Remember when you were a little kid and you learned in school about the “5 W’s?” You know what I’m talking about: who, what, when, where, why and how. How did “how” ever become a “W” anyway? Maybe we’ll explore that in another blog . . .

I believe that one of the best lessons we ever learn as a kid in school is the power of who, what, when, where, why and how. They are powerful because when you are able to grasp the importance of who, what, when, where, why and how, you can create an amazing conversation with ANYONE in any situation.

It is all about becoming curious. My whole life I’ve been questioning everything.

Being confident in your ability to engage in conversation with anyone not only is a great general skill to have, but it has a huge impact on the success of your dating life. Do you you think you would get more dates if you felt comfortable to start a conversation with anyone, especially with those members of the opposite sex you really want to meet but usually feel too nervous to approach?

Think about how using the “5 W’s” can help you easily meet people in the places you go every day and how that could immediately result in you getting more dates. Let’s say you are in a coffee shop and you see a woman you find attractive. Note that this applies to either gender, but since I’m writing this I’ll use the male’s perspective for this example.

So let’s say I see a woman I’m attracted to in a coffee shop and I hear her say “Gosh, I really need a mochachino today.” Notice how you can utilize all of the five “W’s” and create a great conversation:

David: “Why do you need a mochachino today?”
Woman: “It just reminds me of this trip I took.”
David: “Really, when did you go on that trip?”
Woman: “Years ago I went on a trip with a really good friend of mine and we had an awesome time.”
David: “Where did you go?”
Woman: “We took a summer road trip up the coast.”
David: “That sounds really fun! How long have you two been friends?”
Woman: “She and I have been friends since grade school.”
David: “When is the last time you talked to her? What did you guys used to like to do together?”
Woman: “I haven’t talked to her in a couple years since she started having kids. We used to take a trip together every year to a different place.”

You can see that I actually easily used each of the who, what, when, where, why and how elements in that conversation. Notice how easy it is to create a conversation just by realizing and using the power of who, what, when, where, why and how.

Have you ever been nervous about engaging in conversation with someone, and questions keep running through your mind like “What can I talk about with them?” or “How will I think of the right thing to say?” The power of who, what, when, where, why and how eliminates all of these questions and gives you the ability to confidently engage in conversation with anyone, because you always have an endless supply of conversation topics ready and available.

You should be cognizant of the “5 W’s” every time you are talking to someone. You will never be nervous about what to say again!

The “5 W’s” are an integral part of most conversations whether you realize it or not. Think about every conversation you’ve ever had. I’ll bet they are all a series of who, what, when, where, why and how questions.

Life really hasn’t changed much since we were kids. One of the main things that has changed is our ability to rationalize. We rationalize our fears and decide we are “unable” to talk to certain people. The truth is you are able to talk to anyone in any situation.

So the next time you’re standing there looking at a total stranger you’d like approach, just think who, what, when, where, why and how and start talking. You never know where that next conversation might lead.
In order to learn and master the art of conversation you will need to watch this video. Together with this blog you will explode your interactions and meet some amazing women.

Ladies….watch this as well….it will work for you too!!

So we were talking about freezing in the moment – when you feel like your feet get stuck in concrete, and your mind is fluttering all over the place.

But step one is believing that you can do this. Step one is watching it, learning it. That’s why I tell guys all the time: if you can concentrate, and you can learn this stuff, and you can practice – the more practice you get, the less apprehension you will have.

It’s all about practice. A newbie called me up on the phone and said, “I want to learn how to do this in an hour.” I said to him, “fine. I can give you the foundation, but you have to learn it, live it, and keep building upon it.”

Nobody can change somebody in an hour. I can change something about you in an hour. I can take a newbie, and make them a newbie in stage one. I can take somebody who is average to sometimes really good and I can make them REALLY good. I can take somebody who is really good, and make them excellent. I’ll always take you up a level from where you are. Sometimes I’ll take you up two levels, but the key is to really be able to do it on your own.

Practice as much as you can, all the time. Step two, when you freeze up – you can do a couple of different things. One – I like the visualization of picturing her naked. I really do. That will create a very playful smile on your face. I tell women to picture men as a big life like version of Scooby Doo.
That way they can realize how goofy men are and smile at us with a playful smile.

Because then I’d walk over, and I’d be cracking myself up. If that doesn’t work for you, write something really funny in your Blackberry, or on your cell phone – make it a screen that you can get to. Read it really quickly, and make sure it makes you smile.

Maybe it’s a picture of something – maybe you need a visual picture of a hot naked woman that makes you smile. Maybe it’s a picture of you with an ex-girlfriend that’s really hot, and you look really good with her – you put that picture up. Whatever makes you feel good.

If you create a warm emotion, you’re going to be able to create an emotion when you talk to her. You’ll be able to talk to her without that apprehension. Watch: right now I’m going to look at my Blackberry, and here’s something from a woman that I’m hanging out with – see the smile? I got this smile, because I’m thinking of something pleasurable.

So then I walk over with an observation – and I’m just thinking pleasurable thoughts. I say, “hey, I like your hat.” And you just do it like that. You just said something very visually nice, and you said something that was mellow, and you got a visual impact.
When you speak you speak with power and conviction in your voice. You own your words and speak with no fear.
Get an audio recorder and work on your delivery.

So that gets rid of that apprehension. But you have to keep practicing that all the time. You have to practice that look, and that whole thing. And you have to keep approaching. But if you approach five or six women a day, that apprehension is just naturally going to go away. You’re not going to care anymore what she thinks.

Client 1: I know what you mean. You mentioned a lot of stuff. When you gave me that hat to try on, and told me to ask her how it looked on me, it was one of those moments – whoa. And you can’t do anything. You can’t remember anything.

But I did it. And I’m excited to get over this, to practice this. So I did it, and I feel like the next time I am going to have a little bit more control over what I do, and be able to have a little bit more fun with it. And it’s going to be easier – at least in that situation. I’ve done it, and I know that I can do it again.

David: Because you saw that it works! It worked for you. She went over and she didn’t take your head off. She didn’t bite, she didn’t kick you in the nuts, and she didn’t tell you to fuck off. She was actually nice.

Client 1: It’s not that I expected any of these things – it’s more subconscious.

David: But you’re subconsciously thinking it.

Client 1: I suppose, yes.

David: Yeah, you’re not thinking it, or saying it to yourself. You’re not thinking, oh my god, she’s going to take my head off. But it’s subconscious programming.

Client 1: Yeah, or I’m more afraid because I have absolutely no idea what is going to happen or how she is going to react.

Client 2: Yeah, for me it’s more that I have no idea what is going to happen.

Client 1: I think that’s important because we could write a whole separate blog about the topic of assumptions and expectations.

Client 2: Do you remember the thing we talked about this morning?

David: Yes, assuming things. Alright, let’s start with that.

Man, that’s a tease, right? And do you know what’s great? If I’m teasing you right now, and you want more… think about it, if you’re reading this and thinking, fuck, man, what an ass – he’s not giving us more! He’s not telling us about assumptions right now. How does that make you feel?

You love it. You loved to be teased.

Do you know why you loved to be teased? Because you’re a human being. Human beings like their minds to be intrigued and teased, that’s what it’s all about.

So think about it – think about how annoying this is going to be. I might post the next blog, what – two weeks later? Maybe a week later? It depends, it will be whenever I feel like it. I’m going to pull it out of the archives, I’m going to listen to it, and I’ll think, damn, this is good, I want these guys to hear this.

What a tease. But you know what? That’s what you do with women, too. You tease them. Foreplay starts in a woman’s mind, so you want to tease the hell out of her.

So we just had some good mental foreplay!

If you want to live this life every day without fear you need to check out my mens and womens mastery series.
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Todays video is all about how to meet women right now….tonight!

It’s springtime, leading into summertime, and in most cities across the world there are food markets on Saturdays or Sundays. There you can go and get breakfast or lunch, you can get some vegetables for the week, you can get some flowers for your house – that is if you want to buy flowers, you know.

But these food markets are amazing, because they are crawling with people – men, women, screaming babies – or hopefully you can avoid the screaming babies. But the market is crawling with amazing people.

One of the best approaches at a food market is just to walk up directly to where that woman is standing – or if you’re a woman, directly to where a man is standing – and really use the food as a prop.

Take a look at the rolls, look at her, and say, “I was wondering, have you had the bread from here, is it good? I could ask the person behind the counter, but of course they’re going to say yes because they work here!”

Same thing with fruit – you could just walk up to them and say, “man, this fruit looks so good, have you gotten fruit from this stand before? It’s hard to choose which stand to get fruit from!” and then let them talk.

“I was wondering…” and “I’m curious…” are really good here. If she’s eating this incredible looking sandwich, you can walk directly over to her as she’s walking through the market and say, “excuse me, I’m really curious – where did you get sandwich? It looks so good.”

There’s a conversation starter that you need when you’re in a food market. Then listen carefully. Have a great conversation about food, have a great conversation about the nice day. Not small talk here – you can find out a lot of things about them, if you pay attention.

I don’t want to script each minute of this conversation, because it’s not about that. If you really pay attention to what the woman (or the man) in this situation is saying, you’re able to ask them even more questions about the food, or about what they’re passionate about, or why they’re so passionate about the sandwich they’re eating.

So all of a sudden they’ll tell you, “yeah, this is a great sandwich, one of the best I’ve ever had – but not as good as the one I had at this other market,” and then you can ask, “what other market?” and you can capitalize on that. You can talk about food markets, and you can talk about food.

What will happen is that an interest in food – which all of us have, because we all eat! It’s not like something we don’t know how to talk about – we eat three times a day! Some of us do it six times a day!

Some of us like wine, some of us like vegetables, some of us like flowers. Some of these little food markets have art shops and other things. You know all of this stuff! You’re an expert in all of this stuff. You’ve been eating every day since you were born.

So you should have something to talk about here. It’s a wonderful place to meet people, so go enjoy it!

Todays Video is how to create the perfect first kiss.

Memorial day weekend in LA and it is 54 degrees and raining!!! I love the rain so its a nice break!

Today we have a great video on how to create great first dates.

So you met a man or a woman and you created some instant attraction.

Now what do you do.

Are you going to be a great flirt?

Are you going to stop the monkey chatter and turn off the negative thinking long enough to connect with women.

Are you a woman that has trouble connecting with a man on a first date.

Todays video will help you out….but first you must read todays blog!!

Are you somebody that really values every minute of your day? Do you make a conscious effort to basically respect yourself?

Do you make an effort to make sure you get dressed in the morning, to make sure you eat a good meal for breakfast, to make sure you get a good eight hours of sleep?

Are you somebody who looks forward to certain TV shows, and you make the time for the certain things in your life that are important to you? Maybe you make the time for working out, maybe for getting your favorite cup of coffee in the morning.

Do you make the time for all of the little things in life that you love? Do you make the time for other people? And are you on time?

It’s amazing how many people make the time for the things that they want, but then when they are meeting someone, they are running 30 to 45 minutes late without a phone call or anything. That, to me, shows that you absolutely do not respect the people you are meeting, and you do not respect other people’s time.

If someone commits time to you – if they commit their heart – if they commit their time to you and tell you that they will meet you at a certain time, you’d better show up, and you’d better be on time! They are taking time out of their day to get to know you, and they’re taking time out of their day to hang out with you.

By not showing up on time – whether it’s a date or a business meeting – you’re basically telling somebody that you don’t respect their time. So the next time you’re running 20 minutes late, and you’ve got the thing called a cell phone, use it! Call the person.

As a matter of fact, if you’re running late, call the person an hour ahead of time! You already know that you’re running late – you already know that you’re going through whatever regimen you have that is causing you to be late in the first place.

But don’t make people wait for you without an explanation. Because by the time you actually show up, many times, if it’s a date, you’ve already been ruined – no matter what you do. Especially if it’s a first or second date, when you’re trying to make a good impression on somebody? You’re done.

So next time: check the clock, or just leave a little earlier