Life is only as powerful as your network. Without the right network, however, you may never get to where you desire to go and what you desire to become.

Let’s dive deeper into your life. In today’s podcast, I talk about how to create a successful plan for your
life – and not just for your dating life.

I also have special guest on in today’s podcast who talks about his network and how he “spread the love” to achieve greater success in his life.

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If this kind of plan sounds great to you, and you want to create your own personalized plan, then CLICK HERE if you are a man or CLICK HERE if you are a woman and I’ll tell you exactly how to do that step-by-step.

In order to become something in life, you need to learn something from everybody you meet. Everything in life that happens to you, happens to you for a reason.

This is not a revelation; it is all just plain truth. The real question, though, is what do you do with this? What do you take away from meeting each person with whom you come into contact?

Every day you should meet one more interesting person. Every day is a chance to learn. Every day you should be learning something about yourself and something about other people. Every day.

So you should be learning something every day, but you should also be teaching something every day. You should do this because while we are all students of life, we are also all teachers in life.

You are only as powerful as the people you meet and attract into your life. What do you do, though, if you don’t have a chance to meet a lot of people?

In that case, you need to set goals for yourself. The only way to go out there and meet people is to set a goal. Set goals like “I am going to carry on a conversation with three total strangers every single day.”

Understand that building your social network can also build your business network. It’s not just about attracting the opposite sex.

It’s also about becoming a stronger person. It’s about being somebody who has a powerful network.

So you must meet a lot of people in order to be successful. Just meeting a lot of people, however, is not enough. You also have to ask a lot of questions, learn from these experiences and embrace them.

In order to be the most well-rounded person you can be, you need to start building up your network. You’re only as successful as your network. If you crave success in life – no matter whether it’s monetary success, personal success, dating success or some other kind of success — you must cultivate that network and be able to really learn from everyone.

Don’t worry when you are in a situation in which people are talking about things you don’t know or about a subject you don’t know well. In those situations it is perfectly okay for you to just sit back and listen.

Say, for example, you are listening to a whole bunch of people talk about politics and you know very little about politics. Instead of trying to say something to add into the conversation, why not just kick back and listen for a minute or two . . . or even 20 or even 30?

History will always repeat itself. I guarantee you that down the road the same topic is going to come up in a conversation. Because you listened to those people and you became educated about that subject matter, you will be able to contribute to that conversation.

So, cultivate a powerful network in life. If you cultivate a powerful network, you are going to be a success in every aspect of your life.

Reach out to people. Send an email to someone you have always wanted to meet.

Is there someone that you want to mentor you? Send an email to them telling them how much you love their work, and that you would love to ask them some questions. You can also tell them that the number one question you have is, “What does it take to be as successful as you?”

Everyone loves to talk about themselves. People will share themselves with someone they know is interested, because everyone who is successful remembers that at some point in their life they had a mentor who helped them.

So it’s time to build up your network and become as successful as you want to be!

So I took her to the beach for a walk, and learned quickly that apparently Daphne had a belly ache. After she did her business, I put her back in the house and went out to run an errand.

When I returned I didn’t see anything out of the ordinary . . . at first. I went upstairs, checked my email and did a few things. Then I went downstairs and there was that “brown smell” on my white rug.

I have hard wood floors throughout my entire place with the exception of one small white rug. So why did she choose THAT spot? Did it resemble the beach to her? I mean, she lays on that rug all the time. It doesn’t make any sense.

Why when a dog has the runs or needs to vomit, do they seem to feel the need to find the most expensive rug you have on which to do it? It just goes to show you how wrong people are when they try and convince you how intelligent dogs are, cause if they were they would shit on the hardwood floor AND clean up after themselves.

Now onto a completely “non-shitty” topic. Do you know the 80/20 rule? In life, 20% of the people make all of the money, and the other 80% complain about not having it.

The old 80/20 rule really applies to your social life too. Think about it: 20% of the people that you meet are interesting, and the other 80% are boring as hell. You just don’t give a bleep about them.

Yet it seems like everyone still really wants to connect with 100% of the people that they meet. But you have to keep in mind that 80% of the people you meet you’re just not going to connect with.

So really, why do you give a fuck? There’s no reason to give a fuck. None. So just don’t!

That 80/20 rule works with pretty much everything in life!

There is something here that’s called “June Gloom.” No, it’s not a bunch of desperate guys from the desert wanting to meet hot girs from the beach. It’s cloud cover caused by the hot desert air meeting the cold ocean air.

So I’m driving around with a client who flew in from New York whom I told to come here to work with me so he could enjoy the nice weather, and it’s raining. The great thing for him is that he feels like he’s home in New York . . . with the exception of not traveling on the subway.

So to make him feel totally at home, everytime we are at an intersection I make it feel like a subway stop. “Approaching Montana Avenue. Please beware of the bad drivers (substituting that for a warning to beware of the closing doors). Beep!”

Now for today’s blog…which is about being with groups of people, but in a very different way than being crowded in with them on a New York subway.

The ultimate trick for networking is what I call “the group mentality” (as opposed to “the one-up”). If you want to make the most of your time and stay in touch with all of your friends, you need to learn about the group mentality.

Many of us make the mistake of hanging out with a just a few people we already know well. Perhaps we go out on a Sunday and spend the day with a few close friends.

We invest eight hours with three or four people. This really isn’t good time management.

Instead, you should be getting six to eight people together for a two-hour brunch. In that situation you will basically become the master of ceremonies and, as such, people will look to you as the group leader. If they see you in this light, they will always invite you to the functions that they have.

This is great for the person who wants to network. You will start to notice that you are beginning to get invited to a lot of different events. Everybody wants that person who put the group together at their event, because they know that when the party gets slow or calms down that the group will always gravitate toward you.

If you’re someone who wants to meet a lot of people — whether it’s for business, personal or dating purposes — then you need to start using the group mentality. If you’re just continuing to go out with one or two other people, you won’t be able to network effectively.

The key to life is to tap into other people’s networks. The easiest way to do that is through group meetings.

What is up with hotel beds? Can they be any more torturous?

I mean, you look forward to vacations more than anything, but yet when you come back you feel as stiff as the concrete in New York City. Do you think the people who work in hotels ever actually sleep in them?

So after I returned from New York, I had to go to the chiropractor for some snap, crackle and pop . . . which also makes no sense to me. If my body was out of place before I went there, how does it know when it’s in place? You guys can help me figure that out.

Now onto today’s topic.

So many of you have trouble remembering names, so when you start talking to someone you spend the whole time trying to remember their name instead of actually listening to what the person is saying.

The solution to this ongoing difficulty remembering names is often to refer to almost everyone as either “Yo” or “Hey Man.” The way this works is that when you see someone you know, but can’t remember their name, you can just refer to them as “Yo” or Hey Man.”

For instance, you see one of these people in a coffee shop. Even though you couldn’t remember that person’s name if your life depended on it, you can walk right up to them and say “Hey man! How have you been?”

Maybe you’re just walking down the street and you see someone you know but whose name is totally unknown to you. You can call out to them by saying “Yo!” Inevitably, that person (and probably five or six other people in their vicinity) will turn around.

Almost everyone responds to “Yo!” or “Hey Man!” You probably do too. So virtually everyone is “Yo” or “Hey Man.” So when you see another “Yo” or “Hey Man” the conversation will go something like this:

David: “Yo, what’s up?”
Yo: “Hey Man, good to see you!”

It’s true. Think about it. Whenever someone yells “Yo,” you turn around every time.

It’s just like in a relationship how all women are “Baby” or “Honey.” So you can go anywhere and call out “Honey!” and every woman will turn around.

So technically you can be at a party and have everyone introduce each other without ever knowing anyone’s name. “Hey Man, this is Honey.” Then she can say “Yo, it’s nice to meet you!”

Of course, this whole thing doesn’t really translate well to a woman to woman interaction. I mean, what are the women’s equivalents of “Yo” and “Hey Man?” “Hey Sweetie?” “Hey Woman?” Really, unless one of the women is wearing a wifebeater with beer and mustard stains on it, I don’t think calling out “Hey Woman!” is going to really work very well.

So as you can see, although “Yo” and “Hey Man” seem to solve the whole name remembering problem, there are still some complications. How do you tell the 400 “Yo’s” and the 300 “Hey Man’s” apart in your BlackBerry directory? I guess you could try to write something distinguishing about them in the “company” line of their contact page, but what do you do when one of them calls?

You must be VERY good at voice recognition to be able to know which “Hey Man” is calling. At least you know you can answer the phone “Hey Man, How are ya?” (at least until you figure out which one is on the phone).

Actually some of my best friends are named “Hey Man,” and I have a lot of “Yo’s” in my life. The great thing is that I have only one “Baby” . . . unless there’s some I don’t know about.

House-hunting is a great way to meet people. First of all, many single women buy houses. Secondly, many women like to decorate so they go house-hunting to get ideas for décor. When you go to an open house you will always find lots of women hanging around.

And we did. We walked towards the open house, and there was a woman on her way out. How did I open her? “Hey, how was it?”

She started telling me, and we were talking, and I began to ask her questions like, “so how long have you been looking for a house?” I was trying to find things out about her. And you could see her attraction starting to build as I lead the conversation.

And then we walked into the house. I’ve been looking for a new house for about a year, and the realtor looked really familiar. I asked him, “hey man, you seem really familiar, where was it that we’ve met?” He responded, “oh yeah, it was Granville.”

I don’t really remember it being Granville, so I played along for a bit, and then I did remember him. So we talked a little bit more.

And David, one of my clients, was wondering, oh man, why are we wasting time talking to this dude? The reason that you talk to the dude is this: you are building up your social network.

The biggest mistake that men make in situations like open houses and bars is that they just wait to talk to the hot woman. They have the opportunity to chat with this guy, and they don’t take it.

And then, a week later, they run into this guy again, and he’s out with three hot women. You could walk right up to him and say, “hey man, did that condo ever sell?” And then you are introduced to the women as a friend – as a safe person that has already been screened. You don’t have to worry about an opener or finding the right thing to say, because you’re being introduced!

That is the reason why I spent ten minutes talking to the realtor and not just waiting to speak to women that I’m attracted to. I now have a friend. You could see the way he responded to me.

Always give out your business card as well. Always give it to the brokers, and everyone. Why would you want to hand out business cards to brokers and other men? Because, once again, you are building your social network.

You are there, talking to someone, and you hand him your card. Later, the guy calls you to ask if you’re still looking for property and you tell him you’re not quite sure. Then he says, “look, I’m having a get-together at my house and a few other people will be there…” This is also a great way to get invited to parties!

You have to start thinking outside of the box, particularly if you’re playing for keeps – if you want to go out and meet spectacular people. If you just want to continue to meet average people, sure, keep going to the bars. But if you want to meet spectacular people, you have to think outside the box.

Todays video goes over the importance of this blog in greater detail.

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Not only that, but Verizon has the WORST rates when you travel internationally. When I’m traveling abroad, the last thing I want to do is roam on some ridiculous network when T-Mobile is worldwide.

But this blog is not about cell phone service – if it were, I would talk about the new, cool, exciting phones that have just come out and why I don’t have an iPhone. Do you know why I don’t use the iPhone? Because I can use my BlackBerry Pearl and type on it with one hand – I get 400 emails a day – and I can whip right through them.

If I had the iPhone, I’d have to dance around with my pointer finger and try to find everything. I like the fact that it has really fun little graphics, but I sit in front of my 24” Mac all day – I don’t need to be on the internet while I’m driving!

Then again, sitting in LA traffic is so bad, I could probably use the time to be on the internet, but I’d rather be cursing at the people in front and to the sides of me who are staring and almost running into me.

But this blog is neither about bad driving or the power of your cell phone network – or, as they say globally, your mobile.

This blog is about the power of your personal network.

Stop for a second and think about your network: who do you know? If an emergency came up, who do you know? Are there doctors in your network? Do you have doctors as friends that you can call up and get their medical opinion – without having to wait for an appointment?

Do you have a veterinarian friend that you can call up when there is something wrong with your dog? Someone you can trust? Someone who won’t charge you $80 a visit to find out that it was nothing but common diarrhea?

What about clothing and fashion? Do you know people that work in the stores you shop in? Do you know people that call you when something good comes in that would be perfect for you?

Do get deals? When you go out at night, do you get a free drink or appetizer because you are just a great person that connects with people? Do you know people in all different places?

How about when you go buy a car? Instead of getting red-penned to death by the salesclerk – going back and forth bargaining – can you walk into a car dealership and get a low, rock bottom price just because you know people there and you’re respected?

How big is your network?

What about when you go to the airport – they only have one seat left in first class and you’re out of certificates – but because you got friendly with the person behind the counter, they slide you into the seat with no questions asked (and no extra charges?)

What about when you check into a hotel that you’ve been to before? Do they remember you and upgrade you to a suite just because you remembered to ask about their dog or their cousin that was about to get married?

How big is your network? All of the time that you spend chasing the opposite sex – are you attracting people into the power of your network? Are you expanding your social circles?

Are you becoming a more powerful person, or are you just walking around trying to validate yourself by meeting people of the opposite sex?

My network is huge. I just had a question about this cyst that Daphne has, called three people up in a span of five minutes and got an answer – through my network.

Next time you have something going on, who are you going to call?

Instead of chasing the opposite sex, learn to attract the opposite sex and attract a more powerful network by being a more powerful person!

Todays video is all about how to overcome approach anxiety forever!!

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