So what makes someone attractive to the opposite sex? What makes someone attractive in general? Anyone who is familiar with my work knows that one of the core principles I teach is that you need to put out good energy in order to attract people.

People are attracted to those who are positive, who smile, who are open and who are enjoying their life. People who walk around angry, unhappy and with closed body language will not attract anyone. These are not new concepts to anyone who reads this blog.

Here’s what is so interesting though. Even people who understand this concept tend to make a mistake in how they try to apply this.

The number one mistake that men and women make when they go out and try to meet someone of the opposite sex is that they go out to try and meet people of the opposite sex. That is, they go out with laser focus trying to locate and talk to people they are attracted to while ignoring everyone else.

If you understand what creates attraction, though, you know that it is created not just by how you interact with someone you want to attract but also by how you interact in general with the world around you.

Similarly, you attract members of the opposite sex not only by how you interact with them individually, but by how they see you interact with others. In fact, although it may initially seem counterintuitive some of you, you will actually begin to attract more members of the opposite sex the minute you stop focusing on trying to attract certain people and you start focusing on how to just become attractive in general.

To become really successful at meeting and connecting with members of the opposite sex, you need to really get this concept. The next question is, of course, HOW do you do this?

Instead of giving you the answer to this question in this blog, as a special treat for everyone I decided to answer it LIVE. I have just posted a special FREE BONUS Podcast for all of you where I talk about how you can create INSTANT ATTRACTION every day and everywhere you go.

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Anyway it had me thinking so I wanted to share a fun blog with you today.

In life, we never talk about ‘if.’ You all know how I feel about people that live their lives according to ‘if’: IF I can do this, IF I can do that…

A few weeks ago we did a blog asking if you could go back and actually meet one of your childhood crushes, who would it be? Today I have a different question for you: if you could be any type of performer, what would it be?

I saw Coldplay during the summer, and when I saw Chris Martin play in front of 20,000 cheering people – watching him jump on stage and seeing his energy – I thought to myself, would I want to be a rockstar?

All my life, I dreamed of being Joe Namath or some type of football star. “Fading back to pass, number 12, David Wygant, looking down the middle… looking left, looking right, here comes the blitz, running out of the pocket, he throws the ball… TOUCHDOWN!” Jumping up and down, winning the Superbowl, having 75,000 people scream my name – I thought that was a big thrill.

Or standing up at the plate: “number 47, David Wygant, left fielder for the New York Mets, three balls, two strikes, two men out…” Down 2-1, seventh game of the World Series, the crowd is silent, and then they start chanting, “Wy-gant, Wy-gant, Wy-gant.” Tip – foul tip… into the catcher’s mitt and he drops it! He’s still alive! “3-2, fast ball, he drives it over the left field wall, going, going, GONE!” A home run! Rounding the bases, hearing 75,000 people scream my name as all my teammates are jumping up and down waiting for me…

Maybe if i was playing for the Mets they would not be doing there annual September choke!! I love waking up in my London hotel room and logging on to see how the Mets bullpen blew it the night before!

Those are big thrills. But after spending the last ten years motivating everybody, teaching people how to connect with the opposite sex, and speaking in front of live audiences? I’ve got to tell you: while there is no greater rush than doing what I do right now, if I had to be somebody else, I would love to be a rockstar.

I love getting in front of a thousand people, getting them to laugh, getting them to react, and getting them to feel. But watching Chris Martin sing with his band was unbelievable – to be able to see 20,000 people swaying to your words.

It’s not just swinging a bat or throwing a ball. It’s actually crafting words and emotions into songs and then getting other people to feel through those. That’s power.

So that’s what I would be. What would you be? If you could be any type of performer, what would you be?

We’re talking sports hero, rockstar – any live performer. Would you be a musician? Would you be a conductor? Would you be a rockstar? Hell, maybe some of you even want to be Gloria Estefan! I don’t know why, but maybe some of you would want to be her. (Not that I have anything against her music, it’s just that I never want to hear it. I would rather hear nails scratching up and down on a chalkboard.)

Would you like to be a football or baseball star? What would it be if you could be any type of fantasy person? As a kid, you thought about this all of the time – but as an adult, more evolved, it will be interesting to hear your responses.

I would be a rockstar, because in my business I feel like a rockstar. When I get up and I coach all of you, or get up in front of people in a seminar, I feel like a rockstar. I get to relate and connect with every single person in the audience.

I already feel like I’m living a rockstar life. But if I had to take it to the next level, I would definitely have a band with three of my best friends. The problem is that none of us can sing or play any instruments – but this is a fantasy blog anyway! And as Mr. Rourke says, “smile, everyone, because the fantasy is yours!”

I have been all over Europe and it has some amazing underground train systems. This is unlike America, where we just sit in our cars all day long and curse at people in traffic – except of course for New York City, Boston, Chicago, San Francisco, and some other cities – I think Philly might have a train.

But most of the US doesn’t have an underground system. When I was in Europe I was sitting with my client Pete, and Pete wanted to know: how do you meet people on the train?

Well, I said, it’s really easy. You have to put yourself in everybody else’s shoes and their emotions.

Think about when you get a seat in the afternoon on the underground or the train – how good it feels to sit down. You’ve been walking around all day long, you have a 25-minute train ride ahead of you, and you found a seat! You scored – you don’t have to stand up. Your feet are killing you from walking around all day.
Yes they actually walk in Europe something that does not exist where i live in Los Angeles.

So what do you do? You play the percentages. You sit down next to her, you give her a big smile as you sit down, and you say, “oh, that feels so good.” You do it with a big smile.

She thought the same thing when she scored that seat on the underground. All of a sudden, you look at her, and say, “how was your day?” and then let her talk. Find out what her day was like.

It’s really that simple. One of my clients in London did this, and he talked to her for 20 minutes on the underground. He found out about where she was from – Australia – why she was visiting… It’s just really that easy.

In the morning, what do you do?

In the morning, people have their defenses up – they’re tired, they’re not in the mood to go to work, whatever it might be. So in the morning, if you’ve seen somebody over and over again on the train, just look at them and smile and say, “good morning, how are you? I see you here all the time. We must work in the same area.”

That’s it. Non-threatening. It’s always about being non-threatening. That’s how you talk to a woman on the train.

Todays audio is a lively debate about the difference between men and women.

After seeing a long winded Sex And The City Movie we had a nice little debate about the strange but funny things women do.

If you think Sarah Jessica Parker and the gang from Sex and the City had quirks…wait till you hear what i heard.

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