And women started coming over to us, asking, “What are you guys talking about?” We’d say, “Look, I’ll meet with you in five minutes; we just have to finish this conversation.” I would push them away a little bit, which would intrigue them a little bit more. In a bar, you can be very playful like that.

So after a few minutes, I looked at one woman and kind of waved her over. She came over and asked, “What?” and I said, “You were curious about what we were talking about, and I want to tell you.” Then I explained what it was we were talking about. “We were just discussion life and the nature of spirituality…” and she just stood there with her mouth wide open.

So then I looked at her and asked, “So tell me, how do you feel about this?” and for five minutes she went off on a tangent, full of passion and emotion, just like I did. She was mimicking my body language the entire time.

Most guys at bars are thinking about what the woman’s body language says. Who cares! It’s your body language that will attract other people.

So once I got her all full of passion, I asked her, “Are those your friends?” She said they were. “Alright, bring them over. We need more people’s opinions.” We had ten people – two of us, and eight girls – all sitting there and talking about spirituality and what it means to be alive. We had the most amazing conversation.

When we left, they all looked at us and said, “This was the greatest experience we’ve ever had in a bar!” It was the first time they’d ever had a real conversation at a bar.

It all comes from you putting yourself in the middle of that bar and saying to yourself: I will be the center of attention in this room tonight. I will talk to my friend and pull over whomever I want in this room!

David: I’ve seen this for so long – and every single guy does this.

What do they do? They go from being whatever they were when they started (perhaps shy or introverted) to being way over the top.

What they forget along the way (on their journey to being way over the top) is to really listen to the other person when they are having a conversation.

You have great conversations, but what I saw last night (when you randomly approached that drunk women – and that’s all they were, just drunk, stupid women. The whole point of last night was NOT to approach and just to observe. I don’t know, but they all turned me off! Every single one of them – their behavior, the way they walked, talked, the way they carried themselves. They had so much negative energy – I didn’t like it at all.)

But you went up and you like announced yourself – like boom! I’m here! The fact of the matter is that you are much more Zen-like in your personality than that! You have to really tone it down a little bit and just observe more.

You’ve proven to yourself that you can walk up to everybody – great. That’s the first step that every guy needs to do. That’s where the over the top thing comes in.

Now, you need to say to yourself, I can approach anybody, congratulations, I know I can do it. Congratulate yourself and give yourself a really big pat on the back – it’s a big step.

Now you need to become really keen to everything that is going on in your environment. The reason why I didn’t really talk to anybody last night was that there was nobody there that was interesting to talk to – not one woman. None.

So today when we walk around, we’re all just going to work within our own environments. It is our environment that gives us the clues.

Don’t worry about missing a woman. If you miss one, that’s fine. You can’t have them all, because if you do, you go into pick up mentality and that’s really not attractive.

Do you remember Dragnet? It’s like, “here we are downtown in a city in the US. Five guys walking around picking up women…”

It really looks like that! It doesn’t look like five guys just having fun. It’s all about having fun and having a good time.

You just have to tone it down a little bit and go in there with what I call an action plan: what do you see?

I see it very quickly – I see it like THAT. You guys might see it in a minute. You’ll miss a few more opportunities but that’s okay. Eventually, you’ll see it in 50 seconds, then 40 seconds, then 30… and then you’ll start seeing it in an instant.

Observe, take in the environment, look around and see what’s going on around you. What do you see?

There are so many tourists out here today! This is far better than LA. LA is a great place – but here it’s mellower, more laid-back – there are endless amounts of people down here today.

July and August are tourist months here. That’s it. If you’re going to come to Seattle, you’re only going to come in July and August. That’s why this is great place to do this because it’s a target-rich environment.

Client: There’s the Danskin Triathlon tomorrow morning at 7:00 with 4,000 people!

David: That’s not fun at 7:00 am!

Todays video is a shocking one.

Have you ever opened a woman using dead bunnies?

Hope everyone is having an amazing weekend.

Todays video is a can’t miss, but you need to first read about how to be unique in bars.

Today I want to share with everyone a great question I got from someone in London. I’m sure all of you think about these same things when you go out at night too, so let’s talk about this right now!

Client: First of all, I have to commend you on the Men’s Audio Mastery Series – it’s one of the best audio series I have ever heard.

I also have two questions for you. You said that when you open someone in a bar, you want to ask the women for their opinion on something.

In the field in London, a lot of routine-based games use the opinion opener to open women. If you use the opinion opener and the girl has had many people open them with that previously wouldn’t she think, oh boy, here we go again or might they not think of that at all?

Also another question: if you are conversing with a woman and you find yourself at a lull in the conversation without anything to say, could you go back to a previous thing she said earlier in the conversation to start a new conversation with her?

David: Hey, great to hear from you. I will be in London doing a boot camp in September, which is posted on my website. It’d be great to work with you in person. Let me know if you have any interest.

If not, I’ll be doing some private coaching as well, if you can’t commit to the whole weekend. I’ll be doing some private coaching on the days in London also.

As for your e-mail, there are a lot of different opinion openers. The great thing about what I teach is that everything is not the same.

For instance, when I was in London last time, I was at the Sanderson Hotel, and I was working with a client of mine. This woman was staring at us, so I told my client to walk over and do this: walk right over to her and say, “hey, are you just going to stare at me all night and check me out, or are you going to come over here and talk to me?”

Do this, I told him, and do it with a big smile. Then all of a sudden she’ll start laughing; she’ll say something to excuse herself. Before she explains and babbles, you can look at her and ask, “do you have approach anxiety?”

Say, “I hear there are some great books on the Internet that’ll help you overcome that!” Laugh. Say all this with a smile. She will inevitably start laughing really hard, and then you can tease her a little more.

Ask her, “are you shy?” And she will respond, “well, you know…” and then you can start talking about it a little bit. And you’ll have things to talk about. It will be a fun game to do at night.

When you’re at the bar at night, you need to make it fun. You need to make it interesting. You need to make it different. That’s why I like day game much better than night game. Because night game, you need to play around a little bit more.

Another way to open up a woman in a bar at night is when she bumps into you. You can say to her, “excuse me.” She will ask you, “what?” You can then say, “I need to know your name.” And then she will respond, “my name is Amy.”

“All right, Amy, I just need to know because if tomorrow I wake up all bruised from you bouncing into me all night, I need to be able to tell my buddy that I was in this bar last night and this girl Amy kept bumping into me all night. What, do you play rugby or something?”

So there you go – you’re being fun, playful, and you’re being DIFFERENT!

Now, you know my approach for texting, right? I think I put the texting at night approach on the Mastery Series, but I’m not sure. So I’ll outline it here:

You basically walk up to a woman who has been hanging out with her friends. You have your buddy text you, but make sure his name is not in there. Have him text you this: “last night was great. Maybe another drink later tonight?”

And so you walk over to a woman and you say to her, “look, I just got this text, and I have absolutely no idea what it means. No idea. But before I show you the text on my phone, I need to give you a little bit of a back-story.”

Keep going: “last night I went out with this woman for a drink. We had a glass of wine, hung out for an hour and a half, and that was it. I didn’t think there was any chemistry, and I had no idea what she felt. I didn’t even think much of anything about it, but I just got this text from her right now. What does it mean?”

So then they will pass your phone around, and they will start to laugh. They’ll start to smile. One of them will say, “booty call!” You can then say, “aha, is that what you call a booty call?” And then you get the conversation rolling from there.

There are just a few of new tips for you.

Now, if the conversation starts to get slow, what you have to realize in your mind is that not everyone you talk to you will be able to connect with. The problem with men is that they think that just because they have the guts to approach a woman, every conversation has to work out. Some conversations just don’t work out.

Think about in terms of soccer. The guy has an open shot, right? A penalty shot. He takes ten penalty shots. Does he make every penalty shot? Absolutely not. If the odds were ten for ten, there would be no such thing as a hard penalty shot or an easy penalty shot, right?

So, sometimes the conversation just dies. You have no chemistry with her at all, so it doesn’t matter. If you follow the things that I teach – meaning you listen very carefully to what she is saying – you will be able to tell.
You should use portal words, which means that if she says, “oh this weekend is so fantastic, it’s my grandmother’s birthday,” you can ask, “really, how old will your grandmother be?” She might respond, “my grandmother will be 92.” You can then look at her and say, “congratulations, what’s her secret?”

If you listen very carefully to what a woman says, and you transition using the emotional portal words that I talk about, you will become a much better conversationalist in the long run.

Don’t ever worry about what other people have done going out. Most people are not going out using the things that I have used. I’ve been in London coaching guys for a long time, and let me tell you: my stuff is different, as you know, than most other garbage that is out there. Most of the stuff is pick-up BS and that’s it.

Alright, have a great weekend, and let me know if you want to take the boot camp in London. I have a few spots left. Let me know if you want to do some one-on-one coaching too. It’d be great to work with you when I’m in your neck of the woods. I will talk to you later! Thanks for the questions.

Todays video is a really great one.

I go over the 4 keys to attracting women…….Enjoy and have a great Saturday!

How was everyones weekend?

I had the opportunity to work with a great guy from Scottsdale. I am off to NYC on Friday for a bootcamp as well as some one on one coaching.

I think todays post will really hit home for a lot of men and women especially after the weekend.

Which number is greater: your age, or the amount of women or men that you’ve met in a bar?

Think about this for a second. Think about the number of great women or men that you’ve actually met in a bar – or a nightclub, or a restaurant. Write it down.

Now take a look at your age – which number is higher? Usually your age is higher than the number of great men or women you’ve met in a bar.

It’s funny – I was with a client the other day, and we were talking, and he kept saying to me over and over again, “man, I just hate going to bars. I can’t stand going to bars. I really want to go just do something else.”

And I said to him, “how many women over the last year do you think you’ve actually met in a bar?” He looked at me, and said, “I’ve met one.” I said, “so do you average one per year?” and he said, “yeah, probably one per year.”

He’s 40 years old, and I asked him how many years he’s been going to bars. He said probably since he was 18, and I said, “so basically in 22 years you’ve met 22 women, and you’re 40 years old?” I don’t like that ratio. I think that number is pretty ridiculous.

Think about it – how many people have you actually met in a bar? If that number is greater than your age, then you should continue to go to bars. But if that number is less than your age, then I think you need to reconsider what you are doing on Friday and Saturday nights.

As we get older, our age will always increase. But to balance the scales of life, if the number of the women that you’ve met in a bar is not greater than your age, then you are just wasting time and wasting years.