It’s amazing what a good orgasm will do. I’m not talking about self-administered orgasms.

To tell you the truth, those kind of orgasms are lame. They really are.

It doesn’t take much skill to plug a vibrator into the wall, put it on your clit and fifteen seconds later scream “Ohhhhhh!” as you come. Bravo! Let me give you a standing ovation. Also, to the men out there who are beating off in the middle of the day over the sink with hand lotion they stole from their grandmother, I say get real!

Those are not the kind of orgasms I am talking about here. What I am talking about is the sex you have in a relationship that makes the fights go away.

Now, I’m also not talking about taking off your clothes, humping and getting each other off (basically masturbating inside each other). That is not what sex is all about.

Granted, I’ve had relationships in which the sex was really just about masturbating inside each other. I’m sure all of you have.

What I am talking about here is being connected to each other’s needs, wants and desires leading up to sex. That means tuning in to how your lover needs to be taken.

Are you someone who just needs to be thrown down on the ground in a testosterone-driven rage and be taken while they look in your eyes? Are you someone who needs verbal foreplay? Whatever it is, we are all very different sexually.

We all love the act itself. Who doesn’t love the warmth and the moisture and the heat of that whole experience?

I remember when I was a baby what my first words were to my Mother. I said, “Wow, it’s so warm in your amniotic sac.”

When I slid my way out, I couldn’t wait to get back in. It took me eighteen and a half years to get back inside.

The bottom line here is to know how you are wired sexually. What do you need the most in your lover? This is something I want all of you to think about today.

Do you need someone to seduce you? Do you need someone who will look in your eyes and talk dirty to you in order to turn you on?

Are you someone who likes to get raw and dirty, and just be taken? You want to have dinner, go home and have your lover f*^k the shit out you?

Write down whatever it is that you want and need. This is very important and something that a lot of people overlook.

Like your good friend Dr. David says, “an orgasm a day keeps the Tyson away.” It keeps the fighting away.

The only issue, and what’s important, is how we get to that orgasm. You may not be aligned with somebody sexually; they may be a totally different sexual type than you are. In that situation you might be having great sex, but it doesn’t mean you are being fulfilled.

So it’s really important before you get into a relationship (or even if you’re in one already), that you are straight about who you are sexually. Be honest about who you are and what you want. This is so important because once you start having sex with someone, it’s very hard (no pun intended) to make changes.

See everyone tomorrow!

In the movie, Alec Baldwin plays a 58 year old man who has an affair with his 58 year old ex-wife at the same time he is married to a 30 year old woman. She wants to get pregnant.

So the Alec Baldwin character spends his days at fertility clinics masturbating into cups, instead of enjoying the stage of life he is in with his grown children and still sexy 58 year old ex wife. He could be enjoying the experience of appreciating his age and growing old with his wife.

So many of us are constantly looking to maybe upgrade. The 55 or 60 year old fat, chubby man all of a sudden decides that he wants a younger, beautiful wife. The younger, beautiful wife really just wants him for money, sperm and/or more money.

It’s really about learning to be present where you are.

I seem to get a lot of guys who email me and say, “I’m 50 years old and I’m only attracted to 20 year old women.” Well, I was attracted to 20 year old women in my life too . . . when I as 20 or 23 or maybe 25. Then I realized, “God, 20 year old girls are so annoying!”

As I kept getting older, I kept dating in my age range. The fact is that I couldn’t image at 47 years old dating a 20 year woman.

Just the thought of it makes me sick. Having to watch how they interact with their friends and listen to how they speak (with all the “likes” and the “oh my gawddds”) would really be too much for me to handle.

I’m not knocking anybody who’s 20. I think 20 fits great with 20. I think you should talk like 20 year olds talk. I know I probably said some pretty stupid things too when I was that age.

It’s just learning to embrace that where you are in your life is where you should be. So if you continue to want to date younger and younger people, it’s time to ask yourself why.

When I was in my twenties, I dated plenty of women in their twenties. When I was in my thirties, I dated plenty of women in their thirties.

I was never looking younger. I was just looking for somebody great. I never put an age on it.

I know a lot of guys whose taste in women age-wise changes in direct proportion to their own age — for every year older they get, the desired age of the women they date goes down by a year. I have a friend who is like that. He is always chasing the youth.

My friend is 48 years old now, and he’s been chasing the youth for five years. He still isn’t in a relationship. He decides he wants to date younger and younger women each year, thinking that is the answer.

That is not the answer. The answer is to date within your age range. Appreciate where you’re at right now in your life.

For those of you who are in your twenties right now, go crazy with each other. Say all the “likes” and “oh my gawwdddds” you want. Get drunk, throw up and have one night stands. Do all the fun stuff you’re supposed to do in your twenties.

Get it over with and do all of those things. Date people who may not fit or who flake all the time. It’s all cool.

As you get older, though, appreciate who you are and where you’re at in your life. Not only that, but I know that if I was Alec Baldwin’s character in that movie — trying to chase a 30 year old around all day long — I would find it exhausting.

I would want to be on a cruise ship, hanging out with other 58 year old guys. Okay, well maybe not a cruise ship, but you get the idea. We’ll talk about that topic another time.

This blog is not, however, about Caller ID. It’s about what the guy said to me when he let me know he was on another call. He said to me, “I’ll call you when I get off.”

I thought, “I really don’t want to talk to you after you get off. I really don’t.” First of all, I don’t want to visualize you going to the bathroom, taking care of yourself, and then grabbing your phone with your greasy disgusting cum fingers. I really don’t need to know about you getting off.

Now if you are a woman and say to me “I’ll call you when I get off,” maybe that’s another story. Really, though, I don’t want to know that you have just gotten off.

It’s very funny the words people use. How many times has someone said to you on the phone, “Hey I’ll call you when I get off.” Well, great! I hope you enjoy that orgasm. Do you want me to listen to you have it too?

So the next time someone says to you, “I will call you when I get off,” be prepared with something good to say to them. Tell them, “Please don’t call me when you get off, because I don’t want to hear you cum. Call me when you’re off the phone.”

It would be interesting, though, if someone meant this literally. Can you imagine?

You pick up the phone and hear, “Oh, oh, oh!” as they moan and groan on the phone. If they have a significant other, you might even hear the climactic, orgasmic finish. This would really suck, however, if you haven’t had sex in a while and were constantly listening to people who call you when they’re getting off.

I don’t care who makes it from the National League, because the Yankees are winning it all this year. You can take that prediction to the bank . . . and maybe even to the bedroom.

Life is not fair.  The other night I was having a conversation with someone about sex. I’m not going to tell you all the specifics, other than to tell you that after that discussion, I was absolutely orgasm envious! So let’s talk about orgasms, and I will tell you the reason why I’m orgasm envious.

By the way, if I could have one wish it would be that I could have a vagina for a day. I just think it would be so much fun. I already know exactly what kind of orgasms I’d want to have. I’d love to know how to have multiple orgasms through all different ways.

I’d want to have a g-spot orgasm. Of course there is the clitoris, so I’d want at least one clitoral orgasm (since the only reason it exists is for pleasure). Then there is this other place way back in the bowels of the vagina that supposedly can create a whole other type of orgasm.

I mean, give me a break. Right there, that’s three different kinds of orgasms! We men only get one kind.

I really don’t, however, want to talk today about the unfairness of orgasm counts between the sexes. What I really want to talk about today is sexual prime.

By the time men hit the age of 25, they are basically out of their sexual prime. Age 25? Half of the guys out there don’t even get laid enough to enjoy their sexual prime while they’re in it. Then by the time they are getting enough sex, they are already out of their sexual prime.

Women, on the other hand, don’t hit their sexual prime until they are around 37 years old. Think about the way that balances out.

By the time a guy is 37 years old, he isn’t exactly producing the same amount of “little swimmers” as he used to produce. Not only that, he doesn’t really want to have sex five times a day anymore (while women at that same age are machines!).

It’s no wonder that 37 year old women are the number one consumers of vibrators. They can basically vibrate their day away.

It’s really not fair the way things line up here. It really seems like things are very askew. It’s no wonder that there are so many cougars running around out there.

If I were a 37 year old woman who was hanging out with a Viagra-infused 55 year old guy with no stamina, I would certainly go find myself a young buck. I mean look at Demi Moore.

Don’t ever give her a hard time. She has a guy who is (whoops, I mean was) in his sexual prime. Wait, she may need to go find someone even younger. Justin Timberlake and Zach Efron, Demi Moore may be calling you really soon.

All joking aside, it just doesn’t seem right how the sexual prime thing is set up. Is this God’s way of punishing us? Someone was being mean when they designed the penis and the vagina. Why aren’t those two things created to be in alignment with one another?

Can all the guys remember when you were 18 and you basically would hump the air every five seconds (almost like a dog that humps the air all the time)? The reason why you were humping air was because you constantly wanted your dick to be touched.

I remember when I was 18 years old. I was so penis conscious, it was ridiculous. I felt my penis nonstop. No, I don’t mean that I touched my penis nonstop. I was just aware of it nonstop.

My penis led my life. It made me sleep with some really iffy women. It wasn’t my idea to sleep with them. It was my penis’ idea.

Not only that, but some guys can’t snuggle with a woman until they hit 28 years old. When you are a male who is 22 or 23 years old and your girlfriend asks you to snuggle, you have to go to the bathroom and snap a load off before you can do it.

This sexual prime gap between men and women just does not seem fair. Something is kharmically wrong here! It’s a mean joke. It’s like our sexual primes should have been matched.

Then again, some of this seeming mismatch may actually have been designed better than we thought. So although a guy past his sexual prime may no longer be able to pump and grind five times in one night, he can really satisfy a woman during the one time they do it and will be more likely to want to engage in a lot more of the foreplay that women crave so much.

You take things out of context when you read, and if you do it while you’re reading then I know you do it when you’re listening. My blogs are short, but if you want to get the whole message then you have to read them from beginning to end.

I posted a blog the other day that was titled “We’re Pregnant!” I got congratulatory messages all day long on Facebook, on the blog and in my email inbox. If you’d actually read even the first four lines of that blog, however, you would know that Sonja and I aren’t not pregnant and that the blog was about how men use the phrase ‘we’re pregnant.’

Enough about that blog, except that it’s interesting how life is all about perception. Some of you perceived that my girlfriend and I were pregnant.

It was probably the same group of people who don’t listen to what people say, and have difficulty transitioning into deeper, more meaningful conversations with people to whom they are attracted. Life is all about perception, but you’ve got to listen and communicate everything in order to get what you want.

It’s funny. I have someone who works for me who wants to know why they aren’t making more money. It’s not that I’m not paying them well. It’s that they are not doing what they are supposed to be doing (and need to be doing) to earn more.

If they’re not on Skype during the day, I can’t get a hold of them when I need to do so, and they are on the bottom of the sales numbers every month, then I will perceive them as lazy. I will perceive them as not having a good work mindset.

Now, if you want to masturbate the day away, that’s your business. I’m not talking about physically masturbating (although some people do). I am talking about mental masturbation.

People who don’t take action often times are mental masturbators. They’ll mentally masturbate about having great sex, losing that weight, being able to approach the opposite sex, or whatever it may be.

Mental masturbation is no different than physical masturbation. You just get off in a very different way.

You think about the big home you’re going to have, the car you’ll be driving or taking over a business. In reality, though, you’re still the same person who is getting nothing done and who has the same poor work habits.

Life is full of fears, and unfortunately some of us spend more time mentally masturbating away our fears instead of actually doing something about them. It’s no different than masturbating with your hand or a vibrator. Think about it.

Whenever you get off alone, it’s never even close to how good it is to get off with someone with whom you’ve connected. In a work context, whenever you actually accomplish a goal it is always so much better than mentally masturbating it. Approaching actual women and learning how to be confident doing will always feel better than mentally masturbating all the women you want to approach.

Eventually you have to overcome your fear and just do these things. I am a doer, not a talker.

I am not attracted to talkers. I’ll coach them, but I don’t have any friends in my life who are talkers. I surround myself with doers.

With whom do you surround yourself — doers or talkers? Do you surround yourself with a bunch of mental masturbators so you can stroke each other all day long and never get to your destination?

That’s all for this topic. Speaking of stroking, though, today’s video will tell you how to stroke women so they’ll climax like never before. Ahhh…your mind is so dirty right now, but the sexual technique I’m going to show you will stroke women in a place you would have never thought of…

Have a great day!

I saw a 3D movie, and let me tell you something. It was nothing like the days of the plastic glasses.

We saw the movie “Up,” and it was really cute. I have to say that 3D effects have come a LONG way since the days of the plastic dinosaur and the plastic glasses. They’ve come a long way since the era of “Jaws 3 – 3D” where you have very unreal body parts floating off the screen toward you.

I’m off to the Bootcamp. It’s another sunny day here in La La Land.

In today’s blog I want to raise something about which I was thinking the other day that I thought was really interesting: Where do most people masturbate?

Do most people masturbate in bed? Do people masturbate at the office (a topic on which I have done a blog by the way)?

Where is the most interesting place that you’ve ever masturbated?

Do you realize that most men masturbate in the shower, because it’s quick, easy, and clean? A lot of women also masturbate in the shower. Well, actually, a lot of them masturbate in the bathtub (because they have the pressure of the running water).

So I want to hear from you today. What is the most interesting place you’ve ever masturbated? Were you alone? Were you with a lover?

Was it perhaps even in front of a group of people? Have you ever been cheered on by thousands of people as you stroked or played with your clit?

I’m curious to know what the most fascinating way is that you’ve ever masturbated? Also, what do you think about when you masturbate?

Share with everyone today — I want to hear from you.

Have a great Saturday!!

A lot of people spend so much time masturbating – they spend so much time physically pleasuring themselves. But really, the best form of masturbation is mental masturbation.

How do you mentally get off? What do you do in life to really stimulate your brain? To stimulate your mind? To stimulate your soul? Are you constantly working, constantly building up a life, but yet not doing anything to mentally masturbate?

And what do I mean by the term ‘mental masturbation?’ I mean, how do you enjoy your mind? How do you enhance your mind?

Think for a second: when is the last time you went on a trip? When is the last time that you did something that you really wanted to do – without any rules and regulations?

How many of you work really hard but never take vacation time? How many of you make money but never really spend it on things that you want? Even when you’re in the store, you debate about whether or not you should buy it. You debate about whether or not you deserve it.

My motto is that if you work really hard, you deserve everything that you can do.

You need to start masturbating your mind. You need to start enjoying things. You need to make a list of five places that you want to go, five things that you want to experience that you’ve never done before.

You need to say – as Miles said to Joel in Risky Business – do you remember that scene in Risky Business when Joel had the hooker party and the guy from Princeton was there, and Joel was all nervous because he didn’t think he’d get into Princeton? And Miles looked at him and said, “sometimes you have to say, ‘what the fuck.’”

You’ve got to say ‘what the fuck.’ Instead of thinking about who you want to fuck, and instead of chasing people you want to fuck, why don’t you start saying ‘what the fuck?’

Why don’t you start enjoying your life in every capacity? Make a list of five things that you want to do. Make a list of the things that you really want to experience. Do something crazy. Buy yourself something that you’ve never bought yourself before – just because you can.

Enjoy yourself. Life is just not about chasing the opposite sex. Life is about fulfilling your mind, fulfilling your soul, and that is the real concept behind mental masturbation.

Here’s an open letter to every single woman out there: Go ahead and explore yourself sexually!

I love being with women who know who they are sexually. I love women who know how to please a man. I love women who are in touch with themselves, and know how to please themselves.

So many women don’t know who they are sexually. So many women don’t know how to please a man. So many women are not in touch with themselves, and don’t know how to please themselves.

So many women are afraid to explore themselves sexually in these ways because they believe if they do they will not be “marriage material” for somebody. The truth is, though, that those days have long passed.

If you’re an independent, free-thinking, sexual woman, then you need to go out and explore your sexuality in every way. You need to do that because by exploring your sexuality, you are really going to start opening up and will blossom like a little flower.

Start learning what things you like. Take time out of your life to learn how to sexually express yourself. Learn how to please a man.

Think about all of your lovers, and use them as a drawing board. Figure out what the men liked and figure out what you like. When it comes down to it, the reason why so many relationships don’t work out is that the sex becomes dry and boring … and you know if there’s a limit to what you can teach each other.

So learn all of the great tricks, and bring them into your new relationships. I guarantee you will never get bored.

Todays video is all about how to embrace your body so you can feel sexy around men.

I go over all of this in depth and what men really want out of a woman in my womens mastery series.

The information I share in this will shock you on how men really think. Click here to learn all the secrets.