David,

Hear you have a private member site that you’re charging like $37 a month for. I’m sure it’s great and all, but $37 bucks a month is really too much money for me to spend at this time in my life. Don’t know how I can justify spending that much or if I even have that much extra every month to spend.

Donny, NY

Donny’s email along with some great news for you (which I’ll fill you in on in a minute) inspired me to write this blog.

I do have a membership site that costs $37.42 per month. For that $37.42 per month, members get access to a load of member-only things including a killer forum, five podcasts per week, four long videos per week, a weekly teleconference, and member-only discounts and promotions.

In addition, all members have 24/7 access to my coaches and individualized coaching. One of the favorite features are my video breakdowns. Four times a week a week I post a 30 minute video me breaking down an audio or video submitted by one of the members. These are like being with me live as I’m coaching a client.

So when Donny wrote me to say that $37.42 a month for all of this was way too much for him to spend at this time in his life, I felt compelled to respond. Let’s talk about $37 a month.

I just had lunch with somebody, and it cost me $37. So $37 is basically like eliminating one lunch. It’s eliminating one night of drinking in a bar. I mean, if you are serious about wanting to go out and meet women, why are you going to deprive yourself of that? This site gives you that opportunity and so much more.

So to Donny and any who have a similar mindset that $37.42 is too much to spend to invest in yourself and for this, I’m calling you out on your shit. The fact of the matter is that if Donny was really serious about meeting women, he could find a way to make the $37 happen. It’s just another excuse, and I’m tired of excuses.

So anybody who’s serious about learning to meet and connect with women can join me on my membership site. The rest of you can just continue to learn from the blog. For those of you who do and give me attitude about wanting something more for free than I already give, though, I don’t have the time or patience to care about those who don’t respect my time.

In today’s podcast, I am going to issue a challenge you like none other . . . and you will look at yourself in a way you never have before. I also reveal a SPECIAL OFFER in this podcast, so be sure to check it out!

Click the play button below to listen now:

Now for that great news I referenced earlier…

==>Big Announcement<==

As some of you already know, my membership maxed out and has been full since soon after it launched. In fact, we had to put everyone who wasn't able to get a slot on a waiting list.

Well, due to me hiring an additional coach I am now able to accept an additional 125 Members on the membership site! (Because of all the individual coaching and personalized attention that members receive on the site, I strictly limit the number of members in proportion to the number of coaches)

If you want one of those slots, click here:

Once those 125 slots have been snatched up, the site will once again close and I will once again have to put everyone else on a waiting list. So if you want one of these slots, I wouldn’t wait too long to click on the link!

I had every intention of getting this blog out to you on Friday – but between moving and being in constant meetings with my team brainstorming, creating and … let’s say gently critiquing each other’s ideas for the early 2009 launch of my new community site that I’m designing for my members — I don’t know if I’m coming or going half the time!

So my apologies on the tardiness of this blog, but hopefully ‘better late than never’ applies here …

I have recorded a short VIDEO where I share my thoughts and my vision for this new community site. I also give a little preview for what this new site is going to be all about.

So definitely check it out (if for no other reason than to see what I’m like in the middle of a move …). See it here:

OK then … now onto today’s blog.

As many of you know I am a big NFL fan. And no, this is not going to be a blog talking about how well I’m doing in my fantasy football pool (although I am doing quite well if anyone was curious).

I do think that there are some dating lessons that can be learned from football – and as this is a football Sunday, I thought this was a great day to talk about that.

Let me ask you a question. Have you ever gone out with a friend who is so good with the opposite sex that you become intimidated even to open your mouth? Then when you do open your mouth you feel that what you’re about to say could potentially be the wrong thing . . . so you say nothing. You don’t say a word.

I wrote a blog almost a year talking about how impressive Eli Manning’s success was in light of all the low expectations and comparisons to his super-famous brother Peyton that he was up against in making his own name in the NFL.

I also talked about how despite everything that made it more difficult for Eli Manning to succeed, that he never quit. He never let what other people said or did get to him. What he did was manage his game. He took control of his own destiny and his own success.

In your dating life, you need to take control of your destiny and decide that you are going to create what you want for yourself … and that you will do what it takes to get there. It’s about being true to yourself and staying on course.

Eli never quit . . . ever. He kept going and going and going. He decided that he was going to ignore all the critics, and that he would become the best quarterback he could be. After last year’s Super Bowl, I think there can be no doubt that this can create the greatest of success stories.

So when you’re going out to meet members of the opposite sex, stop comparing yourself to ANYONE and stop listening to the critics. Keep practicing. If you throw an interception (which in the dating world would mean getting rejected), keep flirting and keep talking.

I guarantee that if you work on your gamesmanship, you’ll get to the Super Bowl of dating . . . fast!

Have a fantastic Sunday!