The other day I was walking into a cafe, and I see this woman sitting in the corner wearing a t-shirt with the words “For Rent By The Hour” on it. I must admit that this led my mind to go in many different directions.

I mean, what did she mean by this? Could I rent her by the hour to clean my house? Does she perform sexual acts by the hour? Would she make herself available to do filing in my office by the hour?

I kept wondering what exactly she was willing to rent herself out by the hour to do. Then I thought to myself that this would be a great shirt to wear if you want to meet people.

So I walked over to her and said “I want to be 100% original here. I know people have come up to you asking what exactly is for rent by hour and what you are willing to do by the hour. I don’t want to do that. I want to ask you another question: Are you wearing this shirt to be more open to meeting people?”

She started laughing, then told me that she basically wears that shirt for that very reason since she finds most men have no idea how to approach her. She happened to be a stunning, absolutely beautiful blond but she said that most guys never approach her.

She said when she’s wearing that shirt, however, that guys will approach her all day long and she actually gets dates. Not only that, but she said she also gets a great selection of men who approach her when she’s wearing that shirt.

She said that for some odd reason or other, that shirt seems to make men feel for gutsy because it gives them an instant opening line when they approach her. So we talked about this for quite some time.

I asked her what the most clever thing is that any guy had ever said to her about the shirt. She said “Your remark is the most clever, because you are the only one who really wanted to know what people have said and done. Everybody else comes over and basically just asks me what they can get by the hour.”

I asked her why she continued to wear the shirt if that is what most guys said to her when they approached. She said that the shirt seemed to be the only way she is able to get dates.

I told her “That is a really sad thing because most men spend the majority of their energy trying to figure out how to approach women and what to say to them when they do, and most women are not open.” She told me that wearing that shirt makes her feel more open, because when she has so many guys approaching her she feels much more flirtatious and she gets to hand pick which guys she really wants to get to know more.

So if you’re a woman who has had a lot of trouble meeting men, why don’t you go buy a shirt that says “Rent Me By The Hour,” and see the reactions you get from men. Then enjoy the opportunity to do a lot of flirting and getting to pick and choose among them.

If you’re a guy, the next time you see a woman wearing a fun shirt it’s a great opportunity for you to be more creative and clever. According to this woman, she will pick the most creative and clever guy who approaches her and go out on a date with him.

Fortunately for me, I won that contest and was that guy. Unfortunately for me (since she was a phenomenal, cool, fun and sexy woman), I’m seeing someone and was not able to take advantage of it.

So ladies, take this woman’s advice. As for the men, stop commenting on the obvious and start being creative in your comments to women.

You think you have flaky people in Missouri, right? You have flaky people in Vegas? You have flaky people all over Southern California, right? And there are flaky people all over Jersey and New York, right? And in Arizona…

But here’s the thing about flaky people: they don’t exist. If someone flakes on you, it just means that they are not really that sure about you. They are just indecisive about if they are into you or not.

We all flake on people that we’re indecisive about. Do you know how many times I’ve been invited to a party or out to dinner with some people, and then at the last minute I realize that I really don’t want to go? And I bail out.

Does this make me a flaky person? No, it’s just because the people that were invited to the party just didn’t really intrigue me enough to want to go. It wasn’t worth my time to go.

Client: You said you were going to go in the first place?

David: Of course! We always accept those invitations before we think about it.

Client: Yeah, we all do that to a degree.

David: Right, and then later – at the last minute – we realize that the person that we’re going to go hang out with doesn’t really excite us, so why are we going to go give up one of our nights?

So when people bitch and complain about people being flaky in terms of dating and other things, I just tell them to let it go. You just didn’t excite them enough, and for once you’re on this end of the stick. More often you’re the one flaking on somebody.

If someone is truly excited about hanging out with you, they are not going to break the plans. If they do have to break the plans, they will say something to you like, “something at work just came up, can we do something tomorrow night?”

Khiem: And if you seem to be meeting constant flakes, well, then you just aren’t exciting or intriguing enough.

Do you know what is great? Practicing your storytelling. Women are attracted – actually, people in general are attracted to people who are charismatic and can tell a good story.

I know I’ve written blogs about telling stories before, but I want to go even deeper into this today. There are so many emotions that you can convey to people through stories. They tell something about your personality.

When you are there and you are talking to somebody, and they are in quiet mode – sometimes we’re in quiet mode, sometimes we’re in talkative mode – but let’s say this person is in quiet mode. All of a sudden, you start doing the talking – you’d better be interesting! All of us are interesting because we’ve all done things in our lives – but the difference is in the way we share that story.

How do you share a story? How do you tell a story? Are you a fact person? There are two ways you can tell a story. You could talk about your summer vacation last year, and you could either a) do what many people do and just state the facts:

“My summer vacation last year was a lot of fun. We went to Norway, where my sister’s husband is from, and we all traveled together as a family, and then we went over to London, which I thought was great because it was my first time there. And then we went to New York and hung out with some friends before we came back to Colorado.” Those are facts.

Now, in order to really turn another being on – to turn a woman on – in order to get a new friend – you’d better be interesting.

So here’s another version of that story that I think you need to learn. You’re hanging out, and the other person says, “so what did you do for your last summer vacation?” You say in a very passionate tone:

“Last summer was amazing. It was so great, my sister married this unbelievably cool guy from Norway, and she’s been really happy with him. My sister is somebody that I really didn’t think would find somebody, but she found this guy, and he treats her great, and he’s really big into family. They want to have a big extended family.

So he invited me to come to Norway. Of course, I paid for my ticket and everything, I mean he was generous with his heart, but he didn’t, like, treat everybody….”

As you can see here, I’m using a little bit of humor also as I’m conveying and telling my story. So let’s go back to the story:

“…so it was amazing – I’ve never been to Norway before, and it was just so fantastic, especially in the summertime – it stays light. It’s unbelievable – you’re walking around at 10:30 at night, and the sky is this intense blue color, and the sun is still out, and it almost shimmers off of the buildings.

But people are still out, and it’s a whole different vibe. It’s not like the daytime vibe, where everybody is like walking around all hustle and bustle – but it’s like the nighttime vibe, but during the day. And it was really wild – I would sit there in these cafés, and I’d be tired, but it would be light out! And I couldn’t even imagine going to sleep.

It was great, because he took us on so many different excursions all over the place. We saw some of the most beautiful lakes I’ve ever seen in my entire life – lakes that were shimmering, they were so clear. But they were ice cold, and he told us stories about his family.

We met some of his family, his cousins – it was such a great trip. Not only because my sister was so happy, but because I met some amazing people on the way and made some great friends. The Norwegians are so open – they invite you in to dinner and they make you dinner, and they want you to eat, and be happy, and they share stories with you.

The whole trip was just intense. It was so intense that I really just wanted to go spend time alone. I had a round trip ticket from Colorado to Sweden, but I really just wanted to do something different – I looked at a map of Europe, I threw down a nickel, and I said I’d go wherever it was – even if I’d been there before.

Sure enough, with my luck – it was London. I’ve been to London like seven times, but I was like, fine – no big deal. I’m going to hop Ryan Air, go to London, and have a different experience.

So I booked this really great little hotel that was in Covent Garden – kind of central city if you’ve been to London – but really central city. What I did was just walked around and had a different adventure every day. I would go to different neighborhoods, I would explore different food, and it was just so great to have these three days by myself.

So I could go on and on and on about this, but that’s what I did during my summer vacation last year…”

So, as you can see, there are two different versions of it. I’m sitting here with Pete, a really good guy that is totally quiet one moment, and then starts entertaining me with stories the next moment. I just did one of my bootcamps, and I’m going to ask him right now: do you see the difference in the way those two stories are told?

Pete: Absolutely, man. You feel the difference. You experience one story, and the other one, you just hear.

David: What did you feel? I saw your eyes, but describe it. The first story, I was stating the facts, and the second story, what did you feel when I was telling it?

Pete: Let me pick out one thing. When you told me about how it was like nighttime calm, and nighttime relaxed, but the sun was shining – when you said that, I really recognized that feeling. And I felt it at that moment.

David: And that’s how you bond with people. That’s the big difference. For instance, we’re sitting here right now on a canal in Amsterdam – it’s beautiful. People are going by in boats, and it’s very intense and fun. It’s relaxing. It’s seven o’clock at night, and it’s the big chill, just kind of hanging out before dinner.

Pete, when you were jean shopping today – we took him shopping because we really wanted him to convey a new, hipper, and fresh, fun look – how did you not tell your story? What was that big lesson – that big aha – that you had?

We went into this Levis store, and we’d been jean shopping already – so he already knows what doesn’t look good on him, he knows what does look good. So we walked up to this salesgirl, and he just went into boring guy mode – he just said, “what jeans look good on me, ja?” Am I right?

Pete: You are right!

David: And he just stood there – she was showing him jeans and he was saying, “that’s a nice wash.” But what do you do in that situation when you have such mental block?

You use the power of the story, again. You create that story. So you walk in and you look at her and say, “I hope you are going to be able to rescue me right now,” and she’s going to say, “why?” “Because I have been jean shopping all day long and I just can’t find one that fits my butt right” – you get playful too, in that sense. You turn around, you show her your butt…

Then you say, “I’m going to let you have the power of picking out the denim for me.” You just have a little bit of fun with it. She shows you some jeans, and you ask, “is that the best you can do?” and challenge her a little bit. You get playful a little bit, “is that the BEST you can bring out? Come on, I know you can do better than that!”

We did that in the shoe store tonight – we challenged them with shoes, remember? I said, “show me your favorite pair. Oh, you could do better! Show me a different pair,” and we were playing around with them.

But you create that story. If you’re shopping for shoes, you could talk about how you had a quest for shoes all day long, but we happened to have used jeans. So you see the difference?

You don’t just walk in and wait for people to amuse you – you walk in and that’s how you have great conversations every single time. If that person can’t keep up with you, it doesn’t matter, because it’s obviously not meant to be.

So do you get the difference?

Pete: Absolutely.

David: Alright, we’ll let’s go walk around and get some dinner!

Todays video is all about how to create powerful openers. The whole idea is to have fun and be playful!!