It’s another amazing Saturday morning here. Just love Saturdays – getting to take a lot longer to get out of bed and getting to take a little more time to enjoy the day! And after the kind of crazy busy week I’ve had, I am REALLY happy to see Saturday get here.
As each of you guys are out there getting ready to spend your Saturdays meeting women, this is something for you to keep in mind…
It’s so funny how men seem to want to overcomplicate just about everything. Think about this for a minute.
When a man gets a brand new gas grill and he’s putting it together, does he usually read the directions or does he try to just “figure it out” on his own? When a man buys a brand new big screen tv, does he read the manual or does he just try 800 different ways to arrange the cords until the tv works? It’s the same answer about the manual that comes with a man’s new car.
How often will a man read the manual that comes with something? Pretty much never! Why, then, do most men believe that women should come with a manual?
When you first talk to a woman, it doesn’t have to be so complicated. The obvious things are the best things to talk about, because it means that you are paying attention to the little things. If you ask any woman what matters most to them, it’s always the little things. It’s all the little things make life so much better.
If you pay attention to the little things, women will feel like you’ve actually connected with them. They’ll think “Wow! This guy actually paid attention. He was actually present. He wasn’t just trying to pick me up with some ridiculous routine.”
It’s the obvious things that make the best conversation starters. You need to start observing and picking up on everything that is obvious. Everyone who has worked with me for a weekend always notices the same thing about me and how I function: My behavior is very natural and almost everything I say to people is very obvious.
The key to my behavior being so natural is that it really IS natural to me. The way it will become natural for you is by repetition (a/k/a PRACTICE). Here is a caution about practice, though, that you want to watch. When most guys hear practice, they add on “with women you’re attracted to” to the end of the sentence. Don’t make that mistake. Practice with all women and, in fact, with every kind of person.
Remember that just because you don’t want to go out with someone, that doesn’t mean they aren’t a great person worth talking to and getting to know. It doesn’t mean that person isn’t someone from whom you can’t learn something. That person may end up being a great friend. It’s all about building up that power and social network.
Another exercise to help you learn to comment on the obvious stuff is to take 20 common every-day words – words like coffee, groceries, furniture, fruit, gasoline, gym or whatever – and write down one thing you would say about each. Create a little story about each.
A great conversation can always be created from one of these kind of stories. The obvious things are the things you already know and about which you can feel comfortable talking. Furthermore, if you start the conversation with a woman about something obvious, then you won’t break the woman’s chain of thought and she won’t wonder why you’re bothering her with some random comment coming out of left field. So stop overcomplicating things when it comes to meeting women, and start getting in touch with the obvious!
