And it’s a holiday weekend to boot.

Spring is here! So enjoy the weekend.

Today’s video is all about how to talk to any woman, anytime, anywhere.

Need I say more?

Enjoy!

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This woman is beautiful. She is everything you think you want.

You see her take a sip of her drink, play with the straw, look at her watch and check her cell phone. She looks around the room and, for just a split second, your eyes meet and you have a moment. Then she quickly looks down, and looks back at her phone again.

There you are, standing there alone at the bar with your hands in your pocket waiting for you friends. Apparently she is also waiting for her friends.

Your mind starts racing. You start thinking to yourself, “What can I say? What can I do?”

There are so many clues in this situation! She checked her watch. She checked her phone. Obviously she is waiting for her friends.

It is very easy to walk over there, look at her and say, “Obviously you are waiting for your friends. My friends are late too.” You could start chatting with her.

The problem is that your mind starts messing with you. You don’t see the obvious or, even if you did, you start to freak out the second she looks at you.

You start to ask all those questions in your head like “What can I say” and “How can I get this amazing woman’s attention?” Listen, though, to what you are saying.

You already have her attention. She already looked over at you.

It is because you are afraid and overcomplicate things so much that you don’t see the obvious signs in life. You don’t even see the wonder of this moment. You don’t even realize what a powerful moment this can be because you over-analyze things so much.

You have such a fear of embracing the unknown, that this is what is going to happen to you in this scenario: You are going to stay standing where you are and another guy is going to walk up and start talking to her.

Then her friends are going to arrive, and you are going to watch she and her friends get into a great conversation with him and his friends. When you go home, you are going to wonder what you could have done.

The truth is that you already know what you could have done. It is just your fear of the unknown that doesn’t allow you to do it.

Every day you need to face the unknown. Every day you need to push yourself to do something of which you are afraid.

Otherwise, the unknown will continue to scare you and you will end up dating women who don’t intrigue you and to whom you are not attracted. There is nothing worse than having sex with a woman who doesn’t intrigue you.

You also don’t want to ever end up in a relationship with a woman who doesn’t intrigue you. Fear of the unknown is what drives us to loneliness.

I talk more about how to approach women in any situation without feeling any of this kind of fear or anxiety. CLICK HERE to check this out now.

I said, “Caffeine? No, I don’t drink coffee. I just don’t want to talk to anyone before 11:00 a.m.” She started laughing.

Then she asked my why I don’t drink coffee. Her question made me think about why I don’t drink it. Here are my main reasons:

1. Maybe I don’t want to pour acid on my stomach first thin in the morning.

2. Maybe I don’t want to drink something so bitter first thing in the morning when I wake up.

3. The times I did drink coffee during some trips to Europe, I ended up buying things I never wore.

4. That caffeine buzz really isn’t needed for someone like me who is already so energetic.

5. I like to ease into my day. I like to lay in bed an extra hour. I like to take Daphne to the beach for a walk feeling all foggy. I enjoy slowly starting the day. What’s the rush? Why do I need to get my heart palpitating the minute I wake up after relaxing all night long. Plus, why would I want to feel jittery after just having a good night’s sleep?

My favorite people are the “puff and coffee” people. They wake up and have a cigarette and some coffee. They already have bad breath. Nothing could smell worse than coffee breath and cigarette breath mixed with morning breath. Why bother brushing your teeth?

So besides generally not needing coffee, not wanting to feel jittery and not wanting to have coffee breath, the real reason I don’t drink coffee is because I like my slow easy morning. Even on the days when I have to wake up early, I enjoy waking up.

The idea of living another day is enough for me. I really don’t need to stimulate myself to feel excited about life. And what does this have to do with meeting hot women while on caffeine. Nothing at all I just thought we would have a very light day today but the video below will show you all you need to know for the upcoming weekend!

Though after watching this video you would think i was high on caffeine!!

All of us think to ourselves, “Oh, if I were only taller…” Do you know that my entire life I’ve wanted to be shorter? I’m 6’2” – and I hate it. If I put on a pair of cowboy boots, I’m 6’3 ½” – there are photos where I’m just towering over everybody.

I have a bunch of Asian coaches – Yakub’s 5’6”, Khiem is 5’10” (he’s pretty tall for an Asian,) and Rey’s 5’8” on a good day – and here’s the Jolly Green Giant, towering over all of them. I have some funny-ass pictures of that.

I always wanted to be like 5’10”. If I was 5’10”, I could wear my jeans a little bit tighter, my legs wouldn’t be as skinny. There’s a major insecurity for me – my skinny legs.

And I wouldn’t have to worry about finding a pair of jeans that were long enough for me. It’s like, Jesus, if they shrink up a quarter of an inch, I’m done for!

But we all have these insecurities. People are always emailing me, saying, “Oh my god, I’m really short – what am I going to do?”

The answer is nothing! You’re not going to walk over to women and say to them, “Hey, I’m the short guy – you don’t want to date me!”

Let me tell you something: women are flexible. Some women, like my girlfriend, are very visual: all of her ex-boyfriends look the exact same. They are tall and in shape…she definitely has a type.

I have a type. My type is always very athletic women. When it comes down to hair color and everything else, I could care less.

But most women are all over the map. “My last boyfriend was French, and I thought I hated the French!” “My last boyfriend was an Asian guy, I’d never dated an Asian guy before then…”

And Asian guys totally have blond fever. I have tons of male Asian friends that won’t date Asian women. But I have a ton of male white friends who LOVE Asian women!

We all have a certain type, but women are much more open to new things. If you come at them with energy and confidence, you can change her. She may not like guys that are 5’7” – her “type” might be guys that are 6’2”. But if you come at her with a larger-than-life attitude and you turn her on – if you’re quick and you listen to her – all of a sudden she’ll become attracted to you.

And then her friends are saying, “Oh my god, you never dated a short guy before,” and she responds, “He’s short?”

They don’t see the things that we see. Men, we are SO critical it is ridiculous. If a woman has cellulite, we notice it. We really do. We’re fucked up like that!

Have you ever dated a woman who had one boob bigger than the other? I have. And I saw it all the time – hello big guy, hello little guy! We always notice stuff like that. And the younger we are, the more we notice things and the more critical we are.

And the fact is that women are not like that. We have to realize that women are much more evolved than we are! We’re way too superficial. This is why women freak the fuck out all of the time. God forbid they have a little stubble on their legs. God forbid their hair doesn’t look right.

But the competition they feel when they see airbrushed women in magazines and don’t feel as stick-thin… Think about all of the things that women go through, and be more accepting.

Not only are they under a microscope from the competition with other women in magazines and their friends, but they also know how fucked up we are as a species. They know how critical we are of them.

So just realize that you can rescue them from all of that by being strong, powerful, accepting, and by making them feel beautiful. Doing this will be the first thing that ever gets them to be attracted to you.

Now I’m not talking about walking over there with some cheesy line like, “You’re beautiful!” Definitely not. I’m talking about the way you talk to them, the way you listen to them.

You know what’s it like – she comes home, she had a shitty day, you wanted to have sex, but you know it’s not going to happen now. She had a shitty day, and now you have to go into listening mode all night and do things that you didn’t want to do.

If you do that, you become that much more attractive to her, so that the very next day, the sex is going to be so much better. Because you gave her what she needed that night, you’ll become that man that she always wanted.

Do that in every situation. Be open to her suggestions. I’m not talking about being a wuss or a wimp, but if you say, “Hey, let’s go see a movie tonight, I’ve really been wanting to see this one,” and she says, “Oh man, I’m not in the mood for that tonight,” then you can respond, “Alright, babe, what are you in the mood for?”

If you do her thing tonight, sure enough, she’ll go see your movie the next day. Hell, she’ll even watch the football game with you the next day!

It’s about feeling her needs from the get-go. You are every woman’s perfect man if you listen to her needs.

It’s not about how we look; it’s about how we act. Now of course you can’t go out like scratching your nuts and rocking the sweatpants on a date – you have to at least fit the mold in that manner.

But you have to understand that all of you have the capacity to do all this – it’s all about listening. Listen and make her feel wonderful!

Life is a marathon – and you are only racing against yourself. You don’t have any other competitors.

Your marathon starts the day you were born. You are in the middle of an unbelievable marathon. We all are.

When you evaluate or judge yourself everyday for doing something wrong – man, I can’t believe that I wasn’t able to talk to that woman; I’m such an idiot! What’s wrong with me? – This is just one person; just one encounter. It doesn’t make a difference.

This is a marathon. That woman that you beat yourself up about at that moment – you will never remember her in the long run! Never. The minute you meet someone new, you’ll forget she even existed.

Think for a second about the last woman that you beat yourself up about because you weren’t able to approach her. Man, I wasn’t able to talk to that woman on the street, damn! – And then you spent an hour just thinking about her.

During that time you spent beating yourself up, you missed six opportunities to talk to someone else!

If something doesn’t work out for you, immediately realize that you’re in the middle of a marathon. What does a marathon runner do? They take one step at a time. In the Olympics, the marathon runners take one step at a time. And by the time they take that next step, their last one is already erased.

Swimmers take another stroke, and by then their previous stroke is already forgotten. Everything works like this.

You can’t slow down. You have to see your life as a marathon. You can’t let a little bump in the road – some woman who didn’t respond to you – get you down for even a split-second.

If you do let that affect you, you’re basically resting at a pit stop that you don’t belong at. You have to keep moving.

You will never remember that person anyway. I don’t remember any of the people that I supposedly obsessed about. This is something that you need to think about and put into perspective.

The next time you think you’ve been rejected or blown off, put this into perspective: this person means nothing in the history of your life. This person will not be remembered in your personal history. There will be no stories about it.

So you saw a woman in Whole Foods and she didn’t talk to you? So what! When you’re an old man you’re going to be talking about the great things that happened in your life – not “well, 30 years ago I was at Whole Foods Market on West Lake and Denny in Seattle and I had approach anxiety and I wasn’t able to talk to this woman. And to this day, I still can’t get over her.”

You don’t even know her name! You don’t even know what she’s all about! You probably can’t even remember what she looks like.

So every time a woman gets you down – when you think to yourself, man, I just can’t believe I got blown off by that dream girl – you have to think to yourself that in the history of your life, you won’t even remember her.

The quicker that you learn that life is a marathon, the quicker you realize you can keep moving forward. That’s how you work your life

Its awesome when I see someone transform and really break through their fears.

Today’s blog is something we go over in all the bootcamps.

Also check out the bootcamp schedule on the home page. Only 3 more left this year!

I’m all about creating positive energy wherever I go, because to me, life is a party. If you’re not going to go out there and enjoy every single moment of every single day, then you are just wasting your time.

You should never be waiting to talk to the hot girl – you should talk to everybody. For women it’s the same thing – if you wait to do that, then you’re no different than the bad pinch hitter.

You know, there’s always that guy – the Cubs have one, the Mets have one – where the bases are loaded, it’s the bottom of the 14th and he’s the last guy on the bench, right? And you’re thinking, oh, man, what the hell? Why is he up?

Or it’s like the third-string quarterback. If you’re a Bears fan, all you have is third-string quarterbacks. That team has gone from being good to being bad again so quickly – it’s unbelievable how quickly they went from the Superbowl to being 4-12. I just cannot get over that.

Anyway, let’s go back to this experience we had today in my friend Barry’s clothing store in Brentwood, why I talked to this certain person and how.

When I walk into a store, I’m observing everything. Today, a man walked in with his two little daughters. I started talking to the little girls. I said, “are you picking out clothes for daddy today?” They answered, “oh yes, we are.”

Then Rey picked up on that and he found out from the guy that his daughters were getting him a birthday present. He told Rey that it was his 40th birthday. It’s all about gathering information.

What is this good for? Well, first off, if you’re interested in people, others can tell that about you. When you go into the store, and you’re chatting with other people, other customers will walk in and observe this banter going back and forth. And they will become instantly attracted to you and want to participate in the conversation as well. You become attractive because you are leading the conversation.

And you never know who is going to come in while you are putting on this show. A beautiful woman might come into the store, and if she sees this going on – she sees the daughters talking to you, the father talking to you – she wants in.

Everyone wants in. People walk around with sticks up their asses all day long and they are attracted to people with good energy. That’s the first thing about it.

The second thing about talking to everyone is that it gives you the opportunity to build up your social network. You’ll always run into people over and over again.

You might be out at a sushi restaurant in Chicago or LA, and there’s the guy that you saw in the store. It was his birthday, he was there with his daughters, you remember these things about him, and now he’s sitting there with his wife and her HOT friend.

You walk over and say, “oh hey man, I remember you from when you were shopping with your daughters for your birthday. How’d that day go?” That’s it. You remember everything. That’s the reasoning behind talking to everyone.

I go over all of this and much more in my Mens Mastery Series. Click here for more details.

Todays video is a secret hidden place to meet women.

I looked at her and I said, “man, these don’t really smell,” and she said absolutely nothing. She went into total mute mode.

And so what did I do?

Absolutely nothing!

I didn’t really care. It didn’t really make much of a difference. What does it matter to me? The guys asked me, “well what could you have done differently? What happened?”

But, who cares? Let it go. She just didn’t respond. I approached her well – on an observation – and she just didn’t respond. Do you really want to hang out with somebody who doesn’t talk to you? Do you want to hang out with a mute?

It doesn’t make much of a difference. And in the time that the guys were analyzing this woman and why she didn’t respond, there were four other cute women hanging out around the salad bar checking us out.

Chris and Josh were busy saying, “well, what could we have done differently?” and they missed the next opportunity.

Who cares? Stop with the attitude of wanting to get them all. Why would you want to get them all? Do you really have that much time to date them all?

You want to get the gems. You want to go for the woman that responds to you – not the one that ignores you.

So she ignored me. I don’t care. Ask me now what she even looked like and I probably couldn’t tell you. Life moves on. Life is a marathon.

This is how we ended the bootcamp. WHO CARES? – that is the phrase that every guy needs to remember from this point forward. If a woman does not respond to you when you’ve done everything correctly (which we all did!) then look at the situation and say, WHO CARES? There are plenty of other women out there.

Life starts from the second that she blows you off. That gives you the opportunity to see all of the rest of them!

Now that you have this mindset check out todays video on how to meet women in the mall. This is live footage from actual approaches in a Seattle Mall.

Enjoy and have a great Friday!!

Hey hope everyone is having a great holiday weekend!!

I just got out of the water I spent the early part of the day surfing!!

Hawaii is amazing and I think I found a new sport!
Onto todays blog.
When you’re in the mall and you really want to start conversations, start them based on observations. Your observations are always a good way to start conversations.

You can start by saying, “hey, look, I need some help with the furniture,” and then observe. A client and I recently went into a Pottery Barn and did this. We listened to how she talked – in this case, the woman was Russian – so I threw in, “what part of Russia are you from?” to get her to start talking about herself.

The key is to observe, to then start the conversation, and then to listen intently. Whenever you listen, you get to pick up on all of the things that you want to be able to talk about next. Instead of thinking about what you NEED to talk about, you’ll actually be able to flow with the conversation by just listening to them.

The other person is giving you all the information you need to carry on a deep conversation with them. The more you listen to them, the deeper you can go.

When she mentions that she is from Moldavia, you can say, “Moldavia, I’ve never been there. What is Moldavia known for?” What happens is that you are creating an emotion in them, and by doing that; they are going to start to have some type of connection.

By asking her about things that she actually likes, enjoys, and is a part of, you will make her think about her home. When she thinks about her home, she’s going to want to talk to you more about that and she’s going to look at you as an emotional response. She’s going to bond with you, and think, oh my god, this guy is really interested in me – most guys aren’t really interested in ME, they’re interested in the physical aspects.

You can see when she starts talking a little bit about her language, and she gets red in the face. And then it’s like, well how much money do you have? I’ve got this magic pill – at that point, you have her. It’s done. That’s all you need to think about.

Today our video is all about getting wet with women in the rain.

Have you ever wondered what to say to a woman in the rain to get her intrigued and willing to get even more wet with you.

Happy Friday!!

Are you going to chase the night tonight or attract the night?

This blog is part of a live coaching from a recent trip to London with a client. Hopefully these exchanges with my client will give you an idea of my coaching style. Consider it a sneak peek into what I do when I am coaching clients and leading bootcamps!

David: Men will spend half of their adult lives ‘ctn’ – they spend half of their lives chasing the night. If you think about it, guys go out on a Friday night, and there’s always one or two guys that want to have fun and talk to their friends. The other ones will be looking around the room, they’ll have one drink and get impatient because there are no women there – even though they haven’t really met women very often anyway – and they have to run to the next place. They spend the whole night trying to figure out what the best place is.

But the best place – which is so ironic – is where you are in the first place. If you spend the time laughing and having fun with your friends, you’ll start attracting people. Women will wonder why you’re having such a good time and you’re not being like the typical male chasing the night.

There’s another scary term – on Saturday nights, there are guys that are ‘ctw’ – chasing the week. They don’t have any skills to go out and meet people during the day, and they haven’t gotten that concept yet, and they realize that if they don’t make something happen on Saturday night, that they have to wait all the way until next Thursday or Friday night for something to work.

So then Saturday night has an even more desperate energy, because men are walking around chasing the week. You can see the desperation in their eyes, you can watch it. You know you’ve done it, and you’ve seen guys that have done it even more. There are packs of guys that are walking around your neighborhood, in the bars, looking around like this – they can’t even concentrate at all.

It’s the guys that are twisting their heads around in every direction. Think about it – when a guy is doing that, it’s not attractive to a woman! A woman is looking at that guy and thinking, holy shit, what is wrong with him? The guys stare like this, and they don’t say anything, they start drinking a little bit – to get their liquid courage on in order to chase the week.

The pressure is building because they know that they screwed up chasing the night the night before, and then usually when they get home after chasing the night or the week, it’s like they have to come down from it. And then you realize that the woman that you saw at the beginning of the night was the one you probably should have talked to in the first place, and then you think well, what could I have said? It’s usually something that comes to you from a simple observation. It comes to you four hours later because you’re no longer in this unbelievable mode of chasing.

It’s a very funny thing. One great exercise to do (and I do this all of the time) is to go out on a Friday night and look at the guys chasing the night, and then look at the women reacting to those guys – just be an observer. When those guys finally go up and approach a woman, watch how quickly she rejects them. She’s noticed him from all different angles – she’s noticed the way that he was looking, she noticed that he didn’t walk over right away.

There’s a reason why women go out in packs: they’re protecting themselves from these ‘ctn’ guys. If they went out alone and they had the guys chasing the night or the week all over them, forget about it! This poor woman would be bombarded with annoying guys all night long. So that’s where the chilling out comes from.

Robert: It kind of reminds me as well of stock trading. It’s like you’re chasing the price as opposed as waiting patiently for it to go, which I know will happen eventually, but you chase the price. And I’ve lost a ton of money doing that!

I admit it, I’ve done it a few times, and I know what I’ve done wrong. It was against the rules; I know that you’re not supposed to chase the price. You just shouldn’t do it. But you’re thinking, oh, but this time, and it never works.

David: And the stock market is all psychology. It’s all human emotions and psychology. So you’re looking at a candle chart, and you see your entry point. You don’t get in because you don’t believe it, even though the formula tells you to get in. Everyone else is watching the same formula, and you still don’t get in. It goes up a little bit, and you still don’t believe it, it goes up a little bit more and you start thinking, holy shit, if I would have just trusted the formula, I would have already made $.20 on it!

So what do you do next? You think it’s going to go down, but it goes up a little bit more, and then what do you do? You, and the other people who were chasing the price, go in. At that point, the stock goes up a nickel and you say to yourself, oh, it went up! Then you see the candle and you’ve got that candle that doesn’t know what direction it’s going to go next. That’s you!

You’re in there, and then what do you see next? Things sink! Because everybody who got in 30 cents ago when they were trusting the whole process bailed out, and then you’re stuck, chasing the price once again. That’s how you lose money. You think, well, it’s going to go up again – but you already missed the boat.

I did the same thing when I was trading. I wouldn’t trust it, and then I would get in too late, and then I’d be there during the downward slope. It’s a great analogy.

Robert: Yeah, I’ve done it. Just this year, I’ve done very small trades as an exercise. I was just trying to be very observant. And it went in my direction. It was really about discipline. But as soon as I put in some big money – I kept thinking, it’s not going to work, and I’d get out, and it was very premeditated.

And then when I did something that was “against the rules,” I would think, oh, I don’t know what I’m doing, and that would work. I learned I needed to be observant, and be patient.

David: Well, think about this: the thing about stock that really goes against all of the rules is that this stock is really a beautiful woman. The little stocks you mastered – these are women that you’re not attracted to. And the bigger stocks are beautiful women and you treat that big stock differently. Really, you needed to treat them the same way, because the same rules apply every time. It doesn’t fluctuate, and it doesn’t change. That’s a great analogy, and a great lesson.

Robert: It is. No matter what you say to yourself, the rules are the same.

David: Life doesn’t change. The formula in life is the same for everything we do, except for our social life and the stock market, where we’ve done other things.

Todays video will teach you how to lay off the CTN…chasing the night mentality and be more of a natural with women.

This is part 4.

I woke up this morning next to a beautiful woman and had these thoughts to share with you.

Think about this: there’s a woman that you’re friends with and she convinces you to go on a blind date. How many times has that happened?

Or, your woman friend is throwing a party, and she says that all of her good-looking friends are going to be there. You go to the party, and you look around, and you say to her, “well where are all of your good-looking friends?” and she says, “they’re all here!”

This biggest clue that men can take from this is that women basically think all of their friends are beautiful. That’s what they do: they look from the inside out – while men look from the outside in.

This is something that men don’t grasp. If you look at the way women think about their friends, you might not find them appealing, but women find them incredibly sexy and beautiful.

Basically, it’s the same exact thing when women look at a man. You can never compare yourself to other guys, because women will look at you from the inside out. They don’t know that they’re attracted to you until they meet you. That’s what is phenomenal.