A lot of the time when men will talk to women, a woman might be interested but she’s also very nervous. So men will often not end up asking those women out due to what her body language is communicating.

When they’re nervous, a lot of women will have one foot in one direction and the other foot in another direction. Even though they’re smiling, their body language will say to a man that she’s half in and half out, which a man will interpret as disinterest.

He won’t be interpreting it consciously. It will be done subconsciously. This will be his interpretation nonetheless.

When you’re interested in a man, you need to hold your ground. You need to look directly at him, face him and smile. You can’t have one foot in one direction or a shoulder turned off in another direction.

Another thing that women do that absolutely does not work, is that they will have their arms folded. Even though they’re interested in a guy, they’ll have their arms folded when you’re talking to him. This is a defensive pose, not an open pose.

What you need to do instead, is to leave your arms open. Either have them at your side, or have them facing the guy (or use your hands when you’re talking). The minute you fold your arms, you are basically telling a guy — even if it’s on a very subconscious level — that you’re not interested.

Your eye contact is also really important. When you look down at the ground or off in the distance because you’re nervous, you are telling a guy you are not interested. Even if you are interested, when you look away from that person what he will process in his brain is that you are looking at someone else and isn’t interested.

So, once again, eye contact is really important. If you are uncomfortable with constant eye contact, then you can meet his eyes, look down and then come back and meet his eyes again. Just don’t look off in the distance, that will always tell a guy that you are not interested.

Another mistake that women make when talking to a man is fidgeting. Fidgeting with things when you’re talking to somebody tells him that you’re very nervous. You might be nervous because you like him, but a guy will likely interpret your fidgeting as a sign that you’re bored.

It’s amazing how much these little things communicate to the opposite sex. Being more aware of your body language in these situations will really help you get more men to ask you out (and, by extension, get you more dates).

If you want to know more about what you are saying to men with your body language, then have a friend go out with you and film you. Have your friend watch what you’re doing, how you’re reacting to things and how you flirt. Then you can watch not only yourself, but also see things the way a guy does.

It’s really funny. One time a woman did this and sent me the video. In the video she was flirting with a guy, but kept looking away because she was scared, nervous and intimidated by the guy.

When she sent me the video, she said to me that she didn’t know why the guy hadn’t asked her out. When I watched the video, I knew why the minute she looked away and the guy turned around to see at whom she was looking.

She was interested in that guy, and she thought she was showing interest to him. It’s amazing what your body language and you eye contact says, as compared to what your voice says. Be more aware of that, and you’ll see yourself having better flirting sessions, better dates, and a better dating life.

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I love cramming all the guys into my car. Usually I have to drive around with Daphne or Sonja.

I also love when a guy at a Bootcamp comes up with a scenario he thinks is going to be a huge challenge for me. Nothing is a big challenge for me anymore, at least in the area of meeting women (and the emotions and concepts behind it).

It’s something that I’ve mastered, and it’s easy for me. I so enjoy now showing guys how it can be equally easy for them.

So it’s so great when I get challenged by one of the guys and am able to give them an easy solution. Then the biggest challenge is for that guy to actually go out and do what I say.

As you all know, being successful at meeting women is all about being in the moment, creating a moment and being real. So Adam, who came all the way from Australia to attend a Bootcamp here in L.A., had one of these “challenges” for me.

He said to me, “You know, I’m a workout guy. I go to the gym and I see women there, and it’s like they break my routine. It drives me bananas. There she is — on the treadmill, on the shoulder press. Here I am trying to make my body buff so all the women will think I’m a big guy and a stud.”

I told him I remembered that, because I was a big gym guy in my 20s too. I’d see that hottie and I just couldn’t concentrate any more. I’d be doing my sets, see her, and then I couldn’t concentrate at all because I’d be thinking to myself, “How can I continue to work out and get to know her?”

Well, once again, it’s all about the power of observation in this situation. How many times have you seen this woman before at the gym? What does she normally do for her workout? To whom have you seen her talking? Does she take any certain classes (like yoga)?

Ask yourself these questions. Once you know the answers, then you will have your approach.

Say you’ve seen that she uses the shoulder press every time she is at the gym, she likes to work her legs out hard, and you’ve seen her coming out of yoga class. Right there you have three different ways you can approach her.

You can walk over to her and say, “You know, I see you here all the time coming out of yoga class. How are the yoga classes here?” By saying this, you have opened up a line of communication.

You will then find out which nights she takes yoga, and then of course you will go and twist yourself into a pretzel on one of the nights she goes. You’ve already established a relationship – first contact.

Maybe you have noticed that she is aways hustling on the treadmill or the Stairmaster. So what do you do in that situation?

You get on the Stairmaster or treadmill next to her. She probably has her antisocial device (aka her iPod earphones) in her ears. So you point to them, and have her pull those out of her ears.

Then you look at her and say, “I’ll race you. Where do you want to go? You’ve already got a head start on me, so let me catch up.” Then you start running really fast to be a little comical. She will start cracking up, and you will start a conversation with her.

How do I know this? It’s funny, but I can hear you saying “Are you sure this is going to work?” I did this throughout my 20s, 30s and 40s.

Am I sure this is going to work? I am as sure as I know the sun will come out tomorrow (like Annie said in that play). I am as sure as I know I will have a morning hard-on. I am as sure as I know that I will be thirsty when I wake up. It will work.

Here is another thing you can do at the gym. Let’s say she is working out on the machines. You can look at her and say, “Man, you’re breaking a sweat. I don’t know if I can do that much weight.” You just be funny.

Then you ask if you can work in with her. When you get on the machine, you squeeze really hard pretending to be having a hard time with her weight and say, “One . . . that’s all I can do. You’re buff.” Have a good time with her and you will get her laughing and talking.

CLICK HERE to find out the EASY way I approach women at some of the other places you go to every day.

Anyway, we were talking about my friend Behar. A lot of you know Behar from the Men’s Mastery Series. He has become something of a legend from that.

He’s actually the man who looked at me at age nineteen and said, “You just have no clue. Do you?” It was an eye-opening moment for me at that time (being age nineteen), because I really didn’t have a clue.

Behar is a basically an “average guy” — about 5’9″ or 5’10″, is kind of going bald and has the “Jewish nose.” Whenever we would go out, he would always kind of throw me under the bus — and this is something every one of you can do when you’re out trying to meet women.

After seeing him do this about a thousand times, I can give you the sequence of events in perfect detail. Here is how this would go down every single time.

He and I would go to a restaurant. The waitress would come over and, of course, would start flirting with me instead of him.

Behar would immediately look at the waitress and say, “Oh, you’re so typical. You go for the solid, good-looking guy just like women always do.” Then the waitress would feel the need to defend herself, and would look at him and say, “No, no that’s not me at all.”

Behar would respond, “What are you talking about? You ignored me like I was not even sitting here. Let me ask you a question. Have you ever thought about going for short, fat, bald Jewish guys? Do you have any idea what you’re missing?”

The waitress would start laughing. Then Behar would tell the waitress to leave and get our order.

When the waitress returned, she would once again start to flirt with me. Behar would say, “Have you given any consideration at all to what I talked to you about? Are you a woman who doesn’t want to expand her horizons, and just continues to do the same things over and over again? You know that is the definition of insanity.”

At this point, her ears were perked up and her mind was racing. Of course, she would always seem to say, “So tell me about short, fat, bald, Jewish guys.” Behar would then look at her deadpan — right in the eyes — and say, “You’ll just have to find out for yourself.”

I mean, it was brilliant. It is one of those things that either works or it doesn’t. The bottom line is that it worked half the time — half the women would go for it and the other half would go back to what they originally wanted, i.e., me.

Anybody can do this. It doesn’t just work if you are a “bald, fat, short, Jewish guy.” It can work if you are average looking, or of a particular ethnicity (e.g., of the “Asian persuasion”), or if you’re super tall or super skinny or whatever it may be.

If, for example, you are of the “Asian persuasion” (as one of my Bootcamp students once termed himself), you could say something like this: “Let me ask you a question. have you ever had a guy of the Asian persuasion? I mean, come on, do you always go for the tall white guy? Have you ever tried Asian? You know, we come in a lot of different flavors.”

There are so many different ways that you can do this. There are so many different ways to have fun with this.

Women love to respond to a challenge. Doing this is calling them out on their shit.

People love to be called out on their shit. They love to be challenged.

So how are you going to challenge yourself to challenge a woman? That’s the real question I have for you today.

Women who have a lot of masculine energy need to dress more sexy. They need to put themselves out there a little bit more.

Do you know what masculine energy is?

Masculine energy in a woman can be a woman who is very successful in her career. She competes with men all day long, so she’s basically masculine. She’s battling men all day long in the business world, so she’s masculine.

She’s looking for a raise. She has to fight her boss, so she’s masculine.

When she goes on a date, she takes that same masculine with her, and takes the guy’s balls and chops them into a million little pieces. When a man is trying to flirt with a woman on a date who has a lot of masculine energy, she basically ends up going into interrogation mode.

She will talk to him the same way she would talk when she’s trying to negotiate a business deal. She doesn’t bring out her feminine energy.

So what is feminine energy and what does it look like on a date? Feminine energy is dressing sexy, flirting with the guy, leaning in when he talks and looking directly in his eyes. Those are one part of it.

Another part of it is learning how to throw a bone to a guy every so often, and then making sure he jumps on it. Learn how to give a man clues, and give him the opportunity pick up on them and take the lead.

That’s how a woman should act around a man. Throw a bone then allow him to lead. You want him to take action.

You don’t want to be the one taking the action all the time. Every time you take action, you emasculate him.

I mean, most guys may not initially see it like that, but eventually it will deteriorate the type of relationship you have. If you want a “guy’s guy,” you have to give him a bone every so often and make sure he picks up on it.

Now I know there are some people reading this right now who are mistakenly thinking that I am telling women to be passive and submissive to men. I am actually saying the opposite.

A big part of feminine energy is being open. It is also being the decision-maker in terms of choosing men with whom you want to be willing at times to be led. It’s allowing yourself to surrender at appropriate moments.

So how do you develop your feminine energy, and feel amazing and sexy in your own skin? Take a look at your body type.  Take a look at the type of woman you are.  

Start looking through magazines which contain pictures of women with your body type. If you’re a little heavier, look at magazines that have heavier women in there so you can see how they dress sexy.  

Go to a store and get a makeover.  Find a way that you can express your sexuality.  

Men are attracted to all body types. The key thing here, though, is that men are attracted to sexy women of all body types.  

So women really need to explore that a little bit more, so that they can use their feminine energy when they start flirting with men. Doing that will get you noticed so much more — and you, as a woman, will also start to have a lot more fun in your dating life.

It’s funny when you see a great player playing on a bad team who just quits. Randy Moss did it when he played for the Raiders, and now look at how Braylon Edwards looks since he’s come to the Jets. I guess it just goes to show that athletes are human, and don’t want to be chosen by bad teams.

Remmber when you were a kid and you were playing a game which involved picking teams, and you got chosen by the bad team? Remember how you felt (and sometimes how you acted afterwards)? Men never grow up I guess.

Now on to today’s blog . . .

Let’s talk about how bad you want it. I get so many emails from people who say, “But David, you’re a natural at this! I am not a natural and I need routines.”

What I always tell people who write things like this to me, is that I wasn’t always a natural at this stuff. Do you think I was born doing this? I was nervous as hell in the beginning!

The reason I can coach all of you, is that I’ve experienced every emotion that you guys are going through right now. I know what it feels like to have my heart beat right through my shirt. I know what it feels like to have a quivering lip as I approach some girl sitting at a table. I know what it’s like to have all that monkey chatter in your head.

Some of these feelings are just the natural emotions of life, but this idea of being a “natural” is something we’ve talked about many times before. Many professional atheletes are “naturals,” but that doesn’t mean that you can’t do what they do. You just have to workk harder at it in order for it to become natural to you.

If you put the time into anything in life — whether it’s into meeting women, singing, cooking or whatever — over time your skill will develop and it will become natural for you. The reason I seem like a natural at what I do is only because I’ve been doing it for so long.

With practice, all of you will get to the point where you are naturals. The real question is: How bad do you want it?

Now, granted, some of you will find parts of this that you are far better at than others. For example, if you take me into a bar I am pretty unnatural. I’m so uncomfortable! I don’t enjoy being in a bar and I’m not having fun when I’m in one, so I am always totally in my head when I go to one. I’m just bored.

Take me to a store or out on the streets, however, and I have a million things to talk about with everyone. I can walk in any store, anywhere, and I can talk to people because there are always things I find interesting.

The way to become a natural at something is to go out and do things that you’re interested in, so that you’re able to keep up good conversations. This will also build up your confidence.

I’ve met guys who are naturals in bars. Do you know why? They are big drinkers. They can talk about booze nonstop.

I’m a natural in the market, because I eat at Whole Foods twice a day! I know the menu like the back of my hand. I’m able to work that place and talk to people there, because I always have topics to talk about there.

I had a client one time that was a wine connoisseur. So he expanded his social network by going to wine tasting parties and stopping in wine shops on Saturday afternoons. There he met other wine people, and he developed a social network with these people and he started having wine tasting parties.

I told him to collect the cards of the people he met in the stores and then we set up our own little wine tasting parties. Of course, the men and women he met brought friends to these parties. That’s how he was successful meeting women. That was his hobby.

The best way to meet people is by doing things that you love. You’ll rarely meet people doing something that you don’t love.

If you want to become a natural, you absolutely can. You just have to ask yourself, “How bad do I want it??”

I have been all over Europe and it has some amazing underground train systems. This is unlike America, where we just sit in our cars all day long and curse at people in traffic – except of course for New York City, Boston, Chicago, San Francisco, and some other cities – I think Philly might have a train.

But most of the US doesn’t have an underground system. When I was in Europe I was sitting with my client Pete, and Pete wanted to know: how do you meet people on the train?

Well, I said, it’s really easy. You have to put yourself in everybody else’s shoes and their emotions.

Think about when you get a seat in the afternoon on the underground or the train – how good it feels to sit down. You’ve been walking around all day long, you have a 25-minute train ride ahead of you, and you found a seat! You scored – you don’t have to stand up. Your feet are killing you from walking around all day.
Yes they actually walk in Europe something that does not exist where i live in Los Angeles.

So what do you do? You play the percentages. You sit down next to her, you give her a big smile as you sit down, and you say, “oh, that feels so good.” You do it with a big smile.

She thought the same thing when she scored that seat on the underground. All of a sudden, you look at her, and say, “how was your day?” and then let her talk. Find out what her day was like.

It’s really that simple. One of my clients in London did this, and he talked to her for 20 minutes on the underground. He found out about where she was from – Australia – why she was visiting… It’s just really that easy.

In the morning, what do you do?

In the morning, people have their defenses up – they’re tired, they’re not in the mood to go to work, whatever it might be. So in the morning, if you’ve seen somebody over and over again on the train, just look at them and smile and say, “good morning, how are you? I see you here all the time. We must work in the same area.”

That’s it. Non-threatening. It’s always about being non-threatening. That’s how you talk to a woman on the train.

Todays audio is a lively debate about the difference between men and women.

After seeing a long winded Sex And The City Movie we had a nice little debate about the strange but funny things women do.

If you think Sarah Jessica Parker and the gang from Sex and the City had quirks…wait till you hear what i heard.

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It’s springtime, leading into summertime, and in most cities across the world there are food markets on Saturdays or Sundays. There you can go and get breakfast or lunch, you can get some vegetables for the week, you can get some flowers for your house – that is if you want to buy flowers, you know.

But these food markets are amazing, because they are crawling with people – men, women, screaming babies – or hopefully you can avoid the screaming babies. But the market is crawling with amazing people.

One of the best approaches at a food market is just to walk up directly to where that woman is standing – or if you’re a woman, directly to where a man is standing – and really use the food as a prop.

Take a look at the rolls, look at her, and say, “I was wondering, have you had the bread from here, is it good? I could ask the person behind the counter, but of course they’re going to say yes because they work here!”

Same thing with fruit – you could just walk up to them and say, “man, this fruit looks so good, have you gotten fruit from this stand before? It’s hard to choose which stand to get fruit from!” and then let them talk.

“I was wondering…” and “I’m curious…” are really good here. If she’s eating this incredible looking sandwich, you can walk directly over to her as she’s walking through the market and say, “excuse me, I’m really curious – where did you get sandwich? It looks so good.”

There’s a conversation starter that you need when you’re in a food market. Then listen carefully. Have a great conversation about food, have a great conversation about the nice day. Not small talk here – you can find out a lot of things about them, if you pay attention.

I don’t want to script each minute of this conversation, because it’s not about that. If you really pay attention to what the woman (or the man) in this situation is saying, you’re able to ask them even more questions about the food, or about what they’re passionate about, or why they’re so passionate about the sandwich they’re eating.

So all of a sudden they’ll tell you, “yeah, this is a great sandwich, one of the best I’ve ever had – but not as good as the one I had at this other market,” and then you can ask, “what other market?” and you can capitalize on that. You can talk about food markets, and you can talk about food.

What will happen is that an interest in food – which all of us have, because we all eat! It’s not like something we don’t know how to talk about – we eat three times a day! Some of us do it six times a day!

Some of us like wine, some of us like vegetables, some of us like flowers. Some of these little food markets have art shops and other things. You know all of this stuff! You’re an expert in all of this stuff. You’ve been eating every day since you were born.

So you should have something to talk about here. It’s a wonderful place to meet people, so go enjoy it!

Todays Video is how to create the perfect first kiss.

Men are all about the chase, so we love when we can sexually chase you. Show me a man who doesn’t love a woman who talks dirty, and I’ll show you a man who spends the entire night looking at Internet porn because he’s too afraid to tell his wife or girlfriend what he wants sexually.

Here are some of the best ways to turn a man on sexually:

1) Make sure to compliment him. Tell him how hot he makes you feel. Tell him how turned on you are by his touch. It’s a psychological ploy. He’ll get turned on to you, and you’ll benefit because he’ll touch you more.

2) Locate his “sweet spot.” No, I’m not talking about cramming a Krispy Kreme doughnut down his throat. Some men love to have their neck kissed. Some men like a sensual all-over body massage. The best way to find that out, though, is to give him a sensual massage and ask him how that feels. Men are really turned on by a woman who wants to please him.

3) Learn how to give a good blow job. Find out how he likes it. When you go down on him, ask him if you’re doing it right. He’ll tell you. Just the idea that you want to please him will turn him on.

4) When you’re on top of him, open your eyes and look directly into his eyes. Let him see how turned on you are by being that close to him. It will drive him crazy.

These are just some tips on how to turn a man on. When in doubt, just moan out loud “Oh baby . . . you’re the best!” Every man wants to believe they‘re the best lover. Keep in mind that the best sex is when you have open communication with you lover and your partner.

Get the real truth about how men think, why they do the things they do, and what really attracts them here.

It is the new form of foreplay that will drive her wild. The random text message in the middle of the day to perk her sexual desire. The fun banter back and forth that will make her rip her clothes off when she sees you.

So for those of you who have never sexted before, let me enlighten you on this great skill. Sexting is the exchange of hot text messages between you and your partner (or future partner).

So what are the rules of Sexting?

Just like good foreplay you need to be able to slowly seduce the other person. No quickies in sexting.

You dont sext them with this: “I want to do you now:)”

No. The whole point is to get them so hot that they can’t stand it anymore and they have to see you that night.

There is a skill to Sexting. Once mastered, you will be able to Sext the woman you desire.

All women love to be seduced, and this is part of the new way to seduce women. They love a dirty text exchange when done right and with mystery and intrigue.

It’s all about building them up slowly and letting them Sext you back with fun texts that will get you all hot as well. They want to know that what they are sending you is driving you crazy!

So how do you do this?

You will need to read tomorrow’s blog and I will show you actual Sext exchange that will teach you the art of Sexting!

Have Fun Always.