The other day I was on the phone with a reporter from Health magazine, and I told her about how I don’t take calls before 11:00 a.m. She asked me, “Does it take the caffeine that long to kick in?”
I said, “Caffeine? No, I don’t drink coffee. I just don’t want to talk to anyone before 11:00 a.m.” She started laughing.
Then she asked my why I don’t drink coffee. Her question made me think about why I don’t drink it. Here are my main reasons:
1. Maybe I don’t want to pour acid on my stomach first thin in the morning.
2. Maybe I don’t want to drink something so bitter first thing in the morning when I wake up.
3. The times I did drink coffee during some trips to Europe, I ended up buying things I never wore.
4. That caffeine buzz really isn’t needed for someone like me who is already so energetic.
5. I like to ease into my day. I like to lay in bed an extra hour. I like to take Daphne to the beach for a walk feeling all foggy. I enjoy slowly starting the day. What’s the rush? Why do I need to get my heart palpitating the minute I wake up after relaxing all night long. Plus, why would I want to feel jittery after just having a good night’s sleep?
My favorite people are the “puff and coffee” people. They wake up and have a cigarette and some coffee. They already have bad breath. Nothing could smell worse than coffee breath and cigarette breath mixed with morning breath. Why bother brushing your teeth?
So besides generally not needing coffee, not wanting to feel jittery and not wanting to have coffee breath, the real reason I don’t drink coffee is because I like my slow easy morning. Even on the days when I have to wake up early, I enjoy waking up.
The idea of living another day is enough for me. I really don’t need to stimulate myself to feel excited about life. And what does this have to do with meeting hot women while on caffeine. Nothing at all I just thought we would have a very light day today but the video below will show you all you need to know for the upcoming weekend!
Though after watching this video you would think i was high on caffeine!!
Back from London and enjoying every second of the Jet Lag!!!!
The following is a conversation we had at a recent bootcamp about bullying yourself. This will give you some sort of an idea of what we do during bootcamps.
David: Are you a bully?
Do you enjoy constantly teasing people? Do you like to sit there and push people through the cootie door?
You remember the cootie door from grade school – you picked a door and if someone walked through it, they had cooties for the whole day.
Do you remember cootie shots? The only form of immunization…
But the question remains: are you a bully?
Most of us adults are no longer bullies to other people. We stopped being bullies to others a long time ago, except many of us are still bullies with one specific person. And I’m not talking about your younger sibling.
Many of us are bullies to ourselves. We are own worst enemies.
Do you tend to look only at the negative things about yourself and are you constantly making fun of yourself cruelly and making excuses? You’re being a bully.
I bully myself about my chicken legs, and I constantly use them as an excuse: “man, I don’t want to put those pants on, they’ll make my legs look too skinny. I’m not wearing those.”
We are always our own worst enemies. We love to make fun of ourselves.
You’re sitting here laughing, what are some ways that you bully yourself?
Client: Well, I take myself way too seriously. In my line of work, it’s important to anticipate what people are going to say, so I always expect big things out of myself when I’m in a conversation with a woman.
I’m never listening to what the other person is saying, but more trying to out-do that person. Then I wind up not listening to them at all, and they lose interest. That’s what I bully myself about.
David: Rey, how do you bully yourself?
Rey: I bully myself about everything! “You’re not good enough, you’re not being loud enough, you’re not being interesting enough, you don’t have your personality out,” everything like that. “You’re not letting yourself out, you’re too stiff!”
David: And by doing that, Rey, you don’t ever let yourself out because you’re constantly thinking about it.
Every time you approach a woman, you’ve got that mindset, and then of course, you become that.
What about you?
Daniel: I guess I bully myself when I don’t meet the expectations I have for myself.
David: Like how?
Daniel: I bully myself with the typical monkey chatter: “I’m not going to be able to escalate intimacy in a conversation!” I’m also always thinking about the end result and having that fear of what to say next or how to transition to the next topic.
David: It’s interesting. You think so much that your monkey chatter is saying, “you can’t escalate, Daniel, you can’t escalate,” and then, because you worried so much about it, you can’t.
The only escalating we should think about is the escalators we ride on in the stores. Women will get sexually turned on to you by you being charming, real and in the moment. She’ll start to connect with you.
‘Sexual escalation’ is a term that men think they need to be so aware of, but in reality, it will just happen naturally if you’re strong, powerful, and you don’t think. The real sexy side of you is the side that isn’t thinking about everything. It’s the side of you that just lives and responds to things in life. The side of you that goes with the moment, and goes with the flow.
Our bully is unbelievable. We love to bully ourselves constantly. We are constantly ripping ourselves apart. We’re trying so hard to be perfect and say the ‘right thing.’
In reality, nothing in life is perfect. Your imperfections are the things you need to embrace and learn to love. If you don’t embrace and love your own imperfections, nobody else ever will.
I’m an OCDer. I’m looking to buy a house right now, which you all know, and I am having so much trouble. I just cannot pull the plug. I bully myself in so many different decisions that I can’t even think of, yet everything else I do in life is very simple and easy.
We all have our things that we need to work on. You need to embrace those imperfections, make fun of yourself and have fun with it.
We did that exercise last night where we made fun of ourselves and it was a blast. We all made fun of our dumb little faults.
You got dressed up in clothes you thought looked great, and then you made fun of yourself for being some big metrosexual.
But in reality, you look like a guy that is nicely dressed and that women would notice. You’re thinking, oh man, I can’t pull this off, I can’t look sexy – but you do.
That’s how we stop bullying ourselves.
Todays video is perfect for the weekend.
The bootcamp just ended and as always i am sad to see the guys go. Someone once asked me what type of guys take my bootcamps?
Do you know what my answer was.
Guys who become my future friends!!
So here’s to a great weekend that i just spent with my future friends.
Thanks to:
Justin
Pete
Re Pete
Pradeep
Sarish
Clive….wherever you vanished 2
Chris
Ameet
Contstantin
Hakan
Ashley
Rogerio
And a huge thanks to my new ace coach in London Adam C and my coach in training Markus from Austria for all the help and amazing job they did with the guys this weekend.
And of course the weekend would not have been a huge success without the insight from my friend Eddie and a cameo from one of my ex clients Chris who joined us for the Sunday night dinner!!
Looking forward to my next bootcamp in NYC and all the future friends that i will meet!
One other thing I love about London is that I get to watch the NFL games late at night!!!
Onto to today’s topic…something that we went over in detail this weekend.
What is it with every guy and the street approach? Why does every guy want to get every single woman that walks by?
Here is why: because these guys don’t have an abundance mentality to begin with. (more…)
Just a short tip on this Saturday of Labor Day weekend!
Here is what is amazing: when you go out there all day long and start looking at your neighborhood, observing and talking to people, you’ll start to enjoy your life just a little bit more. (more…)
