Back from a long trip to Europe, and back with my Sunday football picks. My record is currently at 17-3 and I’m ready to keep my good record with this week’s picks.
This week I predict the Texans will win over the Bills. The Bears will beat the Browns. The Lions will win over the Rams. The Jets will defeat the Dolphins. The Chargers will win over the Raiders. The Cardinals will beat the Panthers.
The Saint and the Colts will remain unbeaten, but the Broncos will fall to the Ravens. As for the two “big games” today, I am predicting the Giants will win over the Eagles and Favre will gome home crying in defeat.
Have a great Sunday, and let’s get to today’s blog!
At a recent Bootcamp, I had a conversation with the guys about what I call window shopping your life. I had a conversation about challenging yourself. (This, by the way, is a great example of what we work on during my Bootcamp weekends!)
Most of us window shop in our own lives. Many of us have had tragedies in our lives. As humans, it’s natural to want to change our lives after we survive a catastrophe, but it’s also human that we rarely stick with that plan to change.
We always sweep things under the rug. We all do this. It’s just the way things work. We get shocked into doing something or making a change, but we can’t help continuing to window shop.
So what do I mean when I say that we window shop our lives? It means that we fail to take action and really lead the kind of life we map out for ourselves. We go back to not being fully alive, and just wishing and wanting for the life we want to live.
The term window shopping is a good description, because it is as if we have a glass barrier between our life and the life we want. We can see it, but there is something in our way from actually living it.
A lot of people see this barrier as something that keeps them from having the life they want. In reality, though, we are capable of having that life right now if we take the steps to get it.
Why do we think we can’t have this life? We buy into false limitations. We don’t want to face that we need to take more action.
I often call people who just wait for things to happen in life “waiters.” They want things to change, and they keep hoping things will change on their own without them having to take any action on their part.
Once you begin to stop window shopping and to stop waiting, you will see how much time you’ve been wasting kicking back that you could have been spending living the life you want.
Life is too short, and you only get one! If you don’t take the opportunities now, when are you going to take them? So stop window shopping. Stop waiting. Take action today and start to really live the life you want.
I can’t believe it’s week 5. Week 5 in the NFL season, and I’m 12-1 in my picks so far.
My football record stands on its own at 12-1. 12-1 is pretty good I think. The Titans are my only blemish. So, with that, I am going to go out on a limb and tell you which teams I’m picking this week
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The Giants are going to dominate over the high school quarterback led Oakland Raiders. The Vikings will be victorious over the Rams and its equally inept quarterback. Really, the Rams aren’t rams at all; they’re more like goats.
The Ravens will beat the Bengals. I’m not buying all the hype about the Bengals yet.
Here’s another tough pick. The Eagles will beat the Buccaneers. Let me tell you, Jon Gruden is laughing every single day. They fired him? Are you kidding me?
Braylon Edwards will catch a pass and lead the Jets to a victory over the finless Dolphins. The Patriots will win big.
Denver is going down this week. Is that not the worst 4-0 team you’ve ever seen?
Dante Culpepper will wish he was still on the bench after the Steelers destroy him on Sunday. As for the Buffalo vs Cleveland game, really who cares? It’s not even worth predicting.
As for Dallas, Tony Romo better start learning that finding the end zone is not as easy as finding one of his celebrity girlfriends. Maybe he should go back and run one of his family’s rib businesses. Tony Romo notwithstanding, Dallas will squeak a win out this week.
What is it about ex-boyfriends and ex-girlfriends? They seem to somehow know the exact wrong time to text you.
Here you are, about to have sex with your partner, and all of a sudden there it is. You hear that certain beep telling you that you have just received a text message.
You think to yourself, “Oh man, who is texting me? It’s really late. Who is texting me?” You get nervous about those 1:00 a.m. texts that come in.
It’s nerve-racking, because the only one who should be texting you at 1:00 a.m. is the person with whom you are laying in bed at that very moment. So you keep wondering who texted, until you can’t stand it anymore and you instinctively check your phone like Pavlov’s Dog.
At first you are relieved and you think, “Whew! Thank God it’s not me.” Then all of a sudden you notice that it is your partner’s phone that is blinking. You both have the same “beep” for incoming text messages, and the beep that you heard is theirs (not yours).
Now you think to yourself, “Oh man, I know EXACTLY who just texted them. It’s the ex.”
So here you are laying in bed, either just about to have sex or just having had great sex, and you have to have “the ex talk.” You may have already had the ex talk before several times. When that ex intrudes into your personal space at 1:00 a.m., however, that ex talk goes into a whole other dimension.
You will lay there wondering what your partner is thinking and feeling. You will want to know what the emotions are that they are experiencing, and how they are feeling at that moment about their ex.
Ex’s are a very powerful influence in a relationship. Even though you are with somebody new and you are sharing amazing feelings together, you will still wonder what your partner is thinking and feeling about their ex when a text comes in like that.
You tell yourself that you are not going to let your paranoid mind take over. After all, it is you who is laying next to then (and not the ex). You are the one with whom they are now hanging out and sharing feelings.
Regardless, you have that ex talk right there and then at 1:00 a.m. You are wondering about it, and your partner really needs to let out whatever is on their mind about it.
You need to be 100% okay with whatever they say, because the topic needs to come up and your partner needs to get out what is on their mind. Eventually, your partner is going to need to confront the ex issue, because at some point the ex needs to stop holding on to whatever part of that old relationship to which they are clinging.
The key is that your partner needs to feel that there is an open space where they can talk to you no matter what is going on and no matter what they have to say. They need to feel like they can talk to you anytime and about anything, because building a relationship is all about open lines of communication. That is the only way that two people are going to get close.
I am always fine with the ex talk because I like clean slates. Both people need to have clean slates when you’re in a relationship, and sometimes you need to clean those slates together to get there.
You’ve got to deal with things. Relationships are all about supporting one another.
Have you ever seen the movie The Sixth Sense in which the little kid utters that now famous line, “I see dead people?” I sometimes feel like I see bullshit.
I read my emails every day and I listen to what people are saying, but when I read between the lines what I really see is bullshit. Every day someone emails me and tells me that they can’t do something, or they won’t do something or that change is too hard.
The truth is that they don’t want to do the work because the work is too hard. A lot of people are lazy. A lot of people don’t want to do the work.
A friend of mine has been complaining for the last fifteen years about how fat he is. Every year when I go see him in Manhattan he complains about this and tells me that he needs to lose weight.
Then he’ll go on some miracle 48 hour diet expecting it to fix the problem. I tell him all the time that if he’d just go to the gym and do cardio four days a week, that he will lose weight. I tell him that if he’d just eat healthy that he would look good.
I’ve had this same conversation with him probably at least one thousand times, but he’s always looking for the miracle cure to the problem. We’re all looking for the miracle cure, which is why I see bullshit.
There is no miracle cure to losing weight. The only way to lose weight and get great muscle tone is to work out.
There is no miracle cure for anything. There is no miracle way to meet men or women unless you practice and do the things necessary to develop the muscles in your brain (your personality and inner confidence).
There are no shortcuts. So when I find a person who is looking for a shortcut or who falls for shortcuts, I usually say to them “I see bullshit.” I see bullshit every single day.
You want to be a great lover? What you need to do is practice. How do you practice? You learn, you read and you practice with people. You open yourself up and you tell the truth.
I recently had a client at a Bootcamp who is a fantastic guy, but didn’t have much sexual experience at all. I told him he needed to practice. I told him to find some great women that are attracted to him and learn how to be a great lover.
You’re never going to become great at anything unless you practice. Ask any athlete about this and they will tell you the same thing.
Do you think Lance Armstrong wanted to ride his bike 35 miles every day? No, he didn’t. Do you think Peyton Manning wants to throw the same route over and over again to Reggie Wayne in practice when he’s already done it 10,000 times already? Probably not.
I remember reading on the Internet one time that Peyton Manning had thrown something like 123 touchdown passes to Marvin Harrison. Really, though, he’s thrown over 10,000 touchdown passes to him if you count all the times he’s thrown those same passes to him in practice (so that those passes would be successful in the games).
Do you want things in your life to work for you? Then you’ve got to work at it.
Whether you want to lose weight, meet women or be a better lover doesn’t matter. Whatever you want to achieve in life, you need to go out and practice. You need to work hard.
You need to be willing to do things you’ve never done before. Otherwise, all you’re going to hear me say is, “I see bullshit.”
It’s Monday. All right, so I missed with my Titans prediction. I did, however, hit with everyone else — which puts me at 11-1 now for the season going into tonight’s game. For that game, I predict the Vikings will beat the Packers.
11-1 . . . I am pretty impressed! What really does not impress me, though, are men who hang out with strippers and who pay strippers to hang out with them.
We had friends in town this past weekend who stayed at the 4 Seasons Hotel. We went there last night to hang out in the hotel’s hot tub.
There was a middle-aged man alone in the hot tub when we arrived. He seemed like a nice man. About three minutes later, though, three bimbos with long nails came bearing drinks and speaking in Paris Hilton-like sentences.
The man started talking about his hotel room and other such things. The women immediately started “wow-ing” about his big balcony. Then they got on the phone with their friends and started going on and on about how they got their nails done at the 4 Seasons and about the guy’s huge balcony.
You know, anyone can open their wallet and invite three bimbo strippers to their room. Unless you’re going to have the sex of your life, though, being forced to sit and listen to these women is just painful. I swear, Daphne had more to say than these women did.
Why is this such a thrill for guys? Here is this guy hanging out with a group of women who can only manage to speak in Paris Hilton type half-sentences. I never understand this.
Of course I get a guy liking younger women, but there’s certainly younger intelligent women he could find who would like him. The conversations they were having were so boring. No one was listening to each other. All I can think is, “Why?”
I know men, and I have coached men, who have done this. The sex is never any good, because the women aren’t into it. They just want the cash or the fringe benefits (like getting their nails done at the 4 Seasons).
What really happens is that the women just try to get the guy to come as quickly as possible. So who is winning here? It’s just so gross.
I’ve had casual sex, but I’ve never paid for sex. Maybe I’m just more evolved and maybe there are just less evolved people in this world . . . and that’s fine.
It’s fine if you’re the type of guy who looks at women like a piece of meat, is only interested in getting his dick stroked, and couldn’t care less about an emotional connection. That’s not the life I want. That’s not the life I teach.
When we were sitting in the hot tub, the man kept looking at me and smiling. It was like validation for him, as if he was saying with his smile “Look, I have three hot bimbos with me in the hot tub!” I ignored his smiles.
If you want to impress me, impress me with who you are as a person. I’m not impressed that you can get three strippers into a hot tub. That doesn’t impress me in the least.
While he was sharing a second grade-level conversation with those women, we were having a deep conversation about life. So why does he think I’d be impressed that he has three bimbos with him? Sometimes I’m embarrassed by my own gender.
So this kind of guy doesn’t impress me, nor does the guy who whips out the black American Express card at dinner. Why should I pay a couple thousand dollars a year to have a credit card that does the exact same thing as my free one?
I’m also not impressed by the guy who pulls in front of the coffee house in his Lamborghini but doesn’t bother to put money in the meter because he doesn’t care about getting a ticket. He figures, what’s a measly $60 to him.
If you want to impress me, get deep and tell me who you really are. I couldn’t care less about all this surface stuff.
Oh, and by the way Mr. Hot Tub from last night, I know you’re reading this today because I dropped my business card on your towel (and human intuition definitely wins out every time). This blog is dedicated to you.
I guarantee you got nothing out of last night, except a thinner wallet and maybe an orgasm. In reality, though, you are just as lonely today as you were yesterday.
So how do all of you feel about men who use their wallets on prostitutes and fancy cars just to prove how successful they are?
If you want to know know how to meet women who want to hang out with you, check out this video:
Have you all met the country’s newest and hottest handicapper in football? Fresh off my Lions pick, I am now 6-0 on the season. So stay tuned for next week’s picks.
Now on today’s non-football related topic…
Let’s talk about relationships and, specifically, about being stubborn in a relationship. Let’s talk about giving in when you’re in a relationship.
When you’re in a relationship, you will have arguments. You will sometimes argue about something even when you know the other person has a valid point. Your ego wants to “win” and be right, so you’ll get into an argument instead of really thinking about what the other person was saying.
During every argument, there will come a time when someone needs to give in . . . but it seems like everyone always wants the other person to be the one to do it.
Each person will think, “I don’t want to hug them first” or “I don’t want to make the first move.”
How many nights when you’re in a relationship has your bed felt like it has an imaginary dividing line down the middle? You might accidentally touch knees or ankles in the middle of the night, and you jump because you don’t want to make the first move.
I mean, it’s crazy how many people are stubborn. I, myself, am very stubborn. I hate apologizing. I have always hated apologizing.
I have always hated making the first move. My mindset was always, “Why should I make the first move. They are the ones who brought the issue up.” The fact of the matter is that relationships tend to get very sour very quickly if both of you are being stubborn.
How many nights do you want to sleep on opposite ends of the bed? How many nights do you want to look at your lover and realize that what you’re fighting about is really ridiculous?
Saying you are sorry is really easy. Saying you are sorry and really meaning it is sometimes harder. So I think you need to really realize what your arguments are really about in your relationship, and start to see that it’s really not worth it 90% of the time.
Check out this great new in field approach video we shot last week. Its all about how to approach a group of women,
I think I’m going to change professions. As predicted here on Saturday, the Jets beat the Patriots on Sunday. I think I even predicted they would win by a touchdown (which was what happened).
So not only can I predict the outcome of your dates, I can predict the outcome of football games for you too. Regarding your dates, I predict that most of them probably won’t go really well. That’s not to be negative, but the majority of dates don’t go well.
The Jets are the only team not to allow an offensive touchdown this year. That impresses me. Do you know who impresses me more? Rex Ryan, the Jets’ coach.
So much of life is all about coaching — in football, basketball, baseball . . . and even in dating. Without the right mentor, coach and system in place, you’re never going to get good at anything.
Life is really all about having good systems — good belief systems and good coaching systems. There’s a reason why Bill Belichick makes the Patriots competitive no matter which players they lose. It’s the system he’s put in place. Every player believes in him and believes in being a Patriot.
Life is also all about your mindset. Yesterday I saw a good friend of mine, Dr. Wayne Dyer, speak. I really enjoyed it. Here’s a man who has lived 69 years with the right mindset and belief systems, and he’s accomplished everything in his life that he’s ever wanted.
Without the right mindset, coaching and guidance, people will remain lost. How many of you resist change? How many of you have trouble changing because of your belief system? How many of you fear change, but yet you desire it so much?
Who coaches you through your hard times? To whom do you go for advice?
How honest are you with yourself about the changes that need to be made in your life? Are you someone who repeats the same mistakes over and over again, yet you can’t figure out how to change that pattern?
It’s all about coaching. It’s all about implementing a belief system that can work for you, and a belief system that will still get you to make changes on a daily basis even if things don’t always work out for you.
The reason why the Jets won yesterday, was because they made changes to their game plan at halftime. They came out in the second half, and Mark Sanchez began throwing the ball. They got the lead, and then basically proceeded to shut the Patriots down for the rest of the second half.
How did they do this? They made changes necessary to dictate the flow of the game in their favor.
Can you dictate the flow of your life in your favor? Can you do it even after frustrating things and setbacks happen to you? Can you recover quickly from rejection, or do you allow it to torture you all day long?
When something doesn’t go my way, I recover instantly. I shake it off as any good well-coached person will do.
I don’t allow things to affect me for any longer than they need to affect me. Whatever happens to me affects me in the moment, then I get over it and don’t remember even five minutes later why I was so shaken.
The systems I’m talking about are not some kind of magic system to pick up men or women. It’s about having a belief system. It’s about having the right belief system.
What is your belief system? What changes do you need to make in order to accomplish everything you want?
Wayne said is really well yesterday. He said that we should all spend the last five minutes of each day before we go to sleep imagining how we want the next day to be, imagining how we want our life to be, and imagining how that will feel.
You don’t want to spend the end of your days thinking about what didn’t get done, what you messed up and what you haven’t achieved. By thinking this way, a lot of you are programming yourself to be in a constant state of panic (that begins from the moment you wake up).
So today on this Monday, I challenge all of you to write down all the things you want to change, and how you will feel when you implement those changes.
For those of you who are looking to bet on tonight’s game — because you know I am a master handicapper — the game will be a lot closer than you think. The Colts, however, will squeeze out a win when the Dolphins forget to throw to Ted Ginn.
So for all of you who are really curious about my fantasy football draft, here’s how I did. I ended up taking L.T. and Gore with my first two picks. Not too bad considering I was drafting from the number eleven slot and, really, who among you does not think that L.T. has one more season left in the tank?
On to today’s blog. Have an amazing Labor Day weekend!
The other day something interesting happened. This probably happens every single day . . . on an elevator, in a restaurant and on the subway.
There seems to be a disease going around. I call the people with this disease “barrel inners and barrel outers.” The barrel inners are the people who, when you’re walking out of a restaurant or out of a subway train, have to get in before you get out (or vice versa).
They’ll actually physically push you as they do it too. I’ve been physically pushed in New York City by people wanting so badly to get on a train before the people exiting get off, that they push all the people trying to exit the train as they do it.
So the other day we were in an elevator on the way to an appointment, and there were some barrel outers behind us. It was amazing. When we get to our floor, we are standing in front of the elevator doors waiting for them to open when we feel this pushing from behind us.
These barrel outer women standing behind us apparently couldn’t wait to get out of the elevator or just wanted to get out ahead of us. So I turned around and told the barrel outer women that we were also getting off at that floor, but they didn’t care. Barrel outers will physically push and elbow their way ahead of you.
The barrel inners are just as bad though. After I had lunch recently, I was at the door to the restaurant on my way to leave when a whole group of barrel inners just started barreling right in the door. Did they think I was a doorman just waiting to hold the door to let them in? It’s amazing how many times you open the door to leave a place, and the barrel inners charge right in.
I’m sure every single day you see your share of barrel inners and barrel outers. I’m sure some of you are notorious barrel inners and barrel outers.
Have you ever been to Italy? They’re the worst in terms of being barrel inners and barrel outers. You could be the next one in line at a museum to pay, and the next thing you know there will be ten Italians all around you in a circle. You think, “Did I just inherit some big Italian family? Sure…get right in!”
That’s it for the barrels. I wondered where they got that song “Roll Out The Barrel…” In today’s video, find out how to be the opposite of barrel inners and outers — someone who women WANT to be around all the time…
I’m in the middle of a Bootcamp in 95 degree weather, so it actually feels like a bootcamp. I should have made the guys wear fatigues and combat boots to give them the full experience.
I think if they dressed like that, though, then women would do all the approaching and it would defeat the purpose of the training! So onward into the late summer heat.
Have a great Saturday, and today let’s talk about something really hot…
Do men like women who like sports? Can men deal with women who can actually do better than them in their fantasy football league? Can a man sit there and be attracted to a woman with whom he debates stats about his beloved Red Sox, or fall in love with a fellow die-hard Jets or Lions fan?
The answer to that is yes, because misery loves company (especially if you’re a Cubs or a Lions fan). It’s nice to be among fellow fans. What men can’t stand, however, are women who pretend to like sports.
If I’m watching a football game, I really don’t want to hear “Wow, this is a really exciting 4th period.” A man hears that and he’ll say, “Really? You’ve had four periods in the span of this game? That’s a quick menstrual cycle.”
Another thing men can’t stand is when a woman watches a sporting event with you and is a cheerleader who shouts things like “Woo hoo! Go team go!”
You almost feel like she’s going to don the outfit and start breaking into the Marcia Brady “F-F-FIL-M-M-MOR–FILMOR HIGH!” cheer.
What’s worse is when you go to a baseball game with a woman and she asks you, “How long is this game going to last? Is it 4 periods like football?” It’s not that we don’t like you taking an interest, but all sports are different.
Basketball has quarters, hockey has periods and football has quarters. Isn’t it funny that hockey has periods since it is the bloodiest sport? So it’s the perfect analogy for hockey.
So if a man invites you to a game, don’t act like a cheerleader. Also, when a runner slides into second base and takes out the shortstop, don’t say “What a great tackle!”
We find your pretending to know everything about sports annoying, but we actually find your ignorance about sports adorable. When you ask your silly questions during a game, it makes us feel really mushy because we know we’re going to teach you to be that true sports fan.
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