There is not a good seat in the house, and it’s the most poorly run place I’ve ever seen. It took an hour to get the car out of the parking lot. An hour! I pulled out of the parking space and could see the exit, but we just couldn’t get to it. They just had no clue how to move traffic.

The show itself was great! There was the Internet rumor that they were doing a fifteen minute cover of Michael Jackson’s “Billy Jean” at all of their shows. You’ve got to love the Internet. The song “Billy Jean” is three minutes long . . . and so was the cover version that Coldplay did last night.

I love how rumors start. So let’s start our own rumor today. I don’t know what I want to start, but there’s got to be something we can start. Give me some time, I’ll come up with something during the day (and maybe I’ll post it in the comments).

Otherwise, let’s get into today’s truth . . .

In a recent blog, I discussed how women can know if a man is attracted to them on a date. Now let’s talk about how a woman can keep that attraction going.

Men love to be teased. If a man touches your arm during the course of a date, touch him a few times back. That will drive him crazy. When you go to the bathroom, get up and on the way to the bathroom touch his shoulder and whisper “I’ll be right back” in his ear. That will really drive him crazy!

When he’s talking and leaning into you, lean into him so he can feel your closeness. When he goes to kiss you on the cheek, give him a quick kiss on the lips, a quick smile, and then walk away. As you’re walking away, turn around and give him another smile.

Also, compliment a man during a date. Tell him you’re having a good time. Laugh at his silly jokes. This will keep him intrigued.

These are some simple techniques that you can use to flirt and let a man know that you’re interested

Well, apparently (and according to hotel owners from around the world) loud obnoxious Americans are not the world’s worst tourists. It’s the French.

So who do you think are the best? It’s the Japanese. It figures, because nobody understands their language so no one knows if they’re complaining. it’s easy to tell when the French are complaining. They’ll just turn their nose up and walk away. The Japanese are quiet all the time.

Also topping Yahoo’s homepage news stories is this headline: “Boy Saves Mom After Indoor Lightening Strike.” There’s even a video about it. Then there’s the headline “Inside Jackson Kids’ Lives At Neverland” for a story which reveals that Michael Jackson actually cleaned up his own spills. Wow! It sounds like Yahoo should actually be called yahoonationalinquirer.com.

Finally, Yahoo’s fourth big story of the day was the results of a poll. I love polls. Exactly whom do they ask to participate in all these polls? People who come out of supermarkets in the middle of the day who have nothing else to do? No one has ever asked me to participate in a poll, and if they did I would walk away. I always say that people who participate in polls have too much time on their hands.

This story was about poll results which indicated that Sarah “Screw You Alaska” Palen is “still a viable presidential candidate.” It’s 2009. Do we really need to be talking about who will run for President in 2012? Shouldn’t politicians learn to act in the present like I teach all of you guys to do?

Anyway, let’s talk about the present today…

There are a lot of good talkers out there. So many people are wonderful talkers. People are just great with talking.

“I want to please you Honey.”
“I want to take care of you Honey.”
“I want to do this for you Honey.”

The question is: Do you really do what you say you’re going to do? Everyone can say all the right things, but how many people actually deliver?

In life, are you a talker or are you a doer? I really believe all of us should be doers. 

If you have found someone you love, then think back for a second about how hard it was to find that person. How many dates did you go on before you found the person you love? How many years, and how many bad relationships, did you go through before you found the person you love?

Pretty grim isn’t it?  Well, then, you’ve got to start coming through with the things you promise that person, because otherwise you are going right back to that place all over again . . . and you don’t want to go back there.

I believe a relationship is a sacred place. When your lover needs something, what do you do? How open are you to your lover’s desires?

If your lover needs their head scratched one night, will you scratch their head for two seconds and then stop?  That is the equivalent of saying “f*^k you” to them. That is like saying, “Whoops, I just touched your head but I didn’t mean to do it.”

When your lover asks for a massage, will you really give them a great massage for an hour and enjoy it because they enjoy it, or will you massage them for two minutes and that’s it? If your lover looks at you and says they want to take you to the bedroom for some great sex, do you say “Ok, after we watch Everybody Loves Raymond” or “Well, just wait because I haven’t seen this episode of Two And A Half Men?”

How open are you to your lover’s needs and desires?  All of us need to be more open to our lover’s needs and desires.

As far as I’m concerned, the thing that turns me on the most is when my lover expresses her desires to me. It’s when she expresses her needs, because then I know how to make her feel good.

I think all of us need to understand that sometimes you have to ask for what you want. A lot of us feel very funny about asking, and feel we are putting a burden on the other person by asking.

We hint a little bit, saying things like “I like my head rubbed,” and then we don’t ask again. We will just say things like this in passing but won’t ask outright. All of us are so preoccupied that we can’t remember everything our lover says.

So if you say “I need my head rubbed,” they will hear it and acknowledge it. When you want your head rubbed, however, why not just look at them and say, “Rub my head.”

If someone asks you for something like this, then don’t ever put a silly time limit on it. That time limit is what makes people not want to ask you for things ever again. So the next time your lover wants their head rubbed, don’t stop until they thank you and say they’ve had enough.

Be generous. Don’t just be the talker. Be generous with your time and your affection. It will come back to you ten-fold.

You take six days off work, and when you wake up the first morning you’re going back to work you are pissed. You’re pissed not because you’re going back to work, but because you’re just not ready for the barrage of emails, that first stupid question of the day . . . or even for oatmeal. That is what I call the holiday weekend hangover.

All of us know exactly how this feels. It’s the worst kind of feeling in the world, especially for people in this country who don’t get enough vacation time. Can you imagine how it is in Europe? How does that holiday hangover feel after being off of work for the entire month of August?

It’s really not fun. I’ll tell you, though, at least you’re in one piece and an affair didn’t bite you in the ass.

When are professional athletes, actors and politicians going to get it? What do they need to get a wakeup call? How many more of them have to die with their dicks in their hand to finally realize, “Hmmm…I’m a high profile person, so maybe I shouldn’t be cheating on my wife with a hot-tempered 20 year old.”

I was a huge Steve McNair fan. He was a battler and a competitor. He did great things for the community. Hanging out with a woman from Dave & Busters when you have four kids, however, isn’t a great move.

They are calling his death a homicide. They are not calling Sahel Kazemi’s death a homicide. Hmmm, can we put the pieces together ourselves? We’ll wait for the Nashville Police Department to tell us it was a murder-suicide.

It just really bothers me, the idea of someone deciding they have the power to take someone’s life. I’m not going to sit here and talk about handgun control, when really it could be as simple as penis control.

Cheating can kill you. Forget smoking. I’ve said it before and I’ve said it many times: If you’re not happy in a relationship, man up before you go sticking your penis in another woman’s volatile vagina.

We’ve all heard about women being scorned and seen enough of them get even. How many penises need to be bitten off, and how many men need to be blackmailed or murdered, before you realize that cheating doesn’t pay.

Now, don’t even get me started this morning on prescription drugs. Gee, I think I’m going to take a drug so powerful that when most humans take it they have an anesthesiologist administer it. What are some people thinking?

The world lost two very unique people who made some stupid decisions. I believe everything has a lesson. Learn from these lessons.

Maybe you’re not popping highly addictive pharmaceutical drugs, but maybe you have some other vice that’s slowly killing you. Maybe you’re in a relationship that’s not working and you’re thinking about sticking your penis elsewhere.

Pay attention to the deaths of Michael Jackson and Steve McNair. So many people think these kind of things can never happen to them. I’m sure Michael Jackson and Steve McNair did not imagine their outcomes.

Today’s message, if you don’t already know what it is, is to pay attention to the warning signs and to stop thinking you’re invincible. It could be as simple as to stop texting while you’re driving, because let me assure you that you will eventually get into an accident if you don’t.

It could be your attitude toward alcohol. You might think, “It’s just wine” but have you ever heard the term “wino?” You might be cheating and think she’ll never find out, but you never know what kind of woman you’re cheating with and what she might do.

So, once again, this holiday weekend hangover is brutal! Does anyone got a prescription for it?

You GOT to be startin’ somethin’. Sing it like Michael Jackson sang it (obviously I don’t remember all the words!) Half the year is over today, so really you got to be starting something.

Tonight is the night before my birthday, and all through the blog not a creature was stirring . . . not even a whale (well, since it’s summer I figured I should pick a creature that swims).

But anyway, it’s June 30th, so let’s talk about whether YOU got to be starting something. Are you where you thought you’d be with all your New Year’s resolutions? If not, then you’ve got half a year left to make them happen.

So let’s all think about startin’ somethin’ . . . ya ya . . . Oh, wait, that’s actually the Secrets Of The Ya-Ya Sisterhood (a movie, not a song). Anyway, sing Michael’s song today and let’s move on to today’s blog topic — which happens to be about singing your life.

People are always asking me how I’m in such a good mood all of the time. I’m always in a good mood. I feel good from the second I wake up until the second I fall asleep.

How do I do it? I spend my entire day singing through life.

I’m not necessarily walking around singing a song all day long. To me, though, life is literally like a song. I’m basically singing all day long.

When I wake up, I’m always feeling really goofy. I’ll wake up with some ridiculous song in my head, like “Bicycle” by Queen. I’ll be making breakfast in the kitchen and in my head I’ll be singing the lyrics “Bicycle, bicycle… I want to ride my bicycle, I want to ride my bike…”

I don’t even know all the words, but by doing that I start laughing and cracking myself up. I begin to have a good time.

That is what life is all about. Life is all about having a good time. You should always be singing.

So really think about having different soundtracks going through your head all of the time. Perhaps you get a song stuck in your head that you hear while you’re driving. Sing that song to yourself.

Let yourself go! Most of us walk around like we have a stick so far up our ass. Now what kind of song do you think that would inspire?

Just let it go! Don’t be so serious. Sing the day away.

If you can sing your day away, people will want to be with you. It’s like you’re creating your own concert and the rest of the world is your giant mosh pit. All they will want to do is carry you around all day long.

Start singing!

We used to do a weekly “q & a” blog, and apparently some of you miss it because I am still receiving requests from some people to answer their questions on the blog. I got a great question in my inbox the other day which reminded me of a situation in my own life, so I decided that would be a good question to pick to bring back the q & a blog.

Also by the way, and if anyone cares, my birthday is in five days. I’ll remind you at least two more times. Why? I don’t know . . . but it will be interesting to see who remembers and who doesn’t. For those of you who can’t count, it’s now June 26th and as you hopefully know there are only thirty (and not thirty-one) days in June. So add that together and five days from now is July 1st.

So let’s get to this reader’s question…

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David,
 
So I met this really interesting and stunning girl while waiting for the train this past Friday in the Chicago burbs.  After having an incredible conversation with her on the train for about a half hour she casually brings up the fact that she saw a Blackhawks/Red Wings hockey game with her boyfriend in Detroit.  I’m not gonna lie, I was a little disappointed that she mentioned this, because she is a pretty cool chick inside and out. 

Anyway, she hardly brings him up anymore and mentions that she’s only dated him for a year (and further tells me that I look kinda like him), so I take that as a sign she’s interested in me and I get her number as I get off the train to continue the conversation later.  The flirting and chemistry between us were really great, so I definitely would like to see this girl again.
 
So my question is: When meeting with a woman that you’re interested in that already has a boyfriend, do you treat each “date” as if she were single and let nature take its course or am I just wasting my time?  This is unchartered territory for me.
 
Muchisimas gracias Senor Wygant!
 
Brad W.

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Brad,

If you read Tuesday’s blog about expectations, you would understand by now that you shouldn’t be looking for signs. You should just be enjoying connecting with another person.

When I first met my girlfriend back in September of 2007, we had incredible chemistry. I knew it and she didn’t admit it because she was in a relationship.

I found her to be such a spectacular person. So we went out for coffee or a glass of wine a few times and just talked. From experience I know that if I’m just present and having a great time with someone, that nature will take its course (as you put it).

Four of my best relationships have been with women who at one time had a boyfriend. I didn’t put the hoodoo manipulation tactics on any of them. I just got to know them as people and, once again as you put it, let nature take its course.

I didn’t look for signs. I just got to know them. If you’re present and just get to know someone with no other expectations, you never know what is going to happen.

Some guys will become friends with a woman who has a boyfriend, but he will have an angle the entire time. They might try some manipulation tactics to get her to break up with her boyfriend, or they might spend their time selling themselves.

Here is what you need to understand. If a woman is vibing another guy while she is in a relationship, it probably means that something is missing in that relationship. You need to let her figure that out on her own, and not try to manipulate or coax her.

You are probably part of the process. If you really like her as a person, though, then just go out and enjoy her company because (as I always teach) the most powerful version of you is YOU.

So, Brad, thanks for the great question! Also, since some of you apparently miss the q & a blogs, we’ll bring them back from time to time whenever I get a really great question.