I took a flight that I was disappointed in.

See, when I booked the flight, I ended up using miles. I wanted to do first class and didn’t want to pay for any upgrades or anything.

Then American decided that they would take the airplane that was supposed to be the first class airplane and then they went and used another plane.

Not even the same plane at all!  (There’s a big difference between a 757 and a 767.  First class on a 757 is really not a good first class.  But I digress…)

I’m a really picky person—especially when it comes down to traveling.

I truly believe that you pay for something you ought to get your money’s worth.

I ended up getting in the Marriott Resorts—a great little hotel.  First night on the bed, it was mushy, soft and everything bad.  I never like to sleep on a mushy, soft bed.  So I had them change it to something firm.

Yea, I’m that guy.

I’m the guy that’s constantly changing the room.  If I don’t like the view, if I don’t like the smell, if I don’t like the size of the bathroom—whatever it might be—I’m changing it.

I’m that guy that usually spends a week at a hotel and has four different rooms.

Yes, I’m that guy. No, not “dick”, I prefer the phrase “guy that knows what he wants and makes sure he gets it otherwise you’re going to hear from him”.

You deserve to get what you want.  And I find that most people do not get what they want because they never speak up.

They’re afraid to speak up.  They just accept things for what they are.

In life, you should never just accept things for what they are.  If you got a bad hotel room and you can hear your neighbors next door—say something about it.  It’s your trip, it’s your life, it’s your time to do what you want.

Speak up in life. Go after what you want.

I jokingly titled this post The Power of Being Nice—yes, jokingly.

There is no power in being nice. — Click to Tweet

Sure be “nice” if that’s who you are or that’s the mood you’re in, but don’t make it a focus.

Don’t aim to be “nice”—be real.

Be you.

Say what’s on your mind.

Express yourself.

Fortune favors the bold. Life favors the authentic.

So you can sell her the Cube Method or the “pick a number between one and ten” method or the ring finger method – or whatever bullshit it is – but the problem arises when you exchange phone numbers with her and have to take the next step.

From then on, she’s expecting Ring Finger Man and Cube Man to take her on a date, and then you show up!

Sure, women are looking for a bad boy. So I tell every good guy out there that if they want to learn how to be the bad boy, they have to learn how to kiss, learn foreplay, learn how to touch her, and when you have sex with her, you satisfy her better than anybody else ever has or will.

Most of these bad boys are pump and dumpers. All they want is another notch in their bedpost, and to get off. They are no different then masturbating monkeys at the zoo.

So if you want to go and connect with a woman, when you kiss her, you create so much sexual tension that she feels it. You learn how to do dirty text and how to talk to her on the phone. You learn how to seduce her mind.

And then when you have sex with her, you know how to have sex with her and give her orgasms – both clitoral and G-spot orgasms!

She will talk about you and say, “my boyfriend is the nicest guy, and I can’t stop cumming!”

Most guys that I know that are supposed ‘players’ are the worst in bed. I talk sex with them and they have no clue. They are total minutemen. They don’t even know what foreplay is!

So it doesn’t take a ridiculous persona – you don’t have to act like anything that you aren’t. You have to know that you can sexually please any woman. If you know that, you are a hundred steps more evolved than any bad boy.

But this blog is not about the weather. Though I have to say that when I was a kid I really did want to grow up to be the weatherman. I thought it would be awesome to just stand there, have a cute little woman take the sun cutout and turn it in circles for me. I’d have my own Vanna White of the weather world! But that’s just a fantasy of mine, and it’s none of your business…

So let’s keep going. There is something that Howard Stern once said that I think you all need to listen to and deeply consider. Howard Stern was being interviewed somewhere, and the interviewer asked him, “Howard, how do you feel about all of these people hating you?”

Here is what Howard Stern basically said: “you know what? I don’t care if people hate me. I don’t really care if people love me. I just want to be able to create an emotion in them.”

Think about that quote for a second.

If every single person in your life describes you as being “such a nice guy,” here is what they are really saying: you are boring! You just fit in. You don’t stand out, and you certainly don’t create an emotion in them.

You want people to either love you or hate you.

Hate might seem like a very strong word; let’s go deeper into it. It is better to have someone disagree with you, and for you to create an emotion in him or her, than for you to just go through life as the invisible man.

Many people go through life as either the invisible man or invisible woman. Being invisible means that people just don’t really remember you all that much. Some of you dress very conservatively, and some of you dress so that you won’t stand out. It’s no wonder that nobody really remembers you!

When you walk in somewhere, you talk to people in a mellow voice, and you’re so afraid to challenge anyone that no one remembers you as soon as you walk out the door.

How many times have you walked into the same clothing store or bagel place and the guy behind the counter acts like he’s never seen you before? Like this is the very first time you’ve ever ordered coffee from him?

Why is this? Because you haven’t created an emotion in him. If you don’t create an emotion for someone – whether it is positive or negative – no one will ever remember you, and they certainly won’t want to date you. You will continue to go through life as the invisible man. Is that what you want?

Instead of monitoring your thoughts and getting caught inside your head all of the time, start challenging people! Stop playing it so safe. Playing it safe will never get you what you want.

The problem with playing it safe is that you will always have people look at you and say, “wow, he’s really nice, but I don’t know anything about him!”

Client: How do you start challenging people? What can you do to challenge people?

David: There are a few different things you can do to start challenging people and creating that emotion.

Let’s say that you’re in Starbucks, and there is a woman standing next to you in line. You take the time to mellow out and calm yourself, and then when you look at her, you notice that she has an indecisive look on her face. Remember, we can all read emotions; we just may not give ourselves permission to do so.

So you can look at her and say, “you look like you’re indecisive. You don’t know what you want to order?” She’ll respond, “god, I have no idea.”

What most guys will do at this point is just back down. They might say something stupid like, “oh, you should get a latte,” and offer suggestions, but they don’t take it further.

What you can do is say to her, “alright, tell me. What do you like, and what don’t you like, Ms. Indecisive?”

Challenge her. Have fun with it. That is what you really want to say to her, because you’re curious about her. You want to know why she’s indecisive right now, and you want to know what she’s all about.

By doing this, you’ll be able to challenge her in a different way. You will be able to take the conversation from small talk to real talk much easier.

A lot of guys will get freaked out and go back to that initial moment, asking her again, “well what kind of coffee do you like?” They have opened her successfully, but then they don’t know how to take the conversation further.

By challenging her, you’re going to take the conversation further as you take her away from the original topic. It won’t just be small, boring talk.

Start creating emotions in people and you will start being memorable!

Here’s the thing: most guys are nice. There are a small percentage of guys that are assholes, but let’s forget about them. There are some guys who are bad boys as well, but let’s forget about them too.

Let’s assume you are a nice guy, and you think that women don’t really like nice guys.

Let me tell you something: women will go out with a nice guy any day of the week if that nice guy is the best guy they’ve had in bed. That is all it takes for a nice guy to keep a woman.

You could be the nicest guy in the world, you could be gentlemanly, you could be sweet, caring and honest, but let’s face the facts: if you don’t eat pussy well, you’re done!

There is nothing worse than a nice guy who can’t please a woman orally. There is nothing worse than a nice guy who can’t perform in bed.

So here’s the deal. If you are a nice guy, you’d better start taking some major sex classes, tantric classes, and other things. Because if you’re a nice guy and you’re a minuteman – a pumper and dumper – you’re absolutely correct: you’re gone, finished, and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it.

But to keep a woman satisfied, you have to make sure she is sexually satisfied. Any nice guy can actually be a bad boy in the bedroom. A woman won’t be expecting you to be a tiger in bed.

I have met some women that seemed shy – so shy – and then all of a sudden, we start fooling around and the next thing I know it feels like I have a Hoover vacuum cleaner on my dick! And I’m thinking, who the hell is this? This mild-mannered girl in life can’t possibly be this kinky in the bedroom!

So if you’re a nice guy you’d better start learning how to be better in bed. You should learn everything you can about sex – every sexual technique there is. Learn tantric sex, learn how to control your orgasms, learn how to be orally talented. Learn how to do a lot of different things in bed. Learn how to please a woman.

So she meets you, figures you’re a nice guy, she’s intrigued by you and interested in you a little bit and she gives you an opportunity. Maybe she’s a little horny one night and then she decides to give you an opportunity in bed.

Do you want to blow her away, Mr. Nice Guy? Do you want to make her look at you in a whole different light?

Become an amazing lover. If you’re an amazing lover you’re going to keep her satisfied and intrigued for a long time to come. Most guys are shitty lovers.

So Mr. Nice Guy, this blog is all for you! If you don’t know if you’re a good lover, or you suspect that you’re not, you’d better start reading up on it. I expect my inbox to be flooded with emails today!

Todays video is all about how to have fun and become less uptight.
If you want to meet the opposite sex you need to watch this video.

It has a lesson and an exercise that is great for everyone.

If any of you have seen Leon on my site…he is the young black man on my home page bottom….I think he is the 5th or 6th video.

He was uptight before he did this exercise in the video. Check out how he is now.

That can be you!!