Has everyone had a wonderful over hyped night? I hope some of you took my advice to not chase the night. For those of you who did chase the night away, may I be the first to say “I told you so!” I told you that New Year’s Eve party was not going to be what you thought it was going to be.

That’s okay, though, because I have a secret I’m going to share with you: You’ve got 364 days and nights to avoid again having to try to get everything right in one night.

That’s right . . . it’s a brand new year with 365 days. You probably woke up this morning (like every New Year’s Day) with a list of New Year’s resolutions.

Some of you may want to lose some weight this year.
Some of you may want to make more money.
Some of you may want to make this year your best year ever of meeting people.

You have this new sense about things . . . a clean slate feeling. You tell yourself “This year is going to be different.” You almost felt a giddy feeling when you got up this morning.

For some of you, that giddy feeling was in your stomach as you retched over the bowl getting the last bits of 2010′s alcohol out of your body. The rest of you woke up and thought “It’s a new year. This year I am going to stick to my resolutions. Things are going to be different.”

I really hate to rain on the New Year’s Day parade. I’ve seen rain on the New Year’s Day parade, and those floats don’t look good all wet. As a matter of fact, I don’t want to put a damper on anyone’s giddy feeling, but I have to share something with you.

Even though it’s New Year’s Day, it is really just a Saturday morning after a Friday night . . . and you are still the same person. I am not saying you’re a bad person at all. In fact, you are probably an amazing person. I think everyone is an amazing person.

To be 100% upfront and honest with you, though, nothing has changed between last night and today, unless last night you went on some spiritual retreat that overnight changed your thinking and your mindset. The truth is that nothing really has changed.

Most New Year’s resolutions are broken almost immediately. We’re human. We love to be hopeful. We love it. We want to believe that things are magically going to be different.

When we see a different year on the calendar, psychologically we think “Things really are going to be different this year. I know they are!” Knowing and believing, however, are different from doing. The “doing” part is where the problem usually exists.

If your goal is to lose weight and get into better shape, then you better learn discipline if you want to make that happen. If your goal this year is to meet somebody and to fall in love, how are you going to do it if you don’t have the skill set or the confidence to meet people?

If you haven’t done anything differently (meaning doing some intensive work on yourself with a coach or a motivational program), things are not going to be different just because the calendar has changed from 2010 to 2011. Change happens because YOU change . . . not because the calendar does.

All of you know that I am one of the most supportive people out there. I truly believe in the good in all people . . . but I also tell it like it is.

If you are serious about wanting to make some changes this year in any aspect of your life – whether it’s in the area of love, health or career – then you better be prepared to invest a lot of time and hard work to get that accomplished.

There is no magic pill. Wishing for something to happen will not cause it to manifest itself in your life. Unless you’re a genie, it’s not going to happen that way.

I am about to release my bootcamp schedule – there will be limited bootcamps, limited coaching and limited slots available. I am going to post that bootcamp schedule on the site tomorrow.

For those of you who are serious about changing your life socially, I’m here for you. I’ll give you everything you need . . . and I’ll kick your ass until you get it right. There will also be a new membership portion of the site this year which will include conference calls, new products and lots of other exciting exclusive benefits.

I am dedicating this year to helping every one of you to become more powerful socially. I’m committed . . . are you? It’s going to take time and effort. It’s not going to happen just because it’s no longer 2010.

You know where to find me. You know where to find my products its as easy as clicking right here. You know where to find the bootcamps just as easy by clicking here. Of course, you know where to find all the great information contained in my daily blogs.

We have a lot of work to do this year! Let’s start today.

If you really want someone to help you make your New Year’s resolutions come true, then I’m here for you. For those of you who still believe that things are going to be different just because the calendar has changed, let me know the next time Santa Claus is comin’ to town . . . because I’d like to meet him too.

Todays Video is a perfect one to help you develop that winning mindset in 11.

Your friends have been calling you for weeks saying “What are you doing for New Year’s Eve?” You thought long and hard. You tried to find the party of the year . . . the party that was going to change your entire year.

C’mon now! Your year cannot be a success unless you find the best party on the most over hyped amateur night of the year? That’s right . . . New Year’s Eve is for amateurs.

Here is how I feel about New Year’s Eve: I am not going to some restaurant to pay $185.00 for a price-fixed menu that usually runs me $75.00. I also don’t want to stand around a crowded nightclub watching a bunch of strangers get drunk and desperate to find other random strangers to kiss at midnight.

I did not spend the entire month of December trying to hunt down the greatest New Year’s Eve party so I that could try to have the most amazing night of the year. The other 364 days of this year for me have already been amazing.

One night is not going to change what your social life was like the rest of the year. It just doesn’t work that way. I get so many people who make such a big deal over “5-4-3-2-1 Woohoo Happy New Year!”

My best New Year’s Eves have been when I have avoided all the hype. My ex and I liked to go to Europe and spend New Year’s in another city. Most New Year’s when I was with her, I was sleeping by the time “5-4-3-2-1 Happy New Year!” was counted down.

New Year’s Eve is the most over hyped night of the year. Just because you are going to the so-called ‘coolest party of the year’ does not mean that your luck is going to change with the opposite sex. No matter where you are, you still need the skills to engage women.

Not only that, but do you really enjoy watching people get so drunk and stupid just because it’s New Year’s Eve? Now call me an old fuddy-duddy if you want, but I really have no interest at all in doing anything on New Year’s Eve.

I like to spend New Year’s Eve with friends – real friends – sitting around having some good food and just talking. I don’t need to be around total strangers. I don’t need to try to hook up with somebody just because it’s New Year’s Eve. To me, New Year’s Eve is just a Monday night without the football game.

You can’t go out with a bang unless the whole year has been a bang. It’s really important for you to realize that one night (and one party) is not going to change things. Finding “that party” is usually not worth the effort.

The most disappointing night of the year is always New Year’s Eve because the expectations are always the highest. You put so much time, effort and energy into planning what you hope will be the most perfect night . . . when really, the most perfect night would be a gathering of close friends.

Spend the night with them sitting around talking, having some dinner and watching all the drunks in Times Square on television. Spend it remembering what a great year it’s been and what great friends these people are to you.

New Year’s Eve is no different than Halloween, except you have costumes on Halloween. It is also no different than trying to find the perfect party on the 4th of July, except of course that noisemakers substitute for the fireworks.

So if you’ve got nothing going on tonight, I have a new tradition to start: Hang out on the blog and talk about what your year was all about. Talk about what you accomplished. Talk about how you grew. Talk about what you learned about yourself this year.

Tonight we’ll be celebrating on the blog in different time zones. For those of you on the east coast, Happy New Year a few hours earlier. For those of you in Europe, Happy New Year even earlier than that. If you get lonely tonight, someone will be here on the blog to share an open and honest evening with you.

From my family to you, Happy New Year!! All of you have made my year really special. Thanks for your comments and for your support. I look forward to making 2011 an amazing year with all of you!

Did this year work out the way you wanted it to?

Or are you ready to quit, pack it in, and start all over with some ridiculous New Year’s Resolution?

Let me be upfront with you.

Nothing is going to change when the New Year hits. You’re going to be the same person and if you desire to make a change than that time is now!

I call this end of year momentum.

Are you curious yet?

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Today’s story is about such a person. It is about none other than Chris Henry of the Cincinnati Bengals. He is a guy who finally turned his life around, only to die on Wednesday falling out the back of a pickup truck during a domestic dispute.

Apparently he and his fiance were arguing. She jumped into the pickup. He ran after her, jumped in, fell out the side and died. He was just 26 years old, and just starting his life over again.

We read stories like this, and realize how easily it could have been us. Okay, maybe it wouldn’t likely have been any one of us falling off the back of a pickup truck, but it could have been our lives cut short in any number of other ways.

It seems like we never learn from things like this. We read these kind of stories. We feel badly about what happened. We reflect on it, but them we go right back to the “same old same old.”

There are two strong lessons to be learned here.

The first lesson is that when you’re fighting in a relationship and the other person wants to leave or be alone, respect that. So many times, people will continue a conversation and say even more hurtful things.

When we fight with our partners, it’s circular. So it’s really better to let them walk away and cool off. Nothing ever gets accomplished in the heat of an argument, except the creation of more arguments.

The second lesson is to answer the question, “What is your wakeup call?”

New Year’s Day is coming. Is that your wakeup call? Are you going to make another bullshit New Year’s resolution that you don’t have the self-discipline to implement in your life?

The only thing constant in our life is change. So why do we always fight it? Why do we always resist what is natural in evolution of life?

Why do we fight so hard when someone asks us to change our ways for the good? Why as humans are we content to sit around mired in things that don’t make us happy, and waiting for rainy days that don’t make us want to do anything?

Chris Henry was turning his life around when it was cut short. So today, think about Chris Henry and do something that takes you out of your comfort zone.

Ask out that person you’ve had a crush on for ages. Walk up to a stranger and wish them Merry Christmas (Oops, I mean Seasons Greetings).

Whatever pulls you out of your comfort zone, only you can do. Think about what would happen if you did one thing outside your comfort zone every day for thirty days.

If you did that, pretty soon those things would no longer be outside your comfort zone. They would be well inside it.

You won’t have to rely on bullshit New Year’s resolutions. You won’t even have to make any this year. It’s never too late to turn your life around and make it everything you want it to be.

So how are you going to pull yourself out of YOUR comfort zone. I want to know.

But there’s something interesting that I want to bring up to everyone on the blog. As many of you know, I’m not really in to New Year’s resolutions – I think that they are a crock of shit. They are just a complete waste of time.

Everyone always makes 10 or 11 New Year’s resolutions – and of course they are going to be broken! You’re trying to do too many things. I bet most of you have already broke most of the resolutions and we are only 12 DAYS into the year!!

I was talking to some clients the other night and I told them that what I like to do is to choose a theme for the year. I know if I concentrate on a theme, I’ll make things happen. I’m going to start believing in that theme.

I remember one year – I think it was 2004 – my theme was patience and trusting the universe. I wanted to put my trust in the universe in everything I did. I wanted to allow things to happen on their own terms. I didn’t want to force anything.

When I was in the business world, when I would lose a client I would be totally bummed out. If I didn’t have a good month, I’d start stressing out, wondering if things would get better.

A wise friend of mine, told me I needed to start trusting the universe. If you trust the universe, everything that you want will manifest. Things will start to happen because you are no longer suffocating the energy. You aren’t putting too much pressure on things and you are allowing them to unfold in their own time.

Trusting the universe means having the abundance principle. If you embody the abundance principle, people will start becoming attracted to you and they will want to meet you or do business with you.

So in 2004 I worked on trusting the universe and being patient. Then, in 2005, after I learned how to be patient, I started working with the theme of abundance. I started working with the theme of abundance in every facet of my life.

And by the end of 2005, everything was abundant for me. Business was great, the people in my life were great – I had no complaints.

So what did I want to work on in 2006? In 2006, my theme of the year was living in the moment. I wanted to embrace and be present in every moment. I didn’t want to think about the future of everything; I just wanted to embrace every little moment of life.

I wanted to learn about the gift of life. I wanted to embrace it. I wanted to be present every moment and I didn’t want to have to think about what I had to do tomorrow or what tomorrow would bring. I didn’t want to think about the past either. I just wanted to be in that moment.

And by doing that, each moment that I was truly present helped create another moment that I could embrace. It’s all about living in the moment. It’s all about staying focused, positive and having abundance.

All of these themes work really well together as well. This is what you need to do: you need to choose themes for your life.

What was the theme I chose for 2007 and 2008? To continue to live the life that I love. I’m really living the life that I love every day. I want to thank myself every day for this amazing life. I want to thank the people that I work with every day for the amazing job that they’ve done. I want to thank all of the people in my life for what they offer.

It’s about being 100% in tune with what is going on in the world so that you are able to put all of these principles and themes together.

By now, the 12th of January 2009, you all know that you’ve totally screwed up your New Year’s resolutions because you chose too many things.

Start concentrating on one thing. Life is a marathon – it’s not a sprint. It is about being able to go the distance. If you can go the distance in life, you’ll be able to accomplish everything you hope to.

The problem is that many people try to master too many things at one time. Rather than concentrating on one thing, they try to learn too many small things at once.

If you are a fast learner, you could concentrate on having a new theme every month or every three months. But you need to do this work in order to have an amazing life and attract great people into it.

What is your them for the year?

Do you know what mine is?

I have a theme just for the day.

I want to break the record we set last week with 300 responses to last Mondays blog.

So start typing folks!!!