“Would you rather masturbate or have bad sex?”

I had to think…

The question isn’t easy to answer…

But in the end, I’d rather masturbate than have bad sex.

Here’s the deal: masturbation is quick, easy, and painless.  I can think about whomever I want, in whatever outfit I want, doing whatever nasty things I want.

Quick, done.  I feel good, and relaxed. The tension is taken care of.

Granted, I’m missing the kissing, the touching, the holding, the intimacy, and the conversation. I’m not getting the total package, the whole nine yards, the whole seduction.

And isn’t that what we all really want?

But get this: bad sex is awful, it’s awkward, it’s terrible.  And afterwards, you have to lie in bed next to somebody you just had the worst sex with ever.

Think about it.

You’re not aligned with them sexually at all and now you’ve got to lay there, and hope and pray that they disappear or ‘have to get up early for work’ or ‘go home to let out the dog’.

What’s even worse is when they spend the night!

The perks of waking up next to someone you resonate with on a physical/sexual/emotional/mental level, is that you get to express that attraction in the morning. I’m not a morning-sex guy but it’s awfully hard to resist when you’re waking up next to your sexual match.

But when the sex is bad?

Not only do you have bad memories from the previous night, but now you have to contend with her morning breath and crusty eyes. And she wants to use your toothbrush and wear one of your t-shirts, and she doesn’t realize how bad she was so she wants to have more bad sex with you right now!

Some of you may agree with the saying that ‘sex is like pizza—even when it’s bad it’s still pretty good.’

Whoa buddy. No.

Bad sex is not good.

I’ll avoid it at any cost.

I don’t believe in it.

I think all of you should hold out for good sex.  All of you should hold out for ladies that you are really attracted to.

Get out there and date—by all means! But don’t settle for the first person to show you sexual interest. And if you do end up having mediocre sex with them—let it end there! And spend your energy getting what you really want.

It’s all about good sex people.

Get. It.

Good.

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How about you? Would you rather have bad sex or masturbate?

Let me know in the comments below.

Where are your hands right now?  Have your hands gone down where they shouldn’t have gone?  Have your hands stroked what they didn’t need to stroke?

At the LA boot camp this weekend, Obi challenged all the guys to not jack off again, until they are in the presence of a woman.  Now one guy said, “Well wait a second, in the presence of a woman? Can I jack off in front of her, will that constitute sex?”

I determined that it is, as long as it’s in the presence of another woman, you’re perfectly fine.

So how are you guys doing in your quest?  I haven’t heard any updates at all about your non-masturbation quest.  And I know there are a couple of women in there also.

So who’s cheated on themselves yet?  Who’s done the self-pleasure?  Who couldn’t resist and had to go enjoy themselves over the weekend?  I need to know more.

Now the reason behind this is, according to Obi, he says that it’s going to build up all of your sexual power and you’ll be able to conquer the world.

Alright, well, to me, I think the reason why a lot of wars were done was because people stopped masturbating and having sex.  They were just angry and so they had to take it out on each other in some way, shape or form.

I think Mitt Romney and Newt Gingrich look like they’ve either A, have not ever had sex, or B, have not masturbated in quite some time, because they look a little on the uptight side.

Then I’ve heard from medical doctors that men over the age of 40 who don’t clean the pipes two or three times a week, can get prostate cancer.

I don’t know.  Any doctors out there want to chime in on this subject matter?

So here’s the deal: how does this work for women?  Do women get more primal and sexual when they build up their sexual energy?

We’re onto something here.  I think that might actually be the truth.  For all you women that have not kick-started the vibrator of late and decided that you were going to be cool and not diddle the diddle—I really believe that you actually will unlock a lot of your sexual energy also.

Women, I think, actually can hold out less than a man can.  Women have remote-control little things that they can attach to themselves and stay stimulated ever-so-nicely throughout the entire day.

I’ve seen some vibrator collections and they actually don’t intimidate me—they scare the hell out of me! How the hell am I going to compete with that?

Now, women will always say. “Oh, you don’t ever need to compete with my vibrators.”

No kidding, I can’t.  My penis doesn’t vibrate at 1 million gyrations a second…

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So where are all of you in this masturbation quest?  Are you still diddling the diddle or have all of you become Kings and Queens of your domain?

Tell me in the comments below.

Well, the first weekend of 2012 is officially here.  Have you made plans yet to set things into action and go out and meet people this weekend?  Have you made resolutions to master your communication skills, go on more dates, get laid more often?  Have you started seeing somebody new and now you’re looking to turn this into something real instead of just another failed relationship

Whatever it is your goals are, the only way to get it done is by starting off on the right foot and actually taking action.  Start off the New Year with the right positive energy by setting goals for yourself and then following through with baby steps.

Maybe you want to go out for 5 hours each day this weekend and talk to as many people as you can instead of staring at your computer or watching the football games and wasting away your weekend.  Maybe you want to go out and approach three beautiful women and start a conversation with each of them this Saturday, and then do the same thing again on Sunday.  Maybe you’ve had your eye set on the cute Starbucks girl that you’ve never had the guts to ask out and now you’re ready to say, “Fuck it” and tell her you think she’s cute.

Maybe you already have an exact picture of how you expect it to go down all planned out in your head.  Maybe you can picture right now exactly the way it’s supposed to happen.

Momentum Is Everything

Whatever your vision is, whatever your goals are, right now is the time to set the tone for the rest of the year.  Your goals may just be in your head as dreams, desires, or New Years resolutions right now.  But the only way to make them a reality is by making a commitment to yourself to put your internal goals into action.  Make that internal decision to go out this weekend and follow though on your plans.

Take little baby steps if your need to.  Tone it down.  Maybe you don’t have the skillset right now to go out on Saturday and randomly approach five women.  Start off by approaching one woman and see what happens.  Then the day after, approach two women.  Maybe you don’t have the confidence right now to ask out the Starbucks girl.  That’s fine.  Start off by engaging her in a 15 second conversation.  Start off just by smiling and saying, “Hi.”  It’s all part of a much bigger picture, and that picture is how you envision your social life to look like this year.

The main thing right now is to make a commitment to yourself to take action.  Give yourself your word, and then keep your own word.  Put one foot in front of the other and just start doing something.  Momentum is the name of the game.  Get a start on something, even if it’s just a little tiny baby step, because that is the first step in following through on the bigger picture of your commitments.

By following through on your commitments right now, this weekend, you are setting the tone for the rest of the year.  You are rolling the ball into action and it’s going to start gaining momentum.  Then the next day, you take another step and put your goals even further into action.  And further.

The last thing you want to do right now is sit at the office, think about doing something, and then go home, order Chinese food and watch  YouTube videos or read some pick-up e-book until midnight.

You need to do whatever it takes to get your ass into gear.  o get that one foot even just a few inches in front of the other.  Think about it—how do you want to set the tone for 2012?  Do you want to start off with a bang?  Do you want to start off with the great feeling of actually getting one step closer to your commitments?  Or do you want to start off the year by sitting around thinking about how you’re going to plan your strategy?  Because that’s a waiting game you can play with yourself forever.  And yes, you will be playing with yourself…forever.

If you need a pep talk, email me with where you’re at and what your goals are to shogo@davidwygant.com and I will personally hold you accountable to me and kick your ass into gear.

It’s all about momentum, so get that ball rolling guys.  Because once you’re in gear, you will be unstoppable.

How much masturbation is healthy for you? How much is overboard? How many times in a day should you masturbate? That’s right, how many times per day? You know quite a number of people who actually masturbate two to three times a day, and I’m not talking about just men, I’m talking about women also.

What is a healthy balance between masturbation and actually going out and trying to have real sex?

The problem is so many people become masturbation dependent, that they don’t even try to have real sex, and when they do finally have sex, especially women, since they’ve been vibrating way too much, can’t orgasm. Because their damn clitoris is so numb from having Bob take care of it all the time. And no I’m not talking about Bob, I’m talking about “Bob,” her battery-operated boyfriend. Bob wishes he was battery operated.

So many women are in that spot that they masturbate way too much with their vibrator, that they can’t even get off with a man anymore. So, the question today is, how much masturbation is too much, and when do you stop masturbating, and start building up your sex drive again?

What is the first thought that enters your mind?

I am curious to see how we all interpret this photo.

Looking forward to reading your observations.

And the Jets Suck!!!!

You always have to wait for your friends to go with you before you can do anything you want to do. How many of you do that?

How many of you have that mentality of always waiting for your friends to join you? How many of you live alone with no roommates, and you basically don’t have anyone to run with? How many of you work late all the time because you really just don’t know what else to do with yourself?

This is what I tell everybody, and this is what I do myself. You have to start dating yourself. In order to be able to go and meet somebody, you’ve got to start dating yourself.

So here are some things I used to do all the time. I would take myself out to dinner. Instead of going to Whole Foods and bringing dinner home, I’d go there and sit at one of their tables and eat. There are going to be other people there doing the exact same thing you are.

Instead of renting movies from Netflix when I wanted to see a new movie, I made sure that I went to the video store so I had an opportunity to meet somebody. Instead of making tea (since I don’t drink coffee) at home, I’d go to a coffee shop and sit there to drink my tea. I’d bring a newspaper, hang out and just talk to people there.

You have to start dating yourself. You really do.

You’ve got to start doing things with yourself. You’ve got to start enjoying yourself.

It’s almost like a new form of masturbation. You have to go out there. You have to entertain yourself. You have to go and do things on a consistent basis, because nobody else is going to bring the people to you.

What happens when you are always waiting for your friends to do things, is that you have all sorts of pressure because you’re always waiting for them. You finally get your friends to go out on Friday night, so you put all this pressure on that Friday night as your one opportunity to meet people.

So spend a few days a week dating yourself. Ask yourself out. Call yourself up. Send yourself a text. Send yourself a text and say, “Hey you, what do you want to do tonight?” Then text yourself right back and say, “I don’t know. What are you in the mood for?” Then text yourself again and say, “How about dinner at Whole Foods tonight, or why don’t we we go to that great little place up the street and have dinner at the bar?”

Go out and start communicating with people. The point is to build up your social network. When you go out and do all this, don’t just go out and wait for the most beautiful person to arrive before you’ll talk to anyone. Talk to everybody.

What happens when you do that is that you start to build up that social network. You will start to communicate with people all the time — men, women, kids, dogs, older people, younger people, everyone.

Then a month later, you’ll run into the woman you talked to at Whole Foods one night. You may not have been attracted to her, but you chatted with her a bit. You had a great conversation over Whole Foods dinner. You may run into that woman when she is with six of her friends, and you will immediately (and without any pressure) have an “in” into that group of women.

Even though you weren’t attracted to her, she was still a nice person to hang out with at the time. And now that you did that, when you see her now with her friends, you can walk right over to her and say, “Oh my God, it’s my dinner partner from Whole Foods a few weeks ago!”

So you’re building yourself a network that way which takes off some of the pressure. Instead of always having to do these cold approaches 24/7, it takes off that pressure and enables you to go and start building up a social network.

This is what I did, and this is how I know so many people. No matter where I go, I know people. If I fly to London tomorrow, I can call ten people for dinner and they’ll bring ten new people along. If I go to Wisconsin tomorrow, I’ve got a group of people I can hang out with. It’s called being a friendly person, dating yourself and meeting other people.

Think about your past relationships at the point they were ending, or at the point when you and your partner were “on the outs.” All of a sudden you get to a point in the relationship where you’re having sex, you’re fighting, and you’re not really connecting.

Then one day you’re angry because you haven’t had enough sex, so you beat off. You think to yourself, “This isn’t bad. I can do this again.” The next time you fight with your partner and have sex, you realize it’s not really working at all. You jerk off again.

Pretty soon you are jerking off a couple of times a week. You start to not care anymore about having sex with your partner. You are able to fight with your partner without any emotion.

You become a lot more mellow because you’re not dying for them. You’re not relying on them sexually. You’re not needing them sexually anymore. You’re just basically alright with wherever you are.

It’s the weirdest thing, but if you think about it there is almost a cycle to masturbation.

When you first meet a woman (or a man), you’re really hot for them — and even have sexual fantasies when you think about them — so you masturbate.

Then you start having sex with that person all the time, and you don’t need to masturbate anymore.

You will masturbate for fun, like if you masturbate together. You show each other how you touch yourself. You turn each other on that way.

Maybe you will masturbate alone if you’re not with your partner for a week. You’ll always tell your partner about it, though, and turn each other on by doing that.

At some point in the relationship, you start masturbating two or three times a week, and are hardly having sex anymore with your partner. You start to think, “What went wrong here?”

What went wrong is that you’re not connecting anymore. What went wrong is that you’re not sexually turned on by that person anymore.

At that point, you realize that it’s not worth it – what you’re going through in that relationship — because you’re not connecting and you’re fighting all the time. Looking at when, how and why you’re masturbating in a relationship is usually an indication of what’s going on in that relationship.

“What are you doing tonight?”

“Not much, I think I’m going to go home and masturbate.”

It would be funny if people talked that way, and were very frank about masturbation.

“What did you do last night?”

“Not much. Watched a movie, masturbated for a while and ate some dessert afterwards. Couldn’t fall asleep, so I masturbated again.”

Masturbation is such a taboo topic for people. For some reason or another, people are just afraid to admit that they masturbate.

There are a lot of people in relationships who sneak their masturbation sessions. They don’t tell their partner that they masturbated. They actually don’t tell anyone that they masturbated.

They sneak it. It’s a private thing. It’s not something you ever want to discuss with others.

I think it would be fun if you just walked up to somebody and said, “Hey, any good masturbation sessions lately?” You’d have a far better conversation than you would have by walking up to someone and asking about the weather.

About what would you rather talk — your masturbation session or the next range of thunderstorms coming?

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As you can guess that’s just the wet tip of the iceberg when it comes to women and sex. If you want to increase your confidence to never before reached levels and become any woman’s walking wet dream – which might seem far away now, but trust me, every guy starts from the same place – you’ve got to find someone who’s seen it all before and can show you the way…

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No podcast today just got back from a trip.

Today I thought we could all use a great laugh. Have you ever wondered if that sexy massage therapist would be willing to show you a happy ending?

Today’s video reveals the truth about Happy Endings and why certain massage places may not be what they appear.

And to all the women of my blog you need to wach this video as well, it will change your view of men forever.