You guys converse for a few minutes, and then she walks away. And after this, you stop enjoying yourself because all you’re thinking about is “Where is she right now? Is she coming back?”

With all of these thoughts running through your head, you can’t really concentrate on the conversations you’re having with other people. This is where you make the biggest mistake.

You have to understand that the dynamic presence – the power of who you are as a person – will intrigue her. Did you intrigue her enough? If you intrigued her enough, you can just walk away.

A confident man will walk away knowing that the woman will come back. An unconfident man will follow her around and turn her off. The more you follow her around, the more she’ll start to think, “Why is this guy being so needy and following me around?”

So here is what I would do at these parties: I would talk to her for five or six minutes, and then I might tap her on the leg lightly and say, “Hey, look, I just saw a buddy of mine over there that I need to go talk to, I’ll be back in a minute. Don’t miss me too much.”

Later, I’ll come back – even if it’s twenty minutes later. Maybe she’s talking to another guy. I might whisper in her ear, “Oh man, you’ve got to stop flirting with this guy. I know you miss me!” And then I’ll walk away.

I’ll play with her like that, and I’ll keep a theme running. And what will inevitably happen is that she’ll start to try to find you.

During that time, you have to make sure that you’re talking to other people at the party. Talk to everyone, and you’d better make sure that you’re having fun! Show her that you’re enjoying yourself in other conversations.

Don’t look around the room like you’re seeking a ship on the horizon – “Where is she? Where did she go?” You have to stay present in that moment, and let her seek you out.

If you think this was easy wait till you see what is even more obvious in this video.

It’s interesting, because a lot of men – and I’m talking about MEN, I’m not talking about boys. As little boys, we used to look at girls and we used to rate them on a number system.

I remember being like 11 years old, and we’d look at women – well, at that time, girls – and go, “man, she’s cute, what would you rate her?” “Oh, she’s like a 6.8,” or “she’s like a 7.5.”

The problem is that any man over the age of, really, 22 should no longer be rating women on a number scale. The number system is just really ridiculous. Why are you rating a woman on a number? Really, it’s arbitrary anyway, because my 10 could be your 3. Your 3 could be my 7, your 6 could be my 6.18, and your 2.87 could be my 3.14 – wait, isn’t that Pi?

Anyway, I really think it’s time that men stop rating women on the number scale, and started evaluating women on a whole new system.

I am going to explain this whole new system. This new system is so revolutionary, guys, that women are not going to look at you as man-boys anymore. Women hear you say that stuff. I’ve seen guys out in a bar, and they look at a woman and they…

Come on man, wake up! It’s unbelievable. We’re doing this blog as we drive, and if any of you have not driven in Los Angeles, the horn in LA is called the ‘wake the fuck up’ device. People love to just sit at that light. There’s not much to do at a light. You have two things to do: you stop and you stare at the light, and when it turns green, you go.

But in LA, it’s amazing how many times the light turns green, and they just sit there. Being a New Yorker, I’m going to use the horn, because I love that horn. And in Los Angeles, by the way, too, the directional blinker is optional equipment, because no one ever signals here. So you can save a thousand bucks off your car.

But let’s get back to that number system. So I was in a bar one night, and these guys were standing there and rating women, and women were hearing them. “Oh man, she’s a 6.” And that’s really classless. You’re 40 years old, and you’re rating women on a scale from one to ten? You sound like an immature child!

So how would you like a covert system where you actually can go and meet a woman, and afterwards you can say words that women will hear over and over again, but will have absolutely no idea what you’re talking about? Hell, you can rate these women right in front of their faces and they’ll have no idea what you are talking about!

It’s time to grow up, and it’s time to use the new system of rating people. I’m not talking about the Nielsen ratings, I’m not talking about the Arbitron ratings for radio; I’m talking about the new system here that Khiem is so proud of that he’s thinking of patenting it.

And he hasn’t even thought it up – it isn’t even his. But he’s going to share something with you guys that you need to learn. It’s called, for you technical guys, YMN.

Khiem: Thank you, David. You’re right, you shouldn’t rate women on a scale, because truthfully, at what number is a woman attractive to you? A 6? Above a 5? How about you simplify it to yes, no, and maybe.

Let’s be honest: would you want her? Yes or no. And if you’re not sure, then maybe. Maybe can be a lot of things. Maybe could be if she has a good personality, and you just might want to do her. But if she’s really bad, then she falls quickly into the no category.

Let’s be honest here. You’re a man, and you meet a woman. We’ll put you one-on-one in a room, and assuming that there are no distractions, how much do you desire her?

It’s so much simpler. And even when you wink at each other in the bar or wherever you are, she’s like, yeah – okay, I don’t even know what you mean, David, I can see it in your eyes!

David: It’s a yes or a no!

Khiem: It’s a yes or a no, there’s no ifs ands or buts about it. It’s just yes or no. Once in a while, you’ll get the occasional maybe, and that’s why you go up and talk to her. When you’re not sure, go find out! Go find out and be curious about her.

And then you can come home and say, “you know guys, I saw a yes girl,” or “no way, I saw a no girl.” And it’s so much easier.

It doesn’t matter what your guys tell you – it’s all up to you. Either you like her or you don’t.

David: Not only that, but think about this: you might run into a woman in the street, and you might see her walking to Whole Foods, and she might actually work in Whole Foods, or whatever, and she’s a maybe. You’re not quite sure about her yet. Guess what? You met a maybe! That means you can go back in there and meet her again. She might turn into a yes; she might turn into a no.

I’ve had maybes that have turned into yeses, and I’ve had maybes that have turned into nos. Hell, I’ve had some maybes that have turned into long-term relationships! I wasn’t quite sure about her the very first time I met her. I wasn’t quite sure about her personality, and who she was. And I learned more about her the second time around.

So expand your horizons! Become a yes-no-maybe man. Lay off the number system. Numbers are great – on a calendar. Numbers are great on a phone. Let’s look at my car right now – it is 68°. Does that mean that the women around us are all 6.8s?

So let’s lay off the number system, guys, and let’s go to yes, no, and maybe. It’s going to make you sound a hell of a lot more mature in life. Really, the fact of the matter is that these numbers are just validating you anyway. Every guy wants to be with that “perfect 10.”

Really, the perfect 10 comes from inside out. And the perfect 10 is very different for each guy. You don’t need to tell your friends that she’s a 10, you don’t need to high-five, your friends don’t need to validate you; you need to validate yourself!

Go after what you want with a vengeance. If it’s a yes, go after her and ask her out! If it’s a no, then be nice to her because she may lead you to a bunch of yeses.

But, once again, be open to everything.

Alright, that’s it. I’m sitting at a green light right now, and I’m the lead car. In Los Angeles, it’s really important to be the lead car. If you’re the lead car, you don’t have to use the ‘wake the fuck up’ device. If you’re the lead car, the only you have to do is make sure that the person next to you doesn’t weave into your lane – they tend to be lane weavers here too.

Do you have lane weavers in your town?

What the hell is wrong with people?

People on an airplane act like total animals. They read a magazine and then throw it on the ground. They drink a bottle of water and then throw that on the ground too.

What do they think? The flight attendants are just maids in the sky? That they are going to just clean up after them entirely?

People act like total pigs when they get on airplane. They bring on the most disgusting food, like McDonalds. McDonalds is the WORST thing in the world you could bring into an enclosed space. They never think about other people.

Not only that, but when people stand in line for the bathroom, they literally fart in your face. You’ll be sitting there and smell this horrific stink, and then the person will look at you like, ha! Yeah, so I did just fart in your face! No big deal.

Here is another thing I’ve noticed about people’s disgusting public habits: why are public restrooms always so wet? There is always urine on the toilets in public restrooms. You literally have to clean the seat before you even consider sitting down to use the toilet.

It’s the most ridiculous thing in the entire world. Do they pee on the seat in their house? Is there urine all over the seat in their house?

Why do people throw paper towels all over public restrooms? Why are people so disgusting in public? I’ve never really understood that.

So what makes all this applicable to the dating world? Nothing really! But sometimes I like to talk about things other than creating attraction and dropping your ego and great sex.

When it comes down to it, you might end up dating one of these animals. This animal might come into your house and pee all over your toilet seat!

So get some manners! It is disgusting. People are just gross, and getting more mindless by the second.

Maybe you think it’s funny not to flush and leave a present for someone in a public restroom. But I really don’t find it that interesting to look down and see your present!

When I was little I used to tell my mom when someone left shit in the toilet of the public restrooms. In response, she taught me to never look down. Now when I go to a public restroom, I never want to look down!

What is up with people and their ridiculous animalistic behavior?

But speaking of mixtures, life is a mixture. It’s really funny, because we all have this ideal. If you think about it, men have been masturbating to Maxim magazine models, Playboy centerfolds, Penthouse centerfolds since they were little boys and realized that something neat and fun actually comes out of their own dick and makes them feel good!

So if you think about it, men have been fantasizing about these women for most of their lives. Now what have women been doing? They don’t have a dick, but they do masturbate, as we all know. Women have been fantasizing about that 6’2” guy – the one from the Bride magazines, Sean Connery playing leading man roles, George Clooney, Brad Pitt.

That’s who they fantasize about – they fantasize about that tall, dark, and handsome man – how many times have you heard that? Tall, dark, and handsome.

Sex and the City even had an episode of tall, dark, and handsome. Mr. Big was what? Tall, dark, and handsome.

If you go on the internet, everybody has their ideal person there. Every woman wants a guy over 6’ tall, and every guy wants a woman who is fit and athletic.

The problem is that the world is not 6” tall and in great shape. And most women are not skinny and petite!

So you need to embrace your body – you need to look at your body, and you need to look at who you are, and you need to become the most powerful you within your own body. The fact is that if you’re a guy that’s 5’6”, and if you project your attitude, you project your voice, and you project confidence, a woman is going to see you as 6’ tall.

Maybe you’re not the ideal guy. But you are the ideal man. Think about it: she’s got some fantasy guy in her head, and you walk over to her, and what happens is that most women spend their entire lives wanting to get swept off of their feet. Mr. Tall, Dark, and Handsome hasn’t swept them off of their feet yet, but if Mr. 5’6” with a killer personality and great confidence walks over and claims her – claims her like the woman she is, makes her feel sexy, makes her feel wanted and desired – all of a sudden she can be yours.

If you look at all of the women in the world, not every woman is dating tall, dark, and handsome men. Most of them are dating just average guys who had the confidence and the balls to approach her, and the confidence and balls to really go over there and talk.

When it comes down to men, all of us are not going to be dating Maxim magazine models. It’s just not going to happen. It sounds great in theory. If there was a factory somewhere abroad that FedEx shipped them over by the dozens – absolutely gorgeous women all of the time – that’d be great.

But the fact is that you have to embrace who you are every single day, and become the most powerful version of yourself. If you’re not the most powerful version of yourself, you won’t be able to sweep anybody off of their feet.

Forget about the fantasy. All of the women on the internet – all of you that are so narrow minded and you bitch and complain that men are narrow minded – women are so narrow minded on the internet it’s incredible. All they talk about is wanting this perfect guy.

Just the other day I was reading this internet profile from a woman who was 39 years old. 39! She wants three kids, and the guy has to be aged 36 to 39. Hello? Can we say, fantasy?

Now let’s talk about reality. Reality in this situation is the she’s probably not going to get that. She’s probably going to get something else, and you have to realize that what you’re about, and what you project is what you will attract.

So if you are narrow minded in your search, and you’re not open to things, you will never be able to meet somebody who will blow you away.

Lets talk about how to get out of your head. Do you worry about every little thing and what others think of you?

Todays video will break you out of your fears forever.

I’ve been asked to come clean.

I’m hanging out with Khiem, Tony and Rey. As we’re walking down the beach right now, we’re taking Daphne – Coach Daphne, of course – we’re walking down the beach in Marina del Ray, and it’s about sunset. So we’re just kind of talking about women, and what type of women I like to date. I never really talk about myself on the blog – well, only sometimes. Recently I’ve been talking a little bit about myself. But what type of woman do I like to date?

I’ll just tell you straight out: if she’s under the age of 30, I’m not really that interested. I’m not interested for a few reasons. For one, I don’t really want to relive my dramatic twenties. No offense – I have friends in their twenties, I have lots of people I work with in their twenties, and I love them dearly – but I really just don’t want to relive my twenties.

It’s not that I didn’t enjoy my twenties. There were a lot of interesting moments during that decade, and moments of real growth, but I like a woman who is more – and we’ll get to this debatable topic in a second – I like a woman who is more grounded.

I like someone who is very balanced. They have a balance between their career and their passions. I’m interested in a woman who has spent a lot of time basically working on herself. A woman who has taken the time to get to know herself, and who has taken the time to really explore herself – mentally, sexually, emotionally and intellectually.

And really, this is what you are doing throughout your twenties. You’re spending your twenties exploring yourself emotionally, intellectually, sexually, and in terms of your career. You’re doing everything in your twenties.

That’s the great thing about this decade of your life. You are spending that time getting to know who you are and what you are all about. You’re defining your identity.

So when a woman is defining her identity, leave her alone and let her do that! It’s funny, because I know a lot of guys who are my age and love dating these younger women. I just have no patience for them. It’s not that I don’t like them, or that I wouldn’t be friends with them – I just don’t want to date them. I’d rather spend my time with somebody who knows who they are, about their identity, and what they are all about.

But we’re all different. Everybody is looking for something different. Khiem, who is in his twenties, dates women in their twenties. But he had an interesting emotional experience with an older woman over the weekend, and I want him to describe the difference.

Khiem: Basically, I went out this weekend with two girls as friends, not as dates. One of the women was in her forties, married, and the other one is in her mid-twenties and single. We all enjoyed each others’ company, but I ended up talking to the woman in her forties much more because she was much more self-assured.

She could speak well, she could relate to me better. I would try to bring the conversation back to the woman in her twenties as well, but she was just shyer. She was very cute, very petite, but there was something that was blocking her from really opening up.

The interesting thing for me was that while I know they both enjoyed their time with me – I took them out and showed them a great time, we had great conversations, so there’s no issue there, but after the weekend, the married woman in her forties called me to thank me for a great time. She told me how she wanted to do it again.

It was unexpected – I was taking them out because they were my friends, not because I expected anything, but she was willing to show appreciation. A lot of times, younger women don’t know how to do this. They are not secure enough in themselves to show appreciation to the men in their lives.

David: Well, and younger women also don’t really know exactly what they want yet, so they are really still sampling. A lot of them still have their expectations as well, so they don’t know when to give back or make the call. They don’t know how to reciprocate.

I hate to say this, and women in your twenties, don’t get your panties in a knot, but a lot of younger women are takers. A lot of younger guys are takers as well. They are both takers, which is fine, because at that phase of your life, you are a taker. You are learning exactly who you are. When you are learning about who you are, you’re taking things from people: experiences and other things. That’s what you’re about at that stage of your life.

Now Tony is 29, and he’s on the cusp of coming out of his twenties. What are you more attracted to now?

Tony: I would say older women – for relationships. For flings, younger women are alright, but as Khiem described, it’s difficult to have good conversations, open communication, or genuine reciprocation and sharing with younger women. I shouldn’t say you can’t – there are younger women that are exceptions. But my better experiences have been with women in their mid-thirties – even up to 40.

David: Because they are more aware sexually, and emotionally. And there are no games!

Tony: Exactly. And they appreciate guys who know what they want, and express it openly. They don’t have as many hang-ups.

Khiem: There’s a girl that I’m seeing right now in her mid-twenties, and I love helping her explore her sexuality. At the same time, I know that there are a lot of guys that don’t know how to do that. They are just into bam-bam-bam, that’s it. It takes a certain kind of man or woman to really explore that.

Tony: The cool thing with a younger woman is that you can help steward them…

Khiem: Yes, you can mold them.

Tony: And guide them, and lead them through experiences that guys their age wouldn’t be able to do. I think that’s why they appreciate older men.

David: I was always into very long sex sessions. I was never a jackrabbit minuteman. The first time I had sex I think I lost it in about three and a half seconds, but since then I’ve always been about controlling it and giving women a great experience.

I’ve never been sexually turned on unless I can really play with a woman – unless I can really give her a great experience. To me, that whole connection is really important.

But it’s so funny because I remember when I was in my twenties and the sexual experiences I had with women were just annoying. It was so inconsistent. One day they would be sexually present and have a great time, and the next night you’d be begging for sex.

Women in their twenties are still dealing with a lot of the Catholic guilt that we were talking about earlier, or upbringing stuff – they’re not yet comfortable with their bodies, and they are still comparing themselves to their friends. They aren’t yet in love with themselves because they don’t know themselves yet. We’ll talk about the Catholic guilt topic another day, because that is a HUGE subject that we get a lot of emails about.

But when it comes down to dating, I think you are where you are. Assistant Rey is 18. So he’ll date anything – he’s so fucking horny all of the time, he’s checking out the woman in the car next to us now. Rey’s at the point where he’ll date anything – 18, 19, whatever.

Khiem: Rey is the Energizer Bunny: ready to go at any time.

David: And that’s the great thing about being 18. You can pump and dump 17 times a night.

So the bottom line is: enjoy the stage you are in. Embrace where you are, and enjoy it. Just be okay with the journey that you’re presently on – it’s YOUR journey. If you’re learning – learn. If you want to develop yourself deeper – go do the things that help you to develop yourself as a deeper person.

Take the time to spend time with you and learn to be with yourself.

Todays video is all about validation.
Time to validate yourself with real confidence and not a phone number from a woman who will never call you back!

Hope everyone is having an amazing weekend.

Todays video is a can’t miss, but you need to first read about how to be unique in bars.

Today I want to share with everyone a great question I got from someone in London. I’m sure all of you think about these same things when you go out at night too, so let’s talk about this right now!

Client: First of all, I have to commend you on the Men’s Audio Mastery Series – it’s one of the best audio series I have ever heard.

I also have two questions for you. You said that when you open someone in a bar, you want to ask the women for their opinion on something.

In the field in London, a lot of routine-based games use the opinion opener to open women. If you use the opinion opener and the girl has had many people open them with that previously wouldn’t she think, oh boy, here we go again or might they not think of that at all?

Also another question: if you are conversing with a woman and you find yourself at a lull in the conversation without anything to say, could you go back to a previous thing she said earlier in the conversation to start a new conversation with her?

David: Hey, great to hear from you. I will be in London doing a boot camp in September, which is posted on my website. It’d be great to work with you in person. Let me know if you have any interest.

If not, I’ll be doing some private coaching as well, if you can’t commit to the whole weekend. I’ll be doing some private coaching on the days in London also.

As for your e-mail, there are a lot of different opinion openers. The great thing about what I teach is that everything is not the same.

For instance, when I was in London last time, I was at the Sanderson Hotel, and I was working with a client of mine. This woman was staring at us, so I told my client to walk over and do this: walk right over to her and say, “hey, are you just going to stare at me all night and check me out, or are you going to come over here and talk to me?”

Do this, I told him, and do it with a big smile. Then all of a sudden she’ll start laughing; she’ll say something to excuse herself. Before she explains and babbles, you can look at her and ask, “do you have approach anxiety?”

Say, “I hear there are some great books on the Internet that’ll help you overcome that!” Laugh. Say all this with a smile. She will inevitably start laughing really hard, and then you can tease her a little more.

Ask her, “are you shy?” And she will respond, “well, you know…” and then you can start talking about it a little bit. And you’ll have things to talk about. It will be a fun game to do at night.

When you’re at the bar at night, you need to make it fun. You need to make it interesting. You need to make it different. That’s why I like day game much better than night game. Because night game, you need to play around a little bit more.

Another way to open up a woman in a bar at night is when she bumps into you. You can say to her, “excuse me.” She will ask you, “what?” You can then say, “I need to know your name.” And then she will respond, “my name is Amy.”

“All right, Amy, I just need to know because if tomorrow I wake up all bruised from you bouncing into me all night, I need to be able to tell my buddy that I was in this bar last night and this girl Amy kept bumping into me all night. What, do you play rugby or something?”

So there you go – you’re being fun, playful, and you’re being DIFFERENT!

Now, you know my approach for texting, right? I think I put the texting at night approach on the Mastery Series, but I’m not sure. So I’ll outline it here:

You basically walk up to a woman who has been hanging out with her friends. You have your buddy text you, but make sure his name is not in there. Have him text you this: “last night was great. Maybe another drink later tonight?”

And so you walk over to a woman and you say to her, “look, I just got this text, and I have absolutely no idea what it means. No idea. But before I show you the text on my phone, I need to give you a little bit of a back-story.”

Keep going: “last night I went out with this woman for a drink. We had a glass of wine, hung out for an hour and a half, and that was it. I didn’t think there was any chemistry, and I had no idea what she felt. I didn’t even think much of anything about it, but I just got this text from her right now. What does it mean?”

So then they will pass your phone around, and they will start to laugh. They’ll start to smile. One of them will say, “booty call!” You can then say, “aha, is that what you call a booty call?” And then you get the conversation rolling from there.

There are just a few of new tips for you.

Now, if the conversation starts to get slow, what you have to realize in your mind is that not everyone you talk to you will be able to connect with. The problem with men is that they think that just because they have the guts to approach a woman, every conversation has to work out. Some conversations just don’t work out.

Think about in terms of soccer. The guy has an open shot, right? A penalty shot. He takes ten penalty shots. Does he make every penalty shot? Absolutely not. If the odds were ten for ten, there would be no such thing as a hard penalty shot or an easy penalty shot, right?

So, sometimes the conversation just dies. You have no chemistry with her at all, so it doesn’t matter. If you follow the things that I teach – meaning you listen very carefully to what she is saying – you will be able to tell.
You should use portal words, which means that if she says, “oh this weekend is so fantastic, it’s my grandmother’s birthday,” you can ask, “really, how old will your grandmother be?” She might respond, “my grandmother will be 92.” You can then look at her and say, “congratulations, what’s her secret?”

If you listen very carefully to what a woman says, and you transition using the emotional portal words that I talk about, you will become a much better conversationalist in the long run.

Don’t ever worry about what other people have done going out. Most people are not going out using the things that I have used. I’ve been in London coaching guys for a long time, and let me tell you: my stuff is different, as you know, than most other garbage that is out there. Most of the stuff is pick-up BS and that’s it.

Alright, have a great weekend, and let me know if you want to take the boot camp in London. I have a few spots left. Let me know if you want to do some one-on-one coaching too. It’d be great to work with you when I’m in your neck of the woods. I will talk to you later! Thanks for the questions.

Todays video is a really great one.

I go over the 4 keys to attracting women…….Enjoy and have a great Saturday!