You’ve been dreaming of this night for most of your adult life. It seems like it’s every man’s ultimate sexual fantasy: meeting the woman cool enough to want to invite a friend over for a three-way.

You’ve heard rumors about the three-way. You’ve had friends who have experienced it, and they all tell you it’s like living your own private porn.

What people fail to talk about when it comes to a three-way, however, is the emotional repercussions that occur the day after a three-way. Welcome to a really tough time in your adult adolescence.

In order to make a three-way successful and make it work, you need to realize that this “ultimate male fantasy” has to be only about her. Let’s say your girlfriend comes to you and says, “I really want to do this because I think it will really turn me on to see you and I with my best friend.”

In that situation, you need to ask her some questions and talk to her more about it before you even consider doing it. You need to talk to her ahead of time about what the parameters will be, because if you overstep certain boundaries she has you might ruin the relationship (not only with her but also between her and her friend).

A three-way always sounds good ‘on paper.’ Three-ways in fantasy land are always amazing.

Three-ways in the real world are very emotionally confusing, especially if you get so turned on that can’t keep your hands off the friend (and end up ignoring your girlfriend). That does happen.

It happens because as men, we are wired to always want the new. Take a man to a car dealership for two hours, and watch him test-drive four different cars for two straight hours. The man will leave with a car. Why? Because we always want bigger, better and more fun.

Put a hot woman that your girlfriend brings over in front of you, and no matter what the boundaries are — whether it’s no penetration or not — and you are going to spend more time on the friend (because she is the “new one”). You’ve already had the old one plenty of times. That toy is getting old for you now.

A three-way is a male fantasy, but be sure to realize that it has to be all about her and be done according to her rules and parameters. So whatever your girlfriend says, you need to respect.

It’s fun to have a wild and crazy woman in bed. It’s a lot of fun to be with a woman who likes a lot of sexual exploration. You don’t want to ruin that just because you think the three-way is supposed to be a certain way.

Allow it to be however it’s going to be, and remember one thing which is the most important advice I can give you: Make it about her and her pleasure, and it’s amazing how far you can stretch those boundaries.

I think guys look at sex as if they were at the Kentucky Derby. The woman gets naked. She’s standing there in front of the gates, ready to go. The guy’s all geared up in the pen ready to go. Have you ever seen a race horse, when he’s all penned up and he’s about to go? All of a sudden, the gun shoots off and you hear dun-dun-dun-dun-dun, aaaaand it’s off they go.

Sex Is Like A Horse Race

Or you’re at the Indianapolis Motor Speedway and you hear, “Gentlemen, start your engines!” And all you hear is the sound off all that horsepower rearing to go.

It seems like guys are always in a race—not with each other—but with the woman they’re with. The minute they see a naked woman, it’s almost like they hear this: “Gentlemen, start your erections!” Literally the second a guy gets hard, all he wants to do is be let out of the gate, start up his erection, and run for the finish like Seabiscuit.

And what’s the result? Three minutes of lightning-quick humping and a cloud of sperm. Men need to understand that women love the art of seduction. We go through this at our seminar.

She loves it slow. She loves it when a man takes his time and isn’t in a hurry to get to the finish line. She loves a man who is in control of himself and knows that they will get there soon enough.

What she positively doesn’t love is a guy who meets her, talks to her for 15 seconds, looks at her with a face full of anxiety and goes, “Give me your number, we should get together! Do you want to go out with me? Do you want to do something sometime?” Meanwhile, so far you’ve talked to her about nothing but the weather. Yeah, that’s exactly who she wants to hang with: a guy who she can talk about the weather with. What a great date that is going to be for her. You can talk about cold fronts, humidity, so many exciting things you have in common.

Men always want to rush the process; they want to rush the process from the second they first approach to the second they have sex. They just really want to make it happen. Women look at sex like a marathon. It’s a slow, steady journey, you have to pace yourself, and you have to finish strong. Start thinking about the art of seduction. Start seducing women properly, in a way that’s enjoyable for both sexes. Start making sex last, and they’ll come back for an encore.

I have one final Art Of Communication and Seduction seminar left this year. Check out the details here.

Well, ok, he didn’t really say that. But in my version he did.

So you meet a new woman, and she’s so full of sexual energy. She’s usually anywhere from 28 to 33. No offense to anybody older or anybody younger, but what happens is that a lot of women, right around the age f 30, start coming into their own sexuality. They start letting go of their inhibitions, realizing that sexually they have the freedom to do whatever they want. They start really enjoying sex more than ever before. The guilt is gone. It’s over. None of the Catholic guilt that they used to have from their family. None of the fear of friends calling her a whore or being labeled a slut by her peers.

All of a sudden, it seems like women kick into sexual overdrive. Right around 28 to 33, after which they just become these incredible, open, sexual beings.

The question to all you guys is: Can you handle a woman when she’s in that phase of her life? Or do you judge her? If you’re sitting across from a woman at a table, let’s say she’s 29 years old, and she says to you on a date, “I’ve slept with 18 guys.”

Are going to look at her and judge her? Are you going to look at her and shoot your nose up? What if she slept with more men than you’ve slept with women? What if you wish you’d slept with that many women? Are you going to be intimidated? What if you’ve slept with more? Are you still going to judge her? What if she tells you she’s slept with like 10 guys this month? Are you going to think she’s a slut? That she’s dirty?

Sexual Truth

I can feel all you — all of you — getting ready to type something in the comments section right now. I know Bob, you’re really ready to write something right now. I can feel it.

I know all of you are thinking right now of something to write. You’re probably judging. Maybe you’re saying to yourself, “I’m a great guy, I would never judge!”

But here’s the deal: who can tell you if or why she’s on a sexual escapade right now, or a sexual rampage? Don’t judge her. Embrace it. Have fun with the situation, and have fun with her. Stop with the double standard in life. There really is no double standard except inside your own mind. We all have different experiences in life, and we all set different standards for ourselves.

Stop judging women for expressing their sexuality and start embracing them and enjoying the gift they’re about to give you. As David Wygant said to Bob, “You can’t handle the blow job!” I’m sure Bob right now is laughing and saying to himself, “Hey, I’ve made the blog! My name is Bob.”

I’m using the term ‘lover’ generically, but you could fill in the blank with someone’s husband, wife, boyfriend or girlfriend. Let’s use the term ‘lover’ here though.

What does a lover do? A lover loves somebody unconditionally. A lover nurtures and makes the other person feel safe, loved, desired, heard and wanted.

A lover can be your best friend, and technically should be your best friend. Your lover is somebody with whom you can look forward to being and spending private, intense, beautiful and warm moments.

Television is an escape. A better escape is to spend every night drifting off into your lover.

Maybe one night just drift off into each other’s eyes — looking at each other, connecting, talking, and being open and honest with no judgment. Really just embrace each other’s desires, warmth and words.

Another night, maybe just touch one another. Explore each other in ways you you haven’t before, or in ways only you know makes the other person feel amazing.

Think about it. What would you rather do — watch a movie, or spend two hours loving your lover into intense, erotic, totally ‘letting go’ moments?

Maybe another night you ask yourself what your lover really loves, and then you do it for them. That might mean rubbing their head or giving them a back massage or rubbing their feet. Who knows? Some of us are physical, and some of us are mental and just want to be listened to by our lover.

Foreplay

It really comes down to asking yourself this: Would you rather watch television, or would you rather get lost in your lover emotionally, sexually and physically? We have such limited time in our day, and nothing feels better than to let go fully with your lover.

Can you even let go? Do you even know how to let go?

Do you dial into your lover’s energy on a daily basis? Do you think to yourself, “What can I do for my lover today?”

When you have sex, do you give 120%? Do you totally succumb to what your lover is doing, or are you in your head so you start thinking about things?

Letting go with someone and succumbing to them is one of the most amazing feelings in the world. In fact if you did that every single night, then all the tension and the battles and the fights would release.

Respecting each other is very important. You can never have an equal relationship if one person feels less respected or less desired. In that case, you will have a relationship that will not work the way EITHER of you desire.

Did you have toe gripping mind blowing sex?

Or did you spend the weekend thinking of what could have or should have been?

Most men spend there lives trying to get lucky. They get drunk they met a woman and one night it happens they get lucky and have sex and at the same time they think it was some new found rap that they learned or some skill after all these years that surfaced for that night.

But in reality they met a woman that was in need of some sex and they happened to not ruin it by saying anything stupid that night.

Yes, most men tend to talk themselves out of the bedroom. They spend the whole night pushing her away instead of pulling her in.

Sex is only great with a woman when it is her idea! You need to learn the art of teasing in order to have a great sex with a woman.

Here are 5 quick tips that will get her excited to jump into bed with you:

1. Listen to what she has to say. You need to stop thinking about what to say next and spend some time listening to her so you can form an emotional attachment.

2. Sex starts in her mind. By listening to her and having an amazing conversation with her you will be different than 95% of the other guys who she has spoken to. The more she talks the more you listen and react the greater chance of you having great sex with her.

3. Be a gentleman and don’t act like you have not had sex in 10 years. Sex for women is all about being connected to you in an emotional way. Women get all turned off by men that come on way too strong so be a bit mysterious and she will be wanting to explore more of you.

4. Don’t get her drunk and invite her back to your place. Have a drink or two with her and send her home and give her a slow sweet tender kiss. Don’t plunge the tongue deep inside her mouth. You need to always do the opposite of what most men do and learning some self-control will allow her mood to percolate and get turned on to you.

5. Send her a hot text in the middle of the day. Something simple but something that brings her back to the moment from the night before.

Last night was fun….looking forward to our next conversation…..oh and the kiss was not bad either:)

It needs to be something that is playful and fun.

You need to learn how to take control of the situation and really intrigue and turn on her mind.

Let me know if you want more details and we can talk about this and how to have great sex in other postings.

I don’t care who makes it from the National League, because the Yankees are winning it all this year. You can take that prediction to the bank . . . and maybe even to the bedroom.

Life is not fair.  The other night I was having a conversation with someone about sex. I’m not going to tell you all the specifics, other than to tell you that after that discussion, I was absolutely orgasm envious! So let’s talk about orgasms, and I will tell you the reason why I’m orgasm envious.

By the way, if I could have one wish it would be that I could have a vagina for a day. I just think it would be so much fun. I already know exactly what kind of orgasms I’d want to have. I’d love to know how to have multiple orgasms through all different ways.

I’d want to have a g-spot orgasm. Of course there is the clitoris, so I’d want at least one clitoral orgasm (since the only reason it exists is for pleasure). Then there is this other place way back in the bowels of the vagina that supposedly can create a whole other type of orgasm.

I mean, give me a break. Right there, that’s three different kinds of orgasms! We men only get one kind.

I really don’t, however, want to talk today about the unfairness of orgasm counts between the sexes. What I really want to talk about today is sexual prime.

By the time men hit the age of 25, they are basically out of their sexual prime. Age 25? Half of the guys out there don’t even get laid enough to enjoy their sexual prime while they’re in it. Then by the time they are getting enough sex, they are already out of their sexual prime.

Women, on the other hand, don’t hit their sexual prime until they are around 37 years old. Think about the way that balances out.

By the time a guy is 37 years old, he isn’t exactly producing the same amount of “little swimmers” as he used to produce. Not only that, he doesn’t really want to have sex five times a day anymore (while women at that same age are machines!).

It’s no wonder that 37 year old women are the number one consumers of vibrators. They can basically vibrate their day away.

It’s really not fair the way things line up here. It really seems like things are very askew. It’s no wonder that there are so many cougars running around out there.

If I were a 37 year old woman who was hanging out with a Viagra-infused 55 year old guy with no stamina, I would certainly go find myself a young buck. I mean look at Demi Moore.

Don’t ever give her a hard time. She has a guy who is (whoops, I mean was) in his sexual prime. Wait, she may need to go find someone even younger. Justin Timberlake and Zach Efron, Demi Moore may be calling you really soon.

All joking aside, it just doesn’t seem right how the sexual prime thing is set up. Is this God’s way of punishing us? Someone was being mean when they designed the penis and the vagina. Why aren’t those two things created to be in alignment with one another?

Can all the guys remember when you were 18 and you basically would hump the air every five seconds (almost like a dog that humps the air all the time)? The reason why you were humping air was because you constantly wanted your dick to be touched.

I remember when I was 18 years old. I was so penis conscious, it was ridiculous. I felt my penis nonstop. No, I don’t mean that I touched my penis nonstop. I was just aware of it nonstop.

My penis led my life. It made me sleep with some really iffy women. It wasn’t my idea to sleep with them. It was my penis’ idea.

Not only that, but some guys can’t snuggle with a woman until they hit 28 years old. When you are a male who is 22 or 23 years old and your girlfriend asks you to snuggle, you have to go to the bathroom and snap a load off before you can do it.

This sexual prime gap between men and women just does not seem fair. Something is kharmically wrong here! It’s a mean joke. It’s like our sexual primes should have been matched.

Then again, some of this seeming mismatch may actually have been designed better than we thought. So although a guy past his sexual prime may no longer be able to pump and grind five times in one night, he can really satisfy a woman during the one time they do it and will be more likely to want to engage in a lot more of the foreplay that women crave so much.

11-1 . . . I am pretty impressed! What really does not impress me, though, are men who hang out with strippers and who pay strippers to hang out with them.

We had friends in town this past weekend who stayed at the 4 Seasons Hotel. We went there last night to hang out in the hotel’s hot tub.

There was a middle-aged man alone in the hot tub when we arrived. He seemed like a nice man. About three minutes later, though, three bimbos with long nails came bearing drinks and speaking in Paris Hilton-like sentences.

The man started talking about his hotel room and other such things. The women immediately started “wow-ing” about his big balcony. Then they got on the phone with their friends and started going on and on about how they got their nails done at the 4 Seasons and about the guy’s huge balcony.

You know, anyone can open their wallet and invite three bimbo strippers to their room. Unless you’re going to have the sex of your life, though, being forced to sit and listen to these women is just painful. I swear, Daphne had more to say than these women did.

Why is this such a thrill for guys? Here is this guy hanging out with a group of women who can only manage to speak in Paris Hilton type half-sentences. I never understand this.

Of course I get a guy liking younger women, but there’s certainly younger intelligent women he could find who would like him. The conversations they were having were so boring. No one was listening to each other. All I can think is, “Why?”

I know men, and I have coached men, who have done this. The sex is never any good, because the women aren’t into it. They just want the cash or the fringe benefits (like getting their nails done at the 4 Seasons).

What really happens is that the women just try to get the guy to come as quickly as possible. So who is winning here? It’s just so gross.

I’ve had casual sex, but I’ve never paid for sex. Maybe I’m just more evolved and maybe there are just less evolved people in this world . . . and that’s fine.

It’s fine if you’re the type of guy who looks at women like a piece of meat, is only interested in getting his dick stroked, and couldn’t care less about an emotional connection. That’s not the life I want. That’s not the life I teach.

When we were sitting in the hot tub, the man kept looking at me and smiling. It was like validation for him, as if he was saying with his smile “Look, I have three hot bimbos with me in the hot tub!” I ignored his smiles.

If you want to impress me, impress me with who you are as a person. I’m not impressed that you can get three strippers into a hot tub. That doesn’t impress me in the least.

While he was sharing a second grade-level conversation with those women, we were having a deep conversation about life. So why does he think I’d be impressed that he has three bimbos with him? Sometimes I’m embarrassed by my own gender.

So this kind of guy doesn’t impress me, nor does the guy who whips out the black American Express card at dinner. Why should I pay a couple thousand dollars a year to have a credit card that does the exact same thing as my free one?

I’m also not impressed by the guy who pulls in front of the coffee house in his Lamborghini but doesn’t bother to put money in the meter because he doesn’t care about getting a ticket. He figures, what’s a measly $60 to him.

If you want to impress me, get deep and tell me who you really are. I couldn’t care less about all this surface stuff.

Oh, and by the way Mr. Hot Tub from last night, I know you’re reading this today because I dropped my business card on your towel (and human intuition definitely wins out every time). This blog is dedicated to you.

I guarantee you got nothing out of last night, except a thinner wallet and maybe an orgasm. In reality, though, you are just as lonely today as you were yesterday.

So how do all of you feel about men who use their wallets on prostitutes and fancy cars just to prove how successful they are?

If you want to know know how to meet women who want to hang out with you, check out this video:

Now you all know how I feel about nicknames, so I’ll encourage her to reveal at least her first name soon. I will tell you that she is a woman in her 30′s who lives in Los Angeles, and who thinks that ‘Sex And The City’ doesn’t pertain to Los Angeles (because, really, it’s more like ‘sex in the hills’ or ‘sex on the beach).

The Fiery Redhead really wants to help men and women meet people, so I’ve offered her the opportunity to be a guest poster on the blog. Plus, I’m sure you guys have to get sick of hearing from just me.

So you will be getting a different perspective from her about every couple weeks. I also thought it would be a cool to have a woman giving her perspective and helping the women and the men.

So let’s welcome our new guest blogger and enjoy her first blog today. It’s a great topic. So, without further ado, here she is…

Hey Guys and Girls,

You know, David asked me to start writing a little guest column because he figured why not have a female opinion every so often. And why not have one who really tells it like it is. That definitely describes me (as you’ll quickly discover).

I’ve got to tell you something.  The other day some girl friends and I were sitting around with some guys who were talking all about how to “close” a woman. You will never hear a woman say something like that.

You’ll never hear a woman say, “You know, we went on a boat trip the other day and met some really cute guys. My friend was flirting with one guy, but at the end of the day she ended up going home without closing him.”

No, she didn’t “close” him. She didn’t hook up with him. What is it with you guys having to “close” us? Why do you need to “close” us?

We’re not a door — you don’t need to close us. Really, if you close us it’s actually because we’ve determined that you were cool to hang out with so we want to go and bang you. I mean, that’s really what it comes down to.  We make that decision, not you.

I don’t understand it. Why don’t you just learn the way women are? If we like you and enjoy your company, and we give outward signs of that, then you don’t need to close us. You just need to go with the flow.

Why can’t guys just be a little more relaxed and a little cooler about things? You’d get laid so much more if you would just listen to the verbal clues. That’s all for my ranting and raving for this time. I’ll talk to you guys soon!

Okay, thanks again to the Fiery Redhead for this first post! To all of you, enjoy the last weekend of summer, because fall is here as of next week. Also, if any of you would like to know any of my football predictions, be sure to tune into the blog on Sunday. Why? Because I want to and it will be fun.

Now, since it’s the weekend and some of you go out to the bars, I thought this great video will help you out. It’s all about how to walk the walk and talk the talk to be able to successfully approach women in bars.

How many people really hump on Hump Day? How many people are going to get humped on Hump Day?

Today I want to talk about sexual myths. You know all the classic ones. Men can always get off fast, or why do all women take so long to cum.

How about the myth that there’s one method to please every woman? I love when I read the articles with titles like, “The Surefire Way To Get Your Woman To Orgasm Tonight.”

I also love the articles in Cosmopolitan telling women about “The 3 Ways To Drive All Men Wild In Bed.” More often than not when I read those I think that at least one of those things is something I’d never want done to me (and might even drive me away).

It’s amazing how many myths there are out there about sex. Recently one of my competitors was charging $1,500.00 for a program which claimed to teach men how to get any woman to orgasm in thirty seconds or less.

I don’t need to spend $1,500.00 for someone to tell me to buy a vibrator. I mean, a Hitachi Magic Wand is many women’s best friend. I’ve seen some women pray to that thing.

There really are so many myths and misconceptions about sex . . . and about women’s sexuality in particular. Today’s podcast is going to tantalize and tickle you in different ways. You may learn new things or you may not.

You may learn a surefire method to have great sex on Hump Day, and you may laugh and realize that so much of what you hear is, well, the answer to that lies in today’s podcast. So click here and listen now!

Also, If you want to learn more about how to be an amazing lover who has women wanting more and more of you, and also want to get to eavesdrop on one of the world’s top sex experts as he is giving his lover orgasm after squirting orgasm, then be sure to check out my “Sex With The Masters” program.

Do you know what I like about getting deep and really talking like this? You learn so much about yourself, about your lover and about how to get closer to each other.

I truly believe that in order to make things amazing in your relationship, you need to get down to the core of your behaviors. I’m going to share more about this a future blog.

Right now, though, let’s talk about another conversation. One that is needed for all lovers to share…
You know, it’s really interesting. I was recently talking to a female client who said to me, “David, I’m having this great sexual relationship with a man but I don’t really know how to communicate things. I love what he does to me, but I don’t know how to communicate more with him in bed.”

Then I asked her a list of things to find out what she likes that he does to her, and also told me what he likes to do and the kind of sex they have together. She also told me what she likes that he does.

So I asked her, “Do you tell him this? Do you tell him that you love when he has sex with you in certain ways? Do you tell him that you love when he goes down on you in a certain way? Do you tell him that you love the way he massages your body? Do you tell him any of that?”

She said, “No I don’t.” I told her that as a man, I want to be told those kind of things.

Let’s say I have great sex with a woman or try a new position or something and the next day she tells me how much she loved what I did to her with that new position. What am I going to want to do? I’m going to want to do it again and again in that position. Even if it wasn’t my favorite position in the world, I’m going to want to do it again and again and again.

Why? I want to do that because in these situations I’m fully embracing their wishes and desires. I’m putting it in my memory bank.

Every time each of you put something in your memory bank, what you’re doing is programming each other. I think everyone needs to reprogram their lover in every which way.

You need to forget about the past, and you need to look at your lover and start finding new ways to make love to each other. So, every single time your lover tells you something that they loved sexually that you did, put it in that memory bank and remember it.

You need to encourage the other person. If the other person does something to you one night and it feels great, encourage them. Say, “I love the way you do that…” What happens when you start doing that, is they are going to want to do those things to you over and over again.

Thank that person for giving themselves to you. Don’t expect, but thank that person. Start doing thiss and your sex life is going to go off the charts.