trying to have a one-night stand with a woman you’re no longer dating.
The first movie was a relationship. The second movie just doesn’t
work. It’s just not as exciting, not as unpredictable and not as fresh
as it was the first time. Or the other way: Ever try to turn a
one-night stand into a relationship or into a regular booty call? It
just doesn’t work. That’s the reason why they’re called one-night
stands. That’s the reason why movies are called movies. They’re not
called sequels; they’re movies for a reason, a one-shot, one-deal
movie is far better. Show me new gags. Don’t show me the same stuff
all over again.

Hangover Part 2

“The Hangover Part Two” sounds awful. I won’t be seeing that nor, if I
were single again, would I turn any one-night stands into trilogies.
Can you imagine that? “One-Night Stand, the Sequel.”

It is called one night stand for a reason. Not two-night stand, not
three-night. And the only comparison to “The Hangover” is that most of
the time you are left with a bad hangover the next day!

My answer was that it’s great. I love leading people on. Why don’t you spend your entire day leading people on.

Why don’t you go into a clothing store, try on clothes for about five hours, make the salesperson feel like they’re going to sell a lot of clothes to you, then leave without buying a thing. Or, why don’t you go to a couple car dealership, test drive several models, waste someone’s time for a few hours, negotiate a deal until you get the price you want, and then walk away.

Here’s an even better idea. Why don’t you go to the ASPCA or the pound, pet a dog for a few hours, bond with him, take him home, and then the second you get home turn around and bring him back to the pound.

Do not lead people on for sex if you know that’s all you want! (Now you know I was being sarcastic earlier when I said that it’s great).

You need to learn to be honest. If all you’re looking for in your life right now is sex, then you need to say that to the woman you’re dating. When you meet a woman, say something like, “I’m not looking to get serious with anyone right now. I’m just looking to have fun. If you’re cool with that, then I’d love to spend some time with you.”

Be honest about your intentions. If you are going to tell a woman that you want to have sex with her, don’t say, “Oh baby, I want you. I really want to have a relationship.” Instead say something like, “I’m really sexually attracted to you. I’d love to experience you. I’d love to have sex with you. I do not want a relationship at this time, but I’d love for you to spend the night and get to know you that way.”

Be honest. The woman you’re saying this to may want the same exact thing. You never know. What happens when you’re honest is that you will only have sex with women who wants the same thing you do, and you will end up with two honest people who have a good time together sexually.

Not only that, but when you’re honest you may keep the door open to have sex (or a relationship) with a woman later down the line even if she says no initially. She may say to you, “Hey, you know what, I don’t want just sex right now. I’m looking for a relationship. Thank you for being honest with me though.”

Then, guess what? Six months later when you might be looking for a relationship, you may run into her. Then you may be able to start dating her then. You can say, “Look, you caught me when I was just in a really weird place in my life. I just wanted to have some great sex. I’m looking for a relationship now.”

By being honest with her from the beginning, she is probably going to remember you. You might be able to date her in the future. It’s part of never burning bridges.

Honesty is something that I think is amazing. Be honest in all areas of your life, but especially in this area.

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So you go out that night with the sole intention of getting laid. Everywhere you go, you are checking out the crowd and thinking, “God, is there anyone here I can lay?”

Do you know what that energy conveys to people? Desperation! When you go out just wanting to get laid, you will have a desperate energy around you.

It’s a weird thing. When I run Bootcamps and coached people, I always tell guys that if you approach a woman and all you want is her phone number, she is going to feel that right from the get-go. She’s going to feel that in your energy, and she is going to see it because you won’t be listening to her at all.

When I go out, I have no objective in mind . . . except to have a good time. I go out to meet people, hang out and have a great time. That’s all I do.

When I was single, I never went out thinking to myself, “Boy, I need to get laid!” All that I ever thought about was going out and having a good time.

So if you’re someone who ever goes out with the mindset that you want to get laid, then it’s time to change your mindset. Why don’t you try and change your M.O.? Why not change the way you think? Do that, and then maybe tonight you WILL get laid.

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When it comes to one-night stands for women, I say go for it! Go have a one-night stand.

They’re amazing for your sexuality. They’ll make you feel free. You’ll have a blast, and I want you to do it with no guilt.

If you choose to have a one-night stand, just pick a guy and have fun. Don’t judge yourself. Don’t allow your friends to judge you.

Sex is something about which we need to be free and open. We need to stop judging ourselves, and start experiencing ourselves.

To the men, if you have a one-night stand with a woman — if she allows you to have a one-night stand with her — don’t judge her. Just thank her for sharing an amazing night with you.

Give her the option of whether or not to do it again with you. If she chooses you to have a one-night stand, just say “That was a great night. I don’t know if you want to move forward and do this again, but I’d like to.” If she declines, thank her for a great night and make her feel wonderful.

So, if you have a one-night stand with somebody, let the other person feel great about it. They chose you for that one-night stand because they thought you weren’t going to be an asshole at the end of it.

The next time you have a one-night stand, thank the person for a wonderful evening. You never know. You might get another one-night stand with that person a few days later.

Recently I had a house guest who said to me, “Am I going to get my own room?” I said, “Yes, you are going to sleep on an air mattress in my office. We only have two bedrooms, and the second bedroom is basically Sonja’s storage room.

So he said to me, “Nothing with a door?” I said, “No. You are going to be on the third floor of my house, though, and no one will be up there but you.” He said, “I am a really private person. Can you maybe clean up the second bedroom so I can sleep in there?”

This really surprised me. You are someone’s guest. They are saving you money. They are putting you up and allowing your energy in their house for a few days. I know when I stay at someone’s house, all I ever care about is whether a bed and thanking the person for letting me stay with them.

Some people, however, are very demanding when they are a house guest. Some people need to always have their things around them, and they can’t get out of their comfort zone.

So how does this tie into dating? It does. When you sleep over someone’s house for the very first time, are you cool about it or are you demanding about it?

The great thing about life is experiencing different things. Another great thing about life is being open. You need to open yourself up if you are a demanding house guest.

I know when I went to visit Sonja’s family in New Orleans, I preferred to stay in a hotel because it was quieter and easier. Staying with her family, though, gives me an opportunity to really hang out with them and to get to know them better.

So maybe I am not as comfortable as I normally am by staying with them, but sometimes it is not about comfort. Sometimes it is about the experience of getting to know new people and letting them getting to know you.

As a matter of fact, I am going to call Apple, and I’m going to get this thing done.
It’s an app that is called “Lower Your Standards Time!”

Picture it. It’s 1:00 am and you’re standing in a bar. You’re drunk. All of a sudden your phone starts going crazy — beeping and vibrating. You look at it, and it says “It’s Lower Your Standards Time!”

“Look, there’s a drunk girl leaning against the bar right now. She just made out with a random guy in the corner. It’s time for you to go over there and get her number. It’s time to lower your standards!”

It is hilarious what we do at 1:00 am. It’s almost like we’re one of Pavlov’s dogs.

It is 1:00 am and you haven’t been successful all night long, so you automatically lower your standards and go for whoever you can possibly get so you can validate yourself that night.

Why? You do it so you can tell your friends you got a phone number. You, however, never tell your friends that it’s the phone number of a woman who was drunk, vomiting at the bar and won’t even remember who you are when you call her.

So, really, I think you know where I’m going with this. Why ever lower your standards?

The only reason why you ever lower your standards is because you don’t have the balls to talk to women to whom you are attracted. You get all full of panic because your ego wants something.

Your ego desires to get a phone number. It validates you that you actually could do something — even if it’s something that totally lowers your standards.

So, you know what? I’m going to have you download this new “Lower Your Standards” app from Apple. That way you can always kid yourself and think that you’re more successful than you really are.

The other option is for you to get on the ball and really start to meet the women to whom you are most attracted. Which option seems better?

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So many men are so obsessed about getting into a woman’s pants that they miss business opportunities all of the time. For instance, let’s say you’re trying to start your own business.

The key to starting a business is customers – if you don’t have customers, you won’t have a business. So, technically, every person you meet is a potential customer – maybe not today, but down the road.

Life is about investing. I look at life like the stock market.

Some stocks you buy, wanting them to pop in five minutes, and then you want to bail out. I look at those as like having a one-night stand. You buy this stock, it goes up $2, you get in and you get out. You get a little bit of a high and you’re done. That’s like getting laid that night.

Other stocks you buy because you know the value of the company. You know it’s undervalued at the moment, but you’re making an investment in the company for the future.

It’s the same thing that happens in dating. When you’re dating someone, you’re making an investment in the moment for the future. Everybody you meet has some type of potential for you down the road.

So here’s what you should do. Get the business card of everyone you meet, and on the back of each card write down the following three things: (1) Where you met them, (2) when you met them and (3) three personal things you learned about them (e.g., what they like to do).

Let’s say four years down the road you open up your own business. Every person you’ve met over the last four years now sits in a stack of business cards on your desk.

Open up a Gmail account and enter all of these people into your address book. For each person input their name, address, phone number, email and all the things you noted about them on the back of the business card. Then when you’re working 75 hours a week trying to build your business, you can write personalized emails to all those people you met.

You can write emails like, “Hey Joe, greet meeting you. Remember we met about four years ago in Georgetown? It was interesting, we had this great conversation about French wine and I actually went out and bought two bottles that you recommended. I never emailed you to say thank you, but here it is! Listen, I just opened up my own financial planning business, and I’m reaching out to everyone because this is a real passion of mine. Whether you’re looking to invest now or in the future, I’d love to keep you abreast of things. I’m writing a newsletter that I’d like to send out to you. If you’d ever like to talk investments with me, then let’s get together sometime.” Then end it with “your friend,” “truly,” “see you soon,” or something else very personal.

So what does this mean? It means that every day, you’re out there cultivating potential clients and dates. You might meet a potential client on a Wednesday, and he may lay $1 million on you Thursday (which is like getting laid right away). Another one might take ten years to get (which is more like a relationship).

Regardless, you cultivate them the same way. Every single person you meet has to go into your database.

Even the person who does hire you right away is an important relationship to cultivate and maintain, because you want to keep them coming back for more. It’s like great foreplay. If you please them and they come back for more, that means you’ve essentially f*^ked them really well and left them very satisfied.

You’ve given them really good foreplay. You’ve gotten to know them — their body and their mind. You’ve gotten them off, they loved it and now they’re back for more.

Life if about treating everyone well. Don’t do business with someone that you don’t like. I tell people that all of the time. That’s why I speak to people on the phone before I do business with them. I have to see if I like them. If I like them, I’ll want to work with them.

To me, it’s a relationship that can last forever. If you do business with friends, than it’s like it’s not really business. Friends trust friends. That’s really what it comes down to in the end.

This dating and sex analogy is a bit weird to think about at first, but it’s true. You just have to make everybody feel good.

I used to be the guy who would go out and get validated by sleeping with women. I used to be the guy who would go out with a bunch of guys every Friday night to cruise bars, try to meet hot women, and try to get as many women’s phone numbers as possible.

I used to be that guy trying to do all that stuff — going from bar to bar and place to place — looking for the best night I could possibly have. I used to be that guy who would actually go home with girls to whom I wasn’t even all that attracted. I mean, they might be okay or kind of a cool girl . . . but they weren’t who I wanted.

The women I really wanted always had left the bar two hours before, but my ego needed validation so I’d be with women I didn’t really want just to be “that guy” who could get women to all my friends. I had to prove to them that I was the guy who could pick up women.

My ego needed that validation. I used to be that guy. I remember being that guy in my 20s.  

I recently had a great coaching session with a guy in his 20s, and we were talking about this very subject. As we were talking and reminiscing, I found myself being amazed thinking about how many women I would have actually connected with if I knew then what I know now.

I would have connected with women on much deeper levels and would have had much better connections with them. I would have met women I wanted to meet, instead of allowing my ego to dictate with which women I’d have sex or ask out on a date.

Back then it didn’t matter to me about the kind of connections I was having as long as my ego was getting validated. As long as I got validated by women, I was able to connect and hook up with women.

A lot of guys are like that. I used to be like that. I used to be that guy. That’s why I totally understand what all you guys are going through and what you really want.

You don’t need to have constant validation, because truly connecting with women is one of the most unbelievable and amazing things you can do. A lot of guys don’t understand that until they get older.

What is so great about coaching you guys and really getting inside your mindset is that I understand where you want to be. I’m so jealous and wish I could be in this mindset I’m teaching you when I was younger, although it’s so great to be able to help you and see all of you get there now.

I used to be you. Now I can help you become the most powerful version of you.

The weekend is an illusion. Boy, this blog is going to put all of you in another mode of thinking…

I’m going to tell you something that is absolutely going to blow you away: 52 weekends a year. 104 days. (Well actually, it’s probably more than 104 days because there are a few three-day weekends thrown in.) So what does that give us? 107 days.

107 days of the year are pure illusion. 99.99% of the world only tries to meet people on the weekends. I totally made that percentage up, but the sentiment is true: the majority of the people in the world live for the weekend.

And what they do on the weekend is the same thing every time – they expect, they want, they desire, and they wish to meet somebody. They think to themselves that this weekend will be different than the last one.

A lot of you even plan out your weekend the Monday before. Do you know why you start planning next weekend by Monday? Because last weekend was yet another disappointment. Last weekend was yet another weekend where you didn’t meet somebody.

So what are you doing? You’re plotting out the following weekend, thinking that things will be different.

Do you know why the weekend is an illusion? Because you’ve never done anything different to change your way of thinking! You haven’t plugged yourself into anything – you haven’t even TRIED to plug yourself into anything.

I believe you can meet people during the week – any time, any place. It doesn’t matter where it is. For those of you who have dug into my products, you know it’s 100% true. For those of you who have attended a bootcamp, you’re out there every day meeting people left and right.

But so many of you still think that the weekend is going to deliver. You believe in the TV show Friday Night Lights – Friday night is going to come… and go. Most Friday nights come and go with the same results. And then you wake up on Saturday and go on the hunt. You become a hunter on the weekends.

Men are hunters, women are deniers. Men will go out there and try to chase women all weekend, because the illusion is that they will find a woman with the same skills they have always had.

Women are in denial. So they pretend that they don’t want to meet men. “Oh, we’re going to this bar right now because we don’t want to meet men. We’re just going here to hang out with friends.”

Really? You like loud bars with annoying guys drooling on you like wolves? That’s where you want to go to hang out with your friends? I don’t buy it. The fact of the matter is this: you can deny it all you want, but you go out and wish that a man would rescue you from your singledom.

So the weekend is an illusion because you don’t do anything during the week. You have to start doing things during the week. You have to start doing things 15 minutes per day to meet somebody.

I meet more people during the week than I ever do on the weekends. The weekend is just like New Year’s Eve – it’s Amateur Night. When you go out on Friday and Saturday nights, you’re hanging out with all of the amateurs. The majority of people who go to bars on Friday and Saturday nights have no clue how to meet people in a bar. That’s the illusion of the bar.

There’s a blog I wrote a while ago, and I said, tell me your age, and then tell me the number of people you’ve met in a bar and then dated. Which number is greater? Is your bar age greater than your real age?

You have to wake up from this weekend illusion. Wake up and realize that in order to meet somebody spectacular, you have to work for it every day.

You can’t just have a career on the weekends. “I’m just not going to do anything all week and have my career on the weekends. Just on Saturdays and Sundays, that’s it. And not even really Saturdays and Sundays – actually, just Friday nights and Saturday nights. So I’ll work four hours per week, and develop this great career.”

Do you know where you would be if you only worked four hours a week? You’d be living under a bridge in a cardboard box. You wouldn’t be in the house that you’re in right now.

So you’d better start rethinking things, because the weekend is just an illusion.

Today we are going to talk about how to keep the conversation going. Its friday and heres a hint.

Have you ever had anyone say cool to you in the middle of a conversation?

Wait till you see what cool really means.