Forget about it – this week is too easy. What is the riskiest thing you’ve done TODAY?

Everyday you should be taking a risk. I don’t care if it’s a risk at work or if it’s a personal risk; you’re not going to advance if you don’t take risks.

Life is about taking chances and taking risks. The most successful people in the world are risk-takers. They don’t play it safe.

So today, at work, what risk did you take to further your career? In your personal life, what risk did you take today to further your development in meeting people of the opposite sex? For those of you in a relationship, what risk did you take with your partner today to make that relationship even better?

We all dream about winning the Superbowl or climbing Mt. Everest. But in reality, you’ll only be able to achieve your dreams by taking small risks every single day.

Share with me your risks. For some of you, making a comment on this blog might be the risk you take today!

I could not wait till tomorrows blog……I think all of you will enjoy this!

There is no reason in life to take things personally.

If you truly respect yourself – if you really think that you’re a great person – then if someone else doesn’t like you, you won’t take it personally.

It just means that you might have some stuff to work on. You have some stuff to do.

Life is just like a mirror – we attract exactly who we are so we can learn the lessons we’re ready to learn.

So if you’re getting blown off on a regular basis and you’re feeling really bummed and obsessing over it, there is a lesson there that you haven’t yet embraced. You haven’t looked deep enough into it.

You have to look at yourself and think, why am I getting blown off? What am I doing to cause this pattern in my life? Something that you are doing is perpetuating that pattern.

Don’t take the rejection personally, just realize that there is something in your life that you have not done, there is something you need to do to work on yourself first.

You haven’t learned all of the lessons from the relationships you’ve had in the past. Every relationship in your life gives you a lesson that you need to learn from and embrace.

Since I posted this second blog today, I am putting up my podcast and announcement again on here so you don’t miss them! Here they are…

In today’s podcast, I am going to issue a challenge you like none other . . . and you will look at yourself in a way you never have before. I also reveal a SPECIAL OFFER in this podcast, so be sure to check it out!

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So if you’re getting blown off and thinking to yourself, god, why does everybody hate me, there is something that you are missing; you need to go deeper into it. Look deeper into why you are getting blown off and then work on that part of you.

It could be that you’re too needy on the first date. Maybe people are blowing you off because they see the desperation in you.

It could be that you haven’t gotten laid in a while, and you come in with way too much sexual energy that is overwhelming. Instead of letting the sexual tension build, the woman literally feels your dick growing under the dinner table – and it doesn’t turn her on!

There are a lot of things that you have to start looking at within yourself. Many times people don’t want to look within themselves, but remember that you are the cause and effect of everything you do.

You have to look deeper into it.

The biggest problem with the monkey chatter is that there are more than just monkeys up there – it’s like a whole zoo! There are apes, gorillas, lions and tigers – there’s a whole brawl going on in your head.

In my twenties, I used to tell people, “You don’t want to be inside my head – it’s like a really bad neighborhood. You don’t when you’re going to get mugged, when you’ll get your ass kicked….” We all have that.

If you’re considering walking over to her but you’re thinking, “Man, she looks like she doesn’t want to be bothered, she won’t be interested,” then you’re giving your power away again to her.

You should never give your power away to another person. You have to start thinking about the small wins in life.

What do your friends think of you? What does your mom think of you? What does your sister think of you? What about people that you work with? You have a lot of people who think that you are pretty damn cool.

You have to start really embracing the fact that all of these people think that you’re a really great person, because you are.

If you have monkey chatter before you go and talk to a woman, it’s because you’ve put her in a fantasy box. Before you approach her, you’ve totally made her a fantasy. You don’t even know her! She could have breath that smells like my dog’s ass! She could be the meanest person in the entire world.

So turn off the monkey chatter, just smile, and relax! One of the best ways to get rid of the monkey chatter is to spend an entire day just walking around and saying hello to everyone.

Keep a scorecard. It’s almost retarded, but it works. Be enthusiastic about it: “Hey, how are you?” Take a book and write down how many people respond favorably. By the end of the day, you’re going to be in the hall of fame!

Think about it: three out of the ten times you go up to bat and you get a hit, you’ll be in the hall of fame. If you complete 60 percent of your passes in the NFL, you’re Payton Manning.

But so many guys are disappointed if they don’t get 100 percent. I meet so many guys who come to take a bootcamp with me, or come from coaching, or even just products – and they want a 100 percent success rate.

But you should see me – I’ll get blown off today, and I don’t even care! It doesn’t even bother me. I don’t care if she doesn’t think I’m interesting.

So you have to build up your confidence, very slowly. By building up your confidence, you can talk to people and actually see how they respond to you very favorably. You’ll find that a lot of people will respond favorably to you every day.

This is one way to work on the monkey chatter. To be honest, there is no instant cure to get rid of it entirely and immediately. The best way to minimize it is to go out there and have successful interactions all day long.

The more successful your interactions are, the more confident you’re going to become as you progress throughout your day. It took me a long time to realize that.

As men, we always seem to be keeping score. The mentality of men (and the stupidity of men) means that we’re always telling each other, “Man, I had such great sex last night, it was the best. You should have seen this girl that I picked up….”

Why are we telling our friends that? To impress them and to validate ourselves. Who should you be impressing in bed? The woman that you’re with. You should be able to talk to her the next day and say, “Oh man, I fucked you so good last night.” Then when she responds, “Yes you did!” there is all the validation you need!

You don’t need validation from other men.

I read this a few months ago and just reread it today.

Enjoy and before you read it one last thought.

Eagles and the steelers!
I want to tell you about the story of Brian Boyle.

Brian Boyle was a zombie. In 2004, a truck smashed into his jet black 1994 Chevy Camaro, a month after he graduated from high school. From the article: “the collision forced his heart to the right side of his chest, collapsed his lungs, and splintered his ribs, collarbone and pelvis.”

“He lost 60% of his blood and was given 36 blood transfusions. He lost over 100 lbs on his presumed deathbed and died eight times just on the operating table. Just over three years later he completed the 2007 Ford Ironman World Championship in Kona, Hawaii.”

What did he say about this? He “used all of the negative things that were thrown at [him] after the accident as ammunition for [his] arsenal. When [he] crossed the finish line, [he] wasn’t Brian the sick boy anymore. [He] wasn’t the skeleton in the wheelchair – [he] was Brian the Ironman.”

He woke up from a two-month coma, and then “embarked on three years of intensive rehab, which included relearning how to blink and walk. He had only six months to train specifically for the Ironman, but most of his preparation, he said, had taken place in the hospital.”

He says: “My mentality was similar whether I was undergoing endless physical therapy sessions after the coma or pushing my body to reach the finish line at Kona. If it was learning how to blink my eyelid again or pounding through one more mile during the run, it was about the small goals. Pain was now something that I could conquer.”

So what’s next for him?

He wants to go back and do another Ironman.

What’s next for you?

You have no physical handicaps. You have only mental handicaps. You are allowing a weak mind – and your fears and insecurities – to dominate your life. You’re not willing to communicate with people because you’re not willing to push yourself the extra distance.

Some of you can’t push yourself, and some of you just WON’T. You know who I’m talking about here!

But read this story of Brian Boyle. Brian Boyle died eight times. You just have trouble flirting with the opposite sex. Which do you think is more challenging? Whose life do you think is harder? Whose comeback is harder?

Push yourself to be the best that you can possibly be, and stop with the fear and excuses.

Your brain is powerful. Your mind is powerful. You really need to start looking at it as the powerful entity that it is. You can create anything you want.
. Read this again and learn about him, and then tell me if you don’t feel inspired to get out from behind the computer and start talking to people!

The other day I was hanging out with this woman and we were talking about my business.

She knows exactly what I do – teaching guys how to really become master communicators and learn the art of attraction – but she had no idea that there are all of these wacky companies out there that teach pick-up terminology and teach you how to be something that you are not.

She could not believe that guys sit around and ask each other how to ‘escalate sexually’ the very first time.

I’ve always said it – but the way you ‘escalate sexually’ is by listening and talking to her. You engage her, and you smile at her. This is how you escalate sexually.

If she says something funny, you can lightly touch her arm. You don’t have think to yourself, like a robot, oh she just did something. Let me touch her arm now. Okay, I touched her arm, now I need to lean in and kiss her.

It doesn’t have to be this hard!

The reason why you make it this hard is because you just don’t spend enough time developing and trusting yourself.

Granted, when I was first out there in the dating world at 18 or 19 years old, I was nervous as hell and always scared to death to go in for the kiss. Of course you’re nervous – that’s natural!

But I never looked for a manual that told me exactly when to go in for the kiss.

Instead, I learned and practiced and started paying attention to things. If you really pay attention to women, you’ll know when she wants you to kiss her. If she’s looking deeply into your eyes and smiling at you – absolutely you should go in for the kiss!

You don’t have to sit there and think about when is the best moment for going in for the kiss. The fact is that you just have to be yourself.

A guy just emailed me, and he basically said, “I’m going out with this girl, she’s really deep, she’s really amazing, but how do I get her to like me?”

Hello! You just said it yourself: she’s really deep and really amazing. How do you get her to like you? You have to be deep and amazing for her as well.

I’ve said it a thousand times: in order to attract amazing looking women, you have to learn how to be attractive to yourself. You have to learn deep inner confidence. You have to learn to love yourself before you can go out there and meet people.

If you don’t love yourself and trust yourself, of course you’re going to be neurotic in every situation! That’s the way that things go and it’s just the way you are.

Develop your inner confidence. Every product that I put out there has so many lessons for gaining inner confidence. I know that there is no shortcut in life.

Eventually, you’re going to have to find a way to be comfortable being yourself. The most powerful version of you is the most comfortable version of yourself.

Learn who you are. Trust who you are. Along the way, start taking chances and risks.

If you see the outward signs that she wants to kiss you and you want to go in for the kiss, grab your balls and go kiss her!

Just try it. If you get rejected, who cares? If it doesn’t work, it doesn’t matter. No matter what I say and tell you, you’re still going to have to get out there and try it.

You are going to fail, but you are also going to succeed.

But no matter what, you’d better start today!

If you have the minimalist approach to your business, what happens? You don’t make any money, right? You have to have that same feeling of abundance in every facet of life.

So many guys will meet a girl and then say to themselves, I don’t want to blow this! You’re acting like this is the last pretty girl you will ever see. Instead of challenging yourself and having a good conversation with her, you’re monitoring yourself and trying not to blow it. You walk over there and you play it safe, because you don’t want to blow it.

You think, if I say what I really want to say, then she’s not going to like me. You present yourself in front of her and guess what? She doesn’t like you, because you played it safe. Women don’t like when you play it safe. They’re not attracted to it.

So by having this minimalist attitude and playing it safe – not living with an abundance mentality and realizing that there are so many women out there – you will do this same thing every day. You will always be playing it safe.

You need to think to yourself, hey, this behavior pattern isn’t working!

And then the next time you see a good looking woman, you can say to yourself, I don’t give a fuck what I’m going to say. I’m going to say exactly what is on my mind, I’m going to try something totally different, and I’ll just have some fun with it. If she doesn’t respond, it doesn’t matter.

And when you start changing things like this, you’ll realize that women are starting to respond better to you.

It takes time. Women, keep this in mind: men think that they should win at everything that they do.

Women are about connecting. But coaching men is different. Men are like, I’ve got to go out and meet every single woman and they all have to like me!

No they don’t! Who cares? They don’t all have to like you; you just have to weed through them quickly. It is totally ridiculous to expect that every single woman you meet will like you. But as men, we just think it’s our rite of passage. Just because we stood there and talked to her she should give us her phone number and spread her legs for us.

That’s how men think. That’s the male mentality. On the other hand, women think, I just want to connect and enjoy somebody’s company. I want to learn about them and give it more of a chance. It’s more natural and authentic.

So men, remember this: just because you deposit yourself in front of her doesn’t mean that she’s going to like you.

So I just don’t care. I go over there, I talk and I flirt; I say whatever is on my mind. And if they respond? Great. If not? Who cares!

The next woman that you see – go up to her and say exactly what is on your mind. I don’t care what it is. Don’t get confrontational, but be real about it. Pay attention to her and the emotions on her face. Pay attention to what she is doing.

Just say it as you say it right now.

You’ve got to understand something about this guy. You think this guy is so cool, calm, collected and confident. The truth is that if he’s nervous around you, then he’s interested in you.

Just look at his personality. That’s something that I always tell women.

A lot of times when a woman is attracted to a guy and he acts like this, i.e., confident and friendly with his friends but nervous around her, she interprets this seemingly stark change in his behavior as an indication that “This guy isn’t interested in me.” She will interpret his nervousness as deliberate unfriendliness toward her.

In reality, this guy IS interested in you precisely because he is not acting like himself . Watch what this guy does and think about it for a second.

The minute he stops talking to you, he goes back to talking to his friends and he immediately becomes the confident guy again. Then you see him talking to a woman to whom he’s not attracted, and he becomes that confident guy again. When he’s talking to the waitress, he’s the confident guy.

The minute he starts talking to you, however, he seems to get really nervous. His hands go in his pockets. He might rock back and forth a little bit.

So what do you do in this situation? You’ve got to bring it out of him a little bit more.

For one thing, you can always ask him “Do I make you nervous?” You can confront him right away if you feel like taking the direct approach.

You can also just be really calming and ask him questions about things. When you’re in a conversation with him, maybe go a little deeper and start asking him more questions about what he’s saying. Get him to relax a little bit. You could laugh at one of his jokes.

The fact is that life is about energy, and whatever energy someone brings into a dynamic can affect the energy of the others. So when this guy is nervous, you become nervous and then the two of you will become nervous together.

So if you like this guy or you think you might like this guy, it may be up to you to bring a calming energy into your conversation to draw out his calmer side. Life is a two-way street ladies. It really is.

Once again, too many women sit back and wait for that guy to come over to them. They wait wait for that guy to be George Clooney or Brad Pitt. Sometimes the reality is that you’ve just got to pull it out of them. It’s just the way things are.

You need to embrace that you are in control of your dating life, and I’m here to help you.

Sometimes my house is called Camp David – no, I don’t have any political heads of state there, nor am I entertaining George Bush, his dog, and all his Washington drinking cronies – but I always seem to have a group (sometimes small, sometimes large) of people hanging out there.

Sometimes on a Bootcamp weekend I’ll have a whole bunch of clients staying over at my house – and then it really is Camp David! It’s like a sleepover. They all bring their sleeping bags, and we go duck hunting in the morning, and then we go do some pow wow stuff. Just kidding, we don’t really do that in the mornings!

So the other night at Camp David we had a couple of people over. There was this one woman there named Amy, and she and Khiem started talking. Khiem wanted to share something that you women tend to do over and over again.

So ladies, as the men would say, this Bud’s for you – I’ll say, ladies, this blog’s for you! Without further ado, here is Khiem.

Khiem: Thanks David. I always enjoy hanging out with you at your house because I can always meet interesting people. Yesterday, I was very fascinated by one of your friends. Amy is obviously beautiful, young and has a lot going for her, but when we started talking, she began to open up about one of her past relationships.

She actually fell very hard for a “bad boy” or a loser. He supposedly did a lot of drugs, drank a lot and he lied to her, which was a big deal breaker for her. She told him upfront that she didn’t like liars and she didn’t like hypocrites.

However, as their relationship developed, she discovered that he lied to her. She broke up with him six months ago, but I found out yesterday she is still heartbroken. She still loves the guy, because they were together for a while.

And the question is why do women get so attached to these kinds of guys?

It was really interesting for me to hear how she wanted him to want her back, but she herself didn’t really want him back. She knew that by going back to him they would go to a place that would not be good for her in the future.

What this made me realize is that Amy valued him a lot more because he made her put up with so much of his shit. Even though he lied and drank, the few times that he actually paid attention to her – the few times he gave her himself – made her value him more. Every time he would ignore her but then turn around and give himself to her, it was like she hit the jackpot.

This is something that is very difficult to understand in the psychology of people because this guy was obviously no good, but because he made himself be valued so highly, she couldn’t let go. At the end of our conversation, Amy admitted that she might just be attracted to bad boys.

But for all of the guys out there, you need to learn to lead. Be more dominant, and be more masculine. The reason that Amy fell so hard for this guy is because he truly led her – through the ups and the downs, and mostly downs in this case – he always led her. He was always doing the things that were most important to him, but incorporating her into his life.

David: What Khiem is really saying is 100% true. Women are attracted to strong, dominant men. Whether this guy was a winner or a loser, he still led her on an emotional journey.

A lot of men will do that to women, lead them up and down, but it’s an adrenaline rush that women get addicted to. Women don’t want you to be soft, and they don’t want you to be needy. Women want you to lead them somewhere. We’ll have to talk about that more deeply in another blog.

Khiem: The interesting thing is that even though it has been six months, and Amy is trying to meet other guys, she mentioned that all the new guys she’s met are highly successful – they have degrees from high-end schools, or have a great job and make great money –she’s still been unable to open her heart to them.

It was very interesting to me because while obviously she is still in love with her ex-boyfriend, the biggest problem is that she wasn’t giving these new guys a chance. She thought that she was by going out with them, but emotionally and mentally she wasn’t judging the new guys with a clean slate. She was always comparing the new guys to her ex-boyfriend.

For girls that have been hurt before and have fallen hard – if you meet a new guy, look at them with a clean slate! If you don’t, you will never see the true positives or negatives that the new guy has to offer. Every person is unique, and as much as you loved your previous boyfriend – they will never be comparable.

David: So that’s why you really should not start dating again until you’ve cleaned house. If you have an old guy or woman in the cupboard, rotting away, you need to clean that up. What will happen if you don’t is that you’ll let a lot of good opportunities pass you by because you’re not emotionally ready.

I never believed in the terminology “dating for substitution.” I’ve found that you don’t date to replace, but you start dating again to start a whole new experience.

Todays video is all about how to create heat and passion on a hot summer night!