I have walked probably a mile so far (in my flip-flops of course since the beach is cold in December). It’s beautiful at night here on the beach. I never do this.

I’ve never really gotten up in the middle of the night to take a walk on the beach. I’ve gotten up in the middle of the night to have sex, but never to get out of bed and take a walk on the beach.

As I’m walking, I’m wondering how many other people suffer from insomnia like this. How many of you suffer from insomnia?

For those of you who do, what do you do in the middle of the night when you are suffering from really bad insomnia? What do you do to try and get rid of it? What are the cures for insomnia that really work?

I know tonight I was laying in bed, and I was freaking out. I could not fall back asleep. My body was racing, my mind was racing, everything was racing.

I took some Valerian Root and thought to myself, “I’m going to fall back asleep no problem.” I did . . . for about an hour. Then when I woke up again I was wide awake.

Then I started thinking. I thought about a couple of blogs I wanted to write. I thought about a blog I was going to write for the Huffington Post. If you guys don’t know, I actually write regularly for the Huffington Post.

I thought of something I wanted to tell my wife, but I didn’t really want to tell her at 4:00 in the morning. There was no reason for both of us to be up.

So after laying in bed doing all this thinking — and after a long time debating with myself — I finally decided I was going to get up. It’s like you think to yourself, “Well, I might as well get up because I’m just not going to be able to get back to sleep.”

So I did. As I sat up in bed, I realized why they call dogs “man’s best friend.”
Daphne, my black English Labrador, came walking right over to me.

She knew I was up. She came over the second I got up. I got up and she came over to soothe me. The funny thing about how dogs soothe you, though, is that they do it by having you pet them. It is actually very soothing to pet her though.

So I got up and started this beach walk I’m doing now. I walked and I walked, and I’m still walking.

What do you guys do when you have really bad insomnia? I hate insomnia. You get up and pee 14 or 15 different times. It’s the worst.

As I walk this beach with Daphne, though, I realize what a beautiful experience I’m having right now. I’m experiencing and listening to the ocean. I’m watching the fog and looking at the lights from the buildings. It’s all beautiful.

Realizing this is far better than laying in bed, tossing and turning and desperately wishing for sleep. I would like to be asleep in my bed, but I’m just going to enjoy this moment.

Maybe I have just found a cure for my insomnia — to get up, walk the beach, get some air, and then crawl back into a warm bed. What do you guys do when you have insomnia?

I think my dog is smart — as far as dogs go. Really, though, I don’t think she’s smart about a lot of things.

For example, as human beings when we have an urge to go to the bathroom, what do we do? We find the closest bathroom we can possibly find.

We don’t care if it is at a McDonald’s, at the market or at a friend’s house. When we have to go to the bathroom, we don’t want to hold it in. We just want to go. We want to let it out. We want to feel better.

Dogs, on the other hand, and especially my dog Daphne, don’t seem to get this concept. I always thought my dog was pretty smart, except when I watch her when I take her out to go to the bathroom. Then I realize she’s really not that smart.

She spends a lot of time sniffing. She’ll sniff, do a circle and nothing will come out. Then she’ll sniff again, do a circle and kind of fake it — and still nothing comes out. She’ll repeat that a few times.

If she doesn’t find the exact spot she’s looking for to soil the ground, then she’ll hold it in for another five or six hours. I know if I need to go to the bathroom, I don’t care for what spot I may have been looking. Also, if I have to hold it for an additional five or six hours, I’m going to physically burst.

So the next time someone tells you how smart their dog is, ask them if their dog can go to the bathroom on command. Then you’ll know if they’re telling the truth or not.

Most people make a common mistake in this situation. Instead of going directly to the dog – I’m not talking about lurching at the dog so it bites you – but instead of putting your hand out and going directly to the dog and talking to the dog and getting to know it, people will just make a passive comment about the dog in a monotone voice. “I like your dog.”

I’m a dog owner, and if somebody walks by me and says, “nice dog” in a monotone voice, I’ll respond to them in a monotone voice, “thank you.” And that’s it.

The proper way to meet me when I’m walking my dog (or meet anybody when they have a dog) is to go directly to the dog. As a dog owner, every person has to pass the dog test anyway!

I’m not dating anybody who doesn’t like Daphne, plain and simple. Daphne sleeps with me every night, and she hangs out with me all day long in the office. She even goes with me to appointments. If you don’t like six-year-old Black English Labradors that are sweet and loving, then I don’t really want you in my life!

So, when I’m walking down the street and someone stops me and says, “oh my god, your dog is so beautiful, can I pet her?” I will stop and I will let somebody pet her. Daphne is a pet slut! She loves to be pet no matter what.

If I can tell that someone is interested in my dog then I know that they are interested in meeting me – or maybe they just want to date my dog, who knows. That might be a great story: date my dog! I can see that TV show now.

But what I tell people all the time is that if you see someone who you are attracted to walking with a dog, stop them and say, “man, your dog is beautiful. What’s your dog’s name?”

The person will say, “my dog’s name is Daphne,” and you can say, “cool name. What made you name her Daphne?” Or you could ask, “what made you get a Lab?”

There’s always a story behind it. Whenever anybody asks me why I got Daphne, I look at them and ask, “do you really want to know?” and they say, “absolutely.” I’ll tell them the story about how I drove all over the state of Washington looking at English Labs – I must have driven 500 miles before I finally found Daphne.

Daphne was the last dog I saw that day. I was so tired from driving all day long that Daphne looked like a midget dog. I didn’t think Daphne was very pretty either, and she’s probably one of the most gorgeous dogs in the world. I was just so tired, and I had been to so many different breeders, that by the time I saw this little dog I didn’t even know what I wanted anymore.

But Daphne knew exactly what she wanted. The minute she saw me, she followed me everywhere. I took her out to the backyard and she followed me. When I stopped, she stopped. I walked inside and she followed. When I sat down to talk to the breeder, she sat down. There was no way that this dog was going to let me leave without taking her home.

Unfortunately I was so tired at the end of the day that I told the breeder that I would think about it. The breeder said that someone else was coming the next day at ten o’clock. (The breeder was quite a salesperson, by the way, because Daphne had been there for about seven months. Daphne had been loved by a couple, but then they got divorced and the guy couldn’t keep her anymore and gave her back to the breeder.)

So I went home, and all I thought about that night was this little dog – this little Lab following me around. She was exactly what I wanted. Allison told me that I had to get this dog, this dog loves me, she followed me and she picked me out. I really believe that dogs can pick you out, people can pick you out – it’s an energy thing.

So I couldn’t sleep at all, and I ended up waking up the next morning at seven. I looked at Allison and said I hadn’t slept at all, do you think it’s too early to call the breeder on a Sunday?

Allison reminded me that the breeder probably had to get up to feed the dogs, so I called her up. I asked her if I could come back down to her house.

I went back to her house, and Daphne greeted me immediately and followed me all over the house. And Daphne and I have been together ever since.

So I can share that story with people. If I meet a woman and she really wants to know that story, I will tell her that story with animation and passion.

Meeting with somebody with a dog is very simple, because they can talk about the things that they love. It also shows that someone is really interested in me – in a number of different ways. They are not only interested in meeting Daphne, but also in getting to know me.

So the proper way to meet someone with a dog is to ask questions! Get the person talking about what they love (their dog) and show interest. Play with the dog, pet the dog, and I see a good threesome coming: you, him or her, and the dog!

It’s that simple.

Todays video is a live in field video on body language on the beach. Wait till you see some of these bodies!!

I recently returned from a great six day trip to Hawaii. It was a trip I really needed to just clear my head, have a great time and relax. I took someone very special who means the world to me, and someone who I think is one of the greatest women in the world.

For those of you who know me, you know I’m talking about my ex, Alison, with whom I spent six and a half years. Alison and I are not together as a couple anymore due to my own issues.

You know, in life nobody is perfect or has it together all the time. In a nutshell, though, when Alison and I were together she really wanted to continue our relationship and to build the foundation for a future together with me. During the time I was building my business, however, it was really hard to do that.

There’s something about being a man, having a business and making that business exactly how you want it to be. There is something inside a man that really just aches to be ultra-successful and proud of what he does.
It took a long time to build my business because even though you are an expert at what you do, you still have to build your reputation.

You need to work with clients. You have to research. You’ve got to live it, believe in it, and be that business.

Alison and I had a great time together and a great relationship, but I just wasn’t ready to give her what she wanted. I believe there’s a saying that when you love someone, you have to be willing to let them go.

You can’t keep someone when you can’t give them the love in a relationship that they want and deserve. Thus we separated as a couple.
When Alison and I separated, I realized (and I’ve always known since we broke up), that she is an amazing woman and in fact is amazing in every way.

Now I am ready for that type of relationship and I would love to have that type of relationship with Alison, but she is no longer sure if she wants to have that type of relationship with me.
I’m not trying to dump all of my feelings and the details of my personal life on all of you, but I am telling you all of this because there is a very important lesson I want to share. Just because you’re ready for something with someone doesn’t mean the other person is ready for that at the same moment. Timing is everything when it comes to relationships.

So if someone is worth fighting for, you better fight for them every step of the way. It’s a battle out there to find someone with whom you can really connect and whom you really love. Because meeting the right person is so hard, I tell people all the time to stay focused, stay motivated, and to meet as many people they can.

In order to find the right person for you, you must go through a lot of people. You’ve got to work the numbers.

To find someone spectacular you will have to go through a lot of disappointments, a lot of near hits, and a lot of near misses.

Even if you do find a spectacular someone, if you’re not ready for it then it will not work out and you are going to have to do the whole thing again when you are ready.

Part of what I stress all the time with my clients and with all of you is how important it is to work on yourself. Work on your inner confidence. Work on who you are as a man or as a woman. Work on yourself as a person. What do you want out of life? Who do you want to be, and how do you want to be remembered?

Are you passionate about what you do for a living? If not, that’s going to affect you in all other areas of your life. If you are passionate about what you’re doing but you are not fully successful at it yet, then keep at it.

In order to be able to give to someone else, you must first complete this part of your journey. So now I feel complete. I have everything I want: a great business, great people with whom I work, and a fantastic dog who snores next to me every night.

Now I also want that spectacular person, and it would be nice if that person is Alison because finding someone as special as she is isn’t an easy task.
I’ve dated other people this year and last year, but they just didn’t work out because none of them were grounded, stable or as amazing as I always considered Alison to be. No matter who I was seeing, I always had Alison in the back of my mind.
It’s really interesting what you discover as you’re going through life finding yourself. Sometimes you realize that what you had is exactly what you want . . . but you just weren’t ready for it.

So my advice to all of you today in this blog that is so different than almost every other one I’ve written, is to work on yourself. Become that person you can respect, and others will respect and love you back!

In order to really be a powerful man in all ways you need to lead a woman sexually.

Todays podcast talks all about that.

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Have an amazing Friday!