So you can sell her the Cube Method or the “pick a number between one and ten” method or the ring finger method – or whatever bullshit it is – but the problem arises when you exchange phone numbers with her and have to take the next step.

From then on, she’s expecting Ring Finger Man and Cube Man to take her on a date, and then you show up!

Sure, women are looking for a bad boy. So I tell every good guy out there that if they want to learn how to be the bad boy, they have to learn how to kiss, learn foreplay, learn how to touch her, and when you have sex with her, you satisfy her better than anybody else ever has or will.

Most of these bad boys are pump and dumpers. All they want is another notch in their bedpost, and to get off. They are no different then masturbating monkeys at the zoo.

So if you want to go and connect with a woman, when you kiss her, you create so much sexual tension that she feels it. You learn how to do dirty text and how to talk to her on the phone. You learn how to seduce her mind.

And then when you have sex with her, you know how to have sex with her and give her orgasms – both clitoral and G-spot orgasms!

She will talk about you and say, “my boyfriend is the nicest guy, and I can’t stop cumming!”

Most guys that I know that are supposed ‘players’ are the worst in bed. I talk sex with them and they have no clue. They are total minutemen. They don’t even know what foreplay is!

So it doesn’t take a ridiculous persona – you don’t have to act like anything that you aren’t. You have to know that you can sexually please any woman. If you know that, you are a hundred steps more evolved than any bad boy.

The obvious thing is always the best thing to say. And you have to wait for it. I’m patient. Most men are very impatient, and then go into the situation thinking, how am I going to open up this woman? How do I get her to talk to me? Blah blah blah…”

Most guys think that, while I’m just thinking this: what is she doing? I ask myself that question all the time. What is she doing? What is she looking at? What is she doing? Think about that instead of what clever line to use to open her.

If she’s looking at a book, or reading through the pages, I think, okay, is there anything about this book that I can talk to her about? That’s what I ask myself.

Then I see the handwritten name of someone in the front of the book. I think to myself, what memory does that bring up for me? – because everything brings up a memory, and life is about connecting with people’s emotions. So, what memory did it bring up for me? It brought up the memory of my grandmother writing my name in my books when I was a child.

So all of a sudden, a situation starts to arise. What is that situation? The opener. I can go and talk to her and say, “oh my god, look at that. Do you want to know what the coolest thing about that book is? You get it with someone else’s name. Do you remember when you were a kid and your grandmother wrote in the front of your books?”

She’ll start laughing and say, “oh my god, you’re so right! Why did we write our names in the books? Were we actually going to lose them or take them somewhere?” and the conversation starts from there.

You don’t have to be funny. Just look for the obvious every time. If you calm yourself down, the obvious thing will always present itself.

Today’s video is live footage from a past bootcamp. We were at a farmers market and we went over how powerful it is to be direct.

Sometimes some people are just a bit too direct.

Off to London tomorrow for another great bootcamp!!!

And do you know what? I do believe that it is good for certain things. I believe that you can learn a foundation from some of the pick-up artists; I believe that some of the pick-up routines are actually great crutches – great ways for you to start learning how to communicate with women.

Hell, if you need a script to talk to a woman – that’s the only way you can start doing it – that’s great. But then all of a sudden you realize that you don’t really need the script anymore and you have become more confident, and you’re done. There’s a starting point for everybody.

But I still can’t stand the nicknames!

There is this one company out there who has a coach that they call “Natural.” His name is Natural something – I’m not going to mention his name because I don’t want to give them any press. I don’t want to give them any traffic from the site or anything. Instead of just calling him by his real name, his nickname is “Natural ______.” I’m not making this stuff up. He’s got videos on YouTube where he says, “hey everybody, this is Natural ______!”

If you’re so natural, then why are you calling yourself “Natural _____?” Why do you need to have a silly, stupid nickname?

Do you go up to women and say, “hello, my name is Natural _____, what’s your name?” “My name is Post-Menopause Jane!” “Really, well good to meet you, Post-Menopause Jane!” Why don’t we all walk around with names like this?

Tony back there should call himself “Copywriter Tony” or “Sales Copy Tony.” Rey can call himself “Surfer Rey” because he likes to surf. Khiem can say, “you know, I may be from Vietnam, but I’m really French, so you can call me French Vietnamese Khiem.”

Daphne doesn’t ever bark, so she could be “Barkless Daphne.” I could be… well I just would like to call myself my own name! How about “Grandpa Wygant” as they all call me, because I’m older than them.

Or the other day, I was on American Airlines and I met the pilot, whose name was Tom. But I could have called him “Pilot Tom.” “Hey Pilot Tom, how are you doing today?” Or the girl that served me coffee at Starbucks the other day, I should have called her “Starbucks Amy” – well I probably would have done that, because it’s a nickname and she was cute.

But I still don’t understand why these pick-up guys call themselves natural but they still have made-up names. Why do they have to make up their names? Why can’t they stand behind who they are as men – why do they have to make up such silly nicknames all of the time?

Now I’ve been told by some of them that the reason why they make up nicknames is that when they meet a woman, they don’t want her to know what they do for a living. You know what? I’m proud of what I do. When I meet a woman, I tell her exactly what I do: “I teach men how to be men and I teach women how to attract the man that they want.”

I’m proud of that. I’m proud of the work that I do, I’m proud of my clients, and I’m proud of my life. But why are these people hiding? They don’t want women to know that they are actually being manipulated through sleazy pick-up techniques? They don’t want women to know that they are “The Phantom?” Or “Natural Joe,” or whatever the stupid nickname might be?

Once again, this is an open letter to the PUA community: grow up! Start calling yourselves by who you are, and brand yourself. I am so sick of all of the nicknames. It’s just so silly. You’re just a bunch of boys running around.

Why don’t you come to one of my bootcamps and learn how to become a real man?!?

Todays free podcast is all about how to be that man. No pick up lines knicknames or any other crutch.

In this interview I go over how to follow up after you meet a woman.

Enjoy and have a great Thursday.

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