It’s funny when you see a great player playing on a bad team who just quits. Randy Moss did it when he played for the Raiders, and now look at how Braylon Edwards looks since he’s come to the Jets. I guess it just goes to show that athletes are human, and don’t want to be chosen by bad teams.

Remmber when you were a kid and you were playing a game which involved picking teams, and you got chosen by the bad team? Remember how you felt (and sometimes how you acted afterwards)? Men never grow up I guess.

Now on to today’s blog . . .

Let’s talk about how bad you want it. I get so many emails from people who say, “But David, you’re a natural at this! I am not a natural and I need routines.”

What I always tell people who write things like this to me, is that I wasn’t always a natural at this stuff. Do you think I was born doing this? I was nervous as hell in the beginning!

The reason I can coach all of you, is that I’ve experienced every emotion that you guys are going through right now. I know what it feels like to have my heart beat right through my shirt. I know what it feels like to have a quivering lip as I approach some girl sitting at a table. I know what it’s like to have all that monkey chatter in your head.

Some of these feelings are just the natural emotions of life, but this idea of being a “natural” is something we’ve talked about many times before. Many professional atheletes are “naturals,” but that doesn’t mean that you can’t do what they do. You just have to workk harder at it in order for it to become natural to you.

If you put the time into anything in life — whether it’s into meeting women, singing, cooking or whatever — over time your skill will develop and it will become natural for you. The reason I seem like a natural at what I do is only because I’ve been doing it for so long.

With practice, all of you will get to the point where you are naturals. The real question is: How bad do you want it?

Now, granted, some of you will find parts of this that you are far better at than others. For example, if you take me into a bar I am pretty unnatural. I’m so uncomfortable! I don’t enjoy being in a bar and I’m not having fun when I’m in one, so I am always totally in my head when I go to one. I’m just bored.

Take me to a store or out on the streets, however, and I have a million things to talk about with everyone. I can walk in any store, anywhere, and I can talk to people because there are always things I find interesting.

The way to become a natural at something is to go out and do things that you’re interested in, so that you’re able to keep up good conversations. This will also build up your confidence.

I’ve met guys who are naturals in bars. Do you know why? They are big drinkers. They can talk about booze nonstop.

I’m a natural in the market, because I eat at Whole Foods twice a day! I know the menu like the back of my hand. I’m able to work that place and talk to people there, because I always have topics to talk about there.

I had a client one time that was a wine connoisseur. So he expanded his social network by going to wine tasting parties and stopping in wine shops on Saturday afternoons. There he met other wine people, and he developed a social network with these people and he started having wine tasting parties.

I told him to collect the cards of the people he met in the stores and then we set up our own little wine tasting parties. Of course, the men and women he met brought friends to these parties. That’s how he was successful meeting women. That was his hobby.

The best way to meet people is by doing things that you love. You’ll rarely meet people doing something that you don’t love.

If you want to become a natural, you absolutely can. You just have to ask yourself, “How bad do I want it??”

I have been all over Europe and it has some amazing underground train systems. This is unlike America, where we just sit in our cars all day long and curse at people in traffic – except of course for New York City, Boston, Chicago, San Francisco, and some other cities – I think Philly might have a train.

But most of the US doesn’t have an underground system. When I was in Europe I was sitting with my client Pete, and Pete wanted to know: how do you meet people on the train?

Well, I said, it’s really easy. You have to put yourself in everybody else’s shoes and their emotions.

Think about when you get a seat in the afternoon on the underground or the train – how good it feels to sit down. You’ve been walking around all day long, you have a 25-minute train ride ahead of you, and you found a seat! You scored – you don’t have to stand up. Your feet are killing you from walking around all day.
Yes they actually walk in Europe something that does not exist where i live in Los Angeles.

So what do you do? You play the percentages. You sit down next to her, you give her a big smile as you sit down, and you say, “oh, that feels so good.” You do it with a big smile.

She thought the same thing when she scored that seat on the underground. All of a sudden, you look at her, and say, “how was your day?” and then let her talk. Find out what her day was like.

It’s really that simple. One of my clients in London did this, and he talked to her for 20 minutes on the underground. He found out about where she was from – Australia – why she was visiting… It’s just really that easy.

In the morning, what do you do?

In the morning, people have their defenses up – they’re tired, they’re not in the mood to go to work, whatever it might be. So in the morning, if you’ve seen somebody over and over again on the train, just look at them and smile and say, “good morning, how are you? I see you here all the time. We must work in the same area.”

That’s it. Non-threatening. It’s always about being non-threatening. That’s how you talk to a woman on the train.

Todays audio is a lively debate about the difference between men and women.

After seeing a long winded Sex And The City Movie we had a nice little debate about the strange but funny things women do.

If you think Sarah Jessica Parker and the gang from Sex and the City had quirks…wait till you hear what i heard.

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It’s springtime, leading into summertime, and in most cities across the world there are food markets on Saturdays or Sundays. There you can go and get breakfast or lunch, you can get some vegetables for the week, you can get some flowers for your house – that is if you want to buy flowers, you know.

But these food markets are amazing, because they are crawling with people – men, women, screaming babies – or hopefully you can avoid the screaming babies. But the market is crawling with amazing people.

One of the best approaches at a food market is just to walk up directly to where that woman is standing – or if you’re a woman, directly to where a man is standing – and really use the food as a prop.

Take a look at the rolls, look at her, and say, “I was wondering, have you had the bread from here, is it good? I could ask the person behind the counter, but of course they’re going to say yes because they work here!”

Same thing with fruit – you could just walk up to them and say, “man, this fruit looks so good, have you gotten fruit from this stand before? It’s hard to choose which stand to get fruit from!” and then let them talk.

“I was wondering…” and “I’m curious…” are really good here. If she’s eating this incredible looking sandwich, you can walk directly over to her as she’s walking through the market and say, “excuse me, I’m really curious – where did you get sandwich? It looks so good.”

There’s a conversation starter that you need when you’re in a food market. Then listen carefully. Have a great conversation about food, have a great conversation about the nice day. Not small talk here – you can find out a lot of things about them, if you pay attention.

I don’t want to script each minute of this conversation, because it’s not about that. If you really pay attention to what the woman (or the man) in this situation is saying, you’re able to ask them even more questions about the food, or about what they’re passionate about, or why they’re so passionate about the sandwich they’re eating.

So all of a sudden they’ll tell you, “yeah, this is a great sandwich, one of the best I’ve ever had – but not as good as the one I had at this other market,” and then you can ask, “what other market?” and you can capitalize on that. You can talk about food markets, and you can talk about food.

What will happen is that an interest in food – which all of us have, because we all eat! It’s not like something we don’t know how to talk about – we eat three times a day! Some of us do it six times a day!

Some of us like wine, some of us like vegetables, some of us like flowers. Some of these little food markets have art shops and other things. You know all of this stuff! You’re an expert in all of this stuff. You’ve been eating every day since you were born.

So you should have something to talk about here. It’s a wonderful place to meet people, so go enjoy it!

Todays Video is how to create the perfect first kiss.