I do, however, snore like a cartoon character. This is a new phenomenon in my life. I was never much of a snorer, but for some reason or other I’ve started to do it.

Perhaps it’s because I’ve met the woman I want to be with, so all my latent bad habits are coming out of the woodwork. Call it “domestic bliss at its worst.”

So if anyone knows a good cure for snoring besides hitting me over the head with a bag of rocks, please let me know. Well, that’s all I am going to complain about today.

Some of you, though, spend you lives complaining. As it’s Monday, I know some of you have been complaining since you woke up and got to work this morning. This leads me directly into today’s blog…

Complainers. I can almost hear the crying from you now, “Waaaaaaaaa!” So many people just complain their lives away.

“Poor me. I don’t have a good job.”
“Poor me. I don’t have a girlfriend (or boyfriend).”
“The weather is bad.”

Let me tell you something about complainers. They need to start checking themselves and reigning in all the complaining.

Also, I’m want to set up “complaining rules” which govern when and about what things people are allowed to complain. I don’t know if I need to send these rules to Obama or to Larry King. Of course, Larry never knows what he’s talking about anymore anyway.

If you’ve got a shitty driver in front of you, complain away. If you have a cold, the flu or the runs, then go ahead and complain if it makes you feel better. If you’re at Starbucks and the person making the coffee is so damn slow you believe they must have been dropped on their head at birth, then go ahead and complain. Go ahead and complain about all these things, but complain to yourself.

Really, though, don’t complain about things you can’t control and certainly don’t complain to others about them. Don’t, for example, complain about the weather. You’re not Superman, you can’t change it. If the weather is crummy for a few days, find something else to do.

My mother was a chronic weather complainer. That’s probably why I live in California where the weather is always perfect.

When it comes to things you can control, instead of complaining about things, DO something about them. Instead of complaining about your body if you’re dissatisfied with it, do something about it. Complaining is not going to get your body in better shape, and I’ve never seen the complainer’s diet or workout.

If you complain that you can’t meet someone but you never do anything about it, then guess what? You’re not going to meet someone. Stop complaining and start doing something about it.

Going back to those shitty drivers, unless you have a shotgun or a Bazooka there’s really nothing you can do about them. So complain all you want . . . to yourself.

I understand complaining when you have a cold, but again keep it to yourself. Don’t use it as a topic of conversation with others. I just love when I run into someone and ask how they are, and the response is “Lousy! I have a cold” followed by five straight minutes of complaining about it. What do I look like? A doctor? Really, do I look like I walk around with Sudafed in my pocket?

I also love when I’m in line at Starbucks and people in line complain about the person behind the counter serving the coffee. Do I look like the manager?

If you’re going to complain, do it to yourself or be proactive. It just seems like so many people complain but aren’t willing to do anything about whatever it is about which they’re complaining.

When someone starts bitching, I personally just tune them out. I really don’t want to hear it.

I’m really sorry you ate the box of Twinkies and that you’re not in shape. What do you want me to do? Stick my finger down your throat?

I’m a self-help expert. That means you read my stuff and you self-help yourself. I can’t do it for you.

If you want to meet more women, I can’t introduce you to them. I’m not a dating service. If you want to lose weight, I can’t get on the treadmill for you or make your legs move on the treadmill.

So let’s all stop complaining and start doing! By the way, Larry King called and said “Why complain? You can just get married ten times, and they just get younger and younger each time.” (Well at least that’s what I’m sure he would say).

I had an interesting talk with a client this morning and thought i would write it up for you guys.

David: Stop thinking about the future! The future is not right now.

We hear this all the time, but let me tell all of you this right now: if I could predict the future, you would not be sitting here with me right now. If I could predict the future, do you think I’d be spending this time coaching you guys?

I’d probably take my girlfriend and my dog with me and we’d go surfing on my own private little island. I heard Marlon Brando’s island is going to be up for sale eventually – maybe I’d buy that.

If I could predict the future, I would predict the winning numbers in the lottery. I would tell you the Steelers would win the Super Bowl and I would have put all of my money on it. I would tell you which stocks would rise during Obama’s presidency. If I could predict the future, there are so many different things I would do. But I can’t!

The only thing in life that we have the power to do is to remain present. That is it. We have no other powers.

So if there is a woman that you really want to get to know and you’re thinking about how to somehow swing her in your direction, you’re not really being present. You’re just thinking about how to get her to come to you, instead of really just having a great time. If you’re having a really great time and she starts to see you that way, you’re going to create attraction.

If you’re really enjoying the company of her friends, she’ll start to see you in that way. That’s how women look at things. But instead, you’re just thinking about the future. You’re not even thinking about that day. You could all be just hanging out at a bar on a Saturday night, but you’re not really there. You’re only thinking about how you can manipulate the situation and change the future.

The fact is that the future is not now – the present is now. Stay focused and stay present to what is going on in the moment. It takes a lot of work to truly stay focused in the present.

Client: Is there something that you can do to really work on that? I feel like I can’t really control it on my own.

David: You’re doing it right now – you’re listening to me. You’re listening intently to every word that comes out of my mouth. For the last few minutes, you listened to every word I said, and then you asked a question based on what you heard. And you did it with authority and conviction in your voice. You weren’t nervous, and you did it from your heart. I could see that it came from your heart, and I could see who you are as a person.

So that’s how you do it. You just listen. If you’re outcome-derived, or you expect something from somebody, then it’s not going to happen. You’re just setting yourself up for disappointment.

Don’t expect anything from anybody. If you do, you’ll set yourself up to be disappointed. Why should you be disappointed? Life is an amazing ride. Enjoy it. Enjoy the entire process.

How did today make you feel?

Todays video is all about how I feel about today.

Time for you to become President of your own life!

Women will send an email to a guy whom she’s dating – or it can even be to a male co-worker – asking a question that makes her feel vulnerable. The guy may not respond right away.

When a guy doesn’t respond to her email right away, a woman will start thinking and obsessing about it. She’ll wonder “Why hasn’t he responded? How come he didn’t respond? I don’t understand why he didn’t respond.” Then she might even lob another email to the guy saying “I don’t understand why you didn’t respond to that last email” or “Why haven’t you responded to my email?”

As the woman is going through all this thinking, analysis and sending out of that follow-up email, the truth is that many times the only reason the guy didn’t respond to that email is because he was doing something else. It’s not he didn’t want to respond to the woman’s email, it was just that he was busy doing something else.

As a woman, you’re very emotional and you react very emotionally to things. What you have to understand is that if we don’t respond to you on the very same day, it’s not because we’re callous and it’s not that we are being mean. It’s just that we may have been doing something else.

I give the same advice to men. When I give this advice to women, I always tell them to stop getting their panties in a knot and give us men the opportunity to respond to you.

Life is about being patient. Life is not about analyzing every little thing.

You don’t want to analyze very little thing until you beat it up. You want to be able to really process things over a period of time, because what things appear like right now are very often not at all what they’re really about.

So the next time you send a guy an email and he doesn’t respond within the time period you think he should, you need to exercise some patience and not immediately over think and overreact to the situation. Just chill out, relax and allow him the opportunity to send you a response.

So ladies, don’t get your panties in a knot … because, really, there can’t be too many things more uncomfortable than walking around with panties in a knot. I can only imagine what that would feel like, especially if you’re wearing certain kinds of those little g-strings.

Todays video is from a recent interview I did with the local news. I had to breakdown the body language of the first presidential debate.

Tell me who you think has more powerful body language.

http://www.armada-partners.com/DWPres08.html