No, it’s not the end of a football game. But isn’t that great when your team’s winning, you’re in the stands and you count down. “Ten, nine, eight…” What’s the point? They don’t hear you. The players could care less, and in their heads they’ve already counted down when the game was over anyway.

Sp here we are, December 31st, 2011, only a few hours to go until the most incredible moment of the year!
The strike of 12, when you’re standing in a room full of people that you have not talked to or connected with all night, and you desperately search around the room for the drunkest woman to kiss. That is the stupidest night of the year.

Most of you will be chasing the night tonight. You go out, trying to find the best party you can possibly find. When you get to that party, if it’s not good, you’ll say to yourself, “Man there’s no chicks here. We really need to go to the Holiday Inn bar down by Route 25, I heard there’s some cougars there that are looking to get lucky on New Year’s Eve.”
You’ll be searching all night long, when in reality tonight, all this night is, it’s just another Saturday night. It’s no different than last Saturday night, or the other 364 days this year. Who cares? You don’t need to go out with a bang.

In fact, you may not have had a bang the whole year. You don’t need to make amends, make up for bad parties, bad choices, bad dates, whatever it might be, by going out and trying to make this the greatest night of your entire year.

This is the most overrated night of the entire year, so instead, why not be proactive? Do something you actually enjoy where you know you’ll have a good time. Go see a movie, stay at home, have dinner with friends or family. Do something that’s more enjoyable. Invite some friends over and play board games. You’ll certainly be more stimulated, and really if you think about it you’ll be more bored, and definitely a whole lot more anxious, at a ridiculous, overrated New Year’s Eve soiree.

It’s time that you did something different this New Year’s Eve and stopped chasing the New Year. Allow the New Year to come to you. Allow the New Year to happen on its own, and allow the New Year to manifest the way it’s supposed to. You’re not going to make up for a year’s worth of bad nights by going out and maybe find someone to kiss at the stroke of midnight.
It doesn’t matter if you kiss some sloppy drunk person and have a funny story to tell going into the New Year. It’s not going to change your life or the way you are with women, just because you were able to make out with a sloppy drunk girl at the stroke of midnight, so stop being an amateur and act like a professional.

Professionals don’t count down at the end of the game. Professionals embrace the win and move forward and think about what to do the next day to become even better.

Ever use sentences like this: “Some day I want to go to Italy…” “Some day I’m going to change my job.” “Some day I’m going to move.” “Some day I’m going to _____.”

People who use the term “some day” are people who are never going to do it.

Some day is putting something off into the future. And granted, there might be reasons, monetary reasons and so forth, why people put things off, but most of the things that people phrase with “some day” tend to turn into “no day.”

Now let’s reflect back. If you’ve noticed, it’s something I’ve been wanting you to do a lot of this month. I want you to reflect back on you’re your and I want you to think how often and where in your life that you used that term, “some day”?

And think about that over the last year, and two years, and three years.

How often have you used that term, “some day”, and what “some days” have actually turned into todays?

How many things have you said “some day” to that, in the end, never amounted to anything at all?

I want you to think about that for a bit today.

Your friends have been calling you for weeks saying “What are you doing for New Year’s Eve?” You thought long and hard. You tried to find the party of the year . . . the party that was going to change your entire year.

C’mon now! Your year cannot be a success unless you find the best party on the most over hyped amateur night of the year? That’s right . . . New Year’s Eve is for amateurs.

Here is how I feel about New Year’s Eve: I am not going to some restaurant to pay $185.00 for a price-fixed menu that usually runs me $75.00. I also don’t want to stand around a crowded nightclub watching a bunch of strangers get drunk and desperate to find other random strangers to kiss at midnight.

I did not spend the entire month of December trying to hunt down the greatest New Year’s Eve party so I that could try to have the most amazing night of the year. The other 364 days of this year for me have already been amazing.

One night is not going to change what your social life was like the rest of the year. It just doesn’t work that way. I get so many people who make such a big deal over “5-4-3-2-1 Woohoo Happy New Year!”

My best New Year’s Eves have been when I have avoided all the hype. My ex and I liked to go to Europe and spend New Year’s in another city. Most New Year’s when I was with her, I was sleeping by the time “5-4-3-2-1 Happy New Year!” was counted down.

New Year’s Eve is the most over hyped night of the year. Just because you are going to the so-called ‘coolest party of the year’ does not mean that your luck is going to change with the opposite sex. No matter where you are, you still need the skills to engage women.

Not only that, but do you really enjoy watching people get so drunk and stupid just because it’s New Year’s Eve? Now call me an old fuddy-duddy if you want, but I really have no interest at all in doing anything on New Year’s Eve.

I like to spend New Year’s Eve with friends – real friends – sitting around having some good food and just talking. I don’t need to be around total strangers. I don’t need to try to hook up with somebody just because it’s New Year’s Eve. To me, New Year’s Eve is just a Monday night without the football game.

You can’t go out with a bang unless the whole year has been a bang. It’s really important for you to realize that one night (and one party) is not going to change things. Finding “that party” is usually not worth the effort.

The most disappointing night of the year is always New Year’s Eve because the expectations are always the highest. You put so much time, effort and energy into planning what you hope will be the most perfect night . . . when really, the most perfect night would be a gathering of close friends.

Spend the night with them sitting around talking, having some dinner and watching all the drunks in Times Square on television. Spend it remembering what a great year it’s been and what great friends these people are to you.

New Year’s Eve is no different than Halloween, except you have costumes on Halloween. It is also no different than trying to find the perfect party on the 4th of July, except of course that noisemakers substitute for the fireworks.

So if you’ve got nothing going on tonight, I have a new tradition to start: Hang out on the blog and talk about what your year was all about. Talk about what you accomplished. Talk about how you grew. Talk about what you learned about yourself this year.

Tonight we’ll be celebrating on the blog in different time zones. For those of you on the east coast, Happy New Year a few hours earlier. For those of you in Europe, Happy New Year even earlier than that. If you get lonely tonight, someone will be here on the blog to share an open and honest evening with you.

From my family to you, Happy New Year!! All of you have made my year really special. Thanks for your comments and for your support. I look forward to making 2011 an amazing year with all of you!

Did this year work out the way you wanted it to?

Or are you ready to quit, pack it in, and start all over with some ridiculous New Year’s Resolution?

Let me be upfront with you.

Nothing is going to change when the New Year hits. You’re going to be the same person and if you desire to make a change than that time is now!

I call this end of year momentum.

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But there’s something interesting that I want to bring up to everyone on the blog. As many of you know, I’m not really in to New Year’s resolutions – I think that they are a crock of shit. They are just a complete waste of time.

Everyone always makes 10 or 11 New Year’s resolutions – and of course they are going to be broken! You’re trying to do too many things. I bet most of you have already broke most of the resolutions and we are only 12 DAYS into the year!!

I was talking to some clients the other night and I told them that what I like to do is to choose a theme for the year. I know if I concentrate on a theme, I’ll make things happen. I’m going to start believing in that theme.

I remember one year – I think it was 2004 – my theme was patience and trusting the universe. I wanted to put my trust in the universe in everything I did. I wanted to allow things to happen on their own terms. I didn’t want to force anything.

When I was in the business world, when I would lose a client I would be totally bummed out. If I didn’t have a good month, I’d start stressing out, wondering if things would get better.

A wise friend of mine, told me I needed to start trusting the universe. If you trust the universe, everything that you want will manifest. Things will start to happen because you are no longer suffocating the energy. You aren’t putting too much pressure on things and you are allowing them to unfold in their own time.

Trusting the universe means having the abundance principle. If you embody the abundance principle, people will start becoming attracted to you and they will want to meet you or do business with you.

So in 2004 I worked on trusting the universe and being patient. Then, in 2005, after I learned how to be patient, I started working with the theme of abundance. I started working with the theme of abundance in every facet of my life.

And by the end of 2005, everything was abundant for me. Business was great, the people in my life were great – I had no complaints.

So what did I want to work on in 2006? In 2006, my theme of the year was living in the moment. I wanted to embrace and be present in every moment. I didn’t want to think about the future of everything; I just wanted to embrace every little moment of life.

I wanted to learn about the gift of life. I wanted to embrace it. I wanted to be present every moment and I didn’t want to have to think about what I had to do tomorrow or what tomorrow would bring. I didn’t want to think about the past either. I just wanted to be in that moment.

And by doing that, each moment that I was truly present helped create another moment that I could embrace. It’s all about living in the moment. It’s all about staying focused, positive and having abundance.

All of these themes work really well together as well. This is what you need to do: you need to choose themes for your life.

What was the theme I chose for 2007 and 2008? To continue to live the life that I love. I’m really living the life that I love every day. I want to thank myself every day for this amazing life. I want to thank the people that I work with every day for the amazing job that they’ve done. I want to thank all of the people in my life for what they offer.

It’s about being 100% in tune with what is going on in the world so that you are able to put all of these principles and themes together.

By now, the 12th of January 2009, you all know that you’ve totally screwed up your New Year’s resolutions because you chose too many things.

Start concentrating on one thing. Life is a marathon – it’s not a sprint. It is about being able to go the distance. If you can go the distance in life, you’ll be able to accomplish everything you hope to.

The problem is that many people try to master too many things at one time. Rather than concentrating on one thing, they try to learn too many small things at once.

If you are a fast learner, you could concentrate on having a new theme every month or every three months. But you need to do this work in order to have an amazing life and attract great people into it.

What is your them for the year?

Do you know what mine is?

I have a theme just for the day.

I want to break the record we set last week with 300 responses to last Mondays blog.

So start typing folks!!!