Everybody wants to be the boss. Everybody wants to be paid like the boss, but no one wants to excel like the boss.

How many times do you look at how much money your boss makes, compare it to what you make, and think to yourself “I work my ass off. Why does he get to make more money than me?”

Perhaps it is because he built the company from the ground up. Perhaps it is because he hustles every single day and he deserves it.

Build your own company if you think you can do better. That is what I did.

I used to work for people, but I thought I could do better. So I went out and built my own company. I basically ate pasta and butter, and begged and pleaded as I built my own company.

So many people want to be compensated for mediocrity. They try to get five things done in one day, but they only do a mediocre job doing each of those things.

I tell people all the time that if you want to get good at something, learn to be great at one thing at a time before you work on doing other things. Once you perfect that one thing, then move on to doing something else and do it until you can do it perfectly.

As I mentioned in a recent blog, you can’t multitask in life unless you learn how to do each task perfectly first. I am tired of mediocrity. I don’t like mediocrity, and neither should you.

So the next time you look at someone who is good at meeting women, don’t be jealous or upset. Just go out there and perfect one skill that will help you become just as good with women.

Pick just one thing at a time. For example, go to the grocery store and learn how to be the best at meeting women at the grocery store.

The next time you look at your boss thinking he is overpaid and he gives you a list of things at which you can get better, think about how you should respond to him. Instead of being jealous, lazy or unappreciative, prove yourself to him.

Become great at one thing, and then take on the daunting task of becoming great at something else. If your boss tells you that you’re lacking in an area that is a part of your job description — whether it’s that you don’t bring in business, you don’t know to sell, you’re not a good marketer or whatever it might be — then you should go and work overtime to be great at that skill because that is how you get compensated.

Too many people in life feel like they just deserve things. They don’t have a good work ethic.

Get a good work ethic and you will earn respect. If you come to someone with your hand out looking for money and you don’t have that good work ethic, that person will lose all respect for you.

Get good at everything you do. Make a list of five things at which you want to become great, and then tackle one of those things at a time.

If it takes a month to get great at that one thing, then so be it. Just be sure to focus on that one thing until you master it, and forget about the other things while you do.

Hope this was a big kick in the ass for you guys today. I know some of you need it.

In my ten years of coaching men – and living in both Los Angeles and New York – I’ve met a lot of “generous” people. I put that in quotations because these are really people who just thought that they were being generous.

I’ve met a lot of men that have bought women things; they’ve taken them on trips and bought them homes. I always disagreed with what they did, because it was clear to me that they weren’t being generous with their heart – they were being generous with their money so they could get laid.

These guys were basically being generous only because they wanted something in return. They weren’t just giving a woman a new car, buying her dinner, or taking her on vacation with no expectations – purely out of the love that they have for themselves as a person.

They did it because they wanted that woman to want them – to desire them. They were buying love, and they weren’t being authentically generous with their hearts.

Generously giving a gift to somebody means that you expect nothing in return. By doing this, you are essentially communicating with the universe, and by expecting nothing, you’ll get back everything.

Every single time you give somebody money or a gift and you expect nothing back from them, it’s crazy how that money or energy you just gave will appear back in your life almost like magic.

It’s not really magic – it’s just the way that things work!

So when you give somebody something, are you really being generous? Or are you offering something with expectations attached?

Every time you give your lover a gift, are you doing it to get something from them? Or are you doing it only because you love them?

Are you a man that has given gifts to women in the past? Perhaps you’ve bought a woman a car, or paid her rent before. Were you doing it out of the generosity of your heart, or were you doing it because you expected something in return? Like sex, or an emotional connection?

In life, when you are truly generous, you will never expect anything back, and you will end up getting everything you ever wanted.

I want you all to ponder that for a little while.

I’ve seen complete and utter generosity from people, and there is a huge difference. That difference is what makes your life either spectacular or a life that is based on your needs.

Wouldn’t you rather live a life that is based on the power of giving and receiving?

Yesterday we talked about a few quotes. Some of you embraced them, some of you fought them. Life is all about embracing new concepts and thinking outside the box.

Today lets talk about being Rich….lets make a lot of money….or maybe there is a whole new way of being rich besides trading oil.

People spend their entire lives chasing things. Men spend their lives chasing women. Women might chase love. Men might chase money.

And then we finally get these things – some of us get that love, and some of us get the money – we think that we’re really rich. This society is based on the idea that if you’re a millionaire you are rich.

But I’m going to give you a whole different version of what I consider being rich. I’m rich. I’m rich in every aspect of my life. Financially, I’m fine. Emotionally, I kick ass. I have friends I love; I have friends all over the world. My soul is enriched every single day by the things that I do – because I only do things that I love. I’ve got the most fantastic dog in the world. I have people that I work with that are fantastic and amazing. I get on an airplane and I get to travel to places, I get to do things, and I get to experience things.

I lead a rich lifestyle, because everything that I do makes me feel rich – rich as a person. But the greatest thing about being rich is that you absolutely love yourself. You love everything about yourself. I’m not talking egotistically – I’m not talking about walking around with a big ego saying, “I’m the greatest person in the entire world” – not that at all.

What I’m saying in this situation is that you are content with who you are – you’ve accepted all the things about you – you believe in yourself, and in your little nuances. Maybe the fact is that you have skinny legs, or maybe your ass never looks perfect in a pair of jeans – whatever it might be. You’ve embraced all of your insecurities.

You can look at yourself in the mirror everyday and say that life is an amazing gift. Every second of every single day I’m going to spend living my life, experiencing my life and being an active participant in my life – that is the definition of being rich.

There are people who will always have more money than you, and there will be people who will always have more things than you. But the fact is that spoiling yourself in little ways is what’s important.

For instance, going out and buying yourself something you really like – if you can afford it, embrace it and do it. Going out there and having dinner with a friend you haven’t seen in a long time, sharing your heart and sharing your soul – that’s a rich experience.

Everybody should lead a rich lifestyle. It doesn’t take money. Once again, we always want other things. People always think, I’m going to be happy as soon as I get better skills and connect with the opposite sex. I’m going to be happy if I can fall in love.

Or there are a lot of women on the internet that are 39 years old and they think, well I’m not going to be happy until I have a family. You know what? You’re not happy right now! So you’re going to attract all the wrong people and you’re not going to live a very rich lifestyle.

I want to add that also for a lot of people, the idea of being rich is to accumulate things. That’s how they believe they will reach that acceptance of themselves, that contentment.

But to me, and what I always say is that you become happier and more comfortable with yourself by learning to let go of everything you thought you needed.

Eventually, what you learn is that you need to let go of everything – your fears, your desires, and everything else so you can find the true essence of yourself. Once you do, that’s when you define yourself and find out who you truly are.

Once you get there, it’s just easier. When you believe yourself, you realize that you are perfect as you are. You’re not the BEST – there’s a big difference in believing that you’re perfect the way you are and disillusioning yourself into believing that you’re better than everybody else. You’re not the best. But you are perfect as you were created. You’re perfect as you are.

Everything you need to succeed and be happy in life is already in you. You just have to rediscover it, because something clouded that part of you before. Whether it’s your experiences, positive or negative – it doesn’t matter. But it’s really about rediscovering what you already had.

Most people don’t see that – they keep on adding things to their lives and that creates more junk to remove later. That’s why a lot of people can’t be content. Instead of removing all the junk, they keep on adding junk to their life, which makes it more confusing and more difficult for them to define themselves and realize who they truly are.

Todays video is all about how you are going to spend your money. On booze repelling women or on improving yourself.