And women started coming over to us, asking, “What are you guys talking about?” We’d say, “Look, I’ll meet with you in five minutes; we just have to finish this conversation.” I would push them away a little bit, which would intrigue them a little bit more. In a bar, you can be very playful like that.

So after a few minutes, I looked at one woman and kind of waved her over. She came over and asked, “What?” and I said, “You were curious about what we were talking about, and I want to tell you.” Then I explained what it was we were talking about. “We were just discussion life and the nature of spirituality…” and she just stood there with her mouth wide open.

So then I looked at her and asked, “So tell me, how do you feel about this?” and for five minutes she went off on a tangent, full of passion and emotion, just like I did. She was mimicking my body language the entire time.

Most guys at bars are thinking about what the woman’s body language says. Who cares! It’s your body language that will attract other people.

So once I got her all full of passion, I asked her, “Are those your friends?” She said they were. “Alright, bring them over. We need more people’s opinions.” We had ten people – two of us, and eight girls – all sitting there and talking about spirituality and what it means to be alive. We had the most amazing conversation.

When we left, they all looked at us and said, “This was the greatest experience we’ve ever had in a bar!” It was the first time they’d ever had a real conversation at a bar.

It all comes from you putting yourself in the middle of that bar and saying to yourself: I will be the center of attention in this room tonight. I will talk to my friend and pull over whomever I want in this room!

The following is a talk I gave to a client at a weekend bootcamp. This is a great example of my direct one-on-one coaching during bootcamps.

Whenever you try too hard in life to get people to like you, you push everybody away.

When you do this, you’re too over the top and you’re generally not listening to people. You’re actually overwhelming them.

It’s like a Golden Retriever: have you ever gone over to someone’s house and they have a Golden Retriever, and you’ve never met this dog before, but the dog will just not leave you alone? It just keeps running over to you, bringing you its ball, and all of its toys and everything?

In a dog, this is a great quality. In a human – well, you don’t want to be a human Golden Retriever.

Both men and women do it. When people try too hard, it’s just too much. You get in somebody’s face, and they automatically want to back down. I watch when a guy will go out there and be a human Golden Retriever – and I watch the way women react. At first, they will find him attractive, because he has great energy, but then after two minutes, she’ll just try to shoo him away.

She hasn’t gotten to know the guy in those two minutes, because generally the human Golden Retriever is just spitting out hyperactive words the whole time instead of connecting.

By tuning yourself down a little bit, and by listening and being intriguing, you’re no longer going to be a human Golden Retriever – you’ll be a person. And that’s all that it is about. It’s about connecting with people in a genuine way.

After this weekend, some of you guys will keep in touch with some of the guys here a little bit longer than you might keep in touch with some of the other guys – that’s just life. That’s chemistry.

So stop trying so hard. You’re such a deep and genuine soul. You’re a good person all around. You don’t need to try so hard to prove yourself to other people. So stop overtrying

Todays video dives even deeper into life and how to present yourself to a total stranger with confidence.

You do not want to be the human golden retriever.

Every single day, what you need to do is set a goal. You need to go out there and have at least ten conversations a day.

By having ten conversations a day, you create positive energy around you. I don’t care if you go out and talk to ten men, ten women, ten kids – what happens is that every time you stop and have a conversation, you smile, you look in someone’s eyes and you engage them, you are learning how to be a more confident person the whole time.

Not only that, but other people are looking at you. When other people are looking at you, they want to go and talk to you too – they’re wondering what you are all about. You’re creating intrigue around you, you’re creating a positive vibe around you, and you’re creating something that most people don’t create: interest.

Most guys walk around, and all they do is chase. They walk through the entire day just trying to find the one woman that they’re attracted to that they can talk to.

The problem with that is that when you find her, you haven’t talked to anybody else, so you haven’t had any other conversations, so you walk over all uptight.

Once again, go out there and talk to everybody all day long, and you’ll build your social confidence up all day.

That’s what real confidence is about – being able to carry on a conversation with everyone. The point is that you want to become a good conversationalist. Becoming a good conversationalist means that you can talk to everybody in every situation.

Todays podcast is all about playing the percentages. Life is all about numbers……and until you are willing to fail you will never meet anyone.

This podcast is for men and women.

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Enjoy your Sunday!!!

Memorial day weekend in LA and it is 54 degrees and raining!!! I love the rain so its a nice break!

Today we have a great video on how to create great first dates.

So you met a man or a woman and you created some instant attraction.

Now what do you do.

Are you going to be a great flirt?

Are you going to stop the monkey chatter and turn off the negative thinking long enough to connect with women.

Are you a woman that has trouble connecting with a man on a first date.

Todays video will help you out….but first you must read todays blog!!

Are you somebody that really values every minute of your day? Do you make a conscious effort to basically respect yourself?

Do you make an effort to make sure you get dressed in the morning, to make sure you eat a good meal for breakfast, to make sure you get a good eight hours of sleep?

Are you somebody who looks forward to certain TV shows, and you make the time for the certain things in your life that are important to you? Maybe you make the time for working out, maybe for getting your favorite cup of coffee in the morning.

Do you make the time for all of the little things in life that you love? Do you make the time for other people? And are you on time?

It’s amazing how many people make the time for the things that they want, but then when they are meeting someone, they are running 30 to 45 minutes late without a phone call or anything. That, to me, shows that you absolutely do not respect the people you are meeting, and you do not respect other people’s time.

If someone commits time to you – if they commit their heart – if they commit their time to you and tell you that they will meet you at a certain time, you’d better show up, and you’d better be on time! They are taking time out of their day to get to know you, and they’re taking time out of their day to hang out with you.

By not showing up on time – whether it’s a date or a business meeting – you’re basically telling somebody that you don’t respect their time. So the next time you’re running 20 minutes late, and you’ve got the thing called a cell phone, use it! Call the person.

As a matter of fact, if you’re running late, call the person an hour ahead of time! You already know that you’re running late – you already know that you’re going through whatever regimen you have that is causing you to be late in the first place.

But don’t make people wait for you without an explanation. Because by the time you actually show up, many times, if it’s a date, you’ve already been ruined – no matter what you do. Especially if it’s a first or second date, when you’re trying to make a good impression on somebody? You’re done.

So next time: check the clock, or just leave a little earlier