Life goes on regardless of the state of the economy, and you can have an amazing dating life no matter what the state of the world’s (or your own personal) economy is like. In fact, there are many things you can do during these tough economic times to enjoy an amazing life while still making sure that your dating life doesn’t lead you to become a victim of the current economic downturn.

There are things you can do right now to make sure you keep your finances in your pockets as you’re out there dating. Here are 6 ways to engage in “recession-proof dating:”

1. Never “Over Date”: I know this is something that a lot of you do (even though you know you shouldn’t do it). So many people will go out on dates that they can’t afford. A date for me is an opportunity for two people to share stories, share things about themselves and get to know each other to see whether or not they want to hang out again. So why are you going out and spending money on expensive dinners for a first date? It makes no sense to me. Go out on recession-proof dates.

Coffee is what I call a recession-proof date. Take a walk outside. Even if it’s cold, it’s fun to walk and get to know each other. There are so many great things to do that don’t cost a lot of money. To be a recession-proof dater, think about setting a $10.00 limit for a first date. If you are that person who finds it offensive that you are not being taken on an expensive first date, then you really need to re-look at why you are dating. Dating is not about getting a free meal (and an expensive free meal at that). Dating is about connecting with somebody so that together you can figure out what to do next.

2. Don’t Offer To Co-Sign: If you are involved in a relationship with somebody and it is a new relationship, don’t co-sign anything for someone. They may have bad credit. I heard so many horror stories from people who have co-signed loans for people. Yes, you might think that you love that person, but do you know right now that you will love them for the next three years and love them enough to be willing to take over the lease payments on their 2008 Honda Civic?

You need to think about your own financial situation, because it is important to protect your own credit. I’m not telling you not to be generous, but think about the person for whom you are considering co-signing a loan. Most relationships blow up over finances. So give your new relationship an opportunity to decide where it’s going before you commit the fate of your credit rating to someone.

3. Steer Clear Of Loans: You will often have someone you’re dating ask if you can lend them money . . . but just for 24 hours or a few days or “just until they get back up on their feet” or something similar. How many times have I heard stories about men who have gone out on only a few dates with a woman, and then the woman will say she’s having a “tough time right now” and asks him if he can help her out with a temporary loan to cover her rent. Now I am all for helping someone with whom you already are in a relationship and someone you already love.

Do not, however, help out someone you don’t know well. You are not a charity. This is just a first (or second or third) date. A lot of men get sucked in by the allure of a beautiful woman, especially in towns like Los Angeles and New York. Never give financial help to someone with whom you are not in a relationship. Don’t bail someone out of a financial problem until you are fully in a relationship with them.

4. Exercise Cell Phone Restraint: Make sure you are always cognizant of the terms of your text plan and your cell phone minute plan. A lot of you don’t realize that all of the cell phone companies have unlimited minute calling. Some of you who don’t have unlimited texting will get involved in a new relationship and start texting with that person nonstop, only to get hit with a $300.00 bill at the end of the month. So be aware of what your cell phone minute and text limitations are on your plan before you start using them with reckless abandon with someone new you’re dating. If you are dating someone new and you know you’ll likely be texting and/or calling that person a lot, then build up your plan so you don’t waste a lot of money on extra charges.

5. Go With Quality Over Quantity: When online dating, you don’t need to be on seventeen dating sites (spending $39.00 each a month) to find good people to meet. That’s a waste of money. Just pick one good one like Yahoo! Personals and stay on it. Think of online dating as a giant bar in cyberspace. One day you might approach somebody and they might not be into you. Two weeks later, though, you send another email and they might respond favorably. So stick to one online dating site and conserve your funds. When you pick quality over quantity, there are always tons of great people to meet.

6. Don’t Use The Recession As An Excuse: Don’t use the economy as an excuse not to have an amazing dating life and as an excuse not to get out there and meet people. You can be smart with your money, live within your means, and still experience fantastic connections with people of the opposite sex as well as bettering your own skills with the opposite sex. Investing a little money into getting to know yourself better is always important and a high priority. Sometimes you may have to get a little creative with how you do it, but investing in yourself and in your own life is always a wise use of your finances.

When it comes down to recession-proof dating, realize that when you keep your money in your pocket and make smarter dating-related spending decisions, you will have a lot more time and energy to date. You will also take a lot of the very unnecessary financial stress so many people feel out of the dating equation. So go out and keep meeting people knowing you can enjoy an amazing dating life right now.

I’m sure all of you have already read some of the posts we’ve done on body language and how to command a room when you first walk in. One thing that always comes to mind – and I get a lot of emails from guys about this – is eye contact.

Can you have too much eye contact? When is the right time to look at her? Is there too little eye contact? What if I’m nervous? Where exactly do I look?

Well, here’s exactly what I say about eye contact. Eye contact is very important. Whenever I talk to a woman, I look directly into her eyes. I don’t care if I’ve met her for the very first time or if I’m having sex with her, I will look at her directly in her eyes.

Women don’t trust people who look all over the room. Nervous eye contact is a guy that looks you in the eyes and then bounces around and looks all over the place. When your eyes are bouncing all over the place, what you are telling a woman – or at least what she thinks in her mind – is that you are looking at someone else, or checking somebody else out.

The reason that women like direct eye contact so much is that they feel like you are completely engrossed. When someone looks at you directly in your eyes, they feel like they are getting all of your attention. There’s a key element to this whole thing as well – when you’re looking at someone directly in their eyes, you’d better not look at them like a stone statue.

You’d should be looking at them very animatedly – if they’re telling a story, don’t just stare directly at them without a smile on your face. React to the words that they say. If they say something funny, smile! If they say something sad, show sadness in your face.

You can’t just stare directly at them, because that type of direct eye contact is going to make them nervous. You need to make sure that your facial expressions also match your eye contact.

Another thing that makes women nervous is when you are talking to them, you look at them in the eyes, and then you keep looking down. Looking down shows women that you’re an insecure man. Women will not feel secure around you, and they will actually start wondering whether or not they want to continue talking to you. They wonder why you keep looking at your shoes. They wonder if you’re reading the Nike label on your sneaker or whatever it might be – but it shows the signs of a weak man.

Don’t forget – 80% of what you do and how you communicate with women is nonverbal. You never have another opportunity to make a good first impression. By looking down, you are showing a sign of weakness.

Women are looking for strong men, so the eye contact you give has to be backed by animation on your face as well. So if you don’t know how to animate your face, or how to react to something, what you need to do is hang out with a friend of yours and have them tell you a story. Look directly in the mirror (instead of looking directly at your friend) and every time they talk, check out your smile. Check out how you look. Check out the way you nod your head. Check out the way you use hand gestures.

Would you trust yourself? Would you be attracted to yourself? You’ve got to work on it. A lot of men (and women too) have trouble smiling. You’ve got to smile, and you have to be comfortable in your smile. You have to be comfortable in the way you frown, and in the way you animate.

Look at trained actors. This is another great thing – if you take a look at actors, there is something in the industry called ‘eye actors.’ If you look at the way an actor reacts to certain things, there are actors that will move their eyes all around and scrunch their foreheads a bit and get animated.

That’s why a lot of actors are shooting themselves up with Botox. They are really using their eyes all the time – they are penetrating with their eyes. It’s a known thing living in Los Angeles that there are lots of eye actors out there. There are some really good eye actors – take a look at Patrick Dempsey on Grey’s Anatomy. Look at the way he looks at a woman – look at the way he smiles, the way his face lights up. Look at his eye contact.

Or George Clooney – he does it the same type of way. Tom Cruise is a wonderful eye actor – same thing, he looks directly at you. His facial expressions always match the emotions being shown in his eyes. Don’t be afraid to show emotion when someone tells you an animated story. These are some great ways to practice.

We notice it more and more – eye contact has to be strong, powerful, and has to really show your intent. Not only are you showing that you are really listening to her, but you are also showing that you are not afraid of her. That’s one of the key things that turn a woman on – they can sense that you have a powerful, masculine energy coming off of you.

How do you turn that energy into a more seductive look though? Let’s talk about that another time. It’s important to practice this eye contact in order to master it, before we get to advance the seductive eye contact. So we’ll talk about seductive eye contact another day.

Todays video is all about how to become interesting. Have you ever spoke to a woman and ran out of things to say.

No more boring talk!!

I received the following comment from someone the other day that I simply had to share with all of you as it illustrates something I teach perfectly. Let’s read what he wrote first, then I’ll explain further.

“David, I dont know what planet you’re from, but it’s not Earth. I think that perhaps you need to get out in the world and see for yourself. The problems in the dating world are never due to the man being needy or not being confident in himself. The problems lie with the way women have been brought up by their parents.
Women view the world as though everything and everyone is at their beckoned call and disposal. Especially mens bank accounts. Women have NO morals in todays society. They will do whatever it takes to get what they want. THAT is what is most important to them.
Too many times have I been out, alone, enjoying a drink when a girl will ask me to buy her a drink and when I do, its like she didnt even know I was in the room afterwards.
Women have been brought up being called “Princess” like they are something special and this give them a false impression of how the world views them. “Princess” is a word that should be banished by the english speaking world.
Every relationship I have had always ended the same way. She had all my money and personal items and I was left out in the cold and broke. They would cheat on me even though I was the best role model for men there is.
Men are blinded by pussy. They think the only way they are going to get some is if they do each and every thing a woman wants. WRONG!
We should go back to the time when women were seen and not heard, and 99% of those shouldnt let their big ass’ be seen.

David”

There are endless things I could say about this guy’s unbelievably poor mindset and attitude, but I posted his comment in this blog because it is the perfect example of one of the most important concepts I teach people I coach: what you believe (positive OR negative) you WILL manifest in your life.

Many of you have probably heard of “the law of attraction” which basically is this very concept . . . except people often believe that this “law” works only in terms of what you can POSITIVELY attract into your life. You may have seen articles dealing with “the law of attraction which discuss how you can use it to bring wealth, love, fame or success into your life.

“Attraction” is such a positive word . . . but what many people don’t realize is that you can (and will) attract BOTH the good and the bad things into your that your attitude and belief system attracts to it. Here is where our friend Dave’s comment is so perfectly illustrative. He is the textbook example of someone whose poor mindset and beliefs manifest all of those poor things into his life.

Dave’s comments make very clear that he believes himself to be a perpetual victim: he complains at length about how every woman takes advantage of him, his affections, his generosity, his money and his supreme fidelity – despite the fact that he is (and I quote) “the best role model for men there is.” According to him, EVERY woman leaves him broke, cheats on him, believes she should be treated like a princess, ignores him after she gets what she wants and just plain has no morals!

Wow, what are the odds that EVERY woman this guy meets has all of these awful characteristics? Or are ALL women simply like this? Think about how ridiculous this is for a minute.

Another thing that stuck out when reading Dave’s comments was that he takes NO responsibility for any of the romantic failures he’s experienced. He puts 100% of the blame for the fact that ‘every relationship he’s had always ends the same way’ on the fact that ALL women by their nature are people with the laundry list of horrible characteristics he describes.

Is he kidding? In all of these failed relationships there wasn’t one percent of blame that was attributable to him? Again, this is absurd.

Dave seems to find the same kind of woman (and the same kind of relationship) over and over again. Why? Well, looking at what all his relationships have in common, the one thing that is constant is HIM. In life, when we evaluate things in our life we need to remember to always look in the mirror.

Dave has cultivated such negative beliefs about relationships, about the nature of women, about his expectations for a relationship and about his identity as a consummate victim, that he will continue to attract this same kind of woman (and relationship) over and over again. He is manifesting all of these bad beliefs and attitudes into his life every day!

“The law of attraction” works to bring both the good and the bad things you believe into your life. So take some time to think about what you believe and what your mindset is all about.

If you look at your relationship patterns and feel like you keep meeting “bad people” or the wrong people, then you need to really re-evaluate what kind of energy you’re putting out to the world and what kind of beliefs are underlying your relationship choices. Chances are that while hopefully not as negative as our friend Dave’s are, you may be out there meeting and dating people with a few of these bad beliefs and mindsets of your own.

Think of the upside to all this also. By identifying any negative beliefs that may be manifesting negative things in your life, you can cultivate new and positive beliefs in their place which will begin to attract and manifest positive and amazing things into your life. Maybe this blog will inspire our friend Dave to do the same!

Todays video is all about how to attract and meet women everywhere……being natural and having fun with no chance of rejection!

Have you ever been to a place over and over again, yet you still feel like you’re going there for the very first time?

It’s because you don’t own the place. You have to own the place. You have to own the territories that you go in.

For instance, we’re walking right now down some street onto Main Street for the Farmer’s Market. Hollister – Hollister and 2nd, for all of you people in Santa Monica. And what we do on Sundays is go to this Farmer’s Market.

This market is great – it has pancakes, eggs, muffins, and tons of people walking around.

But plain and simple: when we come here, we are so comfortable with everything around here. We’ve walked Main Street every Sunday just having a good time, and we own it.

So when we walk, we talk to everybody that we see – every single person that we see, and it’s very easy for us because we’re aware of everything. We’ve been here; we know the food, we own every place that we go to.

You’ve got to start owning the places that you go to. If you go to a place on a regular basis, you have to own it. You have to get to know everybody there, and talk to everybody there – because if you’re going there on a regular basis, other people are too, and you can meet a new network of friends and contacts.

So we were talking about freezing in the moment – when you feel like your feet get stuck in concrete, and your mind is fluttering all over the place.

But step one is believing that you can do this. Step one is watching it, learning it. That’s why I tell guys all the time: if you can concentrate, and you can learn this stuff, and you can practice – the more practice you get, the less apprehension you will have.

It’s all about practice. A newbie called me up on the phone and said, “I want to learn how to do this in an hour.” I said to him, “fine. I can give you the foundation, but you have to learn it, live it, and keep building upon it.”

Nobody can change somebody in an hour. I can change something about you in an hour. I can take a newbie, and make them a newbie in stage one. I can take somebody who is average to sometimes really good and I can make them REALLY good. I can take somebody who is really good, and make them excellent. I’ll always take you up a level from where you are. Sometimes I’ll take you up two levels, but the key is to really be able to do it on your own.

Practice as much as you can, all the time. Step two, when you freeze up – you can do a couple of different things. One – I like the visualization of picturing her naked. I really do. That will create a very playful smile on your face. I tell women to picture men as a big life like version of Scooby Doo.
That way they can realize how goofy men are and smile at us with a playful smile.

Because then I’d walk over, and I’d be cracking myself up. If that doesn’t work for you, write something really funny in your Blackberry, or on your cell phone – make it a screen that you can get to. Read it really quickly, and make sure it makes you smile.

Maybe it’s a picture of something – maybe you need a visual picture of a hot naked woman that makes you smile. Maybe it’s a picture of you with an ex-girlfriend that’s really hot, and you look really good with her – you put that picture up. Whatever makes you feel good.

If you create a warm emotion, you’re going to be able to create an emotion when you talk to her. You’ll be able to talk to her without that apprehension. Watch: right now I’m going to look at my Blackberry, and here’s something from a woman that I’m hanging out with – see the smile? I got this smile, because I’m thinking of something pleasurable.

So then I walk over with an observation – and I’m just thinking pleasurable thoughts. I say, “hey, I like your hat.” And you just do it like that. You just said something very visually nice, and you said something that was mellow, and you got a visual impact.
When you speak you speak with power and conviction in your voice. You own your words and speak with no fear.
Get an audio recorder and work on your delivery.

So that gets rid of that apprehension. But you have to keep practicing that all the time. You have to practice that look, and that whole thing. And you have to keep approaching. But if you approach five or six women a day, that apprehension is just naturally going to go away. You’re not going to care anymore what she thinks.

Client 1: I know what you mean. You mentioned a lot of stuff. When you gave me that hat to try on, and told me to ask her how it looked on me, it was one of those moments – whoa. And you can’t do anything. You can’t remember anything.

But I did it. And I’m excited to get over this, to practice this. So I did it, and I feel like the next time I am going to have a little bit more control over what I do, and be able to have a little bit more fun with it. And it’s going to be easier – at least in that situation. I’ve done it, and I know that I can do it again.

David: Because you saw that it works! It worked for you. She went over and she didn’t take your head off. She didn’t bite, she didn’t kick you in the nuts, and she didn’t tell you to fuck off. She was actually nice.

Client 1: It’s not that I expected any of these things – it’s more subconscious.

David: But you’re subconsciously thinking it.

Client 1: I suppose, yes.

David: Yeah, you’re not thinking it, or saying it to yourself. You’re not thinking, oh my god, she’s going to take my head off. But it’s subconscious programming.

Client 1: Yeah, or I’m more afraid because I have absolutely no idea what is going to happen or how she is going to react.

Client 2: Yeah, for me it’s more that I have no idea what is going to happen.

Client 1: I think that’s important because we could write a whole separate blog about the topic of assumptions and expectations.

Client 2: Do you remember the thing we talked about this morning?

David: Yes, assuming things. Alright, let’s start with that.

Man, that’s a tease, right? And do you know what’s great? If I’m teasing you right now, and you want more… think about it, if you’re reading this and thinking, fuck, man, what an ass – he’s not giving us more! He’s not telling us about assumptions right now. How does that make you feel?

You love it. You loved to be teased.

Do you know why you loved to be teased? Because you’re a human being. Human beings like their minds to be intrigued and teased, that’s what it’s all about.

So think about it – think about how annoying this is going to be. I might post the next blog, what – two weeks later? Maybe a week later? It depends, it will be whenever I feel like it. I’m going to pull it out of the archives, I’m going to listen to it, and I’ll think, damn, this is good, I want these guys to hear this.

What a tease. But you know what? That’s what you do with women, too. You tease them. Foreplay starts in a woman’s mind, so you want to tease the hell out of her.

So we just had some good mental foreplay!

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Todays video is all about how to meet women right now….tonight!

I recently sat down with one of my clients. Here is the actual transcript. Enjoy and have a great Friday!!

Markus: One thing we were talking about yesterday is the scarcity mentality: thinking all the time that you’re missing something. You walk in the city and see a square full of people, and many times you think, oh, I have to be there too. Because everyone is doing it, and if I’m not there, I will definitely miss something.

But on the other hand, maybe it’s just better to go home then, because you had a good evening anyway. You can go to bed early, and get up on Sunday and have another great day.

But this scarcity thing plays into many different parts of life. For example, you have a girlfriend, and you constantly try to call her and please her, and you run after her, because you think that if you don’t do it, she will be offended. You will miss something, she will miss something, and you will not have the opportunity to be with her again.

Or the opportunity to find another person – it’s always this thinking that I will miss something. If I don’t do that now, I will never have the opportunity to do that again. So the question is, how do we overcome that?

David: It’s funny, we were walking through that square, and we had a great day in Amsterdam, where we walked around and we talked to a lot of different people. We made some better connections than others, and some were quick little conversations. Some where longer conversations, like the two women on the bikes, who even invited us for a drink.

That scarcity mentality is very funny because then we were walking through that square at 11:30 at night, and we were tired after a long day, and it does kind of suck you in. You think, this could be the one night that the magic could happen. Standing in this square until 4:00 in the morning – this could be the night of all nights, where a different result will occur that has never happened before.

This could be the party of the year that I missed – there is that whole mentality that people have when they get invited to a big summer party, and they gear up for it all summer long. All week before they think about it, and you know what? There are three other parties that day!

Then they have this painful process of trying to figure out which party is the best one to go to, and then all of a sudden, they go to the WRONG one. Their friend calls them the next day and says, “oh man, you should have gone to Joe’s summer barbeque – it was amazing! All the hottest women were there…”

And you think to yourself, oh man; I can’t believe that I missed it. How could I have missed that party? I can’t believe I made the wrong decision, I can’t believe I did this!

But this is what you need to believe: deal with it! One night is not going to change your life. If you miss a party, so what? That is scarcity mentality.

There’s not going to be another party? And who says that you’re going to get the same results that your friend had at that party? And who says that you were going to meet the woman of your dreams at that party? Most of the time you don’t! It’s the hype – it sucks you in.

You have to do things that you enjoy every single day, so that way, at the end of the day you go to bed, and you don’t feel like you’ve missed anything. You feel like you’ve accomplished everything that you had wanted to accomplish. That gets rid of the scarcity mentality.

Secondly, just deal with it! You can’t be everywhere at every moment, you can’t chase the night, and you can’t chase your life. So you make a decision, and you deal with it. And you know what? If you miss something like a party, so what? There are more!

If it comes down to women, and you feel like you’re chasing your woman at all times – having to answer her every single phone call, every email – you feel like you’ve just been whipped. You feel like you can’t have any personal time? That’s another example of the scarcity mentality. It’s because you don’t believe that you deserve the woman in the first place.

So what you need to do is believe in yourself and believe in the relationship. Believe in the women that you’re cultivating. But it all comes down to believing in yourself.

Life is abundant – it’s only your mind that makes it scarce.

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Today we dig even deeper on how to communicate better with women without all the scientific pickup jargon.

Yesterday we talked about a few quotes. Some of you embraced them, some of you fought them. Life is all about embracing new concepts and thinking outside the box.

Today lets talk about being Rich….lets make a lot of money….or maybe there is a whole new way of being rich besides trading oil.

People spend their entire lives chasing things. Men spend their lives chasing women. Women might chase love. Men might chase money.

And then we finally get these things – some of us get that love, and some of us get the money – we think that we’re really rich. This society is based on the idea that if you’re a millionaire you are rich.

But I’m going to give you a whole different version of what I consider being rich. I’m rich. I’m rich in every aspect of my life. Financially, I’m fine. Emotionally, I kick ass. I have friends I love; I have friends all over the world. My soul is enriched every single day by the things that I do – because I only do things that I love. I’ve got the most fantastic dog in the world. I have people that I work with that are fantastic and amazing. I get on an airplane and I get to travel to places, I get to do things, and I get to experience things.

I lead a rich lifestyle, because everything that I do makes me feel rich – rich as a person. But the greatest thing about being rich is that you absolutely love yourself. You love everything about yourself. I’m not talking egotistically – I’m not talking about walking around with a big ego saying, “I’m the greatest person in the entire world” – not that at all.

What I’m saying in this situation is that you are content with who you are – you’ve accepted all the things about you – you believe in yourself, and in your little nuances. Maybe the fact is that you have skinny legs, or maybe your ass never looks perfect in a pair of jeans – whatever it might be. You’ve embraced all of your insecurities.

You can look at yourself in the mirror everyday and say that life is an amazing gift. Every second of every single day I’m going to spend living my life, experiencing my life and being an active participant in my life – that is the definition of being rich.

There are people who will always have more money than you, and there will be people who will always have more things than you. But the fact is that spoiling yourself in little ways is what’s important.

For instance, going out and buying yourself something you really like – if you can afford it, embrace it and do it. Going out there and having dinner with a friend you haven’t seen in a long time, sharing your heart and sharing your soul – that’s a rich experience.

Everybody should lead a rich lifestyle. It doesn’t take money. Once again, we always want other things. People always think, I’m going to be happy as soon as I get better skills and connect with the opposite sex. I’m going to be happy if I can fall in love.

Or there are a lot of women on the internet that are 39 years old and they think, well I’m not going to be happy until I have a family. You know what? You’re not happy right now! So you’re going to attract all the wrong people and you’re not going to live a very rich lifestyle.

I want to add that also for a lot of people, the idea of being rich is to accumulate things. That’s how they believe they will reach that acceptance of themselves, that contentment.

But to me, and what I always say is that you become happier and more comfortable with yourself by learning to let go of everything you thought you needed.

Eventually, what you learn is that you need to let go of everything – your fears, your desires, and everything else so you can find the true essence of yourself. Once you do, that’s when you define yourself and find out who you truly are.

Once you get there, it’s just easier. When you believe yourself, you realize that you are perfect as you are. You’re not the BEST – there’s a big difference in believing that you’re perfect the way you are and disillusioning yourself into believing that you’re better than everybody else. You’re not the best. But you are perfect as you were created. You’re perfect as you are.

Everything you need to succeed and be happy in life is already in you. You just have to rediscover it, because something clouded that part of you before. Whether it’s your experiences, positive or negative – it doesn’t matter. But it’s really about rediscovering what you already had.

Most people don’t see that – they keep on adding things to their lives and that creates more junk to remove later. That’s why a lot of people can’t be content. Instead of removing all the junk, they keep on adding junk to their life, which makes it more confusing and more difficult for them to define themselves and realize who they truly are.

Todays video is all about how you are going to spend your money. On booze repelling women or on improving yourself.

In order to become more observant, your mindset needs to be this: everything you see you need to look at with a child-like curiosity. Look at everything like you’ve never seen it before.

The way you need to live life is to walk through a neighborhood every single day like you’ve never been there before. Every day you walk through that neighborhood, notice new things. Notice new buildings. Notice the color of the sky. Notice the new trees in springtime. Notice the new buds coming up. Notice everything you can possibly notice.

What happens is that this is tuning you to your environment. You can even do this on your way to work. If you walk to work, you can do this then. You can notice the cars, notice the way people walk, notice the way people are dressed. What happens is that you start training your mind.

What comes next is going into stores: let’s say you go into a Starbucks and you see someone you are attracted to. Have that same child-like curiosity. There’s someone standing next to you that you’re attracted to and you want to talk to them. You can look at the big menu board up there, the caramel machi-frattos and all that other junk, and you stand there and it’s called ‘throwing words to the wind.’ You project your voice so that the other person can hear it.

You never want to speak low or softly; you want to project your voice. When you project your voice, you can basically look up, throw those words out, and say, “god I was wondering, what’s good here?”

Immediately the person standing next to you will answer – everybody likes to pretend that they know it all. So she’ll answer, and there’s a conversation starter for you.

Everywhere you go, you can use the “I am wondering” or “I’m curious” method of reading people.

Let’s say you’re at a gas station, and you’re pumping gas into your car. Someone is standing next to you, and they’ve got this great Audi. “I’m curious, do you like your car? I was thinking of maybe getting one of those one day.” Whether or not you just bought your car or you didn’t – it doesn’t matter, you can still say that.

So be curious about everything. If you go to the Apple store – which is a place that a lot of people go – you’re looking at the iPods. You pick up the 70 GB iPod and say, “god, I’m wondering: do you think anybody ever fills up this thing with music?” The person will answer, “well, yeah, I have all this music…”

The most important thing you need to do is to look at everything in the world just like a child. You have the wonderment of a child, and you look at the world as if it was the first time you’ve ever been there.

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Today we dig even deeper on how to communicate better with women without all the scientific pickup jargon.

It’s springtime, leading into summertime, and in most cities across the world there are food markets on Saturdays or Sundays. There you can go and get breakfast or lunch, you can get some vegetables for the week, you can get some flowers for your house – that is if you want to buy flowers, you know.

But these food markets are amazing, because they are crawling with people – men, women, screaming babies – or hopefully you can avoid the screaming babies. But the market is crawling with amazing people.

One of the best approaches at a food market is just to walk up directly to where that woman is standing – or if you’re a woman, directly to where a man is standing – and really use the food as a prop.

Take a look at the rolls, look at her, and say, “I was wondering, have you had the bread from here, is it good? I could ask the person behind the counter, but of course they’re going to say yes because they work here!”

Same thing with fruit – you could just walk up to them and say, “man, this fruit looks so good, have you gotten fruit from this stand before? It’s hard to choose which stand to get fruit from!” and then let them talk.

“I was wondering…” and “I’m curious…” are really good here. If she’s eating this incredible looking sandwich, you can walk directly over to her as she’s walking through the market and say, “excuse me, I’m really curious – where did you get sandwich? It looks so good.”

There’s a conversation starter that you need when you’re in a food market. Then listen carefully. Have a great conversation about food, have a great conversation about the nice day. Not small talk here – you can find out a lot of things about them, if you pay attention.

I don’t want to script each minute of this conversation, because it’s not about that. If you really pay attention to what the woman (or the man) in this situation is saying, you’re able to ask them even more questions about the food, or about what they’re passionate about, or why they’re so passionate about the sandwich they’re eating.

So all of a sudden they’ll tell you, “yeah, this is a great sandwich, one of the best I’ve ever had – but not as good as the one I had at this other market,” and then you can ask, “what other market?” and you can capitalize on that. You can talk about food markets, and you can talk about food.

What will happen is that an interest in food – which all of us have, because we all eat! It’s not like something we don’t know how to talk about – we eat three times a day! Some of us do it six times a day!

Some of us like wine, some of us like vegetables, some of us like flowers. Some of these little food markets have art shops and other things. You know all of this stuff! You’re an expert in all of this stuff. You’ve been eating every day since you were born.

So you should have something to talk about here. It’s a wonderful place to meet people, so go enjoy it!

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Women want what other women have. It’s like the ultimate version of social proof – you could be sitting in a restaurant and you know the waitress. So you go in alone to the restaurant that you eat at every Saturday and there is the waitress that you know.

So what do you do? You remember things about her. Not only do you have to be memorable, but you also have to remember things about people so you are able to bond with them again.

The best way to bond with somebody is to go back to the conversation you initially had with him or her. So if your memory is not good, I always suggest buying a little Blackberry Pearl and there is a memo pad in there and write down the name of the restaurant, the name of the waitress, and something personal about her.

Let’s say the waitress is “Ski Girl” – I do nicknames for everybody. Nicknames give instant intimacy. You want a woman to be calling you by a nickname, because she connects with nicknames more often than with regular names! It distinguishes you, but it also shows the playful side of your personality.

So you go back into that restaurant, and there’s Ski Girl right there. So you sit down and say, “Ski Girl, how are you? It’s a bit too warm to ski right now, isn’t it?” And she’ll laugh, and now you have her laughing. You can talk to her a little bit more.

Next thing you know, three women will sit down at the table across from you. The waitress is paying you attention – talking to you, laughing with you. The other women start looking at you and they wonder who you are. Is that her boyfriend? Who is this guy? The waitress comes over and treats you nicely all the time, but the waitress just goes over to her and treats her like a customer!

So immediately the women across from you start wondering about you. So what happens is that they become attracted to you based on the energy that you’re conveying with the waitress. So all of a sudden you see the women looking at you, and you can say to them, “oh man, what are you going to order? Everything here is phenomenal – it’s hard to decide!” Or, “have you been here before?” or “I was curious, what’s your favorite dish? Have you been here before?”

If they say no, you can say, “well let me tell you what is really good here, do you want to know?” And that’s how you share with them. Or if they tell you that they’ve been there before, you can say, “I’m curious, what’s your favorite dish?” – remember to use the ‘I’m curious’ approach to get them to start engaging you.

All of a sudden they start talking, and then the waitress comes back over and she’ll get a little jealous and starts talking to you, and that’s how the whole thing snowballs! It’s instant social proof.

In stores, it works the same way. A client and I went into the store Paul & Joe, and immediately I asked, “so where’s Paul, where’s Joe?” – or whatever it was. It doesn’t make a difference, it was an observational opener based on what was going on.

What happened then was that one girl started talking and laughing and showed us the whole book of all the fashions that were in the store. So then, all of a sudden, one of the other girls came over and started talking. Then another one – the manager – came over and started talking to us.

It works every time. If women see another woman smiling at you, laughing, and having a good time, they want the same thing. Most guys are not memorable, and most guys are boring.

And it is all about the voice tone. It is never what I say – because everything I say is just based on observations – but my voice tone is so excited during the whole process – “oh no way, you like to ski?” It’s just like I’m very excited about them.

Women want you to be excited about them, and women want you to be interested in them. Women want you to be so excited about them, because then they will get excited about you – because you’re being the exact opposite of every other guy that they ever see.