Obsession is something that is not very healthy at all, especially when it comes to meeting the opposite sex. So many guys are so obsessed with the approach or so obsessed with trying to figure out what to say.

Women get obsessed with a lot of different things also. Some get obsessed and fixated when it comes to why the date went wrong and what the guy must be thinking and why the relationship is not working out and how it could not work out.

Today’s video is all about obsession. I think you’ll enjoy it because it’ll finally open up your eyes to what obsession is all about.

If you’re ready to stop obsessing and start having a healthy, productive, amazing dating life, I suggest you buy my book, Naked.

I’m not a Broncos fan, I’m a Jets fan. So I’m sitting here watching the game with four minutes and 30 seconds to go. They are losing 10 to nothing.

I’m thinking to myself, “There’s no way that Tebow’s going to do it again. He looks awful. I mean I have been a football fan my entire adult life–actually since I was a little kid–and I’ve never seen a quarterback play so bad for so long with the game on the line.”

And then all of a sudden, just like the hottest woman standing at the bar at 1:00 in the morning after getting hit on by countless drunken idiot guys for the past four hours, Tebow makes it happen, swoops the girl out of the bar and brings her home.

Well, we all know Tebow’s a religious freak, so we know that wouldn’t happen in real life. But with four minutes to go, he did it again. And the football Gods definitely had it up for the Broncos. Marion Barber looked like he was going to run for a 40 yard touchdown run in overtime and he dropped the ball. The Broncos picked it up, Tebow turned it around in range for the Broncos to kick the winning field goal.

A woman standing at the bar bored at 1:00 at night, all of a sudden a guy seems to come out of nowhere, win her over, and leave with her for the night.
So what does that guy have that you don’t have?

He’s got the belief system that he can go and meet any woman, any place, at any time. He’s worked on his fundamentals, his observation skill, learning how to start a real conversation out of thin air, learning his environment, the art of communication, having balls and owning his words, not thinking about an opener, but just opening her based on whatever he felt like saying at that moment.

He’s worked on all the fundamentals, because he knows that’s all he needs. When you work on the fundamentals, you know you can have a Tebow moment at the end of the game.
But most guys refuse to work on fundamentals and instead they want the shortcut. They want to be able to swallow something clever and go up to talk to any woman at any place at any time based on what they memorized the night before, and say the same things over and over and over again to every woman.

It doesn’t work, guys. Anything in life that you’ve ever worked for–anybody who’s ever been successful in life has been successful because they’ve been willing to work on all the fundamentals that it requires to be successful.

There are no shortcuts, because life is fundamentals. Unlock your inner Tebow and let’s see if you can get your ass over to that girl at the end of the bar.

A lot of you have egos that do not even allow you to meet people at all. So many of you do not even realize how much your ego is stopping you from making changes so you can be happy in your life.

Your ego can be the sole reason why you are alone right now. So today on Columbus day 2011 lets talk about ego and dating.

In life, we tend to try to protect ourselves all of the time with our egos. We spend so much time worrying about everything – someone didn’t text me back quickly enough, someone didn’t email me back yet, someone hasn’t called me back!

Does Your Ego Ruin Your Dates

And then you meet someone who turns you on more than anyone you’ve met in a long time and they don’t respond to an email right away.

First of all, you have to start thinking to yourself, how many times have I gotten a lot of emails? And then you don’t check for a few hours and they just get buried. Or you read an email, you smile, but you’re in the middle of doing something else at work and can’t respond?

Shit happens. Stop standing on principle – you might miss a connection. Your ego gets in the way of so many great things.

If you meet someone and you have great chemistry, it’s worth it to lob in another text or email. You have to be willing to go the extra distance. If you don’t, you might miss out on something spectacular.

The reason why meeting people and dating is so difficult is because we make it that hard. Our egos get in the way all the time. We just don’t go the extra distance.

We say to ourselves, fuck her, man, she didn’t text me back, I’ll go find someone else!

Okay, great, go find someone else. But you thought she was spectacular before. Now you rationalize to yourself that she’s not that spectacular anymore – oh, I didn’t really like her that much anyway.

Yeah, you did! But you spend all of this time convincing yourself that you didn’t, just because she wounded you and you want to save face.

What are you saving face for? Lob in another email or text, or even call her up. She might say, “oh my god, I forgot to respond, I am so sorry, I got so busy at work.”

That ego kills you every time.

“Today is my day!”

Now the real question is… “Do you really believe that?”

Today’s podcast is all about your belief system.

BE LIKE A NEW YORK JET!

Click Here To Download Today’s Podcast!

For those of you who have yet to see the now famous Bart Scott interview check it out.

Being a lifelong Jets fan I expected them to lose.

So my prediction of the Jets going down was all wrong.

Watch this video and check out what passion and confidence is all about.

Moments after the Jets won Bart Scott was asked how he felt.

No self censorship or monkey chatter here!

Check out Rex Ryan as well.

Confidence is what makes people believe and it starts internally.

The Packers have followed this formula and look where they are now.

All of you can listen to this message and follow this formula in all areas of your life.

Enjoy the games today and for those of you who do not follow or could give a @%^$ about football, have an amazing Sunday.

And who could ever get enough of this.

You gotta love Rex Ryan!

Maybe Rex should lay off the feet and just be like his Dad Buddy.

This is a classic clip.

And now for today’s scores.

Hate to say this but.

Bears 31 Seahawks 10

And this one hurts even more being a Jets fan.

Patriots 34 Jets 17

I have no clue who is in first place in each division of baseball.

Basketball creates zero interest from me and I will always leave soccer to the my friends in Europe.

As for me nothing beats the NFL.

I am an avid Fantasy football player as well and this year I am stacked to make a run for the Fantasy Bowl!!

Today I am going to put my money where my mouth is and trash talk a bit.

Heres who I like this year.

AFC
Ravens
Chargers
Colts
Jets

Wild Cards
Texans
Patriots

NFC
Cowboys
Packers
Saints
49ers

Wild Cards
Falcons
Vikings

So what team will be this years surprise and make a run that falls short.

In the AFC I like the Raiders.

In the NFC

I all about the Eagles coming up just a bit short.

So who wins it all this year?

The Ravens will play the Packers in the Super Bowl and Aaron Rodgers will throw 2 4th quarter touchdowns in a comeback win!

How are we going to relate this blog to dating?

Today were not.

So lets get some fun football talk going today. Who do all of you like this year?

NFL draft 3 full days of choices.

The J E T S made a few choices that are questionable but that is the J E T S for you!

Today you have a choice and which choice will you make.

Picking up women is an action.

Attraction is a state of mind that defines who you are. It is a state of being.

Which one would you prefer to be?

Can all my women readers chime in and tell the boys which type of man you prefer to meet.

This is an actual conversation I had with a client at a recent bootcamp.

For those of you who are football fanatics here are my Super Bowl picks.

San Diego and Dallas.

Surprise team this year will be the Arizona Cardinals in the NFC and the Jets in the AFC.

Lets now talk seduction!

Client: If you’re into a woman and you want to sleep with her, how do you bring that about? How do you signal to a woman that you want to get intimate without getting into her personal space or pushing yourself on her? How do you it naturally?

David: It will always be natural if you connect with her. Once again, you don’t need to actually talk about sex; what you need to do is go out and get to know her. For women, foreplay starts in the mind. There is no need to ever bring up the subject of sex.

So you’re out on a date with her, and you have connected with her as a person. You go out, you have fun, you talk, you share stories and interests, and you get excited when she says something.

You both have great eye contact the whole night – you never break that eye contact. You lean in and lead with your body language (like we talked about earlier.) You lean in like this when she’s talking, you put your hand on table, and she puts her hand up there too. You cross a little bit so that both hands are on the table. If you’re leading, then your body language is always leading hers at all times.

So by the end of the date you know that you’ve connected – you’ve talked to each other a lot, you’ve smiled all night. At this point you want to avoid doing the typical cliché guy-thing: don’t try to seal the night with a kiss. So many guys rush into the kiss.

Instead, I would drive her home and sit with her in my car. I’ll talk a little bit, and I know that if she lingers in the car – if she’s still talking with you while the car is running and you’re sitting in the driveway – she’s interested in kissing me. If she’s lingering in the car, you can assume that she’s wondering what it is like to kiss you.

So then I would say, “alright, I’ve got to get home and go to sleep. Come over here,” and she’ll move over. I’ll go in for the kiss, but I won’t do like massive lizard tongue or anything. I’ll just go in with big, soft lips. No tongue at first, just soft lips.

Second pass – more soft lips, no tongue. And then on the third pass through, I’ll slip my tongue in ever so gently, and I’ll feel her tongue for the very first time. I’ll give her this very soft little kiss, and I’ll hold her face – women love to have their faces held – or hold her behind the neck.

After that, I’ll give her a few more little kisses and then I will look at her. And you’ll know if it was a good kiss – you’ll be dizzy from a good kiss. You won’t get dizzy from a shitty kiss.

So if it was a good kiss, you can look at her and say, “oh man, that was a great kiss.” Women love kissing. The biggest complaint from women is that most guys don’t like kissing. You can then look at her and say, “alright, get out,” and send her out of the car.

The next thing to do is bring her back to that moment. The next day you can text her and say something like, “man, that was such a dizzying kiss,” or “that was such a great kiss the other night, I’m looking forward to the next one,” or whatever – something cute.

She’s already thinking about it, and you brought her back to that moment. She’s thinking about you.

And the next time you go out? It’s the same thing. You go out and you connect with her. You don’t talk about sex or say anything like, “let’s go back to my house,” or “let’s go do it,” or something stupid like that. You just have to connect with her again.

At the end of the night, you look at her and say, “come here and give me another one of those dizzy kisses again,” and you kiss her. You’ll start hearing her breathe a little bit heavier. She might moan or sigh a little bit.

You can then look at her and say, “go. I’m not going to trust myself if you stay in my car any longer,” and you send her out. Dismiss her one more time.

Now that you’ve dismissed her twice, she will start to boil a little bit – you’re not like every other guy. Every other guy gropes her the minute they get the chance. Other guys are literally grinding in their seats like this trying to get laid. You’re not doing that at all.

On the third date, you invite her over to your house for a barbeque or to watch a movie or something. You might be hanging out on the couch, and make sure that during the entire movie you’re actually watching the film.

You could rub the back of her hair a little bit, touch her hand and play with her hand a little bit. You might touch the back of her shoulders a little bit. You just spend the movie playing with her a bit. You’re not kissing her.

You might whisper something into her ear like, “that was a funny scene,” or “this is my favorite part,” if you’ve seen it before. Always whisper into her ear – this builds intimacy. If you think about it, during sex, women like to be talked to. They like it when you whisper, “honey this feels great, you feel wonderful, you look beautiful.” In this way, you’re doing the same exact thing, but you’re not telling her that.

So after the two hours of the movie, the sexual tension has been building. At the end of the film, you look at her and say, “alright, give me your feet, I want to give you a little rubdown,” and give her a little foot massage – women love foot massages.

Move up to her ankles a bit and give her more of a massage. Alternatively, you can give her a foot massage during the movie, and then it will be her turn and she’ll massage your feet.

After the movie you look into her eyes, give her a couple of little kisses, and at that point: she’ll attack you. You’ve been slowly seducing her, which is every woman’s dream.

Client: Yeah, that totally makes sense. I can really see that.

David: And what happens next? You’re in the bedroom, having great sex because it was her idea. When you make sex her idea, it is amazing. When you force sex on her, it’s rape. She’ll never like it. And she’s had versions of that so many times before. She has been out before with guys who have had to sell the idea to her – “come on, you know you want me, come up to my house!”

No – you have to act like you had sex with the most beautiful woman in the world just last night. Even if you haven’t slept with anyone in six months, you still have to act like you’ve had sex recently and aren’t desperate.

You have to have patience with it. If you have patience, she will give her body to yours freely. And that’s what you really want. You don’t want it to be forced. If she gives it up freely, it is amazing sex.