In that blog, I gave some advice on how to handle that situation, including leaving the decision of whether to stay talking to you or to leave with Mr. Annoying up to her. A few days after I posted that blog, I got an email from a guy who told me he had tried what I said and that it had worked! This guy said what I recommended in that blog, and (not surprisingly) the woman chose to stay with him instead of leaving with Mr. Annoying.

This guy was not just writing to let me know how well this technique worked though. His email went on to say that after the woman rejected Mr. Annoying, he started to try to pick a fight with this guy right there in the bar.

Here’s a guy who just can’t handle that someone else talked to the girl to whom he wanted to be talking. So what do you do in that situation? Here’s exactly what you do.

You take the girl by the hand, look at her and say, “Let’s go sit down over there with some of my friends. I want to introduce you to my crew.” Then you take her by the hand and sit down with your friends, or grab a table if you’re not there with friends.

In other words, you walk away. Mr. Annoying is a bully. You walk away from bullies.

Mr. Annoying is so sexually frustrated in his life, that all he wants to do is fight. Bullies like that are so pissed off that they don’t get what they want, that they go out at night with aggression and ready to fight. So you walk away.

There is power in walking away, because real men will walk away from Mr. Annoying. Less powerful men will challenge Mr. Annoying. They will engage with him.

A powerful man doesn’t do this. You are not only being a powerful man when you do this, but you are also showing that woman that you are a powerful man who has restraint as part of your personality.

That woman is going to admire the fact that you don’t have a temper. Women don’t want to be with a guy like that, because it reminds her of so many other guys she has known in the past.

Men are very testosterone-laden and women don’t want to see that crazy hot-tempered side of you. Women want men who are very even-keeled and can handle all situations.

Do that, and she’s going to look at you as someone with strength. It’s actually probably going to turn her on. The fact that you walked away from the idiot will turn her on, because a lot of guys would have just gone ahead and engaged with him (and maybe even got into a fight with him).

Let me tell you something, if you get into that fight with Mr. Annoying then neither of you would end up with that woman. Both of you would have gone home alone.

The lesson here guys? Walk away.

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By the way, that Ray LaMontagne concert was just about the most exciting thing ever. He moved a total of about an eighth of an inch during the entirety of the show. He moves his foot one direction, he got all excited.

Every song sounded almost exactly the same, and it was one of the most boring concerts I have ever seen in my entire life. We actually left halfway through it because we just couldn’t take it anymore

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When we left the concert, we went to the bar. As we were in there, I kept noticing some things that are really funny.

I would say about 80% of the people look like they are not having a good time at all. They are just standing there (or sitting there) like zombies. They are either texting other people who aren’t there, or they are looking around the room hoping that they can talk to people.

Then there is another group of people at the bar (the other 20%). These are the people who look like they are having a great time.  They are jumping around and they are talking to everybody.

It’s funny. We talked to a whole bunch of people, and every conversation was like a meaningless ADD conversation. Every conversation was one of those fifteen to forty second conversations in which you get into a topic, only to all of a sudden have the conversation kind of die.

It just seems like everyone in a bar wants to have fun, but nobody really does have fun.

Perhaps if you are really drunk you will have a blast. I remember being drunk a few times in my life, and I have been a lot of fun in a bar.

The other funny thing about the bar is all the picture taking. Everyone was constantly taking pictures. They take out their little camera and start snapping picture after picture after picture after picture. They look at each picture immediately to see if they look good, and then take more pictures to try and get a better shot.

Bars are really funny places.  The other day I took a client out, and he kept talking about going to events and bars and so forth. I said to him, “Why bother? Why bother going to places where nobody seems to be having fun, when you can walk into a supermarket and have a casual conversation with somebody based on natural chemistry?”

I don’t know.  You tell me.  Do you have fun in bars anymore?

At 10:30 pm, you decide the place is lame and you go somewhere else. At midnight, the same guy every week says, “Dude, we have to go check out this other place. I heard it is great. My friend just texted me from there…”

It’s like Groundhog Day over and over again. You go home, and you’re always frustrated because you missed talking to the girl that got into the cab as you were walking over to talk to her.

In reality, what you’re doing is chasing the night. You’re miserable and not enjoying yourself, but you go back and do it again the next weekend.

While you’re doing this every weekend, other guys may be sitting around the house with some buddies having a great time barbecuing and drinking some wine. Others may have a great soul-searching weekend. Those guys come back on Monday feeling invigorated and alive.

There is a time when you really have to stop giving into your friend’s bullshit. You have to start saying that enough is enough.

When I was single, some of my best Friday nights included going out to dinner and being home by ten o’clock at night. I never cared about chasing the night. I’d be home at 10:00 pm so I could get up early the next morning and have an amazing Saturday meeting the kind of women I really wanted to meet and doing things I loved to do.

When you finally break up with your friends and stop buying into their bullshit, then you’ll know you really didn’t miss a thing when you get that day after call saying, “Dude, you should have been there!” So start breaking up with your friends and start becoming an independent, free thinker!

I used to be the guy who would go out and get validated by sleeping with women. I used to be the guy who would go out with a bunch of guys every Friday night to cruise bars, try to meet hot women, and try to get as many women’s phone numbers as possible.

I used to be that guy trying to do all that stuff — going from bar to bar and place to place — looking for the best night I could possibly have. I used to be that guy who would actually go home with girls to whom I wasn’t even all that attracted. I mean, they might be okay or kind of a cool girl . . . but they weren’t who I wanted.

The women I really wanted always had left the bar two hours before, but my ego needed validation so I’d be with women I didn’t really want just to be “that guy” who could get women to all my friends. I had to prove to them that I was the guy who could pick up women.

My ego needed that validation. I used to be that guy. I remember being that guy in my 20s.  

I recently had a great coaching session with a guy in his 20s, and we were talking about this very subject. As we were talking and reminiscing, I found myself being amazed thinking about how many women I would have actually connected with if I knew then what I know now.

I would have connected with women on much deeper levels and would have had much better connections with them. I would have met women I wanted to meet, instead of allowing my ego to dictate with which women I’d have sex or ask out on a date.

Back then it didn’t matter to me about the kind of connections I was having as long as my ego was getting validated. As long as I got validated by women, I was able to connect and hook up with women.

A lot of guys are like that. I used to be like that. I used to be that guy. That’s why I totally understand what all you guys are going through and what you really want.

You don’t need to have constant validation, because truly connecting with women is one of the most unbelievable and amazing things you can do. A lot of guys don’t understand that until they get older.

What is so great about coaching you guys and really getting inside your mindset is that I understand where you want to be. I’m so jealous and wish I could be in this mindset I’m teaching you when I was younger, although it’s so great to be able to help you and see all of you get there now.

I used to be you. Now I can help you become the most powerful version of you.

Last night at Axe, there were tables of six to eight women hanging out, eating and talking. All of them were relaxed and having fun because they did not have to deal with the drunken male on the prowl.

I have been telling men for years to head to places like this on a Saturday night, because if they do they will be in a room full of single women. It is so easy in an environment like this to casually talk, smile and make very non-threatening comments. You can say something like “How was your dinner?” then go back to your table and have fun with your buddy (as she is having fun with hers).

Then you can see if she takes the bait. If she does, then great! There have been many times I’ve done this and ended up having dessert with a fun group of women who were there for a girls night out.

How many times do I really need to tell you guys that the non-threatening approach is always the best. You need to think outside the box.

Have an amazing Sunday!