Marathon Man

David Wygant — Sun, 05 Oct 2008 19:13:08 +0000

I’ve said this a lot, and I’m going to say it again and again and again: life is not a sprint.

Life is a marathon – and you are only racing against yourself. You don’t have any other competitors.

Your marathon starts the day you were born. You are in the middle of an unbelievable marathon. We all are.

When you evaluate or judge yourself everyday for doing something wrong – man, I can’t believe that I wasn’t able to talk to that woman; I’m such an idiot! What’s wrong with me? – This is just one person; just one encounter. It doesn’t make a difference.

This is a marathon. That woman that you beat yourself up about at that moment – you will never remember her in the long run! Never. The minute you meet someone new, you’ll forget she even existed.

Think for a second about the last woman that you beat yourself up about because you weren’t able to approach her. Man, I wasn’t able to talk to that woman on the street, damn! – And then you spent an hour just thinking about her.

During that time you spent beating yourself up, you missed six opportunities to talk to someone else!

If something doesn’t work out for you, immediately realize that you’re in the middle of a marathon. What does a marathon runner do? They take one step at a time. In the Olympics, the marathon runners take one step at a time. And by the time they take that next step, their last one is already erased.

Swimmers take another stroke, and by then their previous stroke is already forgotten. Everything works like this.

You can’t slow down. You have to see your life as a marathon. You can’t let a little bump in the road – some woman who didn’t respond to you – get you down for even a split-second.

If you do let that affect you, you’re basically resting at a pit stop that you don’t belong at. You have to keep moving.

You will never remember that person anyway. I don’t remember any of the people that I supposedly obsessed about. This is something that you need to think about and put into perspective.

The next time you think you’ve been rejected or blown off, put this into perspective: this person means nothing in the history of your life. This person will not be remembered in your personal history. There will be no stories about it.

So you saw a woman in Whole Foods and she didn’t talk to you? So what! When you’re an old man you’re going to be talking about the great things that happened in your life – not “well, 30 years ago I was at Whole Foods Market on West Lake and Denny in Seattle and I had approach anxiety and I wasn’t able to talk to this woman. And to this day, I still can’t get over her.”

You don’t even know her name! You don’t even know what she’s all about! You probably can’t even remember what she looks like.

So every time a woman gets you down – when you think to yourself, man, I just can’t believe I got blown off by that dream girl – you have to think to yourself that in the history of your life, you won’t even remember her.

The quicker that you learn that life is a marathon, the quicker you realize you can keep moving forward. That’s how you work your life

Pushing Boundaries

David Wygant — Sat, 16 Aug 2008 17:04:48 +0000

Let’s talk about pushing boundaries.

Many of you are your own worst coach. I’m a great self-coach. I can coach the hell out of myself and I can push my own boundaries every single day.

Why? Because I coach everyone else for a living! I’m able to recognize my own weaknesses and accept them – and I can recognize that small gains are the way that you push your own boundaries.

Often times I hear men say, “tonight I’m going to go out and I’m going to get three phone numbers.” You haven’t gotten three phone numbers this whole entire year, but tonight you’re going to go out and get three phone numbers in one night? How?

That’s not pushing your boundaries – that’s just trying to be Aaron Rogers and take the Packers to the championship game without ever having thrown a pass. (You can see how I feel about the Brett Favre situation – and no, I’m not a Packers fan, and I think that they are ridiculous – what a battle of egos that is! Let the guy come back and play – he threw 28 touchdown passes this year! Good luck, Aaron Rogers, you’re not going to get more than 17…)

Or it’s like you’re a light-hitting shortstop who has hit one home run the entire season, but you decide tonight that you’re going out there and hitting three. That’s not pushing your boundaries – that’s just not recognizing small victories and gains and accepting them. That’s just being ridiculous.

So how do you push your own boundaries? If you go out there, and you say to yourself, “I haven’t had a conversation with someone of the opposite sex that has lasted longer than 15 seconds,” then to push your boundaries, you need to have a conversation that lasts 20 seconds. The next day: 25 seconds. The day after that: 30 seconds.

You need to push your boundaries and accept the small victories every single day. It’s not about becoming something that you aren’t overnight – it takes a long time to become that powerful, dynamic, social person. It takes a lot of time to become a great conversationalist.

So make a list of the things that you want to accomplish, go out there and accept the small victories. The small victories are what are really important.

Don’t try to win the Superbowl in one night. There is a reason why NFL players are in training camp right now. Why? To practice all of the little things so that they are able to succeed on Sundays.

You can’t beat the odds of life, guys – you just can’t. In life, everything takes practice, hard work, self-motivation and every once in a while, a kick in the ass.

Consider me that kick in the ass. For those of you that have never listened to my products, I really suggest my Men’s Mastery Series or Women’s Mastery Series – that is almost 13 hours of me kicking your ass the whole time. When you need a little extra push, I’m there to give it to you.

And for those of you who don’t want to reach into your pockets and buy anything, that’s fine. Come back each day and read the blog, and I will give you daily doses of ass-kicking that will help you realize that life is not a sprint – it’s a marathon!
Seattle Bootcamp is kicking into high gear. I love this city and this is an amazing group of guys.

Today we talk all about how to strike up a conversation by the bathrooms.

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Marathon Man

Pushing Boundaries