If you missed all the fun check it out right here before you read today’s post.

Anyway Eric from the blog posed this question to me and I thought it would be great to post.

David,

You’re a good guy and I generally like you’re advice, but I just wanted to point out something that I think got lost in that little tug of war above (who I’m guessing won’t be allowed back). I’ll make my point and hope you consider it.

I really hope that you and your coaches take that particular opener out of your repertoire. I did pretty much the exact same thing, except with a more detailed critique and the girls loved it and we talked…. but later at the club I felt kind of guilty about it. The dudes were actually nice guys and I felt like I got an advantage at their expense. When you go with an opener like that (although may not have been intended), it’s essentially making fun of those guys and their ineptness. Considering most of your clients and readership would be at those guys skill level or worse…there are so many other openers to go with.

Eric

I Want My Mommy

I posted a response to Eric in yesterdays blog and when I was done I realized this would make a great blog today.

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Eric

Everyone is allowed back on the blog.
I enjoy a great debate and the blog has been set up so everyone can voice their opinions.
I welcome Bob back.

You felt guilty because they were good guys and you now want to stop using that approach.
How about if you shared that approach with the guys so they could learn how to do it the right way.
How about telling them what you did and actually help them out so they can have more fun, and not get frustrated by the end of the night. That is essentially what I do everyday with all of my coaching clients. I get them to man up and learn from their mistakes.

What you just did was mother them.

You wanted to protect them so they they would not be taken advantage of. Can you imagine when guys come to me for coaching, instead of just working with them and helping them through their mistakes, I gave them a huge hug and protected them from the evil world of meeting women. I would basically not be doing my job. The whole point of what we are doing here is to learn and become comfortable in all social settings.

So with your mindset why don’t we make a list of all the potential openers that guys are afraid to use.
That we way we may be left with a few that everyone feels ok about.

Have you bought any of my products?
You are aware that everything I teach is based on natural observations, that way the conversation just flows.

I also teach every man to learn from their mistakes and most important have fun when they go out. What I love most about what I do is getting a man or woman to see past their fears and have that break through that has eluded them for years.
Life is all about having fun and not taking this so seriously.
This is all about growing and learning from each other.
This is not settling world peace.
It is all about going out on a weekend night and having great conversations with total strangers. That is what life is all about and everyone needs to get out of their heads and into the game called life.

You sound like a nice guy but the guilty feeling you had after is sweet, but why do you want to be their mothers?

And how do the rest of you feel about this and yesterdays post?

Last night was my other house guest, Cammie’s, last night in town. So as a final treat, we all went to see the show. The “we” were Me, Cammie, Sonja and Mama.

Hearing Sonja call her mother “Mama” the whole time she’s been here raised a funny thing with us. While Sonja, who is from the south, has always called her mother “Mama,” my brother and I who hail from New York have always called our mother “Mommy.”

So Mama was never a Mommy, and Mommy was never a Mama. Funny, all the southern women seemed okay with me calling it “mommy bootcamp” the other day. Must be some kind of north/south/confederate thing.

I don’t know though. Kristen is from the Midwest and tells me that they all just call their mothers “Mom.” Maybe that’s why we fought the Civil War, so we could divide the terms “mommy,” “mama” and “mom.”

By the way, Dirty Dancing was fun, long and had lots of music. It was a lot like the movie . . . and twenty years later Baby is still not in a corner.

On our way home, though, something happened. It all stems from an 82 year old man getting insanely jealous. Yes, Mama’s husband George we discovered had called her about seventeen times while we were in the play.

George in fact has been calling incessantly all week. He is convinced that Mama had been gallivanting all over Los Angeles for the last week while he’s been paying for it.

Now Mama tried to call him during intermission, but George either fell asleep for a few minutes or couldn’t get to the phone. So we get out of the show at about 9:45 pm PST (which is 12:45 am Arkansas/Louisiana time).

In the car coming home, Mama then calls George who at first feigned being asleep but then called back a few minutes later. All we hear is Mama screaming, and then we hear her yell “Bullshit!” sApparently George was still under the impression that Mama has been gallivanting all over Los Angeles on his dime and she repeated what he said to her on the phone: bullshit!

Now Mama never swears. Mommy, on the other hand, has a mouth like a truck driver. That’s probably another reason we fought the Civil War – cause northern mothers swear and southern mothers don’t.

Needless to say jealous men come in all ages. So if a man ever wrongly thinks you have been gallivanting around town, all you need to remember to say to him is “Bullshit!” No one puts Baby in a corner.

For the last week, I’ve had to keep myself from swearing while Mama has been staying with us. I guess now that I heard Mama say bullshit, it’s all fair game!

During what should have been a 30 minute ride to the show last night which actually took an hour and forty minutes, Mama suggested that I get an old Dodge like she used to have so I can ram people. You know what though? If I did, then too many people would be saying “bullshit!”