You thought it was so funny, in fact, that you might have even used that line if you called your grandparents or something. You would call and say, “Grandma, I haven’t seen you in like a year! When are you going to come?” It felt like the funniest joke.

Remembering how funny I used to think this was as a kid, I decided yesterday to try it as an adult. So when I woke up the next morning I looked at my wife and said, “Babe, man we haven’t had sex in like a year. This is ridiculous! Our marriage, what are we going to do about it?!”

I also tried it out on a friend of mine when he called me. I said to him, “Man, what is wrong with you?! I haven’t spoken to you in like a year!”

Then I went into a store to get a cup of tea. When the person behind the counter wished me a happy new year, I said “Happy New Year? You should look at me and say ‘Man you haven’t been here in like a year! What happened to you? You used to be such a good customer.’”

So how did this work as an adult? Not too well . . . The joke actually just didn’t seem to work anymore. Nobody really found it that funny.

That brings me to my first marching orders for you for the new year: Have fun and stop taking everything so seriously!

The other night I was watching an episode of the Showtime series called “The Big C” starring Laura Linney. Her character on that show suffers from untreatable Melanoma, and she only has between six months and three years to live.

So she decides to do things that are totally out of character for her. She has an affair. She buys a new car. She says things to people she would have never said.

The bottom line about this is that we just take things so seriously in life. We’re so serious all the time.

Why are we so serious?

People think things like, “My God if I don’t talk to this person now, I’m just going to beat myself up mentally for the next four days and be totally miserable” or “If this date doesn’t go well, that’s it. That’s the end.”

It’s time to stop taking things like this so seriously. You really need to start having some fun.

You didn’t think my ‘see you next year’ and ‘I haven’t seen you in like a year’ jokes were funny? It’s time you stop taking life so seriously, and time to start having some fun.

Just enjoy yourself. That’s actually a good New Year’s resolution: Stop taking yourself so seriously.

You are a guy and you don’t talk to that one woman you want to meet. You are a woman and you don’t get asked out by that guy you really like. So what?! It’s time to stop caring about all that stuff!

Have a “don’t care” attitude. When something like this happens to you, have an attitude of “Really? Oh well… There are plenty of other people for me to meet with whom I can have fun and date.”

Laugh every single day. Smile at people every single day. Have a good time. Most importantly, learn how to be able to laugh at yourself.

Here is what I want you to do tomorrow. Every time you see someone you know but are seeing for the first time since the New Year, I want you to say this: “How have you been? I haven’t seen you in like a year!” Do it with a really big child-like smile on your face, almost as if you’re still ten years old and think what you’re saying is the funniest thing in the world.

Try it! Do it as the start of your resolution to not take life and yourself so seriously in 2011.

Does that mean that this year everyone will be dating a 10? Well, you will be because you are now dating in the 10s and “10s” will be your mantra. Perhaps your New Year’s resolution will be “I’m going to date a 10 in 10.”

Anyway, and all kidding aside, I bet all of you are curious about what I have to say about 2010 and your New Year’s resolutions. If you’ve been reading my recent blogs, you know that I think New Year’s resolutions are bullshit.

So in today’s podcast, I’ve got a kick in the ass for you. What you will hear in this podcast will grip you, will move you and will really wake you up in the RIGHT way as you start out this new year.

I’ve got a couple of special guests with me on this podcast who will help you get 2010 started off with a bang. Hopefully, it will be a bang with someone else, and not just a self-induced bang.

To find out what this is all about, click here and listen now:

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People decide on some New Year’s resolutions, and then expect that everything will just instantly change. It’s almost as though people believe that the act of making the resolution is enough to create the change in their lives that they want . . . and that it will happen the minute they make the resolution.

Say my resolution is to meet more women. So I figure I ought to go out there and meet them. I spend about a week trying to meet more women, but yet nothing is happening. I am no more successful at meeting women than I was before I made the resolution. Why?

The reason is that nothing in life changes instantly. Nothing.

Just because the calendar changes, does not mean that all of your own habits and mindset have changed. Your habits and mindset are still the same as they were.

The calendar changing has nothing to do with whether you change. That is why I talk about people needing to do things every day to work toward a goal. To achieve any goal or “resolution,” you need to do something every day toward achieving it.

Stop evaluating yourself. Stop beating yourself up. If you don’t reach your goal that day, it is okay.

You need to realize that just because the calendar changes to a new year, doesn’t change how you will achieve your goals. You still need to start somewhere and sometime, and the best place to start is today and right now.

It’s 2010. So I want all of you to read this statement and tell me how it makes you feel, and what 2010 means to you:

“Every Day is like New Years – Every day has magic in it. All people need to do is open their eyes!”

Oh, and one last thing…

Today I have a new year’s resolution for all the men out there who think that porn is their friend. Watch this to see why this hobby may be destroying any intimacy you will evey have:

In any case, welcome to the next decade! How was your decade?

If you had to write your own personal history of the ’00s, what would you say? What did you accomplish? What eluded you? How was the decade for you?

I can’t believe it’s been ten years since all the paranoid people were worried about Y2K. What are we going to worry about next? Didn’t Nostradamus have a prediction for 2012 or something?

It’s funny how fast a decade goes by, and here we are now about to do the same thing we do every year on New Year’s Eve. Some of you will be chasing the night, trying to find the perfect New Year’s Eve party that doesn’t exist. Others of you will stay home for a night of deep reflection.

Whatever you choose to do tonight, that is your choice. Personally, you know how I feel about chasing the night.

To me, tonight is just another Thursday night. We are going to go grab some dinner, wish each other a happy new year, and wake up tomorrow on Friday.

Life to me is just a continuous journey. I treat every day as another day I can learn something new and exciting, and grow as a person.

I don’t believe in New Year’s resolutions, because most people break them in the first 24 hours. I believe in daily goals, because I’ve learned that setting small goals every day is the way to succeed in the long run.

It’s been an amazing 2009. I am very thankful for everyone in my life.

I am very thankful to be in love with a woman I think is the most beautiful woman in the world.

I am thankful for all of you who have followed my work, participated in the blog, purchased my products, and taken my Bootcamps.

I am thankful for everyone who works with me behind the scenes making this business and this website something of which I am very proud.

So let me leave you with one tip for tonight. If you’re not kissing someone at midnight, don’t worry about it.

Don’t think of it as not kissing someone on New Year’s Eve. Think of it as not kissing someone on Thursday night.

Not only that, most people have some really nasty breath tonight. They went out and ate at an over-priced buffet and drank some cheap alcohol. So, basically, you’re kissing staleness.

So, think of it this way and just enjoy whatever you choose to do.

Happy New Year!

What did we call the the last decade? The 00s (the ‘zeros’)? The greedy 00s? The bank failure 00s? I mean what are we going to call this era (as it is about to end)? In today’s podcast, I am going to share my thoughts on the past year and the year to come.

I am also going to talk about how to unwind all the tension that the holidays cause. I mean, anyone whose parents drove them crazy over the holidays, please raise your hand.

How many of you had parental craziness during Christmas time? During family gatherings, how many of you felt evaluated and judged about where you are at in your life?

How many of you are looking forward to tomorrow night (New Year’s Eve) with bated breath, believing it will be the best night of the year for you?

In this podcast, I will be giving you some of my thoughts on all of these things. I will also be giving you a sneak peek into what I’ll be bringing you in 2010. I hope you enjoy it!

Click here to listen now:

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I have a little different way for you to think about the New Year besides writing a list of New Year’s resolutions. It’s not that you should not have resolutions and big goals you want to achieve in 2009. I’m suggesting that for today, though, you focus on something else.

So instead of thinking about all the long-term goals you want to accomplish for the entire year 2009, try thinking about what you can do immediately (even today!) so that you can have a powerful beginning to 2009. See today as a day to start fresh and new, and as a day to let go of EVERYTHING!

By letting go of everything and doing things like this you will create new energy, and you’ll be on the right track to make 2009 everything you want it to be. Here are some suggestions for things you can do to help you have a powerful beginning to 2009:

Tell someone from your heart that you love them.

Perform a random act of kindness to a stranger.

Call an old friend with whom you had a falling out but whom you miss. Let go of whatever happened between you and reach out to make a fresh start.

Thank your parents for just being who they are and for all that they have been for you in your life. Don’t think about all the the things your parents may not have been.

If you are in a relationship, tell that person how much you appreciate them in all ways.

Doing things like these are a great way to engage the New Year. Don’t just let this first day of the New Year pass by without taking real action to put yourself on track to make 2009 your best year ever!

Challenge yourself to look “outside the box” and really create great new energy all around you. Open yourself up in 2009 to great communication and love.

Have a fantastic New Year’s Day!

We’re hours away from it being the end of the year, which means that everyone will be starting soon to think about their New Year’s resolutions. My opinion about resolutions, though, is that they are things you need to make every single day so you can become a better person. You should give yourself goals and things to achieve every single day.

I think there is a question we each should ask ourselves before we ever consider what we want to accomplish in 2009: What am I thankful for in 2008? I am going to tell you a few things from 2008 for which I am thankful.

I am thankful for all of you – my readers – who took an interest in my work and participated in commenting on the blog. I am thankful for all my wonderful clients who came and worked with me.  I am thankful for all the great people who gave positive and amazing feedback on all the products. 

I am thankful for all of your emails that came every single day telling me of your successes, and how you used my programs to achieve those successes. I am thankful for all of you who are now in relationships because what I have taught you helped you to find real and true connections.

I want to thank all the great people who work with me: Tyler, Kristen, Yakub, Adam in London, Taras, Rich … and, of course, Reynold’s Wrap. I am especially thankful for Daphne, my beloved black English Labrador, who beat cancer this summer. It’s been a great year.

I am really thankful for all the things which have happened in my personal life. I am thankful for finding an amazing woman and being in love. I am thankful for being very patient in my own life, because this is the year I met someone in whom I really believe – someone who I think is the most incredible and fantastic woman I have ever met in my entire life.

This all happened because I implemented into my life the exact same things I teach all of you. Everything I tell you and communicate to you, are things I use in my own life. By using all this, I was able to find my girlfriend and to speak the way I feel.

Life is a series of evolutions. Life is about opening yourself up. Life is about really taking the time to explore who you are and what you are all about. This year I explored myself more deeply than I ever have before, and this was the year I was able to find and attract the most amazing love into my life.

So we’re not going to talk about 2009 yet, because I’d first like to hear from all of you about what you are most thankful for in 2008. Tell me what happened to you and how it changed your life.

What do you feel about love?
How many times have you been in love?
Have you ever really succumbed to someone else?
Have you ever really had an unconditional love?

One of my biggest jokes was always that the only unconditional love I ever had was with two women: one named Daphne (who is my six and a half year old black English Labrador), and one named Jessie (a Golden Retriever who passed away seven or eight years ago). I realize now that while this was a joke, it also used to be my belief.

I really do believe that love is magic. I believe love is a gift. I’ve written in the past about celebrating your love and embracing your love, but unconditional love is something I believe is really rare. Unconditional love is finding someone who is willing to strip down their walls and who is willing to challenge you. I don’t think a lot of people get challenged.

So here’s what I want to know. A lot of people who read this blog are in relationships. I get a lot of emails from women who are in relationships who want to further that relationship along. Right now, I am challenging all of you who are in relationships to talk about your relationship. Tell me the answer to all of these questions:

How do you challenge each other to be the best person that you can be? 
How do you challenge each other to really grow more?
How do you challenge each other to break down all the walls and the barriers you may have so your love can grow? 

Something I tell my girlfriend every single day, and something that I really truly believe, is that I honor her.  I honor her every single day.  Now it’s not like I put her up on a throne, make her the queen and bow down giving thanks to her. I do honor her, though, for who she is. I do honor the gift she has given me, which is the gift of herself. You’ve got to honor people. 

As it’s approaching the end of the year and all of you are about to go through the some kind of ridiculous 5-4-3-2-1 countdown thing, there is something about which I want all of you to think. Instead of going through the traditional New Year’s resolution motions, how about taking a different approach to what you want to accomplish in 2009.

How about honoring your friends, your significant other and all the people in your life? Ask yourself whether you really do this by asking yourself how many people really and truly know you – fully exposed and with no walls.

Not only that, ask yourself who influences you in your life. Are there people telling you what you should and shouldn’t do, and how you should be? Are there people who tell you to ‘take it slow’ with a new person you meet? How many people in your life fully embrace your choices and support you in every way. 

So I challenge you to think about all of this. There is a lot in here to think about, and I’m going to leave it up to each of you to decide what you want to tell us. So let’s get into this conversation and have some fun.