How do you like somebody that you’ve never spoken to before? That’s the most ridiculous concept in the entire world, and it’s something that everybody needs to get over. You like somebody? You like the way they look – let’s break it down into what it really is.

You see someone that is physically appealing to you, so you look at them from across the room and the first thing that triggers in your mind – the only thing that should trigger in your mind – is that you like the way they look. That’s it.

You don’t like them; you don’t even know what they’re about. The woman or man that you’re looking at could have a big huge piece of broccoli between their teeth, a booger hanging out of their nose, or breath that would absolutely rival your dog’s on his worst day.

But yet you’ve built them up as this incredible fantasy before you even talk to them. You build them up as something – maybe they are the person that is going to rescue you from your single hell. You hope that this is the last person that you ever need to talk to again, because you are just so sick and tired of being single.

But the bottom line is that the stranger that you’re looking at – is just that: a stranger, the physical image of who they are. It might as well be just a photograph. If you start manufacturing this entire fantasy about who they are, you’re not even notice anything about what they might be doing.

You’re not noticing what they are doing, you’re not noticing their body language, and you’re not noticing any emotions that may be on their face. You’re noticing absolutely nothing. Nothing. Because you’re lost in fantasyland, in la la land, and you’re creating this whole fantasy.

So now everybody in fantasyland starts thinking about what to say. What do I say to this incredible person that I like and want to meet so badly? You don’t like them! You like the way they look!

So what you need to do is realize that until you speak to a person, you have no idea what they are about. If you think about it – 90% of people that you spoke to in your life you had no chemistry with. That’s right – nine out of ten people that you don’t really have much chemistry with. And that’s fine – at least you went over there and talked to them.

The only way to figure out if you like them is to go over and talk to them. Talk to them like they are a person – which is exactly what they are. Don’t treat them any differently, talk to them exactly how they are.

Last night, we were in a bar and we were all out. I looked at my client and I said to him, “there’s a woman, why don’t you just go walk over and talk to her?” “Now?” he asked, and I responded, “no, why don’t you wait until you get hammered and shitfaced drunk? And then, when she’s sitting down at a table, you can beat yourself up because you didn’t go talk to her all night long.”

“Yes, NOW!” “But she’s cute!” he said, and I responded, “it doesn’t matter! Walk the hell over there and find out what she’s all about!” And he did, and they talked for 20 minutes and had a great conversation. Do you know what he found out? That she was a nice woman.

That’s what you need to do. If you see someone that you are attracted to, you don’t like them. You just like the way that they look. They are physically appealing to your eyes, and that’s about it.

So your mindset needs to be whatever it might be to get you to walk over there. You can use any type of mindset tricks. You can think to yourself, man, I’m going to go over there and talk to that person and see if they have as bad of breath as I think they do. Anything to get you laughing and smiling.

All you guys know the women masturbation fantasy, and if you haven’t heard about it, I go into unbelievable detail in the Mastery Series, where I give you an exercise to picture a woman full-blown masturbating about you – then you’ll have that devilish little smile when you approach her.

For all the women – you know exactly what I’m talking about – I give you the Scooby Doo fantasy – because men are just drippers and droolers and giant Scooby Doos – all of that is in my Women’s Mastery Series.

I don’t want to get into those visuals right now – if you haven’t purchased the Mastery Series, I suggest that you do. At this point, it will really teach you how to understand the mindset of the opposite sex.

But let’s go further into this right now: you don’t know this person yet. Walk the hell over there and talk to them. Start a conversation, as I always talk about, based on observations and everything else.

You know what? You might find out that this dream person is actually the worst nightmare in the entire world. She might be whipping out pictures of her mother and her father and her three illegitimate children running around the hills of western Kentucky.

You don’t know what the hell she’s all about. So go talk to her, and stay out of fantasyland – stay in reality.

Lets go even deeper into attraction today.

It’s interesting, because a lot of men – and I’m talking about MEN, I’m not talking about boys. As little boys, we used to look at girls and we used to rate them on a number system.

I remember being like 11 years old, and we’d look at women – well, at that time, girls – and go, “man, she’s cute, what would you rate her?” “Oh, she’s like a 6.8,” or “she’s like a 7.5.”

The problem is that any man over the age of, really, 22 should no longer be rating women on a number scale. The number system is just really ridiculous. Why are you rating a woman on a number? Really, it’s arbitrary anyway, because my 10 could be your 3. Your 3 could be my 7, your 6 could be my 6.18, and your 2.87 could be my 3.14 – wait, isn’t that Pi?

Anyway, I really think it’s time that men stop rating women on the number scale, and started evaluating women on a whole new system.

I am going to explain this whole new system. This new system is so revolutionary, guys, that women are not going to look at you as man-boys anymore. Women hear you say that stuff. I’ve seen guys out in a bar, and they look at a woman and they…

Come on man, wake up! It’s unbelievable. We’re doing this blog as we drive, and if any of you have not driven in Los Angeles, the horn in LA is called the ‘wake the fuck up’ device. People love to just sit at that light. There’s not much to do at a light. You have two things to do: you stop and you stare at the light, and when it turns green, you go.

But in LA, it’s amazing how many times the light turns green, and they just sit there. Being a New Yorker, I’m going to use the horn, because I love that horn. And in Los Angeles, by the way, too, the directional blinker is optional equipment, because no one ever signals here. So you can save a thousand bucks off your car.

But let’s get back to that number system. So I was in a bar one night, and these guys were standing there and rating women, and women were hearing them. “Oh man, she’s a 6.” And that’s really classless. You’re 40 years old, and you’re rating women on a scale from one to ten? You sound like an immature child!

So how would you like a covert system where you actually can go and meet a woman, and afterwards you can say words that women will hear over and over again, but will have absolutely no idea what you’re talking about? Hell, you can rate these women right in front of their faces and they’ll have no idea what you are talking about!

It’s time to grow up, and it’s time to use the new system of rating people. I’m not talking about the Nielsen ratings, I’m not talking about the Arbitron ratings for radio; I’m talking about the new system here that Khiem is so proud of that he’s thinking of patenting it.

And he hasn’t even thought it up – it isn’t even his. But he’s going to share something with you guys that you need to learn. It’s called, for you technical guys, YMN.

Khiem: Thank you, David. You’re right, you shouldn’t rate women on a scale, because truthfully, at what number is a woman attractive to you? A 6? Above a 5? How about you simplify it to yes, no, and maybe.

Let’s be honest: would you want her? Yes or no. And if you’re not sure, then maybe. Maybe can be a lot of things. Maybe could be if she has a good personality, and you just might want to do her. But if she’s really bad, then she falls quickly into the no category.

Let’s be honest here. You’re a man, and you meet a woman. We’ll put you one-on-one in a room, and assuming that there are no distractions, how much do you desire her?

It’s so much simpler. And even when you wink at each other in the bar or wherever you are, she’s like, yeah – okay, I don’t even know what you mean, David, I can see it in your eyes!

David: It’s a yes or a no!

Khiem: It’s a yes or a no, there’s no ifs ands or buts about it. It’s just yes or no. Once in a while, you’ll get the occasional maybe, and that’s why you go up and talk to her. When you’re not sure, go find out! Go find out and be curious about her.

And then you can come home and say, “you know guys, I saw a yes girl,” or “no way, I saw a no girl.” And it’s so much easier.

It doesn’t matter what your guys tell you – it’s all up to you. Either you like her or you don’t.

David: Not only that, but think about this: you might run into a woman in the street, and you might see her walking to Whole Foods, and she might actually work in Whole Foods, or whatever, and she’s a maybe. You’re not quite sure about her yet. Guess what? You met a maybe! That means you can go back in there and meet her again. She might turn into a yes; she might turn into a no.

I’ve had maybes that have turned into yeses, and I’ve had maybes that have turned into nos. Hell, I’ve had some maybes that have turned into long-term relationships! I wasn’t quite sure about her the very first time I met her. I wasn’t quite sure about her personality, and who she was. And I learned more about her the second time around.

So expand your horizons! Become a yes-no-maybe man. Lay off the number system. Numbers are great – on a calendar. Numbers are great on a phone. Let’s look at my car right now – it is 68°. Does that mean that the women around us are all 6.8s?

So let’s lay off the number system, guys, and let’s go to yes, no, and maybe. It’s going to make you sound a hell of a lot more mature in life. Really, the fact of the matter is that these numbers are just validating you anyway. Every guy wants to be with that “perfect 10.”

Really, the perfect 10 comes from inside out. And the perfect 10 is very different for each guy. You don’t need to tell your friends that she’s a 10, you don’t need to high-five, your friends don’t need to validate you; you need to validate yourself!

Go after what you want with a vengeance. If it’s a yes, go after her and ask her out! If it’s a no, then be nice to her because she may lead you to a bunch of yeses.

But, once again, be open to everything.

Alright, that’s it. I’m sitting at a green light right now, and I’m the lead car. In Los Angeles, it’s really important to be the lead car. If you’re the lead car, you don’t have to use the ‘wake the fuck up’ device. If you’re the lead car, the only you have to do is make sure that the person next to you doesn’t weave into your lane – they tend to be lane weavers here too.

Do you have lane weavers in your town?

But speaking of mixtures, life is a mixture. It’s really funny, because we all have this ideal. If you think about it, men have been masturbating to Maxim magazine models, Playboy centerfolds, Penthouse centerfolds since they were little boys and realized that something neat and fun actually comes out of their own dick and makes them feel good!

So if you think about it, men have been fantasizing about these women for most of their lives. Now what have women been doing? They don’t have a dick, but they do masturbate, as we all know. Women have been fantasizing about that 6’2” guy – the one from the Bride magazines, Sean Connery playing leading man roles, George Clooney, Brad Pitt.

That’s who they fantasize about – they fantasize about that tall, dark, and handsome man – how many times have you heard that? Tall, dark, and handsome.

Sex and the City even had an episode of tall, dark, and handsome. Mr. Big was what? Tall, dark, and handsome.

If you go on the internet, everybody has their ideal person there. Every woman wants a guy over 6’ tall, and every guy wants a woman who is fit and athletic.

The problem is that the world is not 6” tall and in great shape. And most women are not skinny and petite!

So you need to embrace your body – you need to look at your body, and you need to look at who you are, and you need to become the most powerful you within your own body. The fact is that if you’re a guy that’s 5’6”, and if you project your attitude, you project your voice, and you project confidence, a woman is going to see you as 6’ tall.

Maybe you’re not the ideal guy. But you are the ideal man. Think about it: she’s got some fantasy guy in her head, and you walk over to her, and what happens is that most women spend their entire lives wanting to get swept off of their feet. Mr. Tall, Dark, and Handsome hasn’t swept them off of their feet yet, but if Mr. 5’6” with a killer personality and great confidence walks over and claims her – claims her like the woman she is, makes her feel sexy, makes her feel wanted and desired – all of a sudden she can be yours.

If you look at all of the women in the world, not every woman is dating tall, dark, and handsome men. Most of them are dating just average guys who had the confidence and the balls to approach her, and the confidence and balls to really go over there and talk.

When it comes down to men, all of us are not going to be dating Maxim magazine models. It’s just not going to happen. It sounds great in theory. If there was a factory somewhere abroad that FedEx shipped them over by the dozens – absolutely gorgeous women all of the time – that’d be great.

But the fact is that you have to embrace who you are every single day, and become the most powerful version of yourself. If you’re not the most powerful version of yourself, you won’t be able to sweep anybody off of their feet.

Forget about the fantasy. All of the women on the internet – all of you that are so narrow minded and you bitch and complain that men are narrow minded – women are so narrow minded on the internet it’s incredible. All they talk about is wanting this perfect guy.

Just the other day I was reading this internet profile from a woman who was 39 years old. 39! She wants three kids, and the guy has to be aged 36 to 39. Hello? Can we say, fantasy?

Now let’s talk about reality. Reality in this situation is the she’s probably not going to get that. She’s probably going to get something else, and you have to realize that what you’re about, and what you project is what you will attract.

So if you are narrow minded in your search, and you’re not open to things, you will never be able to meet somebody who will blow you away.

Lets talk about how to get out of your head. Do you worry about every little thing and what others think of you?

Todays video will break you out of your fears forever.

In order to become more observant, your mindset needs to be this: everything you see you need to look at with a child-like curiosity. Look at everything like you’ve never seen it before.

The way you need to live life is to walk through a neighborhood every single day like you’ve never been there before. Every day you walk through that neighborhood, notice new things. Notice new buildings. Notice the color of the sky. Notice the new trees in springtime. Notice the new buds coming up. Notice everything you can possibly notice.

What happens is that this is tuning you to your environment. You can even do this on your way to work. If you walk to work, you can do this then. You can notice the cars, notice the way people walk, notice the way people are dressed. What happens is that you start training your mind.

What comes next is going into stores: let’s say you go into a Starbucks and you see someone you are attracted to. Have that same child-like curiosity. There’s someone standing next to you that you’re attracted to and you want to talk to them. You can look at the big menu board up there, the caramel machi-frattos and all that other junk, and you stand there and it’s called ‘throwing words to the wind.’ You project your voice so that the other person can hear it.

You never want to speak low or softly; you want to project your voice. When you project your voice, you can basically look up, throw those words out, and say, “god I was wondering, what’s good here?”

Immediately the person standing next to you will answer – everybody likes to pretend that they know it all. So she’ll answer, and there’s a conversation starter for you.

Everywhere you go, you can use the “I am wondering” or “I’m curious” method of reading people.

Let’s say you’re at a gas station, and you’re pumping gas into your car. Someone is standing next to you, and they’ve got this great Audi. “I’m curious, do you like your car? I was thinking of maybe getting one of those one day.” Whether or not you just bought your car or you didn’t – it doesn’t matter, you can still say that.

So be curious about everything. If you go to the Apple store – which is a place that a lot of people go – you’re looking at the iPods. You pick up the 70 GB iPod and say, “god, I’m wondering: do you think anybody ever fills up this thing with music?” The person will answer, “well, yeah, I have all this music…”

The most important thing you need to do is to look at everything in the world just like a child. You have the wonderment of a child, and you look at the world as if it was the first time you’ve ever been there.
Become and embrace that inner child.

Todays video is all about how to embrace who you are. How to love yourself and your insecurities.

You will learn all about my insecurity and how i deal with it!