When I sat down to write my new book, Naked, I realized that I was writing to a very diverse audience. Some of you live on the coast, some of you live in the middle of the country. Some of you live in Europe, some of you live in Japan. But all of us have very different lives and we have different choices to make every single day on how we’re going to live our lives.

Some of us love consistency, like waking up at the crack of dawn everyday. We like to have the same exact food every single morning. Or going for the same walk, and then we take our nap at the same exact time every day. At night we like to go to bed at the same time after we watch our favorite Sesame Street or Sponge Bob show.

And then, some of you thrive on inconsistency. You prefer to go with the flow, or with how you’re feeling in the moment.

You’ve got to realize what your consistencies and your inconsistencies are because you’ll need to find somebody that will be able to embrace the way in which you choose to live your life. If you’re someone who consistently lives your life by a schedule, then you can’t be with somebody like me who loves inconsistency.

I like to wake up at different times every single day. I like to start my day off differently every single day. I don’t really enjoy my life when it’s the same every single day. I don’t like to go on the same vacations at the same time each year. I like to go for a beach vacation one month and then, six months later, go on a city vacation.

And when I sat down to write Naked I realized that there’s no way in the world that people will ever be able to meet their perfect match if they don’t know about their consistencies and inconsistencies. There’s no way in the world they’ll be able to do it or figure it out. Because what happens in life and who you meet is a reflection of how you conduct your life.

So let’s think today. Are you a consistent person or an inconsistent person? When it comes down to all your mannerisms in life, do you fully embrace and love every single one of them? Are there things that you would like to change? It is very important.

Before you go and go out and date people, figure out who you are first; that’s what’s really important.

And I also want you to buy my book Naked on Amazon and write a review when you’re done. That’s super important too.

I remember when I was 19 and a sophomore at American University, I got broken up with by my high school girlfriend for the third time. (Thanks, Chris, for breaking my heart three times—now I know why I’m such a cold person. …Just kidding.) But anyway, my heart was broken. And I remember going to American University and thinking to myself, “You know, I want an abundance of girls I can date. I want to be able to meet girls whenever I want. I want people to know me for the person that I always dreamt myself to be.”

You know that superhero version of ourselves that we have in our heads? That incredible, awesome version of you that goes on all the adventures and saves the world? Well, we get so caught up in that superhero version of ourselves, but we don’t really know how to execute it. But here’s the deal: every day when we wake up, we’re naked. We are raw and vulnerable to the world. But then we put on this shell and our shell is all of our past experiences of failure and people that hurt us. But it doesn’t have to be this way.

When I went to college my sophomore year, I decided that I was going to become the person I always dreamt of because nobody knew who I was. I was able to portray the most confident version of myself because that is all they knew. They didn’t know about my past failures, they didn’t know anything about my past.

That’s how the world looks at you every single day. That girl that you are looking at in the corner at the grocery store, she has no idea that you are insecure. She has no idea that you have approach anxiety. The girl that you are checking out in the line at Starbucks has no idea about your approach anxiety or about any of your fears. It is about really becoming naked, open and vulnerable every single day.

For all of you that haven’t heard yet, I have got a brand new book out called Naked. Naked is all about stripping down all of your fears and all of your insecurities and allowing the world to see the amazing superhero version of yourself. It’s only $10 and it’s something that I think all of you need to grab because it’s a wonderful starting point for the new you.

When my publisher asked me when I wanted the book to come out, I said I wanted it to come out in the beginning of the year, so that everybody who is working on their resolutions and their new self will actually have something to work with. Naked is full of exercises. It’s a step-by-step guide to becoming totally raw, open, and vulnerable and so that you can go after what you want, not only in dating, but also in life.

They had good pedigree. They were successful and age appropriate. They were good-looking. They followed up with phone calls. Then all of a sudden—poof—they just vanished.

You’re in shock. You can’t believe that this one went away. You felt like it was the perfect kind of a relationship. You really felt like you were ready for it. You really needed this relationship because you were so tired of dating. You were tired of putting yourself online and having nothing happen. You were tired of going to the parties and heading out to the same bars and restaurants. You felt like this was the one.

Here’s the deal: everything that you’ve ever known about dating is wrong. During those three weeks you never kept a dating journal. See, Mr. and Mrs. Perfect do not exist. What we do when we date is we get caught up in what I call the oxytocin moment. We get caught up in this wave of emotion, like a drug is released in our bodies.

It feels so good to be rescued from being single. But in reality, the warning signs are there from the beginning. I tell everybody in my very new book, Naked, to keep a dating journal, and write down how you feel at the end of each date. How does this person make you feel? Do you feel desired? Do you feel excited? Take it even deeper. Do you keep a journal where you know exactly the way you need to feel in a relationship?

My new book Naked goes really deep into dating. It gets you to fall in love with the most important person in your life: you. Because when it comes down to dating, most of us date based on needs. I need to have a relationship. I need to no longer be single. I need to find somebody different because the last person didn’t treat me well.

What Naked does is it takes everything down to the root and allows you to forgive everything that’s gone on in your life and allows you to embrace all the lessons you’ve learned. But more importantly, it gets you to fall in love with who you are as a person. It allows you to realize that you’re an amazing catch.

Naked is almost 200 pages of daily exercises that help you no longer date out of need, out of frustration, or out of desperation. When it comes to love, in order to find someone to love you the way you need to be loved, you need to love yourself first. You need to take yourself out on dates. You need to do things for yourself. You need to feel amazing and wonderful and you need to strip yourself down of all your fears and become naked. You need to forget about past failures and learn from them.

But more importantly, you need to know exactly what you want going into that date, emotionally. Because when it comes down to dating, all it is is based on feelings. How did you feel at the end of a date? Most of us have never asked that question, because we always date based on wants, needs, and desires.

It’s time to change the way you date. It’s time to get naked.

They’ll walk around and go, “cracker, cracker, cracker”. Whenever they’re learning arithmetic, they’re always counting, “one, two, three, four, five”. Whenever they’re learning the ABC’s, they’re always singing the ABC’s. Kids do this throughout their entire life in order to learn so that they may act subconsciously and naturally after that.

How come, as an adult, we stop doing it that way? Even though, as an adult, we tend to act like children—we really do.  We complain like a toddler.  We basically sit there and whine.

“Ah man, I went out and approached some women today and it just didn’t work. I’m never doing this again!”

We literally act like children when it comes to dealing with our relationships, and I don’t mean that in a positive way. We act like the two-year-old toddler that we just don’t want to deal with anymore.

Life is repetition. Life is all about repetition. There are no if’s, and’s, or but’s about it. You can recreate yourself in so many different ways, but you’ll need to apply that same childlike obsession in order to do it.

I want you to check out today’s video. It’s all about how you can literally recreate yourself like artwork on a wall.

I’ve also got a new book out called Naked. It’s a passion project of mine. It’s about really recreating yourself everyday and formulating new habits, so you’re able to become 100% open, raw and vulnerable and not care about what anyone else thinks.

If you search the Internet you’ll always find an answer. There will always be somebody that will tell you that you can get your ex back, or they’ll tell you that you weren’t energetically aligned, or that your astrological signs didn’t match, or whatever. We’re always trying to find out why something didn’t work out. We need to find out.

Well here’s the deal: instead of looking at why it didn’t work out, ask yourself what you really need to experience that you were afraid of. Let’s go even deeper into this. What do you need to experience based on the experiences that you had with this person? Why do you keep attracting the same type of person in your life, and why are you so afraid to experience what you really desire? Why are you so afraid of become raw, open and vulnerable?

It’s really time to get Naked. I was told—by some great philosopher no doubt—that the question “why?” is one of the worst questions you can ask. “Why?” can almost never be answered alone, in your head—especially if it involves someone else. “How?” is a much better question. It’s more empowering. Instead of “why did they do that to me?” you could ask “how can I grow from this experience?”

We always try to figure out why something didn’t work out. But in reality, there’s a great message as to why it didn’t work out that can’t be rationalized by numerology or anything else. It’s a message that presents itself over and over again with a lot of our lovers and a lot of our relationships.

And until we figure out what that message is, we never move forward and experience what we really need to experience.  And that is where you need to look within.  Because looking deep within is going to enable you to really process it, in a way that you’ll grow instead of just saying it didn’t work out, because you weren’t “energetically aligned”.

We went to this really cool place in downtown LA. It was this hip, trendy little restaurant. I don’t remember the name of it but I really enjoyed it. Great food, small plates.

The waiter was gay, and he really could care less about us because we were three dudes sitting there, all good-looking guys, and we gave him no vibes whatsoever. And he started acting like a typical guy would act if he’s not get any feedback from a woman.

When the meal was over, instead of being friendly and coming over to chat with us, he dropped the check, turned around and quickly ran away from us. And then when he brought the check back for us to sign he quickly dropped it and ran away from us again.

He’s no different than a dude that goes up to a group of women that are not attracted to him. When he gets no love whatsoever, he immediately becomes snooty and snotty instead of just being friendly.

Let me tell you something: if you’re not getting the reaction you want from somebody—take control. You’re the one that needs to be the leader. You’re the one that needs to decide what dynamic you want in your life, not the other people sitting there. You don’t want to give your power away.

The waiter basically gave his power away to us the second we were not chatty with him, when he could’ve been chatty with us. He could’ve been more fun. He could’ve really enjoyed himself a little bit more.

And it’s funny, our waiter also reminds me of a woman who’s not getting enough attention. It’s like when guys hit on a group of women at a bar and one of the women is not getting enough attention and she just wants to ruin the night for everybody.

She doesn’t want to to deal with any of the people there whatsoever because she’s not getting enough attention. She doesn’t care if her friend hasn’t had sex in six months. She doesn’t care if her friend is having a great, engaging conversation with an attractive dude.

She could care less because she’s not getting enough attention and her energy changes right away. Her energy totally becomes this heavy, frustrating energy and what happens? She becomes the energy ruiner.

Here’s the deal: you’re the leader. You decide how your night’s going to be. Either you’re going to be somebody who’s friendly, engaging and true to yourself, or you’re going to be like our little gay waiter and that woman being ignored. It’s funny how life is sometimes. Your choice. 

Remember when we were little kids, we used to always say “I’ll be your best friend if…”? I was thinking about that the other day and how funny that is. I used to say that all the time to people.

“Hey look, man, if you come over to John’s house today—because I don’t want to play with him alone—I’ll be your best friend.”

Or “Hey, if you pick me up from school later on, I’ll be your best friend.” I was thinking about all those deals I made, and, I’ve got a lot of best friends!

So here’s the deal I’m going to make with all of you: I’ve got a brand new book coming out called Naked. It’s incredible. It teaches you how to be nude—alright, maybe not nude, but it teaches you how to get past all of your fears, get rid of all your negative thinking, and really, really reformulate your belief systems.

In all my years of coaching people, what I’ve realized the most is that if you don’t believe you can do it, then you’ll never do it. It doesn’t matter what you study. It doesn’t matter what you learn. It doesn’t matter what approaches you make. If you really don’t believe in yourself, if you really don’t believe that you have the gift, that you’re an amazing person and somebody that’s worth dating, then you’re dating all wrong.

So I’ll be your best friend if you go and purchase my book. Because here’s the deal: I don’t ask any of you for much. As you know, I post on this blog every single day, FREE, whether you buy products or not. I post videos up on Youtube for FREE, whether you buy products or not. I enjoy that. I enjoy giving away videos and giving away things and podcasts, so all of you have a much better dating life.

But this time I’m going to ask something of you. I want my book to become the number one best seller on Amazon. The only way to do that is if you get everybody, including yourself, to buy it. It’s $10 on Amazon. That’s all. And if you do buy the book, Naked, you know what that means? It means that I’m going to be your best friend. That’s what it means.

The book is phenomenal. It really is 15 years of my coaching put into one book. It really is everything that I had gone through in my own personal life and how I got emotionally naked and was able to acquire the friends and the relationships that I desire.

So, purchase the book. And, in order for us to be BFLs—that’s best friends for life—I want you to leave a review on Amazon when you’re done reading it. Then, when anybody asks you, “Hey, who’s your best friend?,” you can respond with, “David Wygant: he’s my best friend because I bought his book, Naked.”

To grab your copy of Naked Click Here

On the internet, the majority of people are ‘athletic and toned,’ yet we live in a country where most people don’t work out.

It seems like the internet is always bucking all trends. There’s a ton of women on the internet that are 39 years old but yet there are no women that are 40 or 41. It seems like everyone wants to remain 39, 29, 49 – no one wants to cross over to the 4-0, 3-0, or 5-0!

Internet dating is really interesting because to succeed there, you should really put up an array of photos of yourself. The fact is that you look exactly the way you do. There’s no denying that. You can’t just check a box that says ‘athletic and toned’ when you’re not, because eventually you’ll have to show up on the date and the other person is going to see that you’ve never worked out.

You’re not going to be able to convince them – you won’t become a date salesman who sits there and convinces someone to like the body type they don’t like, or to become attracted to you when they aren’t.

So the best thing to do is to put up five pictures of yourself: three body shots (I’m not talking naked ones, or bikini shots, or muscle shots for guys) but three shots where you are standing head to toe. Three current shots that show exactly what you look like today, so there are no surprises.

The reason that most dates don’t work out is because the person was afraid to put up a picture because they didn’t like the way their body looked. They then go on the date, the other person isn’t attracted to them, and they don’t call them back. You can eliminate that step – why go out on so many first dates when you are misrepresenting yourself?

The fact is that you should be proud of who you are. Your body is your body. It’s exactly what it’s going to be, and you shouldn’t compare it to anybody else. You need to embrace it. So put yourself up there on the net, be who you are, and don’t try to sell yourself like a used car!

It’s funny, when I look for used cars, I’m always weary of the car that only has one picture up of it. Doesn’t she want to seduce me? Doesn’t she want me to take her for a test drive? Shouldn’t I see the wheels and the shiny inside? Shouldn’t I see the leather interior? I hate looking at a used car that the owner says is in absolutely perfect condition, and there are rips on the leather seats. You don’t want to be the car that has the rips on the leather seats.

You want to show everyone who you are. Get a friend, take a few pictures, smile, and be proud of who you are.

You know what? In the long run, you’re going to attract a lot more people doing it this way, and you won’t have to worry about what body type box you need to check off. If they see you, they’ll know what type of body you have!