Dating is all about creating time in your life to connect with other people. If you’re out there on the market and your next available date time is two weeks away, take yourself off the market until you’re able to balance your time.

Here is the reason why: If you meet someone spectacular and you’re in the middle of your “busy being busy” phase, you won’t have time to nurture that connection. What happens then is that this great person will lose interest, and they will be out of your life before they even had the chance to be in your life.

Now I know some people are thinking: “What if I tell them I’m super busy for the next two weeks and can’t hang out?” That’s acceptable. But if you are super busy for the next two weeks, you need to make the effort to reconnect with that person when the two weeks is over. Be a person of your word.

No Time To Date My Dog Needs Me

If you’re a woman and you’re super, super, super busy, don’t tell a guy “Let’s get together in two weeks,” tell him that you’ll call him in two weeks to set something up. By making that call, you’ll be a person of your word…and actions do speak louder than words.

The rule here is: If you’re the one whose is busy, YOU have to make the reconnecting phone call when you’re less busy.

If you’re on an online dating site and you’re super busy for two weeks, hide your profile for two weeks.

If you don’t have time to date, don’t! I’m all about taking time outs when needed. But by being busy and still trying to meet people when you don’t actually have the time to meet them, you may just miss out on that amazing person!

The number one mistake most men make is they mass mail and they fail to realize that when they do this the women delete there emails right away without reading.

So what do you do when you are looking to meet women online?

The correct online opener is no different from the perfect bar, party or supermarket opener.

Guys, women know when something you send is a “cut and paste.” It shows that you did not read

their profile, and the first thing they will think about you is that you’re lazy and not very clever.

You can’t just send out 100 generic emails to women and expect to get a response back. Most men

who use the shotgun approach tend to never, ever receive responses to them.

So what should a guy do to succeed in the competitive world of online dating?

1. Keep in mind that the women have all the power. What works offline is going to work online.
You need to be different and clever, just like you do when you approach a woman in a bar or a
supermarket. So the first thing you need to do is make your profile fun.

Take these examples:

Fine: “I am a doctor and I love it”

Better: “I love what I do . . . I help people cure all common ailments.
Though my day may be full of people complaining, at the end
of the day I know that all of them go home healthier than when
they walked in.”

It really is all about having fun. Here is another example to make your profile rock.

Fine: “I love to travel.”

Better: “I love the Italian coast, and when I was in Positano I had the best
lemon cello in the world. When we speak, ask me about the view.”

Why are the “better” ones better? Because they make them picture what that was like and

it will peak their interest. It will also be something that they can ask you about when they

are responding to your profile. You need to create an emotional response, so they feel

compelled to write to you or to write you back.

2. Pick a select number of women you want to get to know each week. So now that you have
spruced up your profile how do you get their attention and distinguish yourself from all the other
guys online? This is the easy part . . . but it will take some work. Instead of burning through 100
profiles and sending out a shotgun mass email that does not work, you need to pick 10 to 15
women at the beginning of the week that you want to get to know.

The reason you do this is because each week, their emotions and dating moods change. Plus, if
you do it right, you will get a good response rate and have a few dates that week. Now comes the
work. You need to read through their profiles and find the fun tidbits. For example, if the both of
you have a dog you can send this email:

Subject Line: “If not for us . . .”

Email: “… our dogs will never be able to meet

My dog is really visual and when she saw a picture of yours, her stubby lab tail could not stop doing the thump thump!! We need to hook them up…plus I have to get her off Dogdate.com . . . She is becoming addicted!

Lets talk about this . . .

There are few reasons why this will work, besides the obvious ones that it is original and funny.

What you are doing is making fun of yourself here . . . men are visual and you are telling her that

your dog is visual, which will get a laugh from her immediately. You want to make her laugh. She

is getting all these horrible emails from all the “cut and paste” men, then yours comes in with some

originality and creativity. It shows that you tried to get to know who she is by reading her profile.

Now lets say that you or she does not have a dog. This is also easy, you just need to read her profile

and pick out a fun tidbit.

If, for example, she says that she is spontaneous and adventurous, what I like to do is challenge her

on that. Women like their minds to be challenged. So you might write:

Subject Line: “So you say . . .”

Email: “… that you are adventurous and spontaneous. What was the last adventurous thing you did? And if you are really spontaneous ,why don’t you send me your number so we can talk.

Five minutes on the phone and we’ll know if we have chemistry. Let’s talk today.

I dare you.”

This is also a one of my favorite opening emails. Yeah, I know some of you will look at this and think I’m crazy. I have been reading comments online and have enjoyed the banter.

But I will tell you that women like a man who is bold and who challenges her mind. You are also getting to the point and creating intrigue. She will wonder what you are all about.

Now why do I use the “…” on the subject line? I use it so they feel compelled and intrigued to open it. It is all about what may come after the “…” that makes them curious. You need to realize that most women get tons of emails from guys so you need to get that email opened.

3. Stay on a site. This is by far the best advice. Stop jumping from site to site every two weeks and think that you are going to get different results. You need to realize that women will check you out and read your profile, and it may take a few emails to get them to respond. The first time you contacted them they may have been intrigued, but at that time they may have been dating someone else, were too busy with other things, or you simply caught them on a bad day. I always tell my clients that it is okay to lob in another email a few weeks later. Now, don’t send the same one . . . find something new about which to connect with her.

It is all about being persistent. I have found in all my years of advising people on the Internet, that the ones who stay on a site and are persistent will be the ones that get all the great dates. You need to be patient. Some weeks you will have a lot of responses, while other weeks you may not get much of anything. But if you try some of the pointers above, you will increase your odds every day.

For those of you who are serious about meeting women online check this out.

The correct online opener is no different than the perfect bar, party or supermarket opener. Don’t just send off 100 emails to women and expect to get a response back. Most men who use the shotgun approach tend to never ever receive responses.

So what is a guy to do to succeed in the competitive world of online dating?

1. Keep in mind that the women have all the power. What works offline is going to work online. You need to be different and clever just like you do when you approach a woman in a bar or market. It really is all about having fun. To make your profile rock, instead of saying: “I love to travel”, share a story about one of the places that you have traveled to. For example: “I love the Italian coast and when I was in Positano I had the best Lemon cello in the world. When we speak, ask me about the view.”

Why is this better? Because it will make them picture what that was like and it will peek their interest and it will be something that they can ask you when they are responding to your profile. You need to create an emotional response so they feel compelled to write to you or write you back.

2. So now that you have spruced up your profile, how do you get their attention and distinguish yourself from all the other guys online? This is the easy part but it will take some work. Instead of burning through 100 profiles and sending out a shotgun mass email that does not work, you need to pick 10 to 15 women at the beginning of the week that you want to get to know. The reason is that each week their emotions and dating moods change. Plus, if you do it right, you will get a good response rate and have a few dates that week. Now comes the work. You need to read through their profiles and find the fun tidbits. For example, if the both of you have a dog, you can send this email:

Subject: If not for us…our dogs will never be able to meet ?

Body: My dog is really visual and when she saw a picture of yours her stubby tail could not stop thumping! We need to hook them up, plus I have to get her off Dogdate.com; she is becoming addicted!

Lets talk about this,
Your Name

There are few reasons why this will work besides the fact that it is original and funny. What you are doing is making fun of yourself here. Men are visual and you are telling her that your dog is visual which will get a laugh from her immediately. You want to make her laugh. She is getting all these horrible emails from all of cut and paste men and yours comes in with some originality and creativity. It shows that you tried to get to know who she is by reading her profile.

Now lets say that you or she does not have a dog. This is also easy you need to read her profile and pick out a fun tidbit. If she says that she is spontaneous and adventurous what I like to do is challenge them on that. Women like their minds to be challenged.

Subject: So you say…….

Body: …that you are adventurous and spontaneous. What was the last adventurous thing you did? And if you are really spontaneous why don’t you send me your number so we can talk. 5 minutes on the phone and we will know if we have chemistry.

Lets talk today.

I dare you.

Women like a man that is bold and one that challenges her mind. You are also getting to the point and creating intrigue. She will wonder what you are all about. Now why do I use the … on the subject line? I use it so they feel compelled and intrigued to open it. It is all about what may come after the … that makes them curious. You need to realize that most women get tons of emails from guys so you need to get that email opened.

3. Stay on a site. This is by far the best advice. Stop jumping from site to site every 2 weeks and think that you are going to get different results. You need to realize that women will check you out and read your profiles and it may take a few emails to get them to respond. They may be dating someone else the first time you contacted them and they may have been intrigued but they were too busy with other things or you got them on a bad day. I always tell my clients that it is ok to lob another email in a few weeks later. Now don’t send the same one find something new to connect with her about.

It is all about being persistent and I have found in all my years of advising people on the internet that the ones who stay on a site and are persistent will be the ones that get all the great dates. You need to be patient some weeks you will have a lot of responses other weeks we may not get much of anything but if you use some of the pointers above you will increase your odds every day.

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I’m down to earth. What exactly does that mean?

Does that mean that they walk around with dirt on them 24/7? Does that mean that they like to roll around on the ground so that they can be really close to the Earth? Does that mean that they like to cover themselves with sand when they go to the beach so that they can feel the Earth?

Down to earth. I love that term. It seems to be the most abused term on Internet dating sites. Everybody puts it in their profile, especially women.

Do you know what I think when someone says in her profile that she’s “down to earth?” I think, “Glad that you’re down to earth. That sounds like a lot of fun. So when a picks you up, should he bring a shovel and a pail and a hoe, and be ready to do some gardening?”

Is that term supposed to mean that you’re real? I think sometimes we use generic terms to describe ourselves and it leaves things “iffy.” I mean, if every other person online describes themselves as “down to earth,” does that mean that 50% of these people are exactly the same? I think we need clarification for this term — down to earth.

A related term I also saw way too much on women’s profiles was the description, “I am real.” Really? I’m so glad you told me, because I thought you were a zombie or a robot.

I don’t get it when people write, “I’m a real person.” Everyone is a real person. Is that really the way you describe yourself, as a ‘real person?’ Well, great. Now I feel like I REALLY know you.

Another thing people say is, “I’m easy going.” Really? About everything or just about certain things, because no one is easy going about everything. There is always a trigger point on something for everyone.

When it comes to online online, I think people need to stop using all these cliches to describe themselves. It doesn’t tell people anything about you. Plus, when you look at fifty profiles and you describe yourself the exact same way 25 other people do, how are you ever going to stand out?

I recently had an opportunity to work with a woman who was having a long distance romance with someone she met on the Internet. What I like about the Internet as a way to meet people is that it’s convenient, easy, can be done in the comfort of your own home, and allows you to get a lot of information about someone to help you know if you want to try and meet them.

So as a whole, I think Internet dating is a fantastic way to go out and meet new and exciting people to date. Here is the problem, though, with Internet dating: some people are not who and what they claim to be.

This issue arises most often when you’re in a long-distance relationship with someone. Usually when you meet someone on the Internet who lives far away, you will first converse via email, then you’ll talk on the phone, and finally you’ll set up some type of rendezvous. While this rendezvous will occasionally take place in one of the two people’s home town, most often it will be set to occur in what I like to call “neutral territory.”

So if you are in this situation, whether it’s a long distance relationship or not, how do you know whether the person who you’ve been dating long distance is everything they say they are? How do you know they’re not married? How do you know they don’t have another family? Or, how do you know they don’t have another girlfriend or boyfriend (or two or three . . . )?

Here are 5 warning signs which likely mean that you are dating someone who is not exactly who or what they claim to be:

1. They Provide Limited Information. The first thing you want to do when you meet someone on the Internet, especially someone who is long distance, is get a complete picture of the other person. A lot of times when you meet people on the Internet, it’s very easy for them to pick and choose which things they want you to know. So, for example, they might only want to talk about certain topics (e.g., music, art and working out) while they are very reluctant to discuss other things. What else are they about? Are they just about those certain things or is there a lot more you don’t know about them? A lot of times if you connect with someone about one or two things, its really easy to overlook everything else. So ask yourself, do I really know this person? Is there more to them? Do I know anything about their family or friends? This is very important. Some of the people you meet online are very careful not to reveal any information about their friends. Or, if they do, they are very vague about who their friends are or what they do with their friends. If you are a woman and the man you’ve been talking to keeps telling you about his “friend” Monica with whom he goes out to the movies but about whom he is otherwise vague, you need to probe him about it. If the person is not giving you any details on the kind of activities they’re doing with their friends or one particular friend, you might want to start wondering if they are hiding something from you.

2. They Never Invite You Over. Another red flag that someone you’ve met on the Internet isn’t who or what they claim to be, is if they don’t invite you to their home after you’ve been dating for awhile. A lot of the people who have something to hide, even when they do invite you over, may insist that you always call to confirm before you come to their place. Why is it such a big deal? I understand in the beginning you want to be polite and respectful and not make impromptu appearances at someone’s front door, but if you’re really dating – even if it’s long distance – there is no reason you should not be able to just “stop by” and surprise them for a visit. Do they always get mad if you show up unexpected? While I wouldn’t say that you have to go to their place unexpected all the time, there is a balance where you should feel comfortable showing up at each other’s homes without worrying that doing so will make the other person angry.

3. They Don’t Give You Key Information. The next warning sign would be to look at another aspect of someone not giving you the complete picture of themselves. While it is normal in the beginning of a relationship not to discuss things like your finances with each other, it is a warning sign if you know nothing about how they handle their lifestyle. A lot of times I don’t know exactly what my personal friends do for a living, but I still always know how they conduct their lives, how they make their money and whether they are responsible with their money. Not every detail of course – just very broad strokes. If you’re dating a person and you’ve never heard anything about how they pay for things or how comfortable they are with their financial situation, that might be a warning sign. Why are they hiding something that is so simple? Having a common viewpoint about money is a key aspect to being happy with a partner.

4. You Haven’t Heard Of Or Met Any Of Their Friends. Another warning sign you might want to look at is if you haven’t met or heard of any of the other person’s friends. Even if you’ve heard general mention of friends, you should be concerned if you haven’t ever seen any of them (if you’re not in a long distance situation) or if the other person has kept their social circle completely vague. If so, then once again you need to ask yourself what they are not telling you. Are they only wanting you for one specific thing? Are they only wanting you to know one side of them because they’re afraid that if you find out something else about their life that you might be turned off by it or you might not want to have anything to do with them? So again pay attention to the relationships these people have and pay attention to the surroundings in which they live.

5. They Are Inconsistent. Even though you may be strongly enamored with this person, do you still notice inconsistencies in their behaviors or in their stories? A lot of times when we really like a person, we neglect to pay attention to the small details. We just see what we want to see, because we project on them our hopes and dreams about who they are. Sometimes when you’re in a new relationship, it’s easy to imagine the other person to be the perfect man or the perfect woman you want them to be. All fantasy aside, though, do you still see contradictions in the other person’s stories? Do you see contradictions in the things have or do in their lives? Do they tell you they want a certain goal, but all of their actions seem to be completely contradictory to that? This perhaps is another warning sign that they may be hiding something from you. It also may be a warning sign to that person’s real behavior patterns or personality. They may not have their life together as they’ve told you.

These are just some of the warning signs you may notice when you’re in a relationship with someone you met on the Internet. If you are in a long distance relationship with someone you met on the Internet, then you need to pay really close attention to these things.

If you don’t really pay attention to warning signs like these, especially when you’re pursuing a long distance relationship, you may end up spending your time in a fantasy-driven world that’s real only in your head.

There are a lot of people out there who are very lonely, There are also a lot of people out there who prey on people who are lonely. If your internal “radar” is telling you that something is a warning sign, don’t ignore it! It’s always better to err on the side of caution.