Remember the good old days and how life was back in the 60′s, 70′s and 80′s? Things were done more on intuition. There wasn’t nearly as much information out there.

Nowadays you can get millions of different pieces of information and opinions about anything and everything, from how to get rid of a hangnail to how to raise a child — and have that at your fingertips in mere seconds. It used to be that if you wanted to know how to get rid of a hangnail, you would ask people you know how they have gotten rid of theirs. You used to learn how to raise a child by asking other people, and by using a lot of your own intuition.

Now with the Internet, you can always find somebody who will agree with you and your opinion on any topic. You can always find people who are on your side, and find stats that back it up.

The question nobody ever asks is from where these stats come. People assume if they see a statistic online, that is must just be true and accurate. People are funny that way.

Addicted To The Internet

If someone online says that 33% of people are healthier because they did x and y, most people just believe it. Nobody seems to dig deeper to find out the source of these statistics.

Maybe someone is just plain making it up. Maybe it is just a bunch of marketers manipulating data so you will believe in their product. Maybe it is just someone who is very opinionated and passionate about something, so they make up a statistic to validate it.

We used to be about instinct. Now we can’t even go to the bathroom without first looking on the Internet to find out the best way to do it.

Everything I teach you guys to do involves you learning to trust your instinct. It involves learning how to really understand yourself and trust yourself in every situation.

Life is really interesting. Friends of mine who had a kid got an iPhone App that allows them to check on their kid when they are away from home. These people don’t even trust anyone anymore. Why? They saw a story on television about nannies abusing kids which made them paranoid.

We have lost the innocence we used to have as a society because we don’t trust people like we used to in the past. We have come a long way in a lot of areas, but sometimes it is better to go back to your natural instinct and start trusting what resonates with you as a person.

That is what I teach. I teach you to trust your instinct and your gut, so you can live a fuller life as a less paranoid person who has not been affected by information overload.

“Hey Jim, what is that?” “That’s my iPhone.” Do you get it? It’s like “eye” and “my phone” together — the iPhone!

You know, I think the next thing that should come out to challenge the iPhone should be the EarPhone, because technically all phones go to your ears. Your eye sees the phone, and the ear holds and listens to the phone.

That’s the EarPhone. So somebody please come up with the EarPhone.

What about the LipPhone? Because if you think about it, it makes perfect sense. Your eye sees the phone, your ear listens to the phone and your lips talk to the phone.

So you’ve got the iPhone, the EarPhone and the LipPhone. What’s next?

How about the AssPhone? That is where you get a chip in your asshole and you answer it. It would be interesting. It would probably be kind of muffled if the speaker was up your ass, but then again some of the current smartphones are like AssPhones because they have the worst speakers in the world in them.

It’s funny about these phones. They’re all trying to compete with one another.

You’ve got the BlackBerry, which really isn’t even a BlackBerry anymore. It now comes in all different colors. So why don’t they call the red one a RedBerry and the blue one the BlueBerry and just call it a day.

You have the clamshell phone. I always expected that phone to leak fluid all over me like a real clam would.

These smartphones, though, are hilarious. They’re all trying so hard to compete with each other. They want to jam as much energy into these phones as possible. They’re essentially a computer, a bluetooth and a GPS device all in one phone.

Hell, you don’t need anything anymore because there is an app you can get for anything you could possibly need. It’s amazing — there is an app for everything it seems.

You want a girlfriend or a boyfriend? There’s an app for it. It’s called GirlApp and BoyApp. It’s too much all this, really.

Now tablets are being made all over the place. They call them a tablet, however, to me a tablet was always a hit of Ecstasy or acid. That was a tablet. It’s funny the terms we use and the way we say things.

Now Samsung has the tablet, and the iPad is a pad. It doesn’t really feel like a pad. It feels more like a piece of glass in my hands.

Of course, if you ever buy any of this technology when it first comes out then you’re an idiot. New technology is like a first date — they don’t give you it all. They want to tease you as much as they possibly can.

That is what new technology does. It teases you.

I have an iPad, but I got it for free. I never would have bought it, because I knew that like all Apple products, there would be a second generation product that would be much better.

You can almost hear Apple now saying, “Oh wow, we never thought about having a camera on the first generation iPad.” Yeah right.

They knew about it the first time around, they just wanted to go and make $1 billion selling that. It’s called marketing folks. So that’s why you need to wait for the second generation of anything.

So, as always, what does this rant and rave have to do with dating? Well I just gave you something funny to talk about on a date or when you want to meet someone.

When you see somebody grabbing their phone, you can look at them and say, “Aha! The iPhone that really goes on your ear. So it’s really an EarPhone with lips talking into it.”

See I am giving you hilarious things to talk about — or at least I think they are pretty damn funny. Say someone has a tablet, you can go up to them and say, “God, that is not as powerful as the acid I used to do in college.”

So talk about technology. It’s always easy to talk about how technology keeps getting crazier and crazier.

If you think about it, everything you read here on the blog is a discussion you can have on a date. Of course it is. I’m giving you great date topics of conversation here every day.

So for all of you who email me asking what you should talk about tonight on your date, I say why don’t you talk about this blog? Send my blog to like a thousand people today. I’d appreciate it, and then a thousand more people wold have something to talk about the next time someone whips out their iPhone.

The iPhone – they sound so proud of that name. Very cute Steve Jobs. What a fantastic job when it comes to coming up with new technology. As far as the iPad goes, I can only imagine that what is coming next is is the EarPad and the LipPad.

I feel like Andy Rooney on 60 Minutes right now. Wait, was this just my Andy Rooney moment?

Everyone knows about “drunk texting.” There you are out drinking, and all of a sudden that person you used to date or that person you slept with a few times crosses your mind. So you send them a text. You’ve got to love drunk texting.

Another funny term is “butt dialing.” How many times have you been butt-dialed by people? Butt dialing is when your phone is in your back pocket, and for some odd reason the screen doesn’t lock and you call someone from inside your back pocket by accident.

It always seems, though, that you will end up butt dialing people to whom you don’t really want to talk. Sometime you butt dial someone who called you earlier that day, and they think you are actually calling them back. You’ve got to love butt dialing.

To me, butt dialing might be the best new terminology I’ve heard in a long time. I mean, you have to be careful who you butt dial — and what your butt has to say when it calls, because you never know how talkative your butt might be feeling.

What other new terminology can we think of here? How about “pocket dialing?” That’s about the same thing as butt dialing. There is also “purse dialing,” which is also about the same thing as butt dialing — just the female version.

So what other forms of dialing can we think of to talk about here? There used to be *67 and *69. One of them called the last number that called you I think. The other blocked your number when you made a call.

Man, nowadays there are just so many different ways of dialing people. So what kind of dialing and dialing terminology do you love? Also, tell me how you know when you are on the receiving end of one of these dialing situations.

I seems like it has gotten even more annoying. I think it used to be just two beeps, and that was it. Now it seems to go on beeping forever. Well at least if you have an iPhone or a BlackBerry you can hit ‘ignore’ and not hear the beeping go off.

Life, though, is a lot like call waiting. There is always an option.

Here you are starting to talk to some woman (or man) in a store or at a bar, and there is one person after another coming in and out of left field interrupting. Those people and their interruptions are what I call “human call waiting.” We’ll shorten that to “HCW” for the rest of the blog.

Those people and their interruption are HCW because the person you’re talking to will always feel the need to talk to the HCW whenever they interrupt. The HCW brings their energy in the middle of a great conversation you were having.

So what do you do when a HCW comes over when you are having a conversation? Well it depends whether you are the person that the HCW is coming over to see.

If you are the person that the HCW is coming to see, then you need to tell the HCW “Listen, I’ll talk to you in a few minutes. I’m just in the middle of this great conversation with Mary right now. I really want to talk to you, but I want to finish my conversation with Mary first and give her my undivided attention.”

You need to ignore when other people come crashing into your conversation. You need to do it the way I’ve described, because that shows respect to the person with whom you were having the original conversation.

Think about it. Here is someone who is enjoying a conversation with you and is interested in you (or becoming interested in you). You don’t want to get distracted by HCW. HCW is a distraction you need to ignore.

It is no different than if you are on the phone having a great conversation with someone. HCW is a distraction you need to ignore. Ignore it and continue to give that person on the phone your undivided attention.

It shows interest. It shows attraction. It also shows manners.

You have manners. It’s really important to always give someone your undivided attention.

Life is full of all kinds of HCW. There is always some kind of HCW out there trying to distract you. If you allow HCW to distract you, you are going to miss a lot of great moments in life.

As a matter of fact, I am going to call Apple, and I’m going to get this thing done.
It’s an app that is called “Lower Your Standards Time!”

Picture it. It’s 1:00 am and you’re standing in a bar. You’re drunk. All of a sudden your phone starts going crazy — beeping and vibrating. You look at it, and it says “It’s Lower Your Standards Time!”

“Look, there’s a drunk girl leaning against the bar right now. She just made out with a random guy in the corner. It’s time for you to go over there and get her number. It’s time to lower your standards!”

It is hilarious what we do at 1:00 am. It’s almost like we’re one of Pavlov’s dogs.

It is 1:00 am and you haven’t been successful all night long, so you automatically lower your standards and go for whoever you can possibly get so you can validate yourself that night.

Why? You do it so you can tell your friends you got a phone number. You, however, never tell your friends that it’s the phone number of a woman who was drunk, vomiting at the bar and won’t even remember who you are when you call her.

So, really, I think you know where I’m going with this. Why ever lower your standards?

The only reason why you ever lower your standards is because you don’t have the balls to talk to women to whom you are attracted. You get all full of panic because your ego wants something.

Your ego desires to get a phone number. It validates you that you actually could do something — even if it’s something that totally lowers your standards.

So, you know what? I’m going to have you download this new “Lower Your Standards” app from Apple. That way you can always kid yourself and think that you’re more successful than you really are.

The other option is for you to get on the ball and really start to meet the women to whom you are most attracted. Which option seems better?

CLICK HERE to find out the one way to never again be stuck settling and lowering your standards — and to always CHOOSE the women you want to meet.

Your state of mind is everything when you go out to meet women. Everything.

If you go out to a bar with some friends after your boss has ridden you all day long and made you feel insignificant, then that is precisely what your state of mind is going to be at the bar. Then your night will really be about cleansing, vomiting and regurgitating the anger and all the feelings you have built up that day.

Say you are going out to the market first thing in the morning. You had a bad night the night before, you are not feeling well and you are in a bad mood. Your state of mind will be exactly that.

Your intent may be to go out and meet women at the market. Your intent may be to go to that bar, flirt and meet women.

If your state of mind is not positive and feeling good about yourself, though, then it doesn’t matter what your intentions are. You will never accomplish anything if your state of mind is not in line with your intent.

It’s amazing how much frustration people have and feel about meeting people due to other sources and stimuli in their life. A little trick I tell people all the time to help with this, is to put a picture on the home screen of your iPhone or BlackBerry of something that makes you feel incredibly wonderful.

It could be a picture of your dog. It could be a picture of the first girl you ever kissed. It could be a picture of the mountain you just climbed last weekend. It doesn’t matter what it is.

Whatever image you choose, look at it whenever you feel funky or nervous before you approach someone. Look at it so you have a smile on your face and feel joy.

That is just one thing you can do. There are so many things you can do to create an amazing, peaceful and joyous state of mind. Whatever way you use to get there, without your own version of the New York state of mind, it doesn’t matter what technique you use to meet people. They will never work.

No feedback? No “love it” or “hate it” remarks? What’s up with that?

My designer called today and asked for feedback from all of you about the site, and I had to tell him I hadn’t heard a peep from anyone. Now he is depressed and thinking of a new career!

So, let’s help him out and give him some feedback. Tell me what you think of the new site design.

In this corner, we have a BlackBerry weighing 6.2 ounces.  In that corner, we’ve got an iPhone weighing 8.1 ounces. 

The iPhone has texting that you can do with your fingers that is a self-predicted type, but your fingers can’t be too big to get that little keyboard to work. The BlackBerry Pearl has predictive type where they actually choose words for you. The BlackBerry Curve doesn’t have the predictive typing, but it’s bigger so you’re able to type really fast on it.

Now the question is: Which device is best for text fighting? Text fighting is the newest thing in dating.

It’s a wonderful thing. You’re in the middle of an argument with the person you’re dating and they leave the house. Do you remember the good old days when you got into a little argument with your significant other, you walked out of the house and you were able to not talk to that person again until you were ready?

Well that is no more, because now there is the phenomenon of text fighting. Text fighting is wonderful because the second they walk out the door you can send them a text.  Why walk out the door like that? 

Not only that, but you can continue text fighting for hours. You can do it while you’re watching television. You can text fight while driving (although it’s not a brilliant thing to do and against the law in California). You can even do it at the office.

You can consistently text fight for hours — back and forth, circles and circles, round and round.  If you’re really good at texting, you can almost text them as quickly as they text you back.  Some of you are so fast you can have three texts for every one of theirs.

Fights used to last five or ten minutes.  Your lover would leave, you’d have a few hours to cool off, and by the time they got home you’d both apologize because you’d realize both of you were being an ass. 

Now-a-days with text fighting, though, you can continue a fight for long periods of time and even turn the original fight into other fights. Not only that, but text fighting gives each person proof of what an ass they were being during an argument. With text fighting, you can go back and re-read the texts you sent in anger, re-live each angry text.

It’s so destructive! Things that are said in anger should never be thrown back in somebody’s face. Things that are said in anger — whether they come out of your mouth or out of a BlackBerry — should be deleted right away.

They should never be re-read again, because we all say stupid things in anger. We all say stupid things at the wrong moment. You should never hold anyone to what they said in anger.

So if you do get into a text fight, delete those negative texts.  Delete them immediately, because they’re just going to bring more unnecessary bad stuff into your relationship.

Yesterday I decided since I have a great deal with T-Mobile that I don’t want to give up, that I would look on craigslist for an unlocked iPhone. I mean, I am a mac guy after all, so it would be great to have one.

When I looked at the iPhones online, the prices were all over the map. That’s when I started looking for one on craigslist.

so I go to craigslist and I email a few people about their unlocked iPhones for sale. In my emails, I said that I would like to have the warranty documentation with any phone I’d buy.

At first, no one emailed me back. It’s like buying a used car — absolutely no one tells you the truth. My old business partner used to say that buyers are liars (and so are sellers).

So when I woke up this morning, I had a few emails in my inbox about my iPhone inquiries. There were three of them. The first one said I had to send a Western Union money order with my address on it. Are people really that stupid?

The other two were the exact same email from two people named Movie and Doobie. You’d think they’d just call themselves something like Joe and Bob.

It’s amazing how many people fall for these money order scams. Sonja had a friend who fell for one about a puppy. For $500.00, she got a lovely plastic Chihuahua. I mean, really, are people that stupid?

Really, how many times are we going to win the African lottery and be told there is $22,000,000 waiting for us. Who knew you had four long-lost grandmothers in Africa who would die and leave you that kind of cash?!

I’ve always said we are America the gullible. So many people want to get rich quick and get money for doing nothing.

Look at all the people whose dating life hasn’t changed in a year, but they refuse to do anything about it. It always makes me wonder.

So back to Craig and his list. I’m still looking for iPhones. So if anyone has any leads or knows where I can get one, who knows what I might do to get one? I might do anything . . . even give away a free Bootcamp. You never know what I’ll do.

Today’s blog is all about something (other than the African lottery) that just doesn’t work in life.

As I was flippin’ around the channels the other night, I saw a re-run of Mystery’s show about PUAs, “The Pickup Artist.” For any of you who do not know, PUAs are a bunch of grown men who call themselves “pick up artists.”

I have never been a fan of the whole PUA thing for a number of reasons, but most importantly because I don’t agree with their methodology.

Their whole methodology is reaction-seeking. Everything they do is premised on seeking positive reinforcement from women. They’re not leading it.

They are always looking for something positive from women, so they can move forward. They’re looking for any of the described feedback contained in the PUA manuals. It’s all an illusion.

When they go up to a woman, they’re walking on eggshells because they’re solely focused on looking for some indication of interest (which they can an “IOI”). They are not leading the woman and having a conversation.

They are waiting for an “IOI” that the woman is going to allow them to continue talking so they can continue to move forward in the conversation. They’re looking for some type of body language signal.

The funny thing about this system is that it really is a joke. You HAVE to be able to walk up to a woman and lead. I have never walked over to a woman looking to see if she is interested. I am never looking for confirmation.

I’m going to say whatever I am going to say to her based on the situation around me, and I’m going to lead the conversation. I’m not sitting there and worrying the whole time.

The PUA guys are a bunch of worriers. They worry about what the woman is saying and doing, and all the while they are missing the whole conversation. When you miss that whole conversation, there really is no conversation.

There is a reason why I encourage people to take themselves out on a date on a Saturday afternoon. In order to become a good date, you have to first take yourself out on a date.

Let’s say it’s Saturday and I have to go pick out a pair of jeans. While I’m out, I’m going to talk to everyone I see based on observations I’ve made. I’m going to share things with them. You can’t expect a woman to even be remotely interested in you unless you share something about yourself with her.

Look back and think about all of your stories. Let’s say a woman is on her iPhone. In your mind, you think to yourself, “iPhone? Shit. I heard it’s a pain in the ass to text on those things…”

So you walk over to her, and you ask her very simply, “How’s your day going?” A very simple opener. Right after that, you can look at her and say, “Man, I’ve been looking to get an iPhone for a while, but I heard it’s a bitch to text on. Is that true?” Say it with a smile. Be alive and alert.

Then you’ll get into a conversation where she’s telling you that she really likes her iPhone, and you listen carefully to what she is saying and respond to what she is saying, directing the conversation.

Being excited about what she is talking about will create an emotion in her. Don’t just stand there and think to yourself, “I have to ask her out!”

Asking her out is nothing. Asking her out is something that is going to happen no matter what. If you go in and show her your enthusiasm, she’s going to want to go out with you, and she’s going to remember you. She’s going to have a nickname for you – you’ll be iPhone guy or whatever it might be.

You have to have this enthusiasm for everyone that you talk to on your Saturday date. And it will be a long day, trust me. If you think about it, going out at 11 a.m. on a Saturday and coming home at 7 p.m. – that’s a lot of fucking hours. It’s a long day. And you’ll still want to go out that night and do it again, right? It’s like a full-time job.

But when you go and you talk with enthusiasm to anyone, your job will get so much easier.

Let’s say I’m talking to Rey while he’s piling a whole bunch of disgusting food into a box at Whole Foods (which you’ll get to see in person if you ever attend one of my bootcamps!) I can look at him with a smile and say, “Oh man, that’s nasty!” All of a sudden, Rey will start cracking up, and then a woman will look at you and see two people smiling and having a good time. She’ll start reading the energy.

If you’re the person leading the conversation, she’ll start looking at you as the leader and she’ll start being more attracted to you. You have been leading the conversation – you opened the other person, you talked, you listened and you transitioned the conversation into something deeper.

She will start to get turned on by you, and she’ll find some reason to drift over to you. It’s like magic. This is what she’s looking for – most people are walking around in this incredible coma. If you look at most people, they spend their entire lives in a coma. They just live in a cloud.