Some of you need to think of your dating life as the stock market. Lots of ups, lots of downs. But the real question is, what is your ROI? Let’s talk about your ROI, your return on investment, when it comes down to dating and you.

And I want you to ask yourself right now, what is your ROI? What is your return on the investment that you make while trying to meet someone of the opposite sex? You go out Friday night, you go out Saturday night. I want you to right now write down on a piece of paper how much you spend and where you spend on an average Friday night, on an average Saturday night, going out trying to meet people. Write it down right now.

Now what I want you to do is write down the amount of money you spend on a vacation, and if you take that vacation to places where you try to go and meet people. Miami? Vegas? Cancun? I want you to write that down.

I also want you to write down how much you spend on online dating sites.

Now, add up your expenses, and from every Friday and Saturday night–times that by 52. Take a look at that number right now. How many dates is that yielding you? What is your return on investment?

Are You Undateable?

A client of mine, years ago, I did this formula with him. He was a big time investment banker. He decided he was going to get a house out in the Hamptons for a month. He didn’t even live in New York. He lived in California. He was ready to fly out to the Hamptons, throw some party every weekend, get lots of women over to his place to line up, and maybe one of them would end up moving to California.

Really? I thought that was crazy. But he had a lot of money so I figured, why not let him do it? It’s his money, not mine.

So he did it. And he threw some wild and crazy parties at the Hamptons. He even got written up in the New York Post. A month later, after moving back to LA, I asked him, “What’d you spend on that whole charade?” He said, “I don’t know, about 400,000 including the parties and the house I guess.”

So what was his ROI? He hooked up once, and he got a lot of women that said they wanted to come out to LA and visit.

And a month after that, I asked him how many of the women he met actually visited him. “Well,” he said, “one ended up visiting, but I had to fly her out. We didn’t really get along after a day or two, and it wasn’t really worth it.” He said, “I had a lot of fun, but it was a bad investment. I really believed I would meet somebody that way.”

Here’s the deal: For some reason we’ve been led to believe that we need to spend money to go out there and meet people. That somehow, we can just go out to these places on Friday and Saturday nights, work out beforehand, put on our best outfits, and stand there, drink, spend money, and it’s going to happen. But if you look at that number, and you look at your ROI—you look at the amount of dates you get from that—you’ll realize it’s one of the worst investments you’ve made in your entire life.

My ROI has always been great. I’ve said it a thousand times. Supermarkets, video stores (when they were hot), coffee shops, parks, just walking around every day. Things I do for free anyway, meeting people casually. I was meeting people and not spending not a penny. My stock market, if we had to do the math, was probably at 100,000, levels never hit before. You get my point.

The bottom line is, what is your ROI, and how are you maximizing it? Add it up. Go ahead and share it in the comments section if you want.

You’re going to see that number is really scary. And you’re going to have to start re-thinking things and where you’re investing your time and money in your life.

You think your lonely check this out what lonely really is all about.

It’s called approach anxiety. It’s a made up disease based on fear and nothing else.

All of you need to be approaching each other and hooking up. The world is a much better place when we are all enjoying each other, having conversations and, of course, having sex!

Are you ready to end your approach anxiety once and for all? Are you ready to learn how to be able to communicate with anyone you see, so you will no longer be dateless and lonely?

I have just completed a product called “Become A Master Communicator” that I will be releasing publicly in a few months that shows exactly how to make all this happen. Ladies, this product will help you as well.

Even though the product won’t be available to the public for a few months, I am giving the people on my list a special *sneak peek* of this product NOW (along with a special offer as well).

If you want to get a sneak peek of this product and you’re not a member of my list, go to the top of this page and sign up in the box.

Also, because there is no podcast today on this “podcast Wednesday,” I am going to do something special for all of you next week. I am going to give you a double dose of podcasts! Yes, there will be two podcasts during next week. They are my Christmas gifts to you. Be sure to check in to catch those . . .

Now on to today’s topic that will inspire you to want to get rid of your approach anxiety and start really interacting with the opposite sex . . .

Do you know what I love about traveling? When you get into a traffic jam inside the airport.

Why are there traffic jams inside the airport? It’s because people don’t know how to drop people off. It’s really funny.

Why don’t people say their goodbyes before they get into the car to drive to the airport? So you drive twenty minutes to the airport. You have to wait until you get there to hug, kiss and say goodbye for ten times?

You could have said goodbye twenty minutes earlier and it wouldn’t have been any different. Actually, had you said goodbye at home, it could have been a much better goodbye.

You could have had a proper sendoff having wild and amazing sex. Now that is a great goodbye! It’s a lot better than standing at the airport staring at each other and hugging.

Instead of spending twenty minutes doing that, just get up twenty minutes earlier and bang your brains out before you leave. That way, you will get to the airport and drop the person off immediately, because you’re tired and you want to go home and shower.

Otherwise you are left with the traffic jam in the airport. It is caused by people who were rushing all day long to get to the airport who, once they arrive there, will decide that they need to spend five or ten minutes on the curb saying goodbye. They think, “Even though I’m really stressed out and I need to get to my gate on time, this goodbye is so important.”

So here’s a note to all the travelers who are being dropped off by their man (or their woman). Bang your brains out early that morning! Have a great orgasm (or two or three if you can climax quickly).

Do that and the goodbye will be so much better, because all day long you’ll be thinking about that wonderful feeling you had (instead of some quick two second kiss).

Come on, tell the truth. After a kiss like that, the minute you get in the car and start sipping your coffee, you will forget all about it. Amazing morning sex you will not so quickly forget.

So that’s my new goodbye for people heading to the airport. You bang your brains out like a maniac, and then you will be totally relaxed on the plane.

You will also be relaxed when you’re sitting in traffic in the airport with all the idiots who didn’t bang their brains out before they left. You won’t even care because you’re feeling good.

If you are dropping off your mother instead of a lover, you can still do a better goodbye before you leave for the airport. You say goodbye to her twenty minutes before you have to get in the car to leave. You hold her hand the entire time.

If you are dropping your boss off at the airport, you do not bang his (or her) brains out that morning. You just high-five him (or her) and say, “Have a great trip. Get out. You’re going out of town, so I’m going to play golf and goof off for the next five days!”